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"Not wanting to get married when I can't live with someone or not wanting to be engaged for longer than I've gone out with her?"

if you got married, we'd hope you stayed married longer than you dated her...so the length of an engagment doesn't matter.

1/6/2006 6:12:13 AM

If your 19 year old girlfriend is sweating your nuts about marriage already, you need to drop her like a bad habit. Engagement, marriage, etc. needs to be done on one's own schedule...it's not something you do because of pressure. 19 is so young.

1/6/2006 6:54:27 AM

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"Clouds are brightening, because heaven has overflowed. Mexican chocolate leaves dimples long with gushes. So when the moon disappears, heaven is over. I lost my eyes in alcohol. While you said your summer is overall, over now. I live across the street from heaven and catching the notes of an eye, there's nothing like catching your eyes. So when the moon disappears, heaven is over."

1/6/2006 7:40:57 AM

i'm tempted to say shadowrunner won this thread w/

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"a promise ring means one of two things: 1) I can now be officially mad if I find out you fucked someone else. 2) I'm so Christian, and this ring is proof that we're not fucking."

1/6/2006 10:35:05 AM

Promise ring means you're not fucking??

since when?

[Edited on January 6, 2006 at 10:43 AM. Reason : i thought it meant if you're fucking, its exclusive]

1/6/2006 10:42:43 AM

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"a promise ring means one of two things: 1) I can now be officially mad if I find out you fucked someone else. 2) I'm so Christian, and this ring is proof that we're not fucking."

I don't need a ring to get mad at my boyfriend for fucking someone else.

1/6/2006 10:59:23 AM

Promise ring?

1/6/2006 12:30:47 PM

I didn't realize that people did promise rings after high school.

that's fucking retarded.

1/6/2006 12:32:58 PM

a promise ring is not a pre-engagement ring, imo.

a promise ring, as already stated, just means that you're not going to date anyone else. it's a gaelic tradition. mine says "vous et nul autre". promise rings are really cheap, like $20-50.

a pre-engagement ring has a stone on it, and is exactly that...something slightly cheaper than a real engagement ring and has more to do with actual marriage than dating.



now with that said, if you've been dating for like 5 years and your'e in your late 20s and you're just now getting a promise ring, that sucks. get engaged or get out. promise rings are an earlier on in the relationship kinda deal, for younger folks, imo.

[Edited on January 6, 2006 at 1:15 PM. Reason : ]

1/6/2006 1:12:51 PM

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"women made up the idea just to get another ring to wear"

I guess i would wear the ring if a bf came up with it all by himself, just to be nice. But ya i agree the idea of a promise ring is retarded.

1/6/2006 1:14:07 PM

^^ Is that like the claddagh ring? or something similar?

[Edited on January 6, 2006 at 1:55 PM. Reason : ^^]

1/6/2006 1:54:44 PM

I promise to promise you to promise.

1/6/2006 2:37:23 PM

wtf, why do you get engaged in the first place?

why don't you just get married?

1/6/2006 5:02:33 PM

oh, here's a good one

Isn't marriage just a promise to remain faithful for the rest of your lives. So essentially an engagement is a promise to promise. This jewelry stuff and ritualistic materialism: it's all bullshit, yet you all think your level of participation is somehow acceptable.

go fuck yourself

1/6/2006 5:16:49 PM

heh, this thread reminds me of this arrested development episode:

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"George Michael: You know, it’s really great you did this. I-I thought you didn’t really even like Ann, but you know, since you do, I thought I could get your opinion. I was thinking of giving her, like, a-a pre-engagement... Michael: Ring? George Michael: Yeah. Michael: Wow, that catches me off guard, George Michael. I’m not sure about that. I just... I don’t know if it’s... I think... I think it’s going to backfire on you. I think that it could backfire on you because it’s going to seem like you’re taking marriage, uh, lightly, you know, and you can’t. It’s very sacred. Sacred. Yeah. That’s it. George Michael: All right, well, yeah. You know, I guess it did kind of feel right to me, but, yeah, if you... I’ve got to trust you, right? Michael: Thank you, thank you. George Michael: Yeah. Hey, maybe I should... maybe I should ask if she wants to get pre-pre-engaged. Add another... Michael: The mere fact that you’re laughing about marriage means that you’re not ready, okay?"

http://the-op.com/ref/ee2.php?ep=216&pg=1

1/6/2006 5:50:42 PM

why don't you go ahead and get engaged? um because we had only been dating a couple of months. you shouldn't rush into things like that...

1/6/2006 8:30:15 PM

I know this girl in my high school that got a promise ring from her boyfriend after dating for like 3 or 4 months. That shit cost more than my wedding rings. It was like a $5000 ring. (His parents were loaded, but still...) She went around bragging about it all year and then at the end of the year during senior week at Myrtle Beach he beat her ass and got arrested. They broke up...I wonder if she kept the ring?

1/6/2006 10:30:40 PM

I blame the victim.

1/6/2006 11:03:35 PM

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" this is a stupid thread OMG I DON'T LIKE DECISIONS OTHER PEOPLE MAKE"

1/7/2006 1:12:47 AM

Haha, Both my cousins on my Dad's side are supper religious and one day they show me these promise rings to Jesus (Promising that they won't have sex until they are married). One year later my male cousin gets his girlfriend pregnant and then has this shot gun wedding! Promise Rings = Stupidness

1/7/2006 12:41:49 PM

for celibacy, yes

1/7/2006 4:40:16 PM

1/7/2006 4:53:01 PM

"Isn't marriage just a promise to remain faithful for the rest of your lives. So essentially an engagement is a promise to promise. This jewelry stuff and ritualistic materialism: it's all bullshit, yet you all think your level of participation is somehow acceptable."

I personally wouldn't mind skipping the whole "engagement" period, because as I see it, the only reason to even date somebody is if you're thinking about spending the rest of your life with them. That said, my fiance and I were boyfriend/girlfriend status for about 6 months (friends before that), but since I'm still kind of young and we're both working on getting our lives together, we're having a long "engagement" period (2 years plus.) I guess the only real reason for that is to show people that we really are serious about each other since "fiance/e" carries a lot more weight than "boyfriend/girlfriend."

A ring for celibacy is stupid. If you don't have the commitment without some ring to remind you, it just isn't going to happen.

PS
The engagement was his idea, not mine.

1/7/2006 5:00:39 PM

A ring for marriage is stupid. If you don't have the commitment without some ring to remind you, it just isn't going to happen.

1/7/2006 6:23:46 PM

my ex girlfriend had a True Love Waits type of ring. She was very serious about it and I respected it.

1/7/2006 8:04:03 PM

Get chastity belts.

1/7/2006 9:18:04 PM

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"Buy her a fucking pendant if you don't have the nads for an engagement ring."

lol seriously

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"3. Tired of my girlfriend sweating my nuts about it."

jesus, youre 19 and still in college, wtf does she expect????? how long have yall been dating

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"a promise ring means one of two things: 1) I can now be officially mad if I find out you fucked someone else."

hahaha
shit, i thought thats what the monogamy talk was for, i dont need a ring for that

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"If your 19 year old girlfriend is sweating your nuts about marriage already, you need to drop her like a bad habit. Engagement, marriage, etc. needs to be done on one's own schedule...it's not something you do because of pressure. 19 is so young."

SERIOUSLY!

[Edited on January 7, 2006 at 9:46 PM. Reason : more comments]

1/7/2006 9:39:44 PM

My boyfriend gave me a ring when I was 19 and he was 21. We’d been dating 1 year. I guess you would call it a promise ring. It’s a sapphire with diamond chips.

After another year (2 years dating total), he proposed. We stayed engaged for two years and then married (17 years now, quite happily.)

There’s been a lot of negative comment, so let me give you some positive comment on promise rings.
1) It let me know he was serious about our relationship.
2) It gave me a good way to turn down other guys at dance clubs. (I would go clubbing with girlfriends some nights and boyfriend didn’t like to go.)
3) When my wedding ring is in for repair, which happens about once every 3 years when you’ve got a raised setting and takes at least a week, I’ve got something to put on my left ring finger and avoid any awkward questions about marriage status.
4) It’s a nice memory. He gave it to me on my 19th birthday at a fancy restaurant wrapped up in 5 different boxes. It took quite some time to get to the ring.

I’ll agree that giving someone a promise ring instead of an engagement ring beyond a point in the relationship can send the wrong message. I didn’t expect or ask for my ring, and it’s something I’m happy to have.

However, if she’s pressuring you into a ring, she’s probably not looking for a promise ring.

1/8/2006 11:56:32 AM

giving a girl a ring and giving her a promise ring arent the same thing, imo

1/8/2006 4:44:38 PM

I met a girl last night who had a ring on her right ring finger.

I was like, "is that a promise ring?"

She said, "Yes it is actually, but its a promise ring to God"

I said "WTF"

She was like, "Yeah, to remind myself to stay faithful to God"

I ran away.

1/8/2006 4:47:12 PM

^smart


god is like brain cancer

1/8/2006 4:54:37 PM

"A ring for marriage is stupid. If you don't have the commitment without some ring to remind you, it just isn't going to happen."

Yeah, nice sarcasm there. As I see it, both an engagement ring and wedding bands are there to say "I'm taken. Leave me alone." If it weren't for that, I would be quite happy, and faithful, without a ring.

1/8/2006 8:50:15 PM

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"I met a girl last night who had a ring on her right ring finger. I was like, "is that a promise ring?" She said, "Yes it is actually, but its a promise ring to God" I said "WTF" She was like, "Yeah, to remind myself to stay faithful to God" I ran away. "

Nuns are always horny.

1/8/2006 10:22:38 PM