When you start dating someone new, it's protocall to try to impress the other with things you don't always do. Most people put their best face forward. What do you normally do in the beginning that you don't do later on in the relationship and how long do you do there things for?

Discuss.

4/11/2006 2:43:43 PM

different strokes for different folks. i was basically stuck to my man at the hip from the first day we met 3 years ago. our relationship would be considered abnormal for most people.

4/11/2006 2:44:47 PM

i think i do more now that i know him better
i wouldnt fake doing things. i sitll try things that he likes just to get the feel of them n stuff, and i still cook and clean for him.

4/11/2006 2:52:12 PM

do there things, yeah, do those

4/11/2006 2:53:18 PM

just hang around and let him touch your tits

4/11/2006 2:53:22 PM

just the tip, just for a little bit

4/11/2006 2:54:23 PM

i don't normally fart in the beginning...later i just let em go

4/11/2006 2:56:50 PM

0 days

4/11/2006 2:57:19 PM

^i don't think there is really a cowboy loving you

4/11/2006 2:58:33 PM

it's a joke... cowboy lovin university... NC State... cowboys... farmer school... etc....

4/11/2006 3:00:09 PM

it lasts until one of ya'll rip one in front of the other

4/11/2006 3:01:55 PM

i sure as fuck hope the guy doesnt read tww because chicks like you scare the shit out of me.

4/11/2006 3:10:53 PM

after the first time you do anal

4/11/2006 3:11:53 PM

^ahaha

4/11/2006 5:18:32 PM

I am still being courted and I am married.

4/11/2006 6:50:31 PM

sweet!

4/11/2006 6:55:27 PM

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"after the first time you do anal"

lol

4/11/2006 6:56:39 PM

I wouldn't really set it at a specific point in time in the relationship. After dating for a while, you will grow to a certain level of comfort around the person and things will seem more natural.

4/11/2006 7:02:43 PM

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"protocall"

4/11/2006 7:08:16 PM

This isn't in regards to me. I just wondered how much opinion varied. My friend and I were discussing it the other night and I said it lasts 6 months and she thought it lasted longer. Anyhow, interesting responses.

4/11/2006 10:01:22 PM

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"i wouldnt fake doing things"

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"i sure as fuck hope the guy doesnt read tww because chicks like you scare the shit out of me."

4/11/2006 10:52:20 PM

cunnilingus

first time's free each additional costs

4/11/2006 10:53:57 PM

I dont know whats wrong with you guys, I love my gf just as much today as the first time I forced myself on her.

4/11/2006 10:59:01 PM

after dating my guy for 5+ years, we act just about the same as when we first started dating... more serious, of course; but there is nothing really that either one of us has stopped doing since we starting dating.

4/12/2006 12:11:25 AM

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"When you start dating someone new, it's protocall to try to impress the other with things you don't always do. Most people put their best face forward. What do you normally do in the beginning that you don't do later on in the relationship and how long do you do there things for?"

Someone who I have to try to impress isn't someone I want to be with. Someone who feels he has to impress me also isn't someone I want to be with.
By your definition, we've never courted.
There's not some magic point in a relationship where you can stop putting forth special effort, and still reap the benefits of said efforts. Then again, they aren't really "special" efforts.
It's a relationship, not a theatre play. Unless, of course, you're putting an act on for yourself. And that usually doesn't fool other people, and then you don't have to worry about this whole "courting" business that you speak of.

4/12/2006 12:18:42 AM

^well done.

4/12/2006 12:20:14 AM

until you get killed, or I find someone better


(name that movie quote...)

4/12/2006 12:28:07 AM

4/12/2006 12:28:20 AM

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"Someone who I have to try to impress isn't someone I want to be with. Someone who feels he has to impress me also isn't someone I want to be with."

Yeah that's basically how I feel.

4/12/2006 12:30:58 AM

does this include e-game stage?


because I've been stuck there for years

4/12/2006 12:31:49 AM

i think it all depends on the person

4/12/2006 1:17:47 AM

I disagree. I think dating someone is much like starting a new job you really enjoy. During the first few weeks, you might dress to the nines or watch your foul mouth or bring in items to share in the break room to make a good impression. I'm not asking how you pretend or act or how you are fake with the person. I was more interested in the things that you do to leave an impression on them that is positive. For example, being more inquisitive than usual, avoiding abrasive topics, or being cautious not to self-disclose too much.

Of course comfort breeds trust and trust leads to the sharing of more intimate things such as sticking it in the butt...but seriously, the whole "I want to be with someone who loves me for me" idea is crap. I'm sure it works sometimes but, in reality, most everyone puts their best face on for the first little while, rather it be a month or six months.

Nearly everyone puts in some effort. Some go to extremes to be someone they truly are not and some just polish up their real selves. I mean, it'd be nice to pretend that a guy/girl who thinks it's cool that you rolled out of bed, put on last night's gym clothes, and farted during the goodnight kiss on the first date actually exists. I'm sure the imagination could go wild when you're sitting at home waiting on a call back.

For the first date, I usually try to get my hair in some kind of managable order and I limit my sailor slang dirty tongue. I usually keep up the hair ordeal for 2 dates........and the slang until they curse and I feel comfortable sharing my abrasive language.

[Edited on April 12, 2006 at 1:43 AM. Reason : asdf]

4/12/2006 1:41:36 AM

^that's rediculous.

If they can't deal with your language, why string them along for several dates?

And yes, I think it's fucking hot as hell when a girl has the balls to just roll out in whatever she wants to. Putting on show is just delaying the inevitable.

It's one thing to ease a person into your personality/beliefs/quirks. It's another to put on a different face and slowly change it to reveal your true self.

4/12/2006 1:59:38 AM

^definitely agreed


Farting is the only thing i'll hold off on, until at least the first time we sleep together.



and it's protocol, not protocall.

[Edited on April 12, 2006 at 8:28 AM. Reason : d]

4/12/2006 8:28:21 AM

^Yes, Luisclues already pointed that out but it was too late to edit but thank-you.

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"It's one thing to ease a person into your personality/beliefs/quirks."

How is going easy on harsh language on the first date any different? And yeah, it does take balls to just go with whatever.

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"It's another to put on a different face and slowly change it to reveal your true self."

Again, I agree with you. I don't think acting polietly and limiting how much of yourself you reveal is putting on a different persona.

TWW proves over and over again how accepting and nonjudgemental everyone claims to be.

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" rediculous."

[Edited on April 12, 2006 at 9:41 AM. Reason : oh, and since we're all spelling nazi's here......]

4/12/2006 9:40:30 AM

yea I always screw up ridiculous.

And what you said in your original post was NOT reflective of "being polite and easing people into your personality"

You specifically said, you try to "impress the other person with things you don't always do."

That is completely different.

4/12/2006 9:54:24 AM

LOL @ J HOVA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

4/12/2006 10:12:24 AM

I would think you become more comfortable with people in degrees as a progressive and reciprocal process rather than any cut off point.

4/12/2006 10:13:31 AM

Okay then, edit to original post:

What do you normally do or not in the beginning that you don't do or begin to do later on in the relationship and how long does it take for the get to know you stage to wear off?

bah.

4/12/2006 11:37:30 AM

It never stops.

4/12/2006 1:14:49 PM

yo yall cant imagine the ass on this thing...

4/12/2006 1:21:48 PM

when you no longer are willing to eat the vagina

4/12/2006 1:32:06 PM

I usually "court" until I'm comfortable Motorboating with her. Comfort breeds trust that dude up there says.

4/12/2006 2:58:58 PM

Yeah, I actually do more things for him now than I did in the beginning. I know him better and know what he appreciates. Most days I make him lunch for when he comes home and on the weekends I make him breakfast in bed. I figure it's the least I can do since he's gonna support me and my pets later in life.

4/12/2006 3:10:01 PM

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"until you get killed, or I find someone better (name that movie quote...) "

starship troopers

4/12/2006 4:23:30 PM

I don't curse in front of girls when I first meet them. Does that count?

Otherwise I don't think you should waste time trying to be someone you're not.

4/12/2006 4:25:30 PM

with anyone new the early phases are telling stories and filling in each other... but that applies to friends, coworkers somewhat, and relationships. i think successful relationships start with being upfront.

maybe you dress a little nicer for a first date, but in a relationship on special occasions you also dress nice and act chivalrous. A first date I think can be viewed in the light of being just one of the special occasions rather than as a beginning that’s somehow fundamentally different than what follows.

4/12/2006 4:32:05 PM

courting: going to the bathroom to fart

4/12/2006 4:38:52 PM

^haha

4/12/2006 6:56:48 PM

courting : foreplay

4/12/2006 7:01:32 PM