Why do I feel so down?

5/14/2006 12:49:17 AM

It's okay -- it's a hard time, don't let it get you down

I was down for a while after graduation... just remember that any time of big change can be extremely traumatic.

5/14/2006 12:49:54 AM

You got a serious response from a dead wolf web in 37 seconds. Impressive.

5/14/2006 12:54:08 AM

i would think graduation would be somewhat of a relief and somethin excitin since ur movin on with ur life

5/14/2006 12:55:55 AM

^ That's what everyone's telling me i should feel.

5/14/2006 12:56:56 AM

just go to grad school

5/14/2006 12:57:06 AM

were u lookin forward to graduatin or were u kinda dreadin it?

5/14/2006 1:01:00 AM

^ I had no real opinion on it till today.

I was like. Oh. Graduation. Right.

5/14/2006 1:09:20 AM

Graduating from college was by far one of the worst times of my life, and that was from beginning of my senior year until about a year and a half afterwards.

5/14/2006 1:48:20 AM

fn'a

today was one of the top 5 best days of my life

how you could not love the feeling of no more homework is baffling

[Edited on May 14, 2006 at 1:58 AM. Reason : n]

5/14/2006 1:58:27 AM

yea how anybody could experience anything differently from you just does not fucking compute

5/14/2006 2:09:50 AM

homework ended in highschool

5/14/2006 2:12:11 AM

Anybody with common sense would realize that leaving college behind is a very sad event.

Yeah sure, its great not to have homework anymore...but (for the most part) you no longer can party your ass off all the time, do pretty much whatever you want without consequence, nor wave off responsibilities.

Entering the real world is great, but I don't know a single person that doesn't miss college dearly.

[Edited on May 14, 2006 at 2:21 AM. Reason : k]

5/14/2006 2:21:07 AM

okay, so my situation is different

I got my degree in 3 years (keep in mind, 8 months of those were spent on a full-time internship as well) so I average like 18-21 hours per semester and like 5-12 in the summers

I was dying to stop the torture. plus, I'm marrying my lovely fiancee in August and can't wait to start our life together

I'll miss the Wolfpack games and the friends, but the schoolwork can keep the memories to themself

5/14/2006 2:42:12 AM

honestly it didnt hit me until like 5 days after hs graduation

when it did i was like damn, i didnt do so much...

5/14/2006 3:05:34 AM

Ive been in for 7 years, and I have 3-4 more years to go

5/14/2006 3:08:11 AM

I graduated in December, 2004. Boy did I ever hate it. It was not good times. I didn't want to leave, I didn't want to graduate and it was horrible.

So a year later, I came back to graduate school here.

5/14/2006 7:23:20 AM

You feel down because being an undergraduate has been your life for the past 5 years and the realization that things are going to change finally struck you today. Then again, you have another year for your master's, so things aren't going to change TOO drastically anytime soon

[Edited on May 14, 2006 at 10:06 AM. Reason : .]

5/14/2006 10:05:48 AM

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"homework ended in highschool"

WTF?!

5/14/2006 12:16:46 PM

I graduate in a year and I am really not looking forward to it. Sure it will be nice to be able to say that I got an engineering degree from a highly prestigous university and all, but all of my close friends from the past 5 years are already starting to move away.

5/14/2006 12:22:25 PM

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"homework ended in highschool"

yea...for some majors it did.

5/14/2006 12:27:04 PM

i've never slept as peaceful as i slept the day after graduation

5/14/2006 2:59:13 PM

it just hasn't sunk in yet

I feel like I have another semester to go

but man, once it hits, i'm gonna be so happy

5/14/2006 3:09:35 PM

It's strange how shit like post partum depression (and similar things like this) get people down.

5/14/2006 3:36:57 PM

i am soon to graduate, and when i look back on it, i havnt learned jack shit

5/14/2006 3:54:38 PM

I was no closer to knowing what to do with my life on the day I graduated than the day I started college. I had no credit, no car, a crappy job that I hated (it wasn't even anything closely resembling a career move). My friends were all like, "Oh wow, you're so lucky!"

I didn't care about not having homework. But I did read fifty books between May and December of that year.

5/14/2006 4:21:08 PM

all i know is, i'm finally going to be getting a nice sized paycheck, i'm finally going to have my own place, and i'm finally going to be "done" every day at 5 instead of leaving class just to work in a lab all day

5/14/2006 5:57:17 PM

I'm sorry you're feeling down, but I have to say my reaction has been completely different. I am so ready to move on to the next part of my life. Cheer up though, you have your whole life ahead of you

edit: maybe if you spend some time planning future goals, plans, and steps to achieve them you will gain a more positive outlook on the near future
/oprah

[Edited on May 14, 2006 at 7:05 PM. Reason : lkjdsf]

5/14/2006 7:03:51 PM

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"honestly it didnt hit me until like 5 days after hs graduation when it did i was like damn, i didnt do so much..."

A month before I graduated, I was sitting in senior seminar and the full realization hit me that I would have to grow up and leave college hit me. I was struck dumb for at least a good 5 minutes. Thank go lecture was going on, so I just looked like I was really attentive.

5/14/2006 7:26:01 PM

Much more depressing, realizing you've been out of college longer than you were in it

5/17/2006 8:35:31 AM

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"just go to grad school"

best advice

5/17/2006 8:54:29 AM

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"i've never slept as peaceful as i slept the day after graduation"

RIGHT ON THE MONEY

it was like thank god school is over

no more bullshit busy work, no more agonizing "research" papers

i didn't even go to the graduation ceremony cause that would be even more time wasted

i've gained weight to a healthy figure, i feel better, i sleep better

i can afford to have a job so now i have money

who knew college was the pinpoint of all stress

5/17/2006 9:30:25 AM

Kind of depends on you--whether you consider graduation as the end of something, or the beginning of something.

Old Satchel Paige quote -- "Don't look back. Something might be gaining on you."

5/17/2006 9:49:26 AM

i thought the same thing until i got in the real world
all this bullshit busy work, agonizing deadlines, crunching numbers in my sleep, dreaming about my top ten accounts

i had rather be back in school some days than working 9 1/2 hours everyday

5/17/2006 9:50:18 AM

anyone who doesn't feel some kind of remorse when leaving college did NOT do college right

5/17/2006 10:12:56 AM

i didnt have any remorse


i still party like i did and hang out with the same people, football games and tailgates

i sure as fuck dont miss school and the work and being poor

however do miss all the time off, but that is a minor detail

[Edited on May 17, 2006 at 10:17 AM. Reason : ]

5/17/2006 10:16:51 AM

i didn't make any money in college

in fact, i lost money in college

i need money to buy food, clothes, gas

i couldn't get that as much in college and my standard of living decreased

5/17/2006 10:18:34 AM

Woodfoot, I see exactly what you mean, but some people had more important motives in college than having "fun" as a #1 priority

I'd rather work my 40 hours per week than the 80-90 per week I spent trying to ace my classes. Clearly I'm not the only one as nothing22 seems to know exactly where I'm coming from.

5/17/2006 11:25:52 AM

I feel sorry for those people who didn't have fun as their #1 priority.

It took me 6 years, but I don't think I could have possibly had any more fun and still come out alive.

5/17/2006 11:29:24 AM

^ See, here's my reaction to that. In the 6 years it took you to graduate w/ a B.S., I will have a B.S., own a home (well, not 100% paid off), have ~3 years of full-time work experience, and be halfway done w/ an MBA.

Basically, if all goes well, I'll retire a hell of a lot earlier than you. So at ~50, I'll be straight chillin' and the college partiers will be working their wrinkles off. See my POV?

EDIT: Oh, and make no mistake, I loved NC State. I loved the friends, the games, everything. It was incredible and I'll miss those parts dearly. But if I had to choose working 40 hours a week getting paid or 80-90 on schoolwork getting closer to a degree, I'll take the 4-0.

[Edited on May 17, 2006 at 11:36 AM. Reason : .]

5/17/2006 11:31:21 AM

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"I was no closer to knowing what to do with my life on the day I graduated than the day I started college. I had no credit, no car, a crappy job that I hated (it wasn't even anything closely resembling a career move). My friends were all like, "Oh wow, you're so lucky!""

yea really, I still can't decide if I want to go to grad school and if i do I don't know wtf to go for.. I'm in a crappy lab job too..

I do have a car and my credit is good so I guess that's a plus.

5/17/2006 1:11:28 PM

I thought I would make more money outside college, too. I remember bitching to my mom that I was ready to be out and have a real job so I could actually afford things. I also wanted out so I could finally live on my own (I don't recommend spending longer than two years in the dorms, I spent all four in them). And then I got out, went through three jobs that summer (all part-time, all very temporary), finally found a fourth that I stayed at for longer than a month, and spent all that time freaking out about how to pay my bills, how to fix my car, how to patch up my crappy relationship. I wanted to sit back and do some self-exploration to figure out what I really wanted out of life. But I couldn't see past my stupidity and depression and my bills.

I had no marketable skills whatsoever. I was brought up stupidly believing that having a degree was basically all you needed for a good job. As if I would go to college, graduate, and the jobs would just fall into my lap. Most of the people I work with don't have degrees but are either working on them, or planning on getting one, and they all seem to have that same mentality, too.

5/17/2006 1:41:13 PM

^ Yep. The biggest misconception about college is that your EDUCATION gets you a job/career. That's 98% false. The CONNECTIONS and NETWORKING you can accomplish only in a university setting (co-op/internship/etc.) is what gets folks jobs. It's *barely* about what you know.

5/17/2006 1:45:51 PM

^Print that up on a t-shirt, pass it out to the world. Actually, I think I'll start making graduation cards that say that.

5/17/2006 1:57:19 PM

I definitely don't sleep any better than i used to.

and working 8-5 is hell on earth.

5/17/2006 1:59:04 PM

^^ The less people that know that, the better of I am (since I do). The only reason I share my wisdom here is the madd love for fellow Wolfpackers

5/17/2006 3:26:11 PM

Just remember, even if you fall flat on your face, you're still moving forward.

5/17/2006 3:45:33 PM

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5/17/2006 4:02:26 PM

The only thing different between before I had my degree and after I got my degree is I can now work more overtime. I cannot find a job where I would not have to take a pay cut. Not to say that I don't get paid well..... I was making more in my junior and senior year of college than my fiancee who graduated 5 yrs ago. I have a shitload of expirience, but none in my field. Oh well... I guess I am stuck until something better comes along.

5/17/2006 7:15:18 PM

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"See, here's my reaction to that. In the 6 years it took you to graduate w/ a B.S., I will have a B.S., own a home (well, not 100% paid off), have ~3 years of full-time work experience, and be halfway done w/ an MBA. Basically, if all goes well, I'll retire a hell of a lot earlier than you. So at ~50, I'll be straight chillin' and the college partiers will be working their wrinkles off. See my POV? "

Wow, so if i just follow your lead now, i could retire at 52 instead of 50?

oh my god, what have I done with my life?????????????


Something tells me that when I'm 50, I wouldn't even consider trading the memories I accumulated during my extended stay in college for the material things that you accumulated by zipping through college, and your youth so that you can be "straight chillin" at 50. In the grand scheme of things 2 years is nothing when you're in your 50s, but it's a fucking lifetime when you're 21.

5/17/2006 8:27:12 PM