to try and get back with an ex? Were you successful? Or in the long run it was more painful?

12/9/2006 4:43:29 PM

i masturbated untill i bled. no it did not work and yes it was painful.

12/9/2006 4:46:44 PM

http://www.thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=415095

read that thread.
/thread btw.

12/9/2006 4:52:42 PM

^ summary plz, i don't remember what happened

12/9/2006 4:55:23 PM

pretty much this:

Quote :

"Make her be the one to contact you. Dont cut off lines of communication but dont be the guy who sets her AOL name on "alert status" and starts freaking a leek everytime she signs on. And please people Dont feed this guy any bullshit about trying to stay friends with her. After six years friends is totally out of the question. If you want to fuck this girl again let her be the one who contacts you. Pretty soon she'll realize this new guy isn't really interested in dating her (he's just fucking down).... and she'll start inquiring about how you are doing. This is where you have to re-assert the power in the relationship. You can tell her you miss some things about her but DO NOT TELL HER OR IMPLY YOU WANT HER BACK. Do not play the role of the "puppy dog". Dont let her think you're scratching at the door and when she puts the key in the door you're gonna jump into her arms. Girls do not fuck puppy dogs. You need her to see you at a social function or gathering and you need her to see you making "connections" with other girls. Let me be specific about these "connections". Im not talking about her walking in on you and a girl post-coitus.... or playing find the cobra in the laundry room.... or even good old american face fucking for that matter. All of the above will just cause her to jump the next guy she sees or even worse seek out one of your buddies. You do not want to play "lets see who can fuck up the other persons head the hardest" with a college aged girl, trust me. By "connections" I just mean flirtatious talking, eye-fucking, sitting beside a girl on the couch, playing drinking games, etc... Remember this girl sees you as more than just a sexual object... girls define their self-worth by how much they can fool a guy into "loving" her. If there's one thing that will break a girl down it's watching other girls pitch tents on her old territory. In a girls world this is the equivalent of when you get done with a game of madden and the playstation freezes before you can save it. Last piece of advice. If your ex is blonde, flirt with brunettes. If your ex is brunette, flirt with blondes. Do not stray from this formula.""

12/9/2006 4:59:52 PM

First, I'm a girl. The twist is, I did the dirty work for him and it wasn;t actually my decision but I felt like I didn't have a choice. I mean that's the gist of the story.

I've already done some stupid things since we had broken up ( Nov 18.) Like last night, although I knew it was wrong, but impulses took over, and I drove past his apt to see if his car was parked. Doesn't really give me any kind of reassurance, for all I know he could have some girl over watching a movie. But then, there's that chance that he could be in there alone, so that sort of gave me peice of mind. But I didn't actually knock on his door. Thank god I wasn;t that emotionally charged last night.


Since the break up, I've called him about 5 times, wrote emails about 2--- no response.

He still has me as a "friend" on facebook, for whatever that's worth- although pictures of us are gone and he has changed his 'look for status' to everything that you can check. I think he's just trying to piss me off.

12/9/2006 5:05:59 PM

^Maybe he's just moving on?

12/9/2006 6:30:22 PM

either he is mad at you still or with another girl.

ignore his ass

he'll break down like every guy does and call you

12/9/2006 6:39:46 PM

i ALMOST drove to Mass.


didnt and fucked her best friend instead.


it was a good decision.

12/9/2006 7:07:30 PM

^^^^

i'd probably marry a chick that was that crazy about me


she'd probably end up kniving me in the stomach one night

but seriously, thats wild

12/9/2006 7:38:28 PM

I've never wanted to get back with an ex after we broke up.

I'm all about the strange.


However, I did end up getting back with one ex after several months, and she's now my wife... but she did the pursuing (I was the jackass in that situation, I broke up with her for another girl).

12/11/2006 10:04:24 AM

Wow, you're lucky. If some guy broke up with me for another girl, I would sure as hell not marry him.

12/11/2006 10:22:24 AM

BobbyD's a pimp...you would've married him

and I know this is completely off topic, but based strictly on the "What is the craziest thing you have done..." question:

My wife & I jumped off a 35 foot piece of rock on the Kona (Hawaii) coastline into "the dragon's throat" cave, which is about 20 feet deep. that's a long ways to fall into blue abyss

12/11/2006 10:30:31 AM

acraw, you can hate fuck me
i like being used

12/11/2006 10:43:33 AM

Ignoring the person the best every time. It may seem dumb and childish, but its the only way to do it. First off, it allows you to not have your life consumed by the other person's actions and where abouts (i.e. driving past their house).

But secondly, it helps remove the assurance the other person has about holding the upper hand in the relationship. Right now he is thinking that he broke up with you and he was the one needed the most in the relationship, and by calling and writing emails you're only confirming this. Stop contact.

also, if he is pulling facebook tactics maybe you should change your facebook page back to in a relationship...you know, just to piss him off.

12/11/2006 1:02:30 PM

Is that why he is ignoring me? Do you think he is applying the rules to himself? Meaning he's taking other people's advice to just not call or talk to me for a while?

12/11/2006 1:05:30 PM

If he doesn't want anything to do with you then why are you making a big deal about this.

Are you retarded? Stupid? Mentally challenged?

Move the fuck on already.

12/11/2006 1:09:49 PM

Also, what recently happened like to weeks ago, I didn't take it as hard as some people thought I would.

He went to a friend's birthday bash and he was in the limo...with a girl he brought along that night. Now the name didn't ring a bell until my friend Alex told me what her occupation was, so then it hit me that it was this girl he kinda dated a while ago. He stopped seeing her when he found out that she was dating someone else on the side too. So my speculation was, this didn't mean anything and that he brought her for female company that night--maybe he just didn't feel like the 5th wheel since most of his friends have girlfriends. My friends say I am just making excuses for him. Here is what Alex said about that night:

Third, I won't be able to answer your specific questions about him, her and their behavior. All I know is that John didn't even try to talk to him about things with you because of the environment, so he couldn't have ignored or not heard him about any questions. John described his interactions with her as nothing serious or very involved - he summed it up as a bit of dancing and him putting his arm around her. From the pictures I've seen, he's not particularly happy looking, and like I said before, logic indicates that he's just not very into this girl. I'll ask him if they went home together or not, but I don't know right now.

12/11/2006 1:12:47 PM

Quote :

"If he doesn't want anything to do with you then why are you making a big deal about this. Are you retarded? Stupid? Mentally challenged? Move the fuck on already."

Sorry but I'd rather hear the truth from him rather than hear nothing at all.

If that's the case then I can stop forming psychological profiles for his behaviors. Maybe he is doing it because he's hurt...has moved on, whatever. But until I actually hear it, all this is speculation because what happens after a breakup is not as black and white.

Easier said than done, sorry.

12/11/2006 1:14:50 PM

haha, you are one of "those" exgirlfriends

hey, if he dumped you....then that should be all you need to know
and FYI, he prbly fucked that girl he took in the limo
or he would have if gotten the chance

thats what guys do after breakups...they go and fuck bitches

12/11/2006 1:21:49 PM

What are 'those'?

I don't know if he wanted to break up or not. He said, do what you have to do. It's your decision I'm putting you on the spot.

That's what I mean by doing the 'dirty work' for him.

12/11/2006 1:24:04 PM

Look

He dumped you and is now ignoring you. Reason dictates that he doesn't like you.

I mean we've all been there and it sucks, hurts, and is confusing but you really have to cut your losses and move on before you make a total desperate ass out of yourself.

12/11/2006 1:25:38 PM

Quote :

"before you make a total desperate ass out of yourself."

That's okay it's part of the human emotion...

12/11/2006 1:26:28 PM

Yes I am an overthinker if one of "those" is in the description.

12/11/2006 1:27:40 PM

No like you aren't understanding

Its ok to grieve and be pissed but its not going to help you to be pathetic and groveling.

12/11/2006 1:27:49 PM

Quote :

"Its ok to grieve and be pissed but its not going to help you to be pathetic and groveling."

It's the other way around. You become pathetic and groveling then as time passes you grieve and become pissed.


Anyway. I have to go eat.

12/11/2006 1:29:39 PM

Welp

Good luck.

12/11/2006 1:31:31 PM

you remind of the girl at my apt. complex just a few weeks ago
OMG, was this you? this is what i mean by "those"

Quote :

"Slow day on TWW so i thought i would make a shitty thread here is a story about how girls are really crazy sometimes Sunday afternoon around 12:45pm i left my apt. details not important. before i could leave my apt. i heard banging like the cops were outside. i walk downstairs and see this pretty cute girl trying to beat my neighbors door down this lasted for at least 15 minutes so her hands must have been sore i am gone for aprox. 1 hour and when i get home, she is sitting on the sidewalk facing his apt. as he lives on the ground floor. our apts. have screened in porches so she couldnt bang on the patio door. she says hello, i smile and say hi back and walk up stairs. i sit to eat and the banging starts back up, this time with cursing involved this lasts for almost 30 minutes of shouting, cursing and banging; then it just stopped. i wait for a few minutes after it stopped and i gather up some trash so i have an excuse to see whats up and she is no where to be found. i am walking to the dumpster and she is now sitting on the sidewalk in the parking lot out of the view of my neighbors window. wow so she has been outside now for like 2 hours trying to get this guy to come out and talk to her with no results. some time passes and i have to leave again so i go out to my car the girl is NOW sitting in the Tennis Court facing our building....just sitting there. When i get back home, she is gone and all is well until around 8:30pm at 8:30 almost on the damn dot the shit starts all over again.....the banging on the door and cursing.....she is now crying and shouting that its cold and she is freezing and he needs to let her in before she got sick.........HAHAHAHAH she kept crying until i guess she got let in around 9pm i went downstairs to eavesdrop and it sounded like freaking WW3 pop'n off in dudes apt. they were so lound with all the shouting in his apt. i just knew the cops were going to be called"

he is not in to you. if the guy is ignoring you, honey, move on...he is doing that for a reason.
its not b/c he is hurting inside...if he was hurting, he wouldnt have gone out for the birthday bash.

if he does call you, its to fuck and fuck only...not to get back together
he will fuck you for as long as you put out...but he not going to get back together

i and many other men have done this...i can assure you this will happen

[Edited on December 11, 2006 at 1:36 PM. Reason : bwn?]

12/11/2006 1:34:32 PM

doing crazy things for an ex doesn't make them come back

it only makes them take out restraining orders

12/11/2006 1:37:22 PM

theres a thin line
between love and hate

12/11/2006 1:39:04 PM

drive down to wilmington
we'll go find him... lol...

12/11/2006 1:40:52 PM

Guys, its different this time ok?

12/11/2006 1:44:53 PM

you guys dont know him like I know him
and he acts different when he is with me

12/11/2006 2:19:47 PM

lol

people are exs for a reason

12/11/2006 2:21:17 PM

sometimes you just have to pretend your ex doesn't exist until you're good to go with a new chick.

i've done the pathetic groveling thing before, and it sucks and it never works. i've never done anything crazy though... but i'm a fairly rational guy.

12/11/2006 2:41:48 PM

the only crazy things that i have done
and its not crazy for most men is put my fists through several walls and a door or two

12/11/2006 2:48:41 PM

gunzz, you so crazy

12/11/2006 2:58:29 PM

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"I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped up 4 wheel drive, carved my name into his leather seats. I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights, slashed a hole in all 4 tires. Maybe next time he'll think before he cheats"

Sorry,I thought it said to get back AT an ex, not with.

Therefore, my answer should be nothing. They were dumped for a reason and never wanted anything to do with them ever again! You never go anywhere if you keep walking backwards.

[Edited on December 11, 2006 at 3:12 PM. Reason : ]

12/11/2006 3:11:26 PM

Thank you, that's the smartest thing said in this thread.

12/11/2006 3:15:48 PM

the craziest thing ive done is gotten drunk and called him a bunch of times, then tried to spend the night at his place but he wouldnt open the door o well i ended up goin home with another guy

12/11/2006 3:26:15 PM

what a ho

12/11/2006 3:33:31 PM

why can guys can have sex with liek 20 girls but if a girl wants to have sex with a guy shes a "ho"


[Edited on December 11, 2006 at 3:45 PM. Reason : .]

12/11/2006 3:44:00 PM

I think it was the fact that you were emotionally attached to someone and just chose to screw someone just because they were there and you needed to feel appreciated.

12/11/2006 3:47:25 PM

One shot person per lifetime to make it work. You can't go back... you're only prolonging the drama.

12/11/2006 4:01:58 PM

ahahahaha, crazy ho.

12/11/2006 4:03:27 PM

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"why can guys can have sex with liek 20 girls but if a girl wants to have sex with a guy shes a "ho""

Because girls aren't intelligent.

12/11/2006 4:13:36 PM

Quote :

"You know, I have this awful paranoid thought, that feminism was mostly invented by men so they could fool around a little more. You know, "Women, free your minds! Free your bodies! Sleep with me!"

[Edited on December 11, 2006 at 4:41 PM. Reason : .]

12/11/2006 4:23:01 PM

and because its generally more difficult for a guy to get a woman to sleep with him rather than the other way around. If a guy gets to sleep with a woman, he has achieved something. However, if a woman does it she has let something go.

Actually, what am I saying? You're right, its no big deal. Speaking of which, what are you getting into tonight?

12/11/2006 4:24:47 PM

last fall, i was in a relationship that, at just over two years, had clearly passed its expiration date. i was putting off breaking up with the guy because we'd just moved into a new apartment together (not a good idea to save a failing relationship, by the way...) when i started hearing from an ex, first by email, then on the phone. this was a guy i'd known for years - i had gotten back together with him more than once, but it always seemed to be the wrong time. i always wanted to believe that "someday" things would work out for us. well, here he was calling me from tallahassee, saying all the things i wanted to hear, and the thing he said the most was "ditch that chump and come down here." so i quit my crappy job in raleigh, started packing like crazy, and when my car was full, i hit the road at 11 p.m. and drove to florida. i didn't tell anybody i was going, i just took off. it felt really good. i drove all night, and when i got there, i thought he would be ecstatic to see me. but he was actually kind of freaked out. he didn't think i would really do it. i was there for a week and a half, and although parts of it were good enough to keep me from totally regretting the whole thing, in the end, it was glaringly obvious that "someday" was just never going to happen for us. it was hard to accept, and the drive home was not quite as exhilarating as the drive there had been, but at the same time, at the very least it gave me time to think about moving forward instead of always looking over my shoulder at my memories of him, wondering what might have been. that probably sounds cheesy to some of you, but it felt really profound at the time.

12/11/2006 4:42:55 PM

^ did you work at hooters? i think i know that guy

12/11/2006 4:48:04 PM