Do you think its "fair" for a person to be upset over their own kind getting called a name by the same type of person?
Example:
A lesbian calling another lesbian a dyke and then another lesbian getting upset over it?
A white person calling another white person a cracker and then a white person getting upset over it?
Etc...etc...

12/10/2008 11:35:30 PM

wait
I think i've misread the question

reword it because i'm tired and restarded please

[Edited on December 10, 2008 at 11:36 PM. Reason : ldkjf]

12/10/2008 11:35:55 PM

yes it is fair

12/10/2008 11:37:14 PM

ok.
this lesbian and i were talking and i said something about a table full of dykes...
and she got upset about it?! wtf...

12/10/2008 11:37:34 PM

no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up.

12/10/2008 11:37:37 PM

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"no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up."

True.

Where's terpball, by the way?

12/10/2008 11:38:15 PM

What does fair have to do with it? I think it's pretty fucking stupid, but I also think it's stupid to get too worked up about getting called a name in the first place. Unless you're 2 or something, then it's ok.

12/10/2008 11:38:27 PM

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"no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up."

12/10/2008 11:40:01 PM

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"no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up."

12/10/2008 11:40:58 PM

maybe fair was incorrect...maybe i should ask a poll like...
would u get upset if......

12/10/2008 11:40:59 PM

don't call me white, whitey

12/10/2008 11:41:07 PM

It's fair to get upset and maybe say "that word makes me uncomfortable", but if the two people involved are fine, there's not much else to say.

12/10/2008 11:43:20 PM

but as the person who heard the other was uncomfortable...would u say ok or would u be like chill the fuck out its ok i say it?

12/10/2008 11:45:48 PM

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"no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up."

also...
no one should be name calling. grow the fuck up.

[Edited on December 10, 2008 at 11:49 PM. Reason : fdsfd]

12/10/2008 11:48:50 PM

If it's someone not even involved in the conversation, and you're not perpetuating some egregiously false misconception (uhm, saying a PMSing skank must be schizo, when the public is already grossly misinformed about all mental health manners - that kind of thing)

Tell her to STFU and stuff it

12/10/2008 11:50:18 PM

so shes a newly out girl
and i was talking about some group of dykes that were staring at her and she got upset about it...i just didnt know if i took it too far or she did

12/10/2008 11:58:18 PM

she did

12/10/2008 11:58:49 PM

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"no one should be name calling. grow the fuck up"

basically

12/10/2008 11:58:58 PM

^

12/10/2008 11:59:21 PM

Some people look for any excuse to get "offended." I'll be honest, I don't think I've ever been offended, at least not in the sense that most folks use that word.

12/11/2008 12:00:31 AM

well i question if its because shes young an feels the need to start shit about anything and everything because she did it again today in an unrelated incident

12/11/2008 12:03:19 AM

she is wrong to get all butthurt

BUT you should have apologized cause its ultimately your faux pas

trust me, I know a bit about saying the wrong thing

12/11/2008 12:26:27 AM

So let me see if I've got this right

it goes,

Ice Age,*
Stone age, - Nomadic
Copper age, *
Bronze age, *
Iron age, *
Agricultural age,
Middle age,
Dark age,
Early Modern period,
Renaissance,
Age of Discovery,
Post modern age,
Atomic age,
Space age,
And right now we're bridging the gap between the Information age and the offended/lawyer age

12/11/2008 1:27:16 AM

that is like asking if two boxers should get mad at punching each other in the face

duhh

12/11/2008 1:31:30 AM

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"no one should ever get upset over name calling. grow the fuck up. "

If only things were that simple: http://childpsyche.blogspot.com/2008/04/childhood-bullying-words-do-hurt.html

12/11/2008 1:35:06 AM

oh what the hell. bullying has occurred for generations. my parent's generation turned out just fine. it's only our generation, which has been babied to hell, that has a problem with it.

12/11/2008 1:41:06 AM

^^ Key word

Childhood

They obviously aren't talking about kids, since they told them to grow up, implying they are no longer children.

^ Actually our parents generation kind of sucks

[Edited on December 11, 2008 at 1:43 AM. Reason : ]

12/11/2008 1:42:57 AM

^^ do you have any basis for that assertion?

bullying has always caused problems for society (napolean hitler etc), we just have new tools to quantify it.

^ it holds true in adulthood as well

there are other studies

[Edited on December 11, 2008 at 1:44 AM. Reason : ]

12/11/2008 1:43:32 AM

WHO IS THIS MAN NAPOLEAN HITLER AND WHY DO I KEEP HEARING SO MUCH ABOUT HIM!

12/11/2008 1:59:20 AM

he's got a good publicist

12/11/2008 2:24:36 AM

People who say they never get offended by name calling are damn liars. Let someone call your mother, daughter, son, wife, grandfather, etc. something derogatory and see if you just shrug it off and tell them to grow up.

Give me a break. Not saying you need to kill someone over name calling, but you can't tell me you would have NO reaction.

12/11/2008 2:32:31 AM

It depends upon the intent of the "name calling"

If someone is clearly intending to insult of offend you, or is obviously acting in a serious and hostile way, then it would be perfectly right to get pissed at them.

If someone is obviously just joking, or uses a non-PC term in a non-serious and casual context, you are just a butthurt idiot if you start getting offended or pissed at them.

Then again, if someone makes a joke that is unintentionally but obviously over the line or inappropriate (for example, tells a cancer joke about your mother, because they know your mother has cancer), it would be perfectly okay to notify them that they crossed the line. Getting pissed at them wouldn't be right, but getting mildly offended and telling them to lay off those kinds of jokes would be fine.

12/11/2008 5:46:47 AM

I agree with that, but it seemed to be given as a blanket statement for all instances of name-calling. That's what I disagree with.

12/11/2008 5:54:09 AM

Maybe she sees herself as a lipstick lesbian.

But I see no problem with it.

12/11/2008 10:33:36 AM

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"A white person calling another white person a cracker and then a white person getting upset over it?"

cman, that's not what you really meant.

12/11/2008 10:40:22 AM

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"A lesbian calling another lesbian a dyke and then another lesbian getting upset over it?"

was she a lipstick lesbo or a fucking lumber jack dyke?

12/11/2008 10:46:15 AM

Where is that thread about the "Nigger Store" that opened in Korea or some shit?

[Edited on December 11, 2008 at 10:49 AM. Reason : ]

12/11/2008 10:49:18 AM

If I know the person making the comments I can usually figure out their intentions. It's the new people that I meet and hear them say something, that's when I can't figure out what they were trying to get at.

12/11/2008 10:50:39 AM

isn't that the whole point of name calling? to make someone upset?

12/11/2008 10:52:52 AM

So did you ladies start making out or what?

12/11/2008 11:12:05 AM

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"Do you think its "fair" for a person to be upset over their own kind getting called a name by the same type of person? Example: A lesbian calling another lesbian a dyke and then another lesbian getting upset over it? A white person calling another white person a cracker and then a white person getting upset over it? Etc...etc..."

Is that like when blacks call each other nigger/nigga?

Doesn't seem to offend them. Rather, they seem to like it, and some use it as a term of affection (chick to guy: "you my nigger/nigga")


[Edited on December 11, 2008 at 11:42 AM. Reason : ]

12/11/2008 11:38:17 AM

12/11/2008 11:39:51 AM

^^i agree

[Edited on December 11, 2008 at 11:40 AM. Reason : lol]

12/11/2008 11:39:58 AM

it was done in a joking manner and shes an inbetween lesbo

12/11/2008 9:16:14 PM

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"Is that like when blacks call each other nigger/nigga? "

this is sort of relevant, but not exactly on topic. anyway, i've always thought the term "blacks" (or the term "a black") to be sort of derogatory and non PC. i mean not that you have to use the term "african american" every time. but "blacks" seems worse than even just plain old "black people"

it might just be the way i grew up hearing it used...it always seems to have a (somewhat) negative connotation.

12/11/2008 11:37:01 PM

No it's not fair.

Screw them for being so uppity and for not having a sense of humor. Get that sand out of their vagina.

I'm a mutt, and since I am comprised of so many races, I feel able to say anything derogatory and get away with it.

"Shut the hell up, cracka."

"Who you callin a cracka?"

"Dude, I'm part white."

"Oh okay, it's cool, cracka."

12/11/2008 11:41:02 PM