I was at Sam Ash the other day, looking at guitar cases, and there was a woman with two kids looking at guitars for her son. The daughter kept saying, "Mom, I want to be in a band!"

The mother turned to the girl and said, "Girls aren't supposed to be in bands, honey."

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I really wanted to turn to that little girl and tell her that girls can do whatever they want and then buy her a Breeders record or something similar...but I didn't because I felt that it wasn't my place.

Was I right to keep my thoughts to myself, or should I have made it clear to the girl that no matter what her mother thinks, she can do whatever she wants with her life?

12/14/2008 9:34:26 AM

Nah you did the right thing

12/14/2008 9:36:01 AM

OMG...people still spout this shit? I would have said something. Just another rebellious teenager in the making. It was prob better for you not to stick your nose in their business but I would def have said something.

12/14/2008 9:37:42 AM

Mom was right

I can't name a chick who is in a band

12/14/2008 9:38:01 AM

I can name dozens.

12/14/2008 9:41:23 AM

mind your own fucking business

12/14/2008 9:41:58 AM

i'm talking about real bands, not garage bands or Pour House bands

12/14/2008 9:43:49 AM

that's a pretty shitty thing to say from a mother. But yeah, I'd shake my head and go about my business.

12/14/2008 9:44:36 AM

^ very true

12/14/2008 9:44:55 AM

do bands with platinum albums count?

12/14/2008 9:44:55 AM

You did the right thing. I have one major rule in my life: I never try to tell people how to parent their kids.

12/14/2008 9:46:18 AM

i wonder what this mother was doing outside the home

i hope her husband doesnt catch wind of this

12/14/2008 9:49:13 AM

send her mother a link of this thread.


you should've only interfered if the daughter lokoed like she was going to be hot

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12/14/2008 9:52:17 AM

maybe i should've done what i did but then slipped the kid one of the flyers for the rock 'n' roll camp for girls

12/14/2008 10:00:00 AM

or slip her a flyer for a WIFE camp

Washing
Ironing
Fucking
Etc.

12/14/2008 10:02:18 AM

nah dude, best not to interfere with other parents rearing. If the girl wants to do it badly enough she will grow and find a way to do it anyways. The guy from necrophagist was given a guitar by his older brother but his parents destroyed it and made him eat stones instead of food or something. If she lets her mother control her then she probably isn't fit to play music anyways.

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12/14/2008 10:04:35 AM

yeah all great artists fulfill their dreams IN SPITE of their parents

that's why all great art is angry and tortured

nah dude, you should have just started LOUDLY listing female music stars:

12/14/2008 10:07:36 AM

12/14/2008 10:11:26 AM

god forbid a parent enables a child's desires and they have a good relationship from adolescence on

kim deal
kelley deal
tanya donelly
d'arcy wretzky
justine frischmann
donna matthews
kim gordon
jenny lewis
etc.

12/14/2008 10:14:47 AM

i've never heard of this woman named "etc."

12/14/2008 10:15:56 AM

she was probably one of those kids who has a new phase every week and the mom didnt want to blow that much money.

12/14/2008 10:28:14 AM

the tone wasn't like that

it was definitely "this is something that girls are NOT supposed to do"

12/14/2008 10:29:32 AM

Stevie Nicks wut

12/14/2008 10:31:50 AM

you forgot Donna Summers

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12/14/2008 10:36:45 AM

donna summers is not in a band

neither is donna summer

the donnas half-count because none of them are actually named donna

birds of avalon are playing at lincoln tonight, their lead guitar player is a girl

12/14/2008 10:43:47 AM

never heard of any of them, thanks for proving my point

stick to poppin out kids and cleaning the house

12/14/2008 10:44:17 AM

12/14/2008 10:44:43 AM

you've never heard of smashing pumpkins?

12/14/2008 10:45:20 AM

Sting even

12/14/2008 10:45:43 AM

since you don't particularly know this lady or her famly... so you would basically be assuming all of her parenting on that phone phrase, i'd think that it would be out of line. honestly if i said something to my child and somebody came out of no where and underminded me directly to my child... i'd knock them the fuck out....

do you really want a child like that to be fatherless or motherless because the parent was in jail from assaulting a big mouth in a music store with a random music stand?

12/14/2008 10:45:50 AM

if they have that kind of temper they deserve to be in jail

but yea you did the right thing by not stepping in and saying somethin

12/14/2008 10:52:17 AM

my temper is fine!
comment on it again and you'll be named CalledtoArmless

12/14/2008 10:54:13 AM

there will always be people who are stuck in the 1600s.

thats what makes being not being stuck in the 1600s so much fun

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12/14/2008 10:54:34 AM

lol

12/14/2008 10:55:26 AM

Quote :

"mind your own fucking business"

12/14/2008 10:59:23 AM

Quote :

". I have one major rule in my life: I never try to tell people how to parent their kids."

This is not a good rule. 90% of the people who screw up society probably could have used someone to tell their parents what to do.

Obviously you have to pick your battles, but it's not an absolute that you shouldn't tell people when tehy're doing something wrong.

[Edited on December 14, 2008 at 11:08 AM. Reason : ]

12/14/2008 11:08:03 AM

Maybe she wanted to set up her child with a realistic future so her kid doesn't end up living in her basement until she is 35. Because we KNOW every kid who wants to be in a band makes it. I don't have any kids, but if I did and some know-it-all college kid tried interjecting into my parenting.... I would be livid.

12/14/2008 12:02:01 PM

U Angry?

12/14/2008 12:04:35 PM

"Girls shouldn't be in bands" is not "being realistic," especially when you're buying a guitar for your son.

If someone doesn't want their kids to play music, that's fine, but to suggest that music is a gender-specific pastime is ludicrous.

12/14/2008 12:05:17 PM

Yes I would be quite angry.

And I too have used Google Search to find a good angry potato. I was disappointed.

12/14/2008 12:05:53 PM

12/14/2008 12:09:19 PM

Who knows, maybe it's a religious thing. the point is, it's her kid and that is waaaaaaaaaaay out of line. Unless the parent is being obviously abusive or something, all it would turn into is an embarassing situation for all parties involved.

12/14/2008 12:09:28 PM

was the mom hot?

12/14/2008 12:16:02 PM

maybe she wants her daughter to be a normal girl and not

12/14/2008 12:26:46 PM

how about these instead of that:

12/14/2008 12:36:27 PM

ask yourself this


if said woman was in the parking lot being slapped to the ground, stood back up, and slapped back down repeatedly by her big scary husband

would you be so willing to walk up to them and provide your opinion?


didnt think so, so you did the right thing by fuking off

12/14/2008 12:57:57 PM

in that situation, i'd hit him in the back of the head with the goalie stick i keep in my car

12/14/2008 1:26:25 PM

Deal sisters are annoying as fuck

12/14/2008 1:38:48 PM

I'm not being a troll but you should of said something.

You could of said it respectfully but clearly. Women can do whatever the fuck they want to do. Lots of kick ass girls rock hard.

...

Just try to internalize it for the future so you have a little bit more self confidence about expressing your values.

[Edited on December 14, 2008 at 1:48 PM. Reason : .]

12/14/2008 1:47:51 PM

i feel so bad for that kid. chances are she'll grow up to hate her mother.

12/14/2008 1:51:07 PM