anybody here made a deliberate decision to be single for their entire life? not talking the i'm emo right now and want to be alone forever just to show em, i mean people who have made a deliberate choice that they'd rather spend their life without a significant other or children. or i guess, do you know anybody who's made this choice?

3/7/2009 4:28:11 PM

My Great Uncle is 91, never been married, no children. And since I'm the only one of my generation in my family(brothers, cousins) that hasn't been married they all say he is my mentor

3/7/2009 4:29:51 PM

i can't stand when people are like this. wah, someone fucked you over, everyone gets fucked over. put on your big boy underoos and get over it! i agree, there are times in people's lives when they need to concentrate on themselves and getting their life in older, but to say "i'm never dating again" is so lame. the world is full of so many interesting people and you're really cheating yourself when you say this. just live your life, if you meet someone you like pursue it. you don't have to be actively looking for someone, but why would you turn down a good opportunity simply b/c you've declared to be single? if you get hurt, then brush yourself off and move on, and if things work, then wonderful.

3/7/2009 4:34:56 PM

So you wanna be a confirmed bachelor?

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3/7/2009 4:36:23 PM

cans you read?

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"not talking the i'm emo right now and want to be alone forever just to show em"

3/7/2009 4:36:30 PM

if it makes you feel any better i've contemplated this too.

i can see myself with a wife, but the kid thing is a little too much. and it'd be a huge responsibility because you'd have to educate them yourself if you really gave a damn about them. the schools and kids of this era have a very bleek future and the parents of said kids shouldn't have been allowed to breed. think of all the idiots you went to high school with that have kids ....

3/7/2009 4:41:31 PM

qntmfred it's far too late for you to be contemplating this.

3/7/2009 4:42:01 PM

i guess i can't see how someone would want to deliberately want to be alone forever w/o something in their past shaping that feeling. i think making such a decision (unless you are joining a monastary or convent) is very closed-minded. i have a good friend, an ex really, who is going through this stage and i just feel it is out of anger and has caused a big riff b/t us.

3/7/2009 4:43:30 PM

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"So you wanna be a confirmed bachelor"

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"if it makes you feel any better"

i think these were directed at me. i've been married almost 4 years (to punchmonk). so this thread isn't about me. just know a few people who have made this choice, wanted to get more perspective from folks on here

edit: though i will say, a long time ago i considered it. not because i didn't want a wife, kids or even companionship and friendship in my life, but i was pretty focused on academics, specifically physics. and I thought if I just bit the bullet and decided to stay single, I wouldn't ever have to worry about should i date, etc and could eliminate that distraction so I could focus on research. but i switched to comp sci and i'm not sure i would have had the willpower to not date anyways so it worked out well

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3/7/2009 4:43:36 PM

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"i think making such a decision [...] is very closed-minded."

I think your judgement of a bachelor who doesn't want to add to the problems of an ever growing world rather closed minded.

Shit, not everyone wants to get married and pump out a family of five.

3/7/2009 5:05:52 PM

who said anything about getting married? or kids? it's not not wanting to get married that i have a problem with, i understand that. it's that someone could go their whole life with blinders up b/c a decision they made to be single. it's like saying you hate a food without ever trying it. i think it's fine to be comfortable being single, to enjoy being single, but when you deny yourself feeling something for other people simply b/c you've made a declaration... i find that pretty pointless.

3/7/2009 5:11:49 PM

I think this view-point is extremely self-centered and selfish. I do not think that that particular lifestyle would lead to happiness. Sure, it would be okay for a while, but I would extrapolate that people who did this tend to have lots of regrets.

3/7/2009 5:12:38 PM

Most people on TWW shouldn't be allowed to pass their genes down anyway.

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3/7/2009 5:31:15 PM