zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
How do you handle this kinda thing? 1/25/2011 10:49:15 AM |
pilgrimshoes Suspended 63151 Posts user info edit post |
by avoiding it 1/25/2011 10:49:47 AM |
dbmcknight All American 4030 Posts user info edit post |
/thread 1/25/2011 10:50:25 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
I think I'm inclined to agree with pilgrimshoes' advice; thinking this cannot end well. 1/25/2011 10:52:13 AM |
punchmonk Double Entendre 22300 Posts user info edit post |
I ended up marrying mine. Who knows? I think they mostly end bad. 1/25/2011 10:52:15 AM |
H8R wear sumthin tight 60155 Posts user info edit post |
your friendship will not be the same if you press forward on this path 1/25/2011 10:52:40 AM |
Pikey All American 6421 Posts user info edit post |
Why are you friends with a chick? 1/25/2011 10:53:20 AM |
ALkatraz All American 11299 Posts user info edit post |
^ She can probably fart as good as him 1/25/2011 10:55:21 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
Actually...she can, lol. 1/25/2011 10:56:02 AM |
MaximaDrvr
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I've handled it before by just going for it. When it ended, it was a little awkward for maybe a year, then it was done and we are friends again.
I have also avoided it, and nothing changed. So, like most things, we eventually stopped hanging out as we both found different interests.
I think it might depend on how long you have been friends, and weigh that against how you would be with not talking to/hanging out/ doing stuff with that person any more, as well as if it would be 'worth it' and where it could lead. 1/25/2011 11:00:02 AM |
dharney All American 4445 Posts user info edit post |
i am excellent at getting into the friend zone. It's like my best skill 1/25/2011 11:04:43 AM |
jbrick83 All American 23447 Posts user info edit post |
I've hooked up with two of my best girl"friends". We're still best friends to this day. One of them even lives with my current girlfriend (although she doesn't know we hooked up 3 years ago).
Both of those girls, however, are easily the coolest girls I've ever known. They don't act like normal crazy bitches in a situation like this. 1/25/2011 11:07:03 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
1. We've known each other since 8th grade...over 25 years. As we got older, she did her thing, I did mine, and we rarely saw each other. We started hanging out again this year (about 6 months ago); it's been more than 15 years since we even saw each other...and it's like nothing ever changed between us.
Well, except this weekend, when that discussion happened. It shocked the fuck out of me.
And this one is in a category of her own...so far from typical bitch, it's unbelievable.
[Edited on January 25, 2011 at 11:12 AM. Reason : blahblah] 1/25/2011 11:11:25 AM |
Slave Famous Become Wrath 34079 Posts user info edit post |
Invite her over, then have rose petals from the door to your bedroom, where you'll lay buck naked on the bed.
Depending on how she reacts, you'll know whether she's GF material or not. 1/25/2011 11:16:23 AM |
OopsPowSrprs All American 8383 Posts user info edit post |
Just go for it. If it ends badly, so what. 1/25/2011 11:16:38 AM |
Pikey All American 6421 Posts user info edit post |
Invite her over, then have rose petals from the door to your bedroom, where you'll lay buck naked on the bed the refrigerator.
Depending on how she reacts, you'll know whether she's GF material or not. 1/25/2011 11:21:13 AM |
SchndlrsFist All American 5528 Posts user info edit post |
If you are "best" friends, don't take the chance of messing that up. If you are just friends, go for it. You will lose touch with most of your friends over time anyway. 1/25/2011 11:22:56 AM |
bottombaby IRL 21952 Posts user info edit post |
I hooked up with my longtime friend, then we dated, and then we married. They'll never just be your friend ever again. 1/25/2011 11:30:21 AM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I ended up marrying mine. Who knows? I think they mostly end bad." |
I've done this three times. First time we're still friends 15 years after the dating ended, one I never talk to anymore, one I'm marrying.
So yeah, it's a toss-up how it will end 1/25/2011 11:33:26 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
I'm definitely approaching this cautiously if I do. Same for her. Like very cautiously. 1/25/2011 11:48:18 AM |
Tarun almost 11687 Posts user info edit post |
you gonna get murried? congrats!! 1/25/2011 11:49:40 AM |
jbrick83 All American 23447 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "How do you handle this kinda thing?" |
Whatever you do, I would ignore your instincts. They seem to have failed for you so far in your love life.1/25/2011 11:50:02 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
HAHAHAHA...I can see why you say that.
It's usually ignoring my instincts that has put me in shitty ones in the past. And letting my dick do the thinking. 1/25/2011 11:51:43 AM |
Geppetto All American 2157 Posts user info edit post |
truthfully, it's awesome until its not.
it's of when, not if, you reach this point. 1/25/2011 11:52:31 AM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
I definitely think you gotta have some serious resolve and willingness to put things behind you if you do this kind of thing and hope to remain friends if the relationship part doesn't work. I don't absolutely know how, or if, I could do that successfully. 1/25/2011 1:05:57 PM |
ncsuallday Sink the Flagship 9818 Posts user info edit post |
I recently hooked up with a close girl friend I've had through college. It's turned into a fuckbuddy type situation, which is great and all but it's kind of hard to hang out with her as just friends now because I know if she comes over she'll wind up staying and we'll hook up, etc. no complaints here but just sayin' once you walk down that path there's really no going back. 1/25/2011 1:12:27 PM |
GREEN JAY All American 14180 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I've hooked up with two of my best girl"friends". We're still best friends to this day. One of them even lives with my current girlfriend (although she doesn't know we hooked up 3 years ago)." |
man, if that ever comes out there's going to be a hilarious scene. but maybe not so hilarious for you.1/25/2011 1:16:29 PM |
KeB All American 9828 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "One of them even lives with my current girlfriend (although she doesn't know we hooked up 3 years ago)." |
sounds like you have your work cut out for you....
you + gf + old booty call roommate + tequila = PROFIT!1/25/2011 1:17:36 PM |
mrfrog ☯ 15145 Posts user info edit post |
I don't really have any life-long friends of the other gender aside from my sisters.
So I'm emotionally deaf to the argument that you'll risk loosing a good friend. I say hit dat! 1/25/2011 1:22:36 PM |
jbrick83 All American 23447 Posts user info edit post |
^ and ^^
I honestly don't think it will be that bad. She might be a little disappointed for a while, but we both are pretty accepting of our past sexual lives. And all three of us are pretty easy going.
I'd rather not bring it up, but I'm also not too worried about the consequences should it come out. 1/25/2011 1:24:19 PM |
dswillia Q(o.oQ) 2190 Posts user info edit post |
I am of the opinion that to have a successful relationship, one must have something to build that relationship on. The phrase, lover and friend, applies to most people who are currently married. I've known people to get married who were lovers and became friends, but my preference was to build onto an existing friendships and become lovers. I knew we got along great, that I'd never be bored of her company, and tested the waters to see if the sparks were there.
I did it twice. Once - the spark wasn't there - we are glad we figured that out, and are still great friends. The Second - the spark was there - and we are happily married.
In the end, it's really up to you whether to give it a shot or not. To that note, my advice: If it's something you want to do, do it, if it isn't, then don't, but whatever you do, don't sit on the fence and make things generally awkward.
[Edited on January 25, 2011 at 1:30 PM. Reason : spelling ftw] 1/25/2011 1:28:59 PM |
GGMon All American 6462 Posts user info edit post |
HE IS SINGLE BY CHOICE, LADIES!!!!! 1/25/2011 1:29:30 PM |
raiden All American 10504 Posts user info edit post |
hit that shit. 1/25/2011 1:31:00 PM |
CEmann All American 1913 Posts user info edit post |
yup. bad idea 1/25/2011 1:31:05 PM |
GREEN JAY All American 14180 Posts user info edit post |
dammit, ggmon made me laugh 1/25/2011 1:33:04 PM |
ncsuallday Sink the Flagship 9818 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "i am excellent at getting into the friend zone. It's like my best skill" |
made me lol1/25/2011 1:35:26 PM |
BanjoMan All American 9609 Posts user info edit post |
If the sexual tension is there then do it.
If there is no sexual tension then you are in the friends zone
If you don't know what sexual tension is, then you are in the friends zone 1/25/2011 1:36:56 PM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "HE IS SINGLE BY CHOICE, LADIES!!!!!" |
Why yes, yes I have been. Hard for you to believe, I know. But it's true.
^definitely not what I would call a classic case of the friend zone. This is what I'd call damn near lifelong friends that progressed further.1/25/2011 2:24:26 PM |
Str8BacardiL ************ 41752 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "You will lose touch with most of your friends over time anyway." |
1/25/2011 2:30:08 PM |
State Oz All American 1897 Posts user info edit post |
Do you want to keep this person as a close friend or are you indifferent to the whole matter? Are you prepared for the bat-shit crazy things that females do, because that's a real possibility.
A couple years ago I had a female friend who loved to do a lot of the things that I like doing (going to away games, drinking, going to concerts, etc.) Our mutual friends began to tell me that she was dtf. I figured that was just another thing that I liked to do that she also liked to do. What could possibly go wrong?
Turns out that not only was she dtf, but she was IN LOVE WITH ME. It was total and complete, Fatal Attraction-esque obsession. I found this out after fucked a couple times.
I decided to stop fucking her, but that didn't stop her from sucking my dick every time that I could get it hard. It was pretty awesome, to be honest.
Flash forward 6 months later, and her daily meltdowns got to be too much. Getting my dick sucked lost a lot of its appeal when I had to deal with crying on a daily basis, and shit from my other friends for "leading her own." I guess when I said, "I do not ever want to date you. We are not a good fit, and I will never be in a romantic relationship with you," somehow failed to get my point across shortly after we became friends. I was told she was dtf after we had this conversation, so naively thinking that I had found hidden gold proceeded to consummate our "friendship."
tl;dr, summary is = IT'S A TRAP. 1/25/2011 2:30:34 PM |
punchmonk Double Entendre 22300 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Are you prepared for the bat-shit crazy things that females do, because that's a real possibility" |
I agree with this but I do think it does take a special person to handle each woman's individual bat shit crazy so it could be that you get into a situation where you are her person. Just saying. I am a most excellent friend and pretty cool but I think I would prob be bat shit off limits crazy to every guy relationship wise but Ken. IMO, of course.1/25/2011 2:36:29 PM |
toyotafj40s All American 8649 Posts user info edit post |
I've done this. You ruin the friendship but the sex is great. Being friends with girls is severely overrated. Deal with the pms withno benefits 1/25/2011 2:39:15 PM |
Mr. Joshua Swimfanfan 43948 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "You ruin the friendship but the sex is great" |
*past performance does not guarantee future results1/25/2011 2:40:26 PM |
wwwebsurfer All American 10217 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "i am excellent at getting into the friend zone. It's like my best skill" |
me too 1/25/2011 2:40:43 PM |
Slave Famous Become Wrath 34079 Posts user info edit post |
Having more the 3-4 friends is usually more of a burden than a benefit
Fuck that bitch right here on the spot bare till she passes out and forgot how she got there 1/25/2011 2:41:23 PM |
TreeTwista10 minisoldr 148238 Posts user info edit post |
how much of this thread is based on that new Kutcher/Portman movie coming out 1/25/2011 2:42:50 PM |
toyotafj40s All American 8649 Posts user info edit post |
True, I was just referring to my xp with it. I would do it all over again as well 1/25/2011 2:43:41 PM |
arghx Deucefest '04 7584 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Well, except this weekend, when that discussion happened. It shocked the fuck out of me." |
you didn't tell her you have feelings for her did you...1/25/2011 3:16:09 PM |
Slave Famous Become Wrath 34079 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I was just referring to my xp with it. " |
Lets not go out of our way to dork up TWW any more than it already is1/25/2011 3:17:44 PM |
zxappeal All American 26824 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "you didn't tell her you have feelings for her did you..." |
Actually, no. A bunch of us meet up, hang out for a while Friday night. She and her roommate and another friend of ours took off and headed somewhere else. I get a late night text from her...I can't remember what it was...but it was a little on the forward side. I respond with the usual shit talk and ask her if she's scared. Her reply was...and this came as a little bit of a shock..."Willing to try, don't want to hurt our friendship. There's something there that I can't ignore."
There's more (still another night in the weekend), but suffice it to say, haven't slept with her...1/25/2011 3:29:21 PM |