when someone loses a child how do they keep living?

what about when someone loses their whole family?

it seems like every quiet moment for the rest of your life would be consumed by memories and the weight of the absence

it seems like every subsequent breath would push against a heavy chest

could you ever smile again?

3/6/2012 12:14:35 PM

tragedies happen

get busy living or get busy dying

3/6/2012 12:16:06 PM

The grief feels unbearable at first but it softens over time. For people that have a particularly hard time coping thankfully we live in a society that doesn't completely frown on the idea of therapists and medication.

3/6/2012 12:16:22 PM

thoughts like this paralyze me sometimes

I should probably work on that

3/6/2012 12:17:10 PM

Death is part of life.


Everyone dies.


When you're 80-90-100... think about how many people (in your family) that exist today will be dead.

3/6/2012 12:17:32 PM

I'm not going to lie, I am terrified of the day my son dies.

The dread really fucks with you emotionally.

3/6/2012 12:18:09 PM

We live in a society that doesn't completely frown on the idea of the rapists.

3/6/2012 12:18:34 PM

I know this woman whose son was killed christmas morning by a drunk driver. That was more than 25 years ago. She's lives and smiles and now has a grandchild that she adores and loves but then you can see her face change when she thinks about her lost son and it's just so sad. Holidays with the family is fun but it's never without a lot of sad time.

3/6/2012 12:22:15 PM

watched granny sob during the funeral for my uncle. he was 45, so he wasn't a child, but it was clearly horrible to bury her own son. this is what i thought about.

3/6/2012 12:24:03 PM

Louise Cantrell of Hope Mills, NC is living my nightmare right now

http://www2.nbc17.com/news/2012/mar/06/11/house-fire-kills-father-2-children-hope-mills-ar-2008691

I feel compelled to help her but I don't know how

3/6/2012 12:26:30 PM

yall should check out this movie called courageous

3/6/2012 12:27:19 PM

i deal with death very well or not very well at all, depending on how you look at it

a really close death will phase me for about a week and then i'm over it

[Edited on March 6, 2012 at 12:28 PM. Reason : emotional fortress]

3/6/2012 12:28:00 PM

all you can do is try your best to protect them

http://news.yahoo.com/hero-mom-stephanie-decker-recounts-saving-kids-tornado-043033520--abc-news.html

3/6/2012 12:28:15 PM

she has nothing

I hope God is real and I hope He helps her breathe

3/6/2012 12:32:38 PM

i remember from last tornado that heroism isn't covered by insurance.

3/6/2012 12:32:55 PM

http://www.latimes.com/news/nation/nationnow/la-na-nn-angel-babcock-dies-20120305,0,3607881.story

this granny has it rough. I don't think I would be coping well with that.

3/6/2012 12:34:31 PM

I lost a child once.









Then I found him hiding under the hamper. I wore his ass out for a minute!

3/6/2012 12:39:52 PM

This thread reminds me of the twins who's parents died in a car wreck after an NC State game in 2003.

3/6/2012 12:52:16 PM

This thread reminds me of a young brother and sister who moved to a new town after their parents died in a car wreck after skiing. Anyway, they were exploring the house and found a board game. The kid rolled a 6 or 8, can't remember which and Robin Williams popped out. One of the kids turned into a monkey...don't get in a wreck

3/6/2012 12:57:05 PM

they become a super hero and avenge the death of their family.

3/6/2012 12:58:28 PM

Quote :

"i remember from last tornado that heroism isn't covered by insurance."

So if you die trying to save others, your life insurance policy becomes null and void? Wow, that's fucked up.

3/6/2012 12:58:29 PM

^^^ lol

3/6/2012 12:59:31 PM

has anyone on TWW lost a young child or been close to someone that has? could you PM me?

3/6/2012 1:00:45 PM

does insurance cover

3/6/2012 1:02:43 PM

I see parents losing children on the beach all the time.

I don't know how that shit happens. How do you take your eyes off your kid at the beach.

3/6/2012 1:09:08 PM

oh god

this is how you can tell we're all getting old, cause we're already talking about death

3/6/2012 1:19:30 PM

says receivedeath.

[Edited on March 6, 2012 at 1:20 PM. Reason : .]

3/6/2012 1:20:14 PM

this thread is too deep for chit chat.

3/6/2012 1:24:24 PM

but Chit Chat is all I know

I can't function on those other boards

3/6/2012 1:28:06 PM

your inner troll


[Edited on March 6, 2012 at 1:30 PM. Reason : original pic tooo big]

3/6/2012 1:29:04 PM

Google "Dr petit"

3/6/2012 1:52:28 PM

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/health/2012/01/05/dr-petit-engaged-recovering-after-horrific-loss/

3/6/2012 1:53:38 PM

I had an uncle that died in a house fire in the early eighties, before I was born.

My grandmother was never the same afterwards. She said the only thing that could possibly be worse than losing a child would be to lose two.

3/6/2012 1:56:21 PM

Quote :

" could you PM me?"

PM sent

3/6/2012 2:37:33 PM

3/6/2012 3:23:25 PM

Good thing I'm a narcissist and don't care about people.

Things that make me sad:
- bumping my knee into a desk
- running out of OJ
- not being able to maintain a 2.5 KDR

Everything else is emotional responses based on the immediate mood of my physical body or activity.

3/6/2012 3:38:24 PM

Quote :

"losing a child"

This is a tremendous fear of mine. Pretty sure it would be the worst thing.

Sad thread is sad.

3/6/2012 3:40:29 PM

sad PMs are sad

3/6/2012 3:48:53 PM

My aunt had a child with an abusive boyfriend back in the 70s. One day when she went to work, he stomped on the baby and killed it. He is serving a life sentence for Murder now. At the family Christmas in 2010, my aunt wasn't there and my Grandpa had gone to bed when we were looking at family photos on the tv. Then came the photos of my dead infant cousin. At first we thought it was photos of another cousin of mine when she was young, but when the photo of a baby in a casket appeared, we all knew who it was. My cousin quickly flipped to the next set of photos. An erie feeling of saddness came into the room when we saw the casket photo. I can't imagine the pain it has caused my aunt since her baby died.

3/6/2012 11:48:20 PM

I was thinking how absurd and yet comforting it is when people die "in the right order".

So, there was a friend/family connection of mind who was rather close to me... and 95 years old. At the funeral, the most sadness you saw the entire time was a head tilted 45 degrees to the ground... for a few seconds.

It's kind of incredible when you think about it. Losing a child is something probably no one other than the parents can understand the full intensity of.

Imagine if you could instantly order everyone around you in terms of death order. How would that affect your actions? Your friends? Would you marry someone who was going to die before you?

This emo has been brought to you by mrfrog today.

3/7/2012 12:13:01 AM

^I've always wondered how people would react to their 80 year old child dying. Lets say you have a child at age 20 and live to be 100 years old. Your child would then be 80 years old, so dying of natural causes at age 80 would not be seen as uncommon.

[Edited on March 7, 2012 at 11:02 PM. Reason : .]

3/7/2012 11:02:02 PM

My 90 year old aunt and uncle had their 65 year old daughter die last year, and a 70 year old son die this year. It killed one of them (uncle) from the grief of it. Aunt will never recover.

[Edited on March 7, 2012 at 11:06 PM. Reason : I didn't know someone could actually die of grief before this happened.]

3/7/2012 11:05:44 PM

^My uncle died at age 60 from some unknow disease, or sickness. Then my Grandpa died not long after that at age 99. When my uncle was about to die, my parents offered to take my grandpa to see my uncle, but he said he didn't want to see his son like that.

3/7/2012 11:11:33 PM

My father was like 32 when he died. He died in July and my grandfather died in November of the same year. Everyone, even my grandmother, claimed that he died of grief. I believe it. I do not know how my grandmother held herself together during that period of time.

She also outlived her only other child, my uncle, by about 10 years. I consider my grandmother to have been a true steel magnolia.

3/7/2012 11:15:38 PM

http://everybodydiesbook.com/

3/7/2012 11:28:23 PM

Best friend lost one of his kids a few years ago. I think the boy was 2 or 3 at the time.

Wife walked out of the room for barely a moment to take a phone call. Kids were playing "pets" and he accidentally strangled himself with a leash/collar tied to a doorknob.

I don't even want to imagine the kind of grief and guilt she's had to deal with. Thankfully they have two other daughters (one of them was his twin sister).

3/7/2012 11:54:59 PM

^My mom worked with a lady who had a son that liked to watch pro wrestling. He was about 4 years old when he was watching one night and jumping on his bed at the same time. She walked past the bedroom door a little bit later and he was laying on the bed dead. He had hit his head on the bedboard and broke his neck.

3/8/2012 12:13:07 AM

JEW MON GEE ITT

3/8/2012 12:20:12 AM

When my uncle died of diabetic complications almost 12 years ago at 45, Grandma was living in Dad's house 3 states away, and Dad wouldn't take her to her own son's funeral; Grandma died of similar complications a couple months later at 81, and my uncle's widow and children have not forgiven Dad.

3/8/2012 12:22:26 AM

I rub one off...and cry a little while.

3/8/2012 12:33:19 AM