http://abcnews.go.com/US/judge-orders-adopted-baby-returned-soldier-dad/story?id=17877671#.UMKcSqV0UzV

I would motherfucking kill this bitch, and probably at least maim the couple in Utah.

If the President ever gives me immunity and tells me to "Go forth and make the world a better place", I'm dealing with these motherfuckers right after I smoke every last blight upon humanity in the Westboro Baptist Church.

12/7/2012 8:54:23 PM

fuck that article for their auto-play ad that cant be paused or stopped

12/7/2012 8:59:59 PM

That's just awful.

I feel like everyone is a victim of the biological mother's spiteful behavior.

12/7/2012 9:00:46 PM

^^ No problem in Safari.

12/7/2012 9:02:04 PM

If the article is accurate I only feel bad for achane. The adoption center deserves a lawsuit too. The family and mother are selfish jackasses.

[Edited on December 7, 2012 at 9:06 PM. Reason : .]

12/7/2012 9:05:30 PM

[Edited on December 7, 2012 at 9:05 PM. Reason : Double post]

12/7/2012 9:05:30 PM

Yep. I mean, I would feel bad for the family if they were being cooperative and doing the right thing, and were just victims of a bad circumstance, but in light of what they're doing, I hope Terry Achane sues them, the adoption agency, and his worthless cunt of an ex-wife, who should count herself lucky that he hasn't already justifiably shot her in the face.

[Edited on December 7, 2012 at 9:10 PM. Reason : ]

12/7/2012 9:10:06 PM

Couples who adopt are usually so desperate to adopt that they will enter into a risky adoption and hope for the best. I feel for the adoptive parents. That have had that child its entire life and it would be traumatic for all of them to suddenly be separated. I can understand their reluctance to let the child go. But the bio father and little girl have the right to be a family. The adoptive parents need to come to some sort of compromise with him to smooth the transition.

12/7/2012 9:13:16 PM

If the kid is potty trained, it's the family's. He doesn't get to skip past the hard parts.

12/7/2012 9:14:28 PM

well then

12/7/2012 9:19:40 PM

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"The Freis have maintained a blog about the case where they claim that Achane "left [Bland] without any money, a car, or details of his whereabouts. Needing to act quickly for the best interest of her unborn child, and with incredible faith, fortitude, and courage, she put her child up for adoption." In 2008, Kristi Frei was diagnosed with endometriosis and told she would not be able to conceive, according to the blog. The Freis insist that it was they who tracked down Achane "several months" after adopting the baby, but to "our great shock and dismay" he refused to consent to the adoption."

Is this true?

12/7/2012 9:21:59 PM

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"He doesn't get to skip past the hard parts."

You say that like he had a choice in the matter.

12/7/2012 9:24:14 PM

^^ get your inconvenient hippie nuances out of here. summary judgments only

^ dur

[Edited on December 7, 2012 at 9:24 PM. Reason : .]

12/7/2012 9:24:25 PM

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"dur"

Yeah, that's about as much intellect as you're capable of displaying apparently.

12/7/2012 9:27:11 PM

Shut the fuck up you worthless stupid cunt. It was obviously a joke.

12/7/2012 9:28:23 PM

dur

12/7/2012 9:29:16 PM

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"Couples who adopt are usually so desperate to adopt that they will enter into a risky adoption and hope for the best."

LOLWUT

These people are not desperate, they should have a show called animal human hoarders. They are two shy of being octo-adopters.

[Edited on December 7, 2012 at 11:46 PM. Reason : .]

12/7/2012 11:45:13 PM

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"Is this true?"

He was military and got deployed, so no. It would have taken a 1 minute phone call if that, but she knew where he was. Even says she deliberately gave them a bad address so they couldn't find him

12/8/2012 11:45:15 AM

The family should be ashamed of themselves. Who the fuck would donate to a legal fund for this situation?

12/8/2012 11:47:28 AM

It's a sad situation, but it cracks me up how terrified those 2 black kids look in that picture.

12/8/2012 11:47:28 AM

The faces on the two black kids in hat picture are hilarious

12/8/2012 11:50:39 AM

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"In 2008, Kristi Frei was diagnosed with endometriosis and told she would not be able to conceive, according to the blog."

Ans why is that a problem? They already have 4 of their own kids, which is like several times the White American average.

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"The family should be ashamed of themselves. Who the fuck would donate to a legal fund for this situation?"

Agreed.

12/9/2012 6:14:52 AM

Gotta catch 'em all!

12/9/2012 10:12:32 AM

I wouldn't be so quick to judge the mother. Duke, you well know that just because someone's in the military doesn't mean he's a good guy. We don't know the details of the case. I would say she is justified if the father was abusive or verbally threatening. Of course she wouldn't want him to contact her or know about the baby.

What would motivate someone to run to another state and have a secret adoption? Duke immediately assumes "crazy bitch," which is totally unfair. I'll reserve judgement until more information comes out.

12/9/2012 10:22:24 AM

I'm glad it's not just I who finds duke's "crazy bitch" or "worthless cunt of an ex-wife" offensive. I know you have had your share of custody issues with a "crazy bitch" but it's getting old at this point that any woman who does something you disagree with gets branded the crazy.

FTR I'm sad for all and hope this

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"the bio father and little girl have the right to be a family. The adoptive parents need to come to some sort of compromise with him to smooth the transition."

happens.

[Edited on December 9, 2012 at 10:38 AM. Reason : ]

12/9/2012 10:34:18 AM

if this dude moved to south carolina when his wife was 7 months pregnant how did he not know he had a kid

12/9/2012 11:27:54 AM

I don't know that there will be any more information coming, Nerdchick. The case was decided, the father was awarded custody, and the couple in Utah was ordered to turn little Leah over to her daddy within 60 days. Unless the Freis fail to comply with the court order or is successful in the appeal (which is not a re-trial...the only way appeals overturn things is if an overwhelming case for the contrary is presented), I expect that this one will fade from the news, because there's nothing really remaining to talk about.

I don't have sympathy for him or make any positive assumptions just because he's in the military. There are bad people in the military just like anywhere else. However, there's no information out there about him that paints him in a negative light, other than his ex's claim that he left her while she was pregnant (on military orders--who knows if he sought those or if he just PCS or went extended TAD/TDY because Big Army said to...it doesn't really matter either way). Even his ex hasn't made any accusations of abusive or threatening behavior.

Hell, in family court, you can just up make shit up--it's pretty routine (not just in my case, although it happened to me both times I went to court. I even busted my ex (with photographic evidence) for lying under oath one time, and nothing really happened other than it lended even more credibility to my side.) Even there, she apparently didn't claim him to be threatening or abusive--she just said that "he wasn't there for me." It looks pretty clear to me that all the evidence we have points to her being a wretched, deplorable human being, and there isn't really anything that casts Mr. Achane in a negative light, other than that he couldn't get along with his wife (who knows where the faults lie there--I think a safe bet would be that she carries a lot of the blame, based on everything else we know--but regardless, you don't get your kid secretly taken away because you split from your spouse).

I mean, maybe there's more to the story, but it seems exceedingly unlikely at this point that game-changing information would just now be coming out.

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"The adoptive parents need to come to some sort of compromise with him to smooth the transition."

The "right" thing to happen would have been for the Freis to return Mr. Achane's little girl to him as soon as they found out what happened, without any obstructionism, and for Mr. Achane to treat them as extended family from that point on, fostering a continued relationship between them and his daughter.

In light of what they've actually done, he should get his daughter back as soon as he can, by whatever hardball means necessary, and then never have contact with them again.



* And just because I have had to deal with outrageous and awful behavior from a crazy bitch of my own doesn't absolve this crazy bitch or prevent me from making an accurate judgment based on all the facts on the table...

...and it's not that any woman who does something I disagree with is a "crazy bitch". I don't mean that just as a pejorative; I mean it literally. What the hell else would you call her?

[Edited on December 9, 2012 at 11:51 AM. Reason : ]

[Edited on December 9, 2012 at 11:53 AM. Reason : ]

12/9/2012 11:50:19 AM

your rage toward your crazy bitch really blinds you in discussions like this

take a step back, mayne

12/9/2012 11:52:15 AM

Blinds me? Tell him where I'm wrong, then, or what I'm failing to consider/turning a blind eye to. Where am I not being objective?

I think that it certainly makes me react a lot more hotly, because I know what it's like to have a daughter kept from me and even hidden from me for no good reason, but I think I'm perfectly capable of judging the situation objectively.

[Edited on December 9, 2012 at 12:07 PM. Reason : ]

12/9/2012 11:56:55 AM

i agree with elkaybie's assessment of you

12/9/2012 11:58:25 AM

I'm with you duke, this bitch crazy.

12/9/2012 1:17:37 PM

Fine.

[Edited on December 9, 2012 at 4:21 PM. Reason : This was a very long post about how to treat pregnancy and people carrying your babies.]

12/9/2012 4:14:45 PM

shut up, Bridget

12/9/2012 4:16:35 PM

I've read some other articles on the situation and it's looking like the biological mother is just batshit crazy.

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"Achane successfully bid for a job as a drill sergeant at Fort Jackson in South Carolina and was told to report for duty by Feb. 1, 2011. Achane said he left Texas on Jan. 17, 2011, to find a home for his family before starting the new assignment. Bland wanted to stay in Texas to give birth, and Achane said he planned to come back for the delivery. He expected Bland to then join him in South Carolina. Achane continued to deposit funds in their joint bank account, which was set up to automatically pay mortgage and other household bills. Achane said his wife also had access to money to pay for groceries, as well as pregnancy and living expenses. But Bland said there was little money left over for her and she felt Achane had no interest in their baby. "When I was left in the home, I had no vehicle or anything at the time, I didn’t have any money," she said. Although she had a part-time job preparing taxes, it "wasn’t a big-time job to support me, a dog, two kids and a home." In fact, Bland’s car, which she was responsible to make payments on, had been repossessed. Achane arranged to have a brother fix a spare vehicle so she could use it. In the meantime, she had access to her mother’s car. Bland said she spent days in bed crying about her situation. Within 10 days of her husband’s departure, she decided to pursue an adoption for their child."

http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/news/55422492-78/bland-achane-adoption-child.html.csp?page=1

This isn't the first time that a man leaves his wife to establish the family in a new city and then the wife is supposed to follow. Hell, I was pregnant with baby number 2 when something very similar happened to us. My husband left pregnant me behind with our son while he went ahead and started a new job. I didn't follow him for 3 months. This woman chose to stay behind, but in less than ten days goes batshit crazy decided that she's been abandoned and that she needs to give the baby up for adoption. That is craycray.

12/9/2012 4:39:30 PM

Hoes be triflin

12/9/2012 6:50:58 PM

This seems like a pretty black and white case [nopun], regardless of the character of the parties involved.

On a side note, why do white people think they can keep adopting all these future NFL offensive tackles?

12/9/2012 7:04:46 PM

Just saw this pop up.

http://gma.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html

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" An army drill sergeant whose estranged wife put his daughter up for adoption without his knowledge or permission while he was stationed in another state, has been reunited with the little girl, following a nearly two-year battle to get her back. "I'm just happy right now. I'm with my daughter," Sgt. Terry Achane said. "It's about time." The Utah Supreme Court earlier this month overturned a request by the toddler's adoptive parents to stay a lower court's December order that the child be returned to Achane, her father. On Friday the original trial judge, Darold McDade who ruled in Achane's favor, held a transfer hearing that resulted in the little girl and her father being united this weekend for the first time since she was born 22 months ago. "

1/27/2013 6:43:24 PM

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"Achane left Bland without any money, a car, or details of his whereabouts. Needing to act quickly for the best interest of her unborn child...she put her child up for adoption"

1/27/2013 6:55:44 PM