"Anyone that’s ended a long-term relationship understands the stages of a break-up. First, there’s the epiphany: “I don’t think I want to be with this person anymore.” That feeling typically snowballs. There’s a few days, weeks, or even months in which you plan your escape. You become cold and distant to your significant other, you confide in your friends that you are planning a break-up, and you build your case: You compile a mental check-list of all the reasons you want to leave your significant other, and you marshal evidence based on his or her behavior to justify your decision. Once you’ve designed your course of action, you wait for an opening. In my experience, that typically means acting out-of-character until your significant other pulls it out of you, forces a conversation he or she probably already realizes is coming but has been trying to ignore in the hopes that he or she can push off the inevitable as long as possible.


After days, weeks, or months of waiting and uncertainty, the actual break-up typically comes as a relief, right up until the reality of what it means sets in. You spend so long demonizing your partner and looking beyond the end of the relationship and the supposed happiness and freedom that it will bring that you often forget about everything you once loved about the person you are leaving, what it means never to be with him or her again, and how sad you are to lose the connection you have with his or her friends and family. It’s not until then that you begin to envision your life without your long-term partner, without the love and support, without the running jokes in your relationship, the comfort, the familiarity, and the shared history. In the midst of that break-up conversation, that realization can feel devastating. It’s why so many break-up attempts are unsuccessful, because during that moment of doubt, it feels like such a relief to call it off, have great make-up sex, and redouble your efforts to make the relationship work (it never does)"

1/6/2013 5:45:13 PM

I know that feel bro

1/6/2013 5:49:07 PM

toooooooooooooooooo lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng
diiiiiddddddddddddddnt reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaad

1/6/2013 5:49:45 PM

1/6/2013 5:55:32 PM

1/6/2013 5:57:02 PM

I has a sad

1/6/2013 6:05:01 PM

I, too, have felt this way before. The feeling does pass. Missing their family may never pass however.

1/6/2013 6:22:17 PM

Years later they will be a loser-

It's fun to watch from a distance.

1/6/2013 6:22:17 PM

were you still with that tiny girl from hooters with the big ass titties? i feel like she started working at sas at some point

1/6/2013 6:28:45 PM

Never had this feeling before. But I've never had great taste in men(in the past), so in the end I didn't really lose anything.

1/6/2013 6:29:18 PM

good thing you put (in the past), lol

1/6/2013 6:30:24 PM

Why does it hurt so much even though you know it's the best thing for you?

1/6/2013 6:31:13 PM

At least you didn't waste a bunch of money on airfare.

1/6/2013 6:31:45 PM

^^Because you are human and you have a heart.

[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 6:32 PM. Reason : ]

1/6/2013 6:32:26 PM

at least you have a super awesome dog

1/6/2013 6:33:42 PM

Dogs definitely help with the grieving process.

1/6/2013 6:39:59 PM

or you break up enough with the same person, and you kinda get used to it

1/6/2013 6:42:11 PM

I'd take you for a beer if I actually knew you. But remember, this too shall pass.

1/6/2013 6:45:36 PM

get drunk


do the things you love


and as the muppets once said, hope that something better comes along

1/6/2013 6:46:25 PM

Blah Blah Blah.

1/6/2013 6:48:23 PM

Exercise, try a new sport, get outside. I used to like to take long walks around the lake super late at night.

[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 6:54 PM. Reason : In retrospect, that was not very safe.]

1/6/2013 6:50:32 PM

after I got traded in for the newer model, I got super in to disc golf- it was a great distraction and way to spend my time. helped me get through everything great, so I fully support the idea of immersing yourself into a social hobby

1/6/2013 6:59:49 PM

HUG!!!!

1/6/2013 7:04:20 PM

1/6/2013 7:11:24 PM

http://www.brentroad.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=415095&page=1

This thread's advice should be followed. I just exited a 4 year relationship a month ago myself and I'm already happier and pulling attractive women. And you know what's even better than quality? Quantity.

Quote :

" There are two options really. You can be a pussy, drink yourself into a coma, sob in your sleep, let your school and work performance suffer, and strike out with every girl you meet in the next 6 months because of self pity... OR... You can get your ass up and go to the gym and work out. When you get tired and wonder if you should do another set, ask yourself if the guy she's fucking now backed off when he found out she had a boyfriend. You can immediately rid your apartment/house of all photographs and possessions she has left behind, throw away her toothbrush, and turn your place into a bachelor pad. **Note** Save the women's shampoo, conditioner, etc. It is a satisfying feeling to shower with random girls the morning after while they use your ex's hair products. When you're ready to date again go for a younger girl. Girls hate to be replaced by someone younger than them."

Quote :

" Listen if you really want this girl back (and right off the bat im gonna tell you this is a mistake, but im not here to make your decisions for you) Make her be the one to contact you. Dont cut off lines of communication but dont be the guy who sets her AOL name on "alert status" and starts freaking a leek everytime she signs on. And please people Dont feed this guy any bullshit about trying to stay friends with her. After six years friends is totally out of the question. If you want to fuck this girl again let her be the one who contacts you. Pretty soon she'll realize this new guy isn't really interested in dating her (he's just fucking down).... and she'll start inquiring about how you are doing. This is where you have to re-assert the power in the relationship. You can tell her you miss some things about her but DO NOT TELL HER OR IMPLY YOU WANT HER BACK. Do not play the role of the "puppy dog". Dont let her think you're scratching at the door and when she puts the key in the door you're gonna jump into her arms. Girls do not fuck puppy dogs. You need her to see you at a social function or gathering and you need her to see you making "connections" with other girls. Let me be specific about these "connections". Im not talking about her walking in on you and a girl post-coitus.... or playing find the cobra in the laundry room.... or even good old american face fucking for that matter. All of the above will just cause her to jump the next guy she sees or even worse seek out one of your buddies. You do not want to play "lets see who can fuck up the other persons head the hardest" with a college aged girl, trust me. By "connections" I just mean flirtatious talking, eye-fucking, sitting beside a girl on the couch, playing drinking games, etc... Remember this girl sees you as more than just a sexual object... girls define their self-worth by how much they can fool a guy into "loving" her. If there's one thing that will break a girl down it's watching other girls pitch tents on her old territory. In a girls world this is the equivalent of when you get done with a game of madden and the playstation freezes before you can save it. Last piece of advice. If your ex is blonde, flirt with brunettes. If your ex is brunette, flirt with blondes. Do not stray from this formula."

1/6/2013 7:18:33 PM

Doing fine and then I check the dvr to see her shows recording.

1/6/2013 8:08:01 PM

Delete them all!!! You gotta take some time to destroy the evidence, so to speak. Pictures, trinkets, anything she left needs to be gone. Trash it or give it back, whatever. Unless it is something important I wouldn't bother getting in touch to return anything. I would get rid of gifts, too, for the most part. Although some things might be worth keeping. I kept the digital camera and nice kitchen knives my ex got me as Christmas presents because 1) I couldn't afford new ones and 2) they were expensive so at least I got something from the years I wasted with him. All Facebook pictures have got to be deleted, maybe even some mutual friends.

1/6/2013 8:16:34 PM

1/6/2013 8:16:38 PM

1/6/2013 8:19:27 PM

country songs and whiskey

1/6/2013 8:43:39 PM

I'd like to know more about the tiny hooters girl with big ass titties

1/6/2013 8:46:58 PM

^lol

[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 8:48 PM. Reason : lol]

1/6/2013 8:48:25 PM

^^thats not me

1/6/2013 8:51:35 PM

This is the best news I've heard all day. You've dropped the boring girl!!!

Now let's work on boning

1/6/2013 9:49:26 PM

haha thanks. Not much feeling like boning right now but I'll keep you posted.

1/6/2013 9:59:13 PM

*hug*

1/6/2013 10:00:13 PM

I will assign a special ringtone to your number so I know to pick up the phone

So which one had to move out?

1/6/2013 10:02:10 PM

emo thread is emo

1/6/2013 10:07:16 PM

I felt this way about LunaK for the longest time. Now, I'm all like "fuck that skank"

1/6/2013 10:11:46 PM

Quote :

"I'd like to know more about the tiny hooters girl with big ass titties"

1/6/2013 10:12:18 PM

She didn't bang that dude that she gave all your beer to did she?! Cut that bitch!

1/6/2013 10:19:38 PM

^^


[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 10:20 PM. Reason : .]

1/6/2013 10:20:04 PM

She's moving out. Started tonight.

1/6/2013 10:20:45 PM

Never date a waitress...unless she has a day job as a teacher.

1/6/2013 10:24:41 PM

watsa go ing on hea

1/6/2013 10:27:55 PM

I've gotten multiple PMs as a result of my posting in this thread. Never dating anyone from TWW ever again.

^^Teachers are the worst.

[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 10:28 PM. Reason : ]

1/6/2013 10:28:38 PM

Quick throw on some Coldplay to mellow out. Cry like a little bitch and think about the passionless sex you were having for the last 2 years.

Or you can just text the girls you were lining up the last several months when it should have been obvious you're relationship was on thin ice.

You didn't do that? Big mistake. Girls like guys who are fucking.

It's in your pheremones. If you're not getting laid girls do not want to fuck you. No one wants to be a slumpbuster. Girls don't like the thought of you painting their ceiling with semen because no one else has touched that thing in weeks.

You need to start getting laid immediately or you can expect to go through a really long dry spell. When you tell girls you're single let them know you are single like it's a fucking statement. Like yeah I'm sewing fucking oats right now. You gotta have a "Im banging whores relentlessly" attitude whether it's true or not. Get out and move around a little. Motion creates emotion.

Whatever you do, you need to start working out immediately. You need testosterone.



And yes never date waitresses. They are all whores. I dated one of those aforementioned big tits, slim waist Hooters girls myself. It did not end well. It started pretty fucking great though. I should've quit while I was ahead.

[Edited on January 6, 2013 at 10:32 PM. Reason : a]

1/6/2013 10:30:50 PM

true about the testosterone. my brother went through a tough break up and he said he stopped becoming a beta bitch and started growing facial hair much quicker and sweating more.

1/6/2013 10:33:03 PM

face your posts on this subject are awesome. i'll be damned if i don't object to your suspension for this reason alone. haha.

1/6/2013 10:34:29 PM

CORRECTION: I was thinking of Jeepman. all you damn jeepers look alike.
sorry br0

1/6/2013 10:52:41 PM