^

4/21/2013 11:04:43 PM

every time

4/21/2013 11:06:56 PM

:wat"

4/21/2013 11:30:40 PM

yeah what

4/21/2013 11:31:50 PM

If you don't know now you know

[Edited on April 21, 2013 at 11:39 PM. Reason : You]

4/21/2013 11:38:41 PM

How does one know this?

Hey man. That chick is hot as fuck. She's totally out of your league.


or
I know I'm ugly, but I only date dimes cause I'm good like that

4/21/2013 11:42:42 PM

All of the times

4/21/2013 11:47:34 PM

Is this thread about Rugged?

4/21/2013 11:49:20 PM

Never....

4/22/2013 12:39:47 AM

I've had my ups and downs...

4/22/2013 4:05:24 AM

still dont get it

4/22/2013 4:14:08 AM

Dating up- for whatever reason, you consider your current bf/gf to be better than your last

Dating down- for whatever reason, you consider your current bf/gf to be worse than your last

4/22/2013 4:26:06 AM

Dating up is like trading in your old Honda for a newer model w/ less miles.

Dating down is like going from a big bodied Benz to a 6 cylinder Mustang.

You're still ridin'... It's just not as nice.

4/22/2013 4:37:22 AM

thanks

i always feel stupid when i understand something after a time of not understanding it.

I dated down like one time for 2 days. not including the terrible

awful mistakes i made just "messing about"

nice girl just in the looks department

4/22/2013 6:04:24 AM

Oh never mind. Never.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 6:50 AM. Reason : ]

4/22/2013 6:49:43 AM

Quote :

"Dating up- for whatever reason, you consider your current bf/gf to be better than your last Dating down- for whatever reason, you consider your current bf/gf to be worse than your last"

i don't think that's correct. Dating up or down... when the person you are dating is of a higher or lower caliber than yourself (at least that's how i've understood the term)

4/22/2013 7:15:57 AM

^both correct

4/22/2013 7:34:05 AM

^

4/22/2013 7:34:38 AM

Yeah, I've definitely never dated up.
At this point it seems impossible. I'm amazing.
I'm still trying though...

4/22/2013 7:47:31 AM

I feel like I've always dated pretty even. I'm pretty awesome...so it's tough to date up.

I do think I dated down for my college girlfriend. At the time, I was working a ton, so I didn't get out a lot...and combined with the limited talent pool in Raleigh, I think I just settled.

4/22/2013 7:51:35 AM

The thought behind the the thread is if they are better than you. Primarily looks but personality and intelligence can be in there. I was thinking of how I rarely see guys dating a girl less attractive but I often see more attractive girls dating less attractive guys.

4/22/2013 7:56:10 AM

Quote :

"Dating up or down... when the person you are dating is of a higher or lower caliber than yourself (at least that's how i've understood the term)"

I've heard it as this or referring to age (dating someone younger or older), but never in reference to your previous partner

4/22/2013 7:56:47 AM

The only person right in this thread is me.

4/22/2013 8:36:50 AM

Having a high opinion of your partner is one thing, but if any of you actually engage in this kind of bullshit examination in a serious, qualitative way, kill yourselves.

For instance, have you given others relationship advice based on what "tier" or "league" you perceive them to belong to? Kill yourself.

Have you started a relationship with an endpoint in sight based on an initial assessment of what "calibers" you and your partner are? Kill yourself.

Do you honestly feel, after long acquaintance, that your partner is the kind of person who is so good that he or she makes you better? Great. That is great. Don't kill yourself.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 8:39 AM. Reason : ...]

4/22/2013 8:38:01 AM

I only date 7's

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4/22/2013 8:58:42 AM

Definitely never dated anyone who is a better driver than myself. Not even a chance.

4/22/2013 9:14:48 AM

dated down last time. would prefer to date even or up this time. though i'm not really in the dating mood right now.

4/22/2013 9:17:59 AM

I have dated a few girls that I am sure my friends would say were "out of my league".

I have also dated several that my friends would probably say "dude, wtf are you thinking?"

Come to think of it, my current GF is the first where my friends would all agree is a perfect fit. We are pretty equal on all fronts: looks, brains, sense of humor, etc. We have been together 4.5 years and I can count our arguments on 1 hand. With the ones that were "out of my league", arguments were pretty much a daily occurrence. So I guess it's true what they say: "No matter how hot she is, some guy is sick of her shit."

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 10:21 AM. Reason : a]

4/22/2013 10:19:29 AM

Quote :

"almost every time"

4/22/2013 10:27:39 AM

it's not always looks/attractiveness. I've been in some relationships with girls that look out of my league and then I get to know them and understand their values or lack there of and realize these are terrible human beings.

4/22/2013 10:29:43 AM

Quote :

"We have been together 4.5 years and I can count our arguments on 1 hand."

Been with my GF about 1.5 years and this has been my experience too. Do you ever tell people this and hear shit like, "that's not normal man, you're supposed to fight in a relationship"?

4/22/2013 10:48:33 AM

my last relationship was almost 3 years and I could count our arguments on one hand. the sad thing was the last 2 happened at my best friends' weddings only a couple months before the relationship ended. but by that last wedding the writing was on the wall.

4/22/2013 10:51:53 AM

It just depends on why you're not fighting. If it's because you deal with impending issues before they become fights and generally see eye to eye, that's awesome. If it's because one or both of you prefer to sweep stuff under the rug (and I've been with people like that) then not so much.

Some couples seem to like to fight, though. I don't get it, but I guess it works for them.

4/22/2013 10:54:17 AM

He's smarter than me and I'm nicer than him (in general), so it evens out.

We hardly ever fight. Sometimes we get annoyed with each other, or one of us will be in a bad mood, but we're never really mad at each other about anything. I think has a lot to do with our personalities. Laid back people don't get angry very easily.

4/22/2013 11:01:59 AM

^ envy

actually, no I'm not - i'm smart enough now to not deal with anyone that makes me mad or vice versa

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 11:06 AM. Reason : ]

4/22/2013 11:05:06 AM

just this current one


maybe a few dates with dudes i'd consider to be "up" but they figured out quickly how lame i was so that fizzled

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 11:13 AM. Reason : ]

4/22/2013 11:07:41 AM

jeez Meg with the low self esteem

4/22/2013 11:25:05 AM

Quote :

"Been with my GF about 1.5 years and this has been my experience too. Do you ever tell people this and hear shit like, "that's not normal man, you're supposed to fight in a relationship"?"

Yes, and it blows my mind how anyone would want a relationship full of stress. One couple that we are friends with has been together for 3 years and got married last October. They fight constantly, and pretty much always have even before they got married. He is in the Reserves, and she looks forward to that 1 weekend a month he goes to drill as her "vacation." I don't understand how that can be a healthy relationship, but I guess it works for them.

4/22/2013 11:25:34 AM

^^ i know, i thought I was bad

4/22/2013 11:28:41 AM

The idea is that an occasional fight with your SO is far better than long term, pent up hostility and disdain towards your SO. Of course, if let fights have lingering effects, or if you fight all the time, you're going to do some eventual serious damage. Just fight, let it vent, and get over it.

4/22/2013 11:31:10 AM

fear of being alone is a good motivator for staying in a constant-fight relationship. also some people just like the drama.

4/22/2013 11:32:10 AM

i mean how big are these fights? i couldn't handle it if i had to deal with weekly door slamming, shouting matches, and petty shit like that. If we disagree on something, argue it out and reach an agreement or concession that's fine. but if a girl gets her rocks off from raising her voice and shouting threats she can find someone else to act out that shit with.

4/22/2013 11:33:25 AM

^^^ my point is, we very rarely have anything to fight about. we generally agree on pretty much everything, so there is no hostility to be pent up.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 11:35 AM. Reason : a]

4/22/2013 11:34:56 AM

^^^ fuck that, im' quite happy being alone

I honestly don't understand the people who want to be around other people 24/7 - that would annoy the shit out of me

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 11:36 AM. Reason : ]

4/22/2013 11:36:25 AM

Where does it say you have to be together 24/7?

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4/22/2013 11:39:58 AM

It's not about being together 24/7. But longing to be apart isn't a sign of a healthy marriage imo, especially when you have only been married 6 months.

4/22/2013 11:50:13 AM

Nowhere, dickshit. I was making a general statement.

4/22/2013 11:50:30 AM

My last one was definitely dating down, but more than anything she was a slump-buster.

4/22/2013 11:54:42 AM

Every couple weeks or so the wife and I sleep in separate beds for a night to catch up on sleep or if one of us has an early meeting, we've been doing it since pretty early while dating. for us this bit of alone time really helps us stay happy. this isn't right for every couple, but we're both introverts so it helps us recharge. i don't think we've ever had a fight last more than a couple minutes, and we've neither one of us has ever left angry at the other. we don't fight and we don't have pent-up hostility.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 11:57 AM. Reason : .]

4/22/2013 11:56:44 AM

It's because the fluoridation keeps you overly mellow

4/22/2013 12:00:36 PM