Let's talk about the people who do this. I'm not talking about "I had an affair with the person I really want to be with and divorced my current spouse to be with that person," I'm talking about people who get married, get divorced, and then immediately find someone else to marry.

I know a person who's on their THIRD marriage before 30. WTF?

11/15/2013 1:05:35 PM

I'm 19 and a sophomore in college

11/15/2013 1:11:42 PM

Both of my original parents are on their third marriages. But they're both around 60...so doesn't really fit your criteria.

11/15/2013 1:16:28 PM

Original or extra crispy

11/15/2013 1:18:19 PM

Western bojangles is single

11/15/2013 1:20:06 PM

my pops did this once, and has been happily married with my mom since 1980.

11/15/2013 1:27:57 PM

I think a lot of people feel like they get some kind of clarity during the breakup/divorce about what they 'really' want in a partner and certainly what annoying shit their spouse does that are the new dealbreakers

11/15/2013 1:31:00 PM

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"ORIGINAL PARENTS"

11/15/2013 1:42:37 PM

A girl I knew in high school got knocked up like a year or two after graduation and married the father. She had two kids with the guy then they got divorced and she met a guy online that lived in Iowa. She left her kids in NC with their dad and moved to Iowa to marry the guy. She pretty much abandoned her kids in NC and never comes home to visit them. Her and her new husband had two more kids and now they are divorced.

Her reasoning in moving to Iowa was basically "I'm not happy in NC and my kids don't need a depressed mother"


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11/15/2013 1:46:07 PM

First time using that term...I like it better than biological.

11/15/2013 1:50:45 PM

People are getting old around here.

11/15/2013 2:33:33 PM

I know a girl who fits the OP. Under 30, married and divorced three times (so far), one kid with each husband. I feel kinda bad for her occasionally, but mostly I just follow the trainwreck from a far on facebook and think about how bad I don't have it compared to her.

11/15/2013 2:37:40 PM

eat, sleep, rave, repeat.

11/15/2013 2:54:31 PM

this is a good question to ask in this thread:

http://brentroad.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=463159&page=5


get married at age 19, the day the boy gets back from his mission. realize two years (and two babies) later that it wasn't right, get divorced by age 22. remarry at 24. repeat.

11/15/2013 6:42:01 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GJrcmvXBYw

11/15/2013 6:57:29 PM

I had a friend/former coworker that was like this. Married three times previously--eloped in high school/annulled. Married after college, got pregnant, he cheated while pregnant, divorce papers filed before daughter was born. Eloped to Vegas, divorced a year later. Was engaged when I worked with her. Broke up. Ran in to her at target over a year ago, engaged again to another man. Haven't seen her since but I'm guessing by the mass text I got one day ("new number!") that she and that guy also split.

11/16/2013 9:27:35 AM

Funny, I thought this thread was about my cousin.

11/16/2013 9:36:12 AM

I've definitely noticed some folks that get engaged to like everyone they date, but then something happens and it's called off. I'm not sure what that's all about. You can just date someone. You don't have to put a ring on it.

11/16/2013 9:43:31 AM

There is a girl on my Facebook that does this, she has like four kids, all different dads, but she was married to each dad. She is not bad looking, and obviously puts out, so it must just be the cray-cray. She posts a bunch of family pics when she is with someone, then when she gets divorced or single again a bunch of hot pics and changes her name back. She is a Republican.

11/16/2013 11:05:23 AM

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" I'm not talking about "I had an affair with the person I really want to be with and divorced my current spouse to be with that person,""

why aren't we talking about these people? I think we should talk about them.

11/16/2013 5:02:19 PM

You worded your thread title wrong, man. It's Fuck, marry, kill.

11/16/2013 9:16:37 PM

That reminds me, I need yo update my Ashley Madison and cougar life profiles

11/16/2013 9:32:13 PM

This will only be understood by the few and the proud.

11/17/2013 7:23:21 AM

understood.

11/17/2013 8:05:11 AM

lady at work does this. She's been married about 7 times. She looks good to for her age. She takes like two weeks off for the honeymoon and shit then she takes 2 weeks off during the divorce. I always partake in the line office pool.

11/17/2013 10:02:33 AM

I too know someone who is just over thirty and on their third marriage. Crazy to me.

11/17/2013 10:52:17 AM

who the fuck would marry anyone who was twice divorced as a 20 or 30-something?

11/17/2013 11:08:33 AM

I know a fair amount of people who got married in their twenties, had a kid, and got divorced while the kid's still in diapers. Don't know anybody that's done it three times, though.

Facebook posts about custody battles are weird and make me feel old.

11/17/2013 2:15:14 PM

I went to HS with a girl like this. She was knocked up pretty soon after graduation, married the baby daddy and got pregnant with her second almost as soon as she could after her first was born. They split before #2 was even walking, shacks up with husband #2, divorces him 2 years later. She plays the "i need to be single" game for a while which meant she moved in with the parents of a friend of hers, they watch her kids, and she hits the clubs every freaking night of the week. Then she rekindles her high school relationship with her soon-to-be ex-husband #3. They didn't last a year I think.

All evidence of her marriages has been wiped from her Facebook. If you look at her profile, her main pic is a shitty pic of her kids and then album upon album of her and a bunch of rando hot chicks at clubs getting drunk.

I'm not surprised by any of this. She's attractive and has no real valuable skills so she's remained pretty dependent on others for her livelihood if she's not currently married. She'd have a pretty good shot at a decent relationship except she's always been attracted to the douchiest of guys. She's also fairly religious and, while I can't confirm, I think she plays the no-sex without a ring game.

11/17/2013 2:36:17 PM

This girl and guy i knew were both complete virgins. Decided to play it cool and get married before having sex. Rushed everything, rushed the wedding, rushed to have sex and make a baby. Needless to say both divorced within 2 years. Both are now single on Facebook and erased all evidence of their wedding.

This other girl i knew, almost same situation. She was so proud she was virgin, waited, wanted to get married to this guy who thought was really weird...like me and him never talked about banging' chicks or anything... I knew it was a fiasco and i don't even think the ink dried on the marriage cert before they were getting divorced. She as well erased every evidence of that marriage on facebook.

It always seems like the two extremes are getting divorces. The girls who were complete sluts in the high school and the girls who were prude and never had sex.

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11/17/2013 2:51:16 PM

Not having sex or living together before marriage is the single worst idea of all time.

In the days when marriage was more of an economic partnership than anything else, it didn't really matter. Now, when marriage is supposedly a love/compatibility-based thing, you need to make sure that shit is right.

11/17/2013 3:01:35 PM

aren't the stats for cohabitation even worse than for those who don't?

...but yeah, I can't imagine getting married without being together for at least 2-3 years first, to include regular trips to the bone zone.

11/17/2013 3:20:30 PM

^They are, but I think its a much more complex issue than a simple "cohabitation before marriage will lead to a higher likelihood of divorce" rule.

My FIL pulled that argument when my wife and I moved in together while dating. He kept repeating the "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" bullshit.

Of course my wife and I have been together for 12 years, married for 7, and have lasted longer than his first 2 marriages and will outpace his third marriage in a few years.

I do enjoy the fact that the girls I know that fit the marry, divorce, repeat lifestyle are all bible thumpers and outspoken republicans. I can also say that I don't know any dudes that have been down this path. Almost all the guys, friends or acquaintances, either married the right girl at an early age and are still happily married, or they were smart enough to stay away from the crazy ones.

11/17/2013 3:56:18 PM

Yeah, I wasn't saying that it was causal. I was more saying that the reverse--not cohabitating--sure doesn't appear to be causal or even associated with anything detrimental.

11/17/2013 4:15:43 PM

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"outspoken republicans"

lol at this troll

11/18/2013 11:23:52 AM

I know a girl like this, BUT it was actually not her fault at all.

The first guy was military and ended up cheating on her while across the country.

The second was a cop who carried out a 2 month affair not 3 months into their marriage.

She's on guy 3 now and things appear fine.

11/18/2013 12:21:32 PM

^you can't really say "it wasn't her fault at all" - she's had two guys cheat on her? maybe there's something wrong with her vag. or maybe she picks shitty guys. regardless, she's the common denominator in the equation.

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"I know a girl who fits the OP. Under 30, married and divorced three times (so far), one kid with each husband. I feel kinda bad for her occasionally, but mostly I just follow the trainwreck from a far on facebook and think about how bad I don't have it compared to her."

basically this - except I have more than one of these in my fb feed (male and female offenders too)

11/18/2013 12:50:08 PM

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" she's the common denominator in the equation. "

She might say that "men" are the common denominator...

11/18/2013 1:27:01 PM

oh dag...I know some cray cray people, but I don't think I know anyone that fits into this category

I am amazed by this phenomenon though. That show "Teen Mom" on MTV went to check on some girls from past shows and of course a few of them had been married twice with another kid before the age of 20.

11/18/2013 1:33:52 PM

so glad I dodged that bullet with an ex of mine

11/18/2013 1:56:32 PM

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"I know a girl like this, BUT it was actually not her fault at all. The first guy was military and ended up cheating on her while across the country. The second was a cop who carried out a 2 month affair not 3 months into their marriage."

also, it IS possible to NOT get divorced after infidelity occurs in a marriage...

11/18/2013 4:55:12 PM

If your spouse cheats on you a month or two into a marriage, you'd be crazy to stay with them. Im sure you'll have a perfectly healthy relationship going forward

Also, if that happens to you, your judgement sucks

11/18/2013 11:49:46 PM

I think republican females are more likely to do this.

11/19/2013 9:02:39 AM

the person who inspired this thread is a republican and an evangelical christian

11/19/2013 8:36:31 PM

Professional divorcees are not a new thing, but it's becoming more of a lucrative business model as time goes on

11/20/2013 2:40:01 AM

the phenomenon may serve to motivate some less-than-completely-satisfied couples to stay together. why bother divorcing and the resulting mayhem and challenges divorcees face in the dating scene, if it's statistically likely that you're doomed to be forever alone in the long run? I can just stay miserable right where i am, thanks

11/20/2013 3:21:21 AM

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[Edited on November 20, 2013 at 3:59 AM. Reason : .]

11/20/2013 3:59:10 AM