Hay guyz. So for the first time in quite a few years, I'm having sex on a regular basis. And I've come up with quite a few questions/ponderings that I'd like to hear you guys' input on. (I'd also like, incidentally, to hear you people's own musings on all things sexual: your favored techniques, certain pitfalls you've encountered, and any other observations you've formulated about sexual intercourse that you think might be worth sharing.) And I figure we might as well discuss sex, anyway, because it's fucking interesting.

So, some points...

1. Woman orgasming when man is on top
When having sex, I'm all about getting the girl off. That's my goal, really...for whatever reason, I dunno, maybe I'm altruistic, maybe I'm insecure, but whatever, I want the girl to cum.

But ladies, do you even EXPECT to cum when you're on the bottom? And what's the most effective way for a man to get the woman off when he's on top? Hard thrusting? Deep thrusting? Steady, rhythmic thrusting? Clitoral contact? Just having a big fucking dick? Does it vary based on the woman's vaginal architecture and/or the man's penis size? Is there a good universal strategy for this?

2. Woman coming when she's on top
Usually, when a girl cums with me, I'm just lying on my back, not even moving, and she's flailing around on my cock. I never cum from this position, but it's a way for her to get off, so I'm totally content with it.

I dunno, though...I guess where I'm getting at with this point is, it seems quite a shame that the position that's most pleasurable for the girl does next-to-nothing for me, and the position that does most for me (missionary) does least for her. I guess this is a fundamental attribute of sex, to some extent; but I don't know how rigid it has to be.

3. How long should a man last
Usually, if I'm on top, I can contrive to last about, like, 60-120 seconds, say. If I'm just thrusting all-out, I can cum a lot faster than this, but I've learned to draw it out. (P.S. Actually, lately my anti-anxiety meds have affected my ability to ejaculate, so I can pretty much thrust forever without cumming, which is kind of awesome but also kind of terrible.)

But I wonder, what's the standard period for a man to last, if he's on top? What do you expect, women? And if the man pulls out or takes a breather so he doesn't cum, is that permissible?

4. Second rounds
Usually, after 15-30 minutes or so, I'm ready to go again, but my wanker is never as rigid as it was the first time. Usually in this case the girl can cum if she gets on top of me, but I can never bring myself to spluge again, from any position. So is it even worth doing this?

5. Fingering
I fucking suck at fingering...I have a very crude, heavy touch. Just the other night, I tried to finger my girlfriend, and failed. (I've never successfully fingered a woman, actually.) I infer that clitoral contact is key in this pursuit, and I've even heard that the clit is so sensitive that you have to just BARELY touch it, you can't go smearing it. But anyway, what's the best technique here (if such a complicated, participant-specific question can be answered in such generality)?

Also, I fear that fingering (and to a lesser extent, sex in general) requires a "knack," a certain spontaneous and intuitive knowledge of where to touch, how and at what moment and in what succession, which is very hard to acquire if you don't already possess it/aren't born with it. But maybe that that's not correct: maybe sexual prowess is a thing that can be learned to some degree. (I'm a terrible, terrible dancer, incidentally, if that matters. I have no innate sense of rhythm.) Thoughts?

6. Eating out
Same considerations as 5, basically.

Everybody please feel free to chime in on all these things.

By the way, I always wear Trojan Enz Lubricated condoms.

Feel free to ask your own questions, or offer your own theses or observations. But this is the Lounge, bear in mind, so please don't attack my sexual prowess or lack thereof, or my inexperience (which is, admittedly, considerable...I've only had sex with three women, and my longest relationship has been like 3 months.)

Also, this is not meant to be a "Help BlackJesus improve his sex life" thread..it's meant to be a "Discuss the nuances of sex and help everybody get better at fucking" thread. So indulge your own discussions, too, you fucking nymphomaniacs.

2/18/2014 9:46:56 PM

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2/19/2014 5:59:52 AM

This should actually be a good thread, but my guess is that it turns into both a literal and figurative dick measuring contest.



Also, I too, have had sex.

2/19/2014 6:46:01 AM

2/19/2014 8:20:27 AM

in4figurativedickmeasuringcontest

2/19/2014 9:27:58 AM

so how big are they, guys?

2/19/2014 10:30:46 AM