let's talk about jealousy. do you think it's innate in every person or are some people more susceptible to it than others? Do you consider yourself a jealous person or does it vary with each relationship? How have you been burned by jealousy in the past? How have you overcome those feelings to improve yourself or your relationship?

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"Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection."

3/13/2014 10:22:22 AM

Some folks are definitely more susceptible than others. Look at open relationships/marriages/swingers/etc. Some people are perfectly fine with their significant others sleeping with other people while others get jealous if they even have friends that are the opposite gender. Some people get jealous just because their current SO is still friends with an ex.

3/13/2014 10:26:40 AM

I feel like Jeepin4x4 is the kind of cat that if you get drunk with him, or end up on a long road trip, would try to talk about his feelings and shit. I'm not saying that's ~ or anything... Just saying that its moist. Crazy moist.

3/13/2014 10:33:46 AM

Everybody is jealous. Some people are more jealous than others and some people do a better job of hiding it than others. A little jealousy can be healthy...too much jealousy can be very devastating/destructive.

I think that covers about all of it. My jealousy has gone down as I've gotten older. I still get a little jealous, but nothing that affects my relationship to any significant degree. My wife gets a little jelly as well. I'd probably be worried if she didn't. I think it keeps you on your toes a bit.

3/13/2014 10:34:22 AM

^^what else would we talk about? the weather?


in actuality though, i really don't talk about my feelings to anyone. except TWW.

3/13/2014 10:35:03 AM

I have found that I get jealous more/less depending on the person I'm with. The most recent relationship I was in, I was jealous of silly things that I have actually encouraged past boyfriends to do.

I think the issue was that I was more jealous because I was less sure that I was liked/a priority/respected, etc.

I don't really consider myself a jealous person. But I think it's because I try to be mindful of how I'm feeling, and if it's rational to feel that way based on the situation. But that's still hard to do.

3/13/2014 10:37:30 AM

Look, my G. I'm not going to answer your questions, cause I'm too diesel for that. I'm too John Blaze, son. I know what you want, and I can't fuck with it. But here is what I can give you.

I think you need to define jealousy, and also define mistrust, my G. Keep it gully, ya dig? Because while the two terms can be interchangeable in certain situations, as they could be used here, one might be a precursor to another.

[Edited on March 13, 2014 at 10:41 AM. Reason : js]

3/13/2014 10:40:24 AM

With my wife, no.
With friends, yes.

For some reason if people in my circle of friends hang out without me, I get a little jealous.

3/13/2014 10:42:48 AM

^Yeah it sucks when you find out a bunch of friends did something and you didn't get invited. I don't know if jealousy is the appropriate term to describe that though.

3/13/2014 10:46:14 AM

I feel the amount of jealousy I had in a relationship has dropped.

Jealousy just makes you overbearing and typically push people away. I don't want to be the person that says you can't be friends with the opposite sex because I think you're going to do something with them.

I guess it turns into having to be trusting of the other person enough to overrule the jealousy.
Or in some cases just realize that being jealous won't do anything positive for the relationship, and if they want to jeopardize it then its on them.

3/13/2014 10:47:15 AM

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"I think the issue was that I was more jealous because I was less sure that I was liked/a priority/respected, etc."

this is a good point. i've kind of discovered in my relationships that if i feel like i'm more invested than the other person that jealousy starts to surface. it's like once exclusivity is discussed, or a label is attached, most all of it goes away.

3/13/2014 10:48:18 AM

A lot probably has to do with the other person and the type of lifestyle they live. Some people just in general seem more trustworthy than others. I have always just kind of been under the assumption that if someone wants to cheat they are gonna do it no matter what you do. I have just always made it perfectly clear in any relationship that that is a dealbreaker for me so should they choose to do so dont be upset when I peace out.

3/13/2014 10:52:49 AM

Tomorrow we can drive around this town and let the cops chase us around. The past is gone but something might be found to take its place.

3/13/2014 11:31:11 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Jh4aGQBUZM

3/13/2014 11:36:17 AM

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3/13/2014 1:29:03 PM

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"I feel like Jeepin4x4 is the kind of cat that if you get drunk with him, or end up on a long road trip, would try to talk about his feelings and shit. I'm not saying that's ~ or anything... Just saying that its moist. Crazy moist."

naw, he's a lot more "manly" in real life than he is on tdub

3/13/2014 1:38:14 PM

tww is my platonic best friend that i can share my feelings with and not feel bad.

3/13/2014 1:43:18 PM

I bellieve you, bro.and Ive got love for you. This thread just makes me think you have very soft hands, ya dig?

3/13/2014 2:11:17 PM

EMCE tell us about your jealousy

3/13/2014 2:13:17 PM

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"Look, my G. I'm not going to answer your questions, cause I'm too diesel for that. I'm too John Blaze, son. I know what you want, and I can't fuck with it. But here is what I can give you. "

3/13/2014 2:21:32 PM

I wouldn't say I'm a very jealous person, by any means. There was one relationship that I was in where I can say it may have been an issue. And even then, I woukdnt call it jealousy.... Instead, it was a mistrust issue. It didn't start out that way, but as the relationship went on, due to things that happened between us, I realized that I didn't trust her to not be a shady cunt when I wasn't around.
I eventually that there was no use in harboring these feelings, or being in a relationship with someone that I couldn't trust completely... Which was a factor in me ending things.

3/13/2014 2:25:29 PM

Jealousy in my relationship is related to my self-confidence and trust in my significant other. If either of them go down, then my jealous goes up. It can also be related to them wanting to spend all their time doing something without me.

I've never dated anyone who acted really jealous of anything I did, but I think that's because I don't do anything that would break one's trust of me and I always give compliments.

3/13/2014 2:31:04 PM