is that why you turned out so shitty?

9/16/2014 11:21:10 AM

Yes.


And yes.

9/16/2014 11:25:40 AM

Nope.

I was a good kid who never got caught.

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9/16/2014 11:26:22 AM

for clarification, white people might also know this as being "spanked"

9/16/2014 11:27:17 AM

I only got spanked a few times that I remember and it was for doing pretty bad stuff like setting the woods on fire and such haha

9/16/2014 11:29:34 AM

Actually, Ive only heard you bamas call it a whoopin. I was just trying to relate to you people

9/16/2014 11:31:44 AM

Yeah I got spanked

9/16/2014 11:31:52 AM

My dad only whooped me a few times that I recall, but he always threatened me with a belt, and it always scared me, even though I only remember him following through those few times. My mom used to spank me with a wooden spoon, but after I started getting around 12 or 14, I'd just block it with my hand. But she'd threaten to tell my dad, and that would scare me. My neighbor's dad would always threaten to go get a switch off a tree in the backyard, but he never did it either.

9/16/2014 11:37:23 AM

i got paddled by the school principal once

fucking Alabama, man

9/16/2014 11:40:51 AM

I got whooped pretty bad with a belt by my dad. Never broke skin, but left some pretty bad welts. My stepdad snapped a couple times and would punch me in the shoulder so bad it would knock me down.

Pretty sure I won't use a belt on my kids (in the future...currently childless)...but I will probably employ some good spanking. Some kids are smart-asses and need the threat of physical violence...I know I did.

9/16/2014 11:49:16 AM

^^ I went to pre school in DC, and can remember the teacher smacking the shit out of my hands with a ruler for something or other.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 11:50 AM. Reason : j]

9/16/2014 11:50:12 AM

I remember getting smacked in the hand with a ruler at school once. And once I got paddled by the "Board of Education". I recall being terrified of it, but the paddler really took it easy and i remember being surprised how little it hurt.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 12:12 PM. Reason : ]

9/16/2014 12:12:00 PM

My dad used a 1x6 I think. Only 3-4 times though. After that they just made me feel bad.

9/16/2014 12:32:49 PM

It's "whupped," not "whooped." The word is to whup.

9/16/2014 12:43:31 PM

Dad spanked me once with his hands. The worse thing he ever did was wash my mouth out with Lava brand soap.

Grandma used a fly swatter. That stung but she only did it once each time I got in trouble.

Mom used a belt. I got it once. Never again. Fuck that shit. I was a good little girl after that.

9/16/2014 12:44:32 PM

I was frequently spanked. Sometimes, my mother or grandparents would use a switch, sometimes on my bare legs until I bled. I think I got the belt once, but I don't remember it. I definitely got paddled a few times in school by principals.

I don't resent any of them for it, but it didn't make me behave any differently. Hitting children for any reason is a low fucking act. It's a failure of your intelligence. Even as a kid, I knew that they should have been smarter than that. My fucking brain wasn't even mature, guys. I don't have the context to adhere to your rules of conduct, and getting hit while simultaneously being taught that hitting people is wrong just adds more cognitive dissonance I don't need on top of your bullshit about God and Santa Claus.

Fuck you if you hit a kid, and fuck you if you condone other people doing it.

9/16/2014 12:49:31 PM

i only got spanked or switched like 6 times total.

in hindsight i was being a real douche at the time.

whenever it happened i was always like 'whoa,' and i think thats the point. not to hurt or scare, but to surprise.

'im really being super bad.'

that being said i probably wont whup my kid.

9/16/2014 12:51:07 PM

all

the

time

you'd think they would have figured out it wasn't that much of a deterrent from being bad as fuck

9/16/2014 12:59:13 PM

My personal opinion is that I would like to not spank, but I will admit there may be instances where it happens. Running out in to traffic or a parking lot would be one instance. I don't know that I could control myself enough not to. I spanked one child I was watching. I told the mother and she agreed it was necessary. It was one quick pop and I have seen her tear his ass up. I was watching him along with a developmentally disabled child of about the same age. I went to get them a snack and came back to the disabled child inside of a collapsed pop up tent and he was wailing on him with closed fists. I grabbed him up by the arm and smacked him on the butt once and then sat him down in time out until I had calmed down enough to talk to him. If we ever decide that we need to use spanking as a punishment it will always be with a hand, no weapons, and one quick pop, not a barrage of hits. And always on the thigh or bum. But again, I really don't want it to come to that.

9/16/2014 1:06:28 PM

I like to do the spanking

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9/16/2014 1:11:48 PM

Quote :

"If we ever decide that we need to use spanking as a punishment it will always be with a cupped hand, no weapons, and one quick pop, not a barrage of hits. And always on the thigh or bum."

9/16/2014 1:30:14 PM

I'll just stick with pistol whipping.

9/16/2014 1:32:54 PM

Drew Magary wrote a good post on The Concourse about corporal punishment today: http://theconcourse.deadspin.com/why-do-people-hit-their-kids-1634802919

9/16/2014 1:39:33 PM

not reading all of that

9/16/2014 1:41:12 PM

I will. I am hoping by educating myself on a lot of different disciplinary techniques that when something scary happens and it is due to my child's behavior that I will have a technique already chambered in my mind so that my brain doesn't automatically say "fuck that was close, smack that ass and tell him who is boss."

9/16/2014 1:43:31 PM

Yep.

Never got the switch though. Although it was threatened plenty.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 1:50 PM. Reason : f]

9/16/2014 1:50:06 PM

My dad spanked me with his hairbrush once because I would steal his after losing mine. That hurt pretty bad. My 4th grade teacher had a huge paddle that she spanked kids with. I think I got spanked once with it, maybe. My Mom usually used her hand to spank me. I was a pretty wild kid.

9/16/2014 2:10:55 PM

Yes and partially yes.

When you use violence to solve your problems you are teaching your children to use violence to solve their problems. There are times and places where I think it is a reasonable and necessary response, but parenting issues don't qualify IMHO.

9/16/2014 2:21:05 PM

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9/16/2014 2:21:51 PM

Not really, it was, half assed.

9/16/2014 2:27:02 PM

yep, got popped plenty. even had to pick my own switch at my grandma's a couple times.

9/16/2014 2:30:24 PM

Mini blind sticks hurt like a mother fucker

9/16/2014 2:41:48 PM

^Oh god I bet...me and my cousin used to hit each other those just screwing around. I'm sure those hurt like hell

9/16/2014 2:45:34 PM

Every few weeks or so until I learned better. I'd say I was probably 12 or so the last time I parents hit me. We called them beatings though, as in, "If you don't stop it, I'm gonna beat you."

Dad was open hand. Mom was with a belt. Grandma preferred a switch or a yardstick.

On the one hand, I feel like I turned out ok, but I would prefer to discipline any potential kids without hitting them. My wife was raised without spankings. A lot of that I think is cultural. Her mother's white and liberally-minded, and she was raised in California. My parents are blacks from Ohio and Virginia, so they were raised differently.

9/16/2014 2:53:58 PM

I was spanked with an open bare hand until I learned that there were consequences to my shitty actions. My kids will be taught the same way.

9/16/2014 3:55:50 PM

My mom would grab my arm real quick or pop me in the butt if I was out of line. Spanking wasn't really needed tho.

9/16/2014 4:37:12 PM

The key is to not give warnings before punishment. That way they have to behave all the time and don't act the fool until you start threatening or yelling at them.

9/16/2014 4:59:11 PM

very occasionally (like once every 2-3 years) my parents would slap my face. but only when I said really, really disrespectful shit.

9/16/2014 5:14:15 PM

my parents would bop your bottom to get your attention if you were totally zoned out and fixated on whatever you were doing wrong and didn't notice (or ignored) their instruction to stop it, but never spankings as a punishment or anything like that. the idea of beating your child after the fact as punishment seems all kinds of fucked up to me.

9/16/2014 5:20:20 PM

Quote :

"but it didn't make me behave any differently. Hitting children for any reason is a low fucking act. It's a failure of your intelligence. Even as a kid, I knew that they should have been smarter than that. My fucking brain wasn't even mature, guys. I don't have the context to adhere to your rules of conduct, and getting hit while simultaneously being taught that hitting people is wrong just adds more cognitive dissonance I don't need"

Not sure if trolling or not.

Corporal punishment made me ack rite. If the teachers said "don't make me call your father" I knew what the hell that meant. Shit, once or twice they called my dad to ask for permission to spank me. The principal or the assistant whipped my ass enough to let me know it wasn't something I wanted to have as an option...and then I had to think about it for the rest of the day and dread getting my ass whipped again at home by my pops. It was only used frequently enough to remind me of what the expectations for my behavior was. It was fair and just and I'm certainly no worse for it.

9/16/2014 5:26:05 PM

did you guys grow up in the 50's? why were they hitting you at school?

9/16/2014 5:31:38 PM

no, 80s. in a nearby suburban elementary school.

9/16/2014 5:34:26 PM

Because the teacher was telling me to shut the fuck up and stop talking to other students and I wouldn't listen. Granted, my folks told them constantly that they weren't keeping me busy enough and I was getting bored, but it wasn't like we had the cash to send me to elite schools where they could push me to the breaking point. Regardless of whether I finished my work or not, my folks told me to listen to the teachers and not to cause trouble. After enough pleading by the teacher to be quiet or not bother the other students it took a trip to the Principal for him to try and exert some influence. It typically was a warning on the first trip and if I was back in there the same day or within a couple days it was a phone call to the folks to ask if they were going to discipline me or if they wanted the Principal to do it. They let the Principal give me a few good whacks to know that immediate correction at school was a consequence of not acting right and then I usually got some whacks with a belt when I got home.

This was most of Elementary school. By the time I got to middle school I began to be challenged enough in class to not be a distraction to the other students.

9/16/2014 5:37:33 PM

And both parents used to always give me "I don't want to do this and this hurts me as much as it does you". At the time it made no sense but years later it certainly did.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 5:39 PM. Reason : .]

9/16/2014 5:39:12 PM

The principal at my junior high in Rocky Mount still spanked kids in 1992/1993. I think it was optional, as in a person would be given a choice between in school suspension or paddling, but I don't fully remember. Either way it sounds creepy that the principal had a paddle in his office and gave teenage girls the option of a spanking in lieu of several days in ISS.

I googled and found this:

Quote :

"Teaming with UNC-Chapel Hill School of Social Work students, Action for Children surveyed all 115 of the state's school districts, finding 60 still permit corporal punishment. Those that do include Johnston, Franklin, Harnett and Nash-Rocky Mount. Corporal punishment bans are in effect in 55 school districts, including Wake, Durham, Orange and Chatham counties and most of the state's major metropolitan counties. "

Quote :

"Wayne Doll, a Nash-Rocky Mount school administrator, said he knows corporal punishment can be appropriately administered as an effective deterrent of disciplinary problems. In his garage, he still keeps "Mr. Wood," the thin wooden paddle he used during his 15 years as principal of a middle school -- to give three licks to the behinds of misbehaving students. "I never used the hand," he said. "I would think the hand would leave a mark.""

http://www.newsobserver.com/2008/04/29/67793/spare-the-rod-group-urges.html

Second quote is the principal I was referring to. I can't believe these backwards ass people still have their way.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 6:17 PM. Reason : l]

9/16/2014 5:51:21 PM

How are you gonna say getting hit made you act right while simultaneously saying you got hit all the time? Don't you see the non sequitur there? I guess not, because getting hit as a child obviously didn't make you any smarter.

9/16/2014 5:52:01 PM

I didn't get hit all the time. Legit no bullshit bend over the side of the bed and get disciplined happened maybe every few months? And it was never like my rents snapped and took their frustration with my behavior out on me as if they were kicking my ass. No, I got plenty of warnings that if I didn't straighten up consequences were coming. And it was almost a formal thing. They told me how my behavior wasn't kosher, how it needed to be different, and how they didn't enjoy having to spank me. When I was young it typically only took 1 or 2 licks of the belt to begin the crying and the punishment was done to be followed by hugs and apologies for having to hurt me. When I got to be a bit older it took more licks before the tears.

It didn't make me a violent person evidenced by the fact that in all my years of school I wasn't in any physical fight...ever.

9/16/2014 6:00:29 PM

^^ It's like Stockholm syndrome in children.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 6:04 PM. Reason : l]

9/16/2014 6:04:02 PM

Quote :

"Yes. And yes."

haha, I remember, on one occassion, laughing at my mother while she was spanking me...not a great idea, looking back.

It only happened a few times, though. I was entirely too well behaved.

[Edited on September 16, 2014 at 6:10 PM. Reason : ]

9/16/2014 6:09:43 PM

I got 'whooped' at golden eye a few times

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9/16/2014 6:11:57 PM