She is pretty religious and cares a lot about being Catholic. Her dad is also quite religious as he is the principle and soon to be president of a local catholic school system. I never told her that I was Catholic, she just assumed I was since I went to 13 years of catholic school and my mom's side of the family is catholic.

However, my dad's side of the family is Baptist and my parents raised me as Methodist. The other day she made some comment about me being catholic and i told her "im not catholic". She responded with "shutup, yes you are" and continued with whatever she was saying.

I think Im going to continue to not tell her the truth, but i can imagine at some point there will be a situation where the truth may come out. Im also really bad at lying. Im considering converting in secret so that she wont know. This relationship seems pretty srs right now so I give a few fucks. But I would think it would make for a great sitcom episode if I were to just see how long I could go on pretending to be catholic. We havent been to mass together yet.

What would chit chat do?

[Edited on November 23, 2015 at 2:15 PM. Reason : :p]

[Edited on November 23, 2015 at 2:20 PM. Reason : ;]

11/23/2015 2:14:02 PM

you're obviously very familiar with the catholic faith, given your background...i would tell her the truth and then come to some sort of compromise regarding conversion/attending services/etc. the longer you wait to tell her, the worse it will be - if this is really serious and she's got marriage on her mind, being catholic/protestant has a big impact on that.

just my two cents.

11/23/2015 2:18:26 PM

this is akin to rape. or something.

11/23/2015 2:25:38 PM

Heres a few other tidbits:

Im her longest relationship since about a year and a half ago
She dated a guy for 5 years who sucked his friends dick
He came out to her and broke up with her
She tried to kill herself with pills about a year ago because she felt her whole life was ruined because she was planning to marry him and she lost all her friends
She sees a therapist on the reg

11/23/2015 2:28:55 PM

so, step 1: don't pretend tell her you're gay to break the ice

11/23/2015 2:31:36 PM

So not only is she crazy but sounds like she is also a bit mentally unstable. Sounds like you should have run a long time ago? Good luck!

11/23/2015 2:32:13 PM

I think shes a lot better now. It was just a lot for her to handle back then. My point in bringing it up though is that, since things are getting pretty serious between us, and this is something she cares about a lot, Im concerned about how much telling her something like this would stress her out.

So thats why maybe converting to Catholicism in secret might be easier.

11/23/2015 2:35:34 PM

religion

11/23/2015 2:41:25 PM

Eh if you are willing to convert I would just tell her and then let her "convert" you so she feels like she is doing gods will or some crap. Again, you are feeding into the crazy, but if its that serious no need to lie about it.

11/23/2015 2:52:05 PM

breaking up would be easier. srsly...red flags.

11/23/2015 3:05:44 PM

This is sure to end poorly. Updates will be required for our collective entertainment.

11/23/2015 3:16:52 PM

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"She dated a guy for 5 years who sucked his friends dick "

Sounds like her ex-boyfriend was definitely catholic.





And you guys should go watch "Spotlight" together.

[Edited on November 23, 2015 at 3:24 PM. Reason : .]

11/23/2015 3:23:55 PM

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"relationship seems pretty srs right now so I give a few fucks"

then it seems like a good idea to come clean.

If she's insistent on you being catholic, then you either decide to convert or decide that you don't want to and peace out.

11/23/2015 3:26:11 PM

....... a devout catholic who tried to kill herself? wut?

11/23/2015 3:26:40 PM

religion is really pointless to me so ill be whatever, as long i dont have to do anything more than going to mass maybe once a week.

her ex still "struggles" with his sexuality and isnt out yet.

[Edited on November 23, 2015 at 3:29 PM. Reason : z]

11/23/2015 3:29:06 PM

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"religion is really pointless to me so ill be whatever"

Sounds like you need to get out then as she seems very into it and being catholic sounds like the worst if you have to pretend to give a crap.

11/23/2015 3:32:26 PM

Nah, Im really good at it after all those years in catholic school. Plus my mom is pretty religious. So im used to it.

11/23/2015 4:02:05 PM

11/23/2015 4:04:13 PM

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"religion is really pointless to me so ill be whatever"

then it might not be a good idea to get serious with a girl who is devoutly religious.

11/23/2015 4:17:00 PM

Where is the TLDR sentence at the bottom??

Noob...

11/23/2015 4:17:43 PM

I mean, its not like she made me wait before marriage to bone. Just like two weeks. Usually thats how I determine which ones are too religious.

11/23/2015 4:18:07 PM

wait...premarital sex and she's a devout catholic??? things that make you go hmm...

wonder what else she'll backpedal on out of convenience. GET....OUT....NOW!

#CrazyThingsGuysDoForPuss

[Edited on November 23, 2015 at 4:27 PM. Reason : ]

11/23/2015 4:27:32 PM

All that crazy is going to come around again at some point. Even if it doesn't it sounds like she is super needy and that can be really draining.

Wouldn't you rather be with someone who shares your world view? I'm an atheist but I grew up going to a Catholic Church and I cringe at the thought of marrying a devout religious person.

If you don't plan on sticking this out for the rest of your life you owe it to her and yourself to have a talk. Sounds like you need to either way.

11/23/2015 4:42:47 PM

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"I think Im going to continue to not tell her the truth, but i can imagine at some point there will be a situation where the truth may come out. Im also really bad at lying"

worst thing you can do is lie about it.

11/23/2015 4:44:18 PM

Catholics are not Christian. We established this fact awhile back

11/23/2015 4:47:42 PM

Well, lots of christians aren't christian

11/23/2015 4:49:22 PM

what's the point of converting if she already thinks you are? its all made up fairy tales for your head, anyhow

11/23/2015 5:17:37 PM

nothing says "serious relationship" like "i lie to you every day"

11/23/2015 5:19:04 PM

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"She dated a guy for 5 years who sucked his friends dick"

Quote :

"Sounds like her ex-boyfriend was definitely catholic."

That was some classic TWW right there

11/23/2015 6:45:21 PM

Just be like "look, i agree on everything but virgin mary - lets fuck?"

11/23/2015 6:47:43 PM

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"Eh if you are willing to convert I would just tell her and then let her "convert" you so she feels like she is doing gods will or some crap. Again, you are feeding into the crazy, but if its that serious no need to lie about it."

I like this advice.
I admit I do not know a lot about mass or the fundamentals of Catholicism. (other than penance and going through Mary) Thus, I could be wrong. But, I get the feeling that your gf isn't an expert on her religion. I think you could have her "convert" you and be done with it.

11/23/2015 6:50:04 PM

bitch is looney

11/23/2015 7:35:13 PM

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"However, my dad's side of the family is Baptist and my parents raised me as Methodist. "

I'm guessing that your parents and her parents haven't met yet. I can see that coming out over dinner one night. And then it will be an even bigger issue/fight if it comes out that way.

11/23/2015 8:24:16 PM

Nah, here parents live here. I hang out with them a lot. But my parents live 5 hours away. So I wouldnt have to worry about them meeting for a while yet.

11/23/2015 10:38:40 PM

This thread reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating that chick with the cool toy collection and he drugs her so that he and George can play with them while she's passed out.

11/23/2015 11:09:45 PM

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"But, I get the feeling that your gf isn't an expert on her religion. I think you could have her "convert" you and be done with it. "

ehh...being converted in the Catholic Church is much bigger process than you may realize. My dad did it...he had to take a class lasting a few months, have a sponsor through the process, go though all these steps of meeting with the priest and stuff like that. To my knowledge, it's a pretty involved process and 1) I'm not really sure how you'd convert in secret as OP suggested and 2) it's not something that could be done quickly by her or anything. In my limited experience, the church takes it pretty seriously.

[Edited on November 24, 2015 at 12:24 AM. Reason : S]

11/24/2015 12:22:52 AM

Seriously, joining a cult is hard work, can't just be letting any randoms in gotta make sure they are looney tunes enough

11/24/2015 8:13:17 AM

1) If the relationship is serious, continuing to lie to her is the worst thing you can do. Do you like divorce? Do you like court cases? Do you like alimony? Do you like single-parent families? If so, keep on going like that!

2) How is it that you have been dating for a while and haven't been to Mass?

3) If you want to convert for convenience, you have to know what you are getting into. Do you want to go to Mass for the rest of your life? Do you want your kids growing up Catholic? All the other ceremonies and functions?

4) Do you want her to try to kill herself again in the future? If not, tell her now; don't be a God damn idiot.

5) I actually only came here to say "principal".

11/24/2015 9:31:48 AM

If she was that religious you would have already been going to mass....religiously

/thread

11/24/2015 2:37:18 PM