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"The ones who went all out on the first (or maybe second) date, what % did you stick with for more than say a month?"

a month? lordy, i only went on more than 2 dates with like 4 guys. actually the guy who went all out, i liked him a lot and he ended up standing me up on a date so i guess im the one who got played huh?

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"She probably didn't have sex with the guys that did this. She probably slept with the guys that didn't seem interested or guys that knew they could get better... Am I right?"

Not that it's any of your business, but the only person I had sex with from match is my current boyfriend. I don't sleep around, never have and never will. I find one night stands and sleeping with random people disgusting and it's just not my program. But thanks for assuming.

Go troll another thread

8/27/2011 2:32:38 PM

join one of those catholic sites

8/27/2011 2:35:44 PM

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"join one of those catholic sites"

This brings us to a larger issue--is it worth paying for (because free accounts usually suck) for more "specialized" sites? It seems to me that since the online dating thing is usually mostly about numbers, a smaller site could be a waste of money. Even if ostensibly you have some big factor in common such as religion that doesn't mean you will click with a high %.

8/27/2011 2:40:15 PM

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"you're going to kick a guy out because a girl is having a bad date with him?"

Heh I had this happen to me once. I was in a hotel bar waiting for a buddy of mine to show up. While there this dude comes and sits next to me, a regular at the bar which is fucking weird since it's a hotel bar, and starts talking to me, buys me a drink, etc. Before I know it he's all, "Yo give me your room number let's have sex." Uhhhhhhhhhh

The bartender immediately kicked him out, while he was ranting about how he'd just be back tomorrow, fuck you, blah blah, and then the bartender gave me a free drink for my troubles

I told my friend when he finally showed up that he missed the evening entertainment lol.

[Edited on August 28, 2011 at 9:32 AM. Reason : i don't know english]

8/28/2011 9:31:58 AM

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"one thing i don't get is i've messaged several girls and gotten a very good reply (really any reply at all is awesome for me, but they actually sound happy to talk to me) and then I email back and they suddenly disappear and I never hear from them again"

Maybe you're coming off a certain way in your email that you do not intend. You should have a girl read over a few of your responses to see if she picks up on anything. Some people just don't come off as well via text or email as they do in person.

8/28/2011 10:30:30 AM

He probably told her about his Star Trek action figure collection.

8/28/2011 10:32:16 AM

ok, so like i said the other day, i finished filling out my match.com profile..
i finished it 2 nights ago..
since then I have had 10 people either show interest via email or other means...
and honestly, I'm actually stoked about a couple of them...ACTUALLY look pretty cute and seem like cool girls.

I'm honestly blown away..

8/28/2011 12:23:32 PM

i've known several people who have found their sig others on match (or other sites) and ended up getting married... they are normal folks too... not deformed or anything.

8/28/2011 12:43:02 PM

yeah just stay off deformeddate.com and you should be ok.

8/28/2011 1:10:31 PM

Found a picture of wolfy on Match.com

8/28/2011 1:47:39 PM

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"Maybe you're coming off a certain way in your email that you do not intend. You should have a girl read over a few of your responses to see if she picks up on anything. Some people just don't come off as well via text or email as they do in person."

the insecure side of me agrees, but the realistic side of me knows that it's prob something else. Obv not a big deal, I can't make girls fall for me over the internet. IRL though....

8/28/2011 4:50:14 PM

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"ok, so like i said the other day, i finished filling out my match.com profile.. i finished it 2 nights ago.. since then I have had 10 people either show interest via email or other means... and honestly, I'm actually stoked about a couple of them...ACTUALLY look pretty cute and seem like cool girls. I'm honestly blown away.."

Did you post your income level?

8/28/2011 4:52:33 PM

i'm having such a hard time sending a message back to this one guy who's been messaging me. he seems really nice and I'd like to meet him but I'm just stuck for words.

he left it at "I'd ask if you wanted to get together this weekend, but my guess is the storm will make traveling a bit tricky. When things calm down though it would be great to get together and have a chance to meet.

Hope you stay safe and dry this weekend"

8/28/2011 5:26:56 PM

^^no, i did not.

8/28/2011 5:28:58 PM

^^"that would be great let me know what you have in mind. I'm probably free sometime this week/weekend/whatever."

Unless I'm missing something more to it...

8/28/2011 5:38:17 PM

it's so weird, after I posted that I just typed up a quick message and asked if he'd like to get coffee. I dont know why I thought so much about it.

8/28/2011 5:41:49 PM

What if he doesn't like coffee?

Would you rather him say he doesn't like coffee or would you rather him say yes and end up ordering a water after you meet?

8/28/2011 5:44:54 PM

it's too late, I already said coffee. I figured it would at least tell him i'm interested in meeting and maybe he can come up with a suggestion on where to meet when he messages me back.

8/28/2011 5:51:49 PM

And "Going to get coffee" can include a lot of things. I mean, if you head to any coffee shop, you can get tea, or even a smoothie. So, it's not like he's going to have to order a water.

8/28/2011 5:54:11 PM

Or he can politely say "I'm not a huge fan of coffee but I know this great restaurant that I think we would both enjoy"

Minka is showing she's interested in meeting up with the guy. If he doesn't care for coffee, that's fine but it opens the door for him to come up with an option they both would enjoy.

8/28/2011 5:57:47 PM

Damn double post

[Edited on August 28, 2011 at 5:58 PM. Reason : Ipad]

8/28/2011 5:58:17 PM

i say 'drink'

alcohol makes everyone feel easier.

8/28/2011 7:45:45 PM

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"Or he can politely say "I'm not a huge fan of coffee but I know this great restaurant that I think we would both enjoy" "

What if he picks a place that Minka doesn't enjoy. Should that be taken as a double fail? Should they both cut off communication right there since they both are different in their first choice picks?

8/28/2011 8:16:11 PM

If that happens she should just bring him to your restaurant and get a free meal then let you throw him out.

8/28/2011 8:24:36 PM

The funny was not broughten.

8/28/2011 8:28:51 PM

was trying to help you make more money

8/28/2011 8:40:14 PM

Yeah, I always say drink as well hoping they'll suggest a bar but it them the opportunity to suggest coffee as well.

8/28/2011 8:42:04 PM

If a dude doesnt like coffee, run. He's probably a flake.

8/28/2011 8:43:58 PM

I don't like coffee, tea, mocha, cappuccino, lattes, or anything else starbucks has on their menu. I don't like that entire family of drinks.

8/28/2011 8:50:17 PM

See ladies. My point is made.

8/28/2011 8:51:31 PM

I like tea, but I'm not paying no 4 dollars for it.

8/28/2011 8:51:45 PM

If you're both opposed to the same places, you're prob not meant to be. But if you're receptive, win-win!

8/28/2011 9:01:27 PM

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"Would you rather him say he doesn't like coffee or would you rather him say yes and end up ordering a water after you meet?"

They got tea and juice at coffee shops too

8/28/2011 9:35:10 PM

8/28/2011 10:16:30 PM

lol...my friends ex gf from about 6-7 years ago just showed up as "interested in me" on match.com

8/28/2011 11:03:12 PM

So coffee guy and I are going to meet up sometime next week for coffee, I'm excited.

Also there's this weird thing going on with me and this other guy. I think someone might have mentioned this in their advice but we've been messaging each other for more an a week now and he still hasn't asked if I'd like to meet in person. I asked on Friday if he had any plans for the weekend(hint hint) but I didn't hear back until he messaged me on Monday saying he lost power in the storm and stuff and then he talked a lot about other things we had been talking about. I answered him back. and now he just sent me another message, just talking yada yada yada, i'm going away on a trip for the week, want to take this messaging off of eHarmony? here's my email address etc. Now it's just weird. I signed up for eharmony to date (have sex) not have a new penpal (I already have one of those ) He seems into me but now it's feels awkward

8/31/2011 3:20:48 PM

i thought eHarmony was for people wanting to settle down, not date (sex)

8/31/2011 3:22:12 PM

^^ you are over analyzing it. Maybe he is new to the online dating thing and is trepid about meeting somebody. Maybe he wants to get to know more about you before investing more time and emotion into the whole thing. If you guys are having good conversion and have a lot in common then things will proceed. Just because he isnt moving at your pace doesnt mean he will be a pen pal. I bet he feels that step 1 is to talk to you through eharmony and step 2 is to chat via email or gchat, then move onto talking on the phone or texting and then meet you in person.

or

he is bwning another chick from eharmony right now and is keeping you on the back burner in case that one doesnt work out. Lining them up so that as soon as he is done with one he will already have another fish on the line

8/31/2011 3:34:47 PM

^^I want to settle down and have sex but sex right now seems a little more at the top of my list

^hmmm

8/31/2011 3:37:36 PM

i mean i can give the sex if that's what you're looking for.

8/31/2011 3:38:56 PM

Yeah, when I first started way back when I didn't want to come on too strong, but now I usually meet people asap because like you said, I'm not looking for a penpal. If he ever mentions a new restaurant or event you can subtly mention you've really been wanting to check that out and maybe he'll get the hint.

8/31/2011 3:42:42 PM

You don't need a dating site for sex. Plenty of men here on TWw and it's free!

8/31/2011 3:49:04 PM

Just ask him if he wants to hang out or meet up. Don't think you have to wait for him.

8/31/2011 3:55:07 PM

^^yeah but no TWWers up in PA

8/31/2011 3:56:21 PM

poor minka

8/31/2011 3:57:12 PM

you people make this too difficult sometimes

8/31/2011 3:59:56 PM

I have no WINGS! buddy either.

8/31/2011 4:02:23 PM

8/31/2011 4:03:28 PM

i think i like the idea of online dating more than the actual dating part. it's like express interest, share a couple emails, then i turn into a ghost when it comes a point to make it happen face to face.

2/20/2013 9:50:57 AM

that's exactly my problem...

it's like "oh crap...this isn't tdub...they actually expect me to meet them in real life "

2/20/2013 10:08:00 AM