^i think shes referring to if the engagement breaks off, not the marriage failing...

like if you propose and the engagement goes bad before a prenup is signed
girl doesnt want to give back heirloom ring

is the guy sol?

[Edited on April 19, 2009 at 8:16 PM. Reason : i think!]

4/19/2009 8:15:46 PM

no, because he is already protected by laws

4/19/2009 8:16:41 PM

really? she is required by law to give it back?

[Edited on April 19, 2009 at 8:18 PM. Reason : not that i would EVER do that....im just curious ]

4/19/2009 8:17:47 PM

Quote :

"if you get engaged and it doesn't happen, the law says the girl has to give the ring back because the ring is a condition of marriage and it didnt happen so you dont get to keep it (unless the guy says its ok then whatever) if you do get married, the girl is allowed to keep the ring, which is why i recommend the caveat that if you ever get divorced, she has to turn over the diamond back to the original family that owned it."

from previous page. its true at least in nc

4/19/2009 8:19:59 PM

^^ ncsuwolfy mentioned it on the previous page...but it is backed up by a court precedent

4/19/2009 8:20:32 PM

^^ and ^ahhh missed those posts...my bad. thank you

and i was totally assuming things when i was posting for Sonia hehe

alright

back to where you were

[Edited on April 19, 2009 at 8:21 PM. Reason : bad joie, bad]

4/19/2009 8:21:22 PM

a hint to guys...the marquis cut looks much larger than it actually is. i work at a place that cuts stones and i frequently get asked if my ring is 2 or 3 carats and it is only about 3/4 of a carat.

4/19/2009 8:33:15 PM

Joie got me, thank you. Depending on the circumstances of the engagement and the people involved I just don't see that going down very well-- not saying it shouldn't be done. (And anyone who's seen me post in a thread Duke#s has been in, I am very much in favor of prenups.)

[Edited on April 19, 2009 at 9:06 PM. Reason : ^ So true! I don't go a week without a compliment on mine. ]

4/19/2009 9:06:20 PM

Quote :

"the down payment on a house thing doesnt apply if you already own 2 houses between you"

Yeah, I'm sure this is common for people getting engaged

4/19/2009 9:18:32 PM

this day and age, people are getting married (and obviously, getting engaged) much later in life. my husband already owned a house by the time we got engaged. it's entirely possible. definitely doesn't warrant the .

4/19/2009 9:27:59 PM

It did because she missed the point of the post she was responding to

4/19/2009 9:30:47 PM

well ok then

4/19/2009 9:32:22 PM

Can we PLEASE just be happy for people with two houses!?!?!?

Thank you!

4/19/2009 10:19:07 PM

Only if one of those houses is oceanfront, and I can come visit!

4/19/2009 10:22:15 PM

Quote :

"a hint to guys...the marquis cut looks much larger than it actually is. i work at a place that cuts stones and i frequently get asked if my ring is 2 or 3 carats and it is only about 3/4 of a carat."

it also looks like dog vomit

4/19/2009 11:00:38 PM

it also looks like dog vomit

4/20/2009 1:37:32 AM

dog vomit:




marquis cut:

4/20/2009 2:14:51 AM

ew...


well, i think mine is snazzy and so does my gemologist boss!

4/20/2009 8:14:05 AM

no real reason to post this except that i am not too familiar with cuts....so i figure other people may not be as well

[Edited on April 20, 2009 at 9:57 AM. Reason : fhghg]

4/20/2009 9:56:22 AM

An 18 page thread on engagement rings - more proof that the only chicks that frequent tdub are crazy chicks?

4/20/2009 9:57:28 AM

nah...a lot of male (and female) tdubbers are steadily getting engaged

[Edited on April 20, 2009 at 10:00 AM. Reason : dgff]

4/20/2009 10:00:27 AM

i got dat emerald cut it's purrrrrty

4/20/2009 10:07:24 AM

I haven't followed too closely, but what is it, 10, tops? That is two pages per engagement -> CRAZY BITCHES.

4/20/2009 10:08:11 AM

Quote :

"this day and age, people are getting married (and obviously, getting engaged) much later in life. my husband already owned a house by the time we got engaged. it's entirely possible. definitely doesn't warrant the ."

agreed. Fumbler and i are getting married on june 6 and i've owned my house for over 3 years now. i wouldn't consider that "much later in life" though. later this year we'll have been out of college for only 4 years. i'm 26, he's 27.

4/20/2009 10:26:02 AM

"much later in life" meaning - instead of getting married when you're 19-23 (like it was 20 years ago), people are getting married much later, like 25-29. by that time, you've gotten out of college, gotten a real job, and pretty much started your own life, which more often than not, includes owning a house.

[Edited on April 20, 2009 at 10:54 AM. Reason : ]

4/20/2009 10:54:08 AM

i thought it had been that way for a while, like since the 60s or 70s maybe. i mean, trash (whether white, black, purple, or green) who get pregnant in high school and have to marry the father are a different issue.

4/20/2009 11:12:13 AM

I'll have to post a picture of my girl's ring.

I did good.

4/20/2009 11:24:13 AM

^^ Yea I think that is definitely more of the trend now. We are getting married this fall (I'll be 25 a month after we are married and she will be 22), but we have dated for a longgg time and both being out of school, me having a steady job for 2 years (hopefully it stays that way with the economy...) and having dated that long it just felt right to get married now.

4/20/2009 11:38:26 AM

haha, the "dog vomit" wolfenstein posted is really a fungus, Fuligo septica.


more ring pics

4/20/2009 11:39:10 AM

Quote :

"i mean, trash (whether white, black, purple, or green) who get pregnant in high school and have to marry the father are a different issue."

to be fair, just because you accidently get pregnant in high school doesn't make you trash, just irresponsible

girls in their 20s and 30s get accidently pregnant all the time.. it's just easier to accept because they "should" be having kids by that age anyway

and btw, 40% of children born these days are born to unwed mothers. so the whole having to marry the father thing is dated.

4/20/2009 12:01:35 PM

Here's my bit of advice -

My ring is worth about $6500, but my husband got it for much less since he bought it in the Virgin Islands.

Cardow FTW

http://www.cardow.com/

4/20/2009 2:29:55 PM

aha
I checked out ringenvy.com again, and I saw this ring, and for a second, I thought someone had copied my ring. And then I read her input.

This is the ring mine is based off of. Apparently, hers, too.

Looks like we both had the same idea

4/20/2009 2:52:00 PM

Quote :

"to be fair, just because you accidently get pregnant in high school doesn't make you trash, just irresponsible"

no, i was specifically talking about the trash who gets pregnant in high school. not the non-trash. hence my comment about the trash who gets pregnant in high school.

4/20/2009 5:38:07 PM

Fwiw I got my wifes ring at Helzberg, diamond splintered so they replaced them but she wasnt happy with the stones to Helzberg ordered her another ring and swapped it out no cost, I was really impressed with their customer service.

4/20/2009 5:45:09 PM

I really like these two I saw on Blue Nile the other day:





[Edited on April 20, 2009 at 7:13 PM. Reason : the first one is <3]

4/20/2009 7:07:08 PM

OOOOH

If it would go with my ring, I'd be all about that as a wedding band!

4/20/2009 7:17:40 PM

We can make it work

4/20/2009 10:31:46 PM

Quote :

"diamond splintered"

how'd that happen?

4/21/2009 10:19:58 AM

My dream ring... except ya know, not the $11 K Tiffany's version -- I would probably stroke if my bf spent that much on a ring

4/21/2009 10:35:24 AM

i don't know why (and i would never want this in an engagement ring, i don't think...maybe like a right hand ring or something) but the black diamonds really intrigue me. it is hard to find rings i like with a black diamond because it is overwhelming i feel like, but i kinda like some of the black diamond rings.

4/21/2009 2:45:59 PM

Quote :

"I would probably stroke if my bf spent that much on a ring"

you'd do well to do a little better than just stroke

[Edited on April 21, 2009 at 8:14 PM. Reason : HIIIIYOO]

4/21/2009 8:13:37 PM

No, I think stroking would be precisely the called for action.

4/21/2009 8:15:14 PM

I've had my eye on my great grandmothers ring since I was like, two years old. I hope future partner is classy enough to ask for my hand from my parents because he will be rewarded with a AMAZING rock if they like him enough to agree. Then we can use the ring fund for an awesome honeymoon fund.

Has anyone else used stones that were in the family?

4/21/2009 8:47:52 PM

Quote :

"I hope future partner is classy enough to ask for my hand from my parents because he will be rewarded with a AMAZING rock if they like him enough to agree."

huh?
it doesn't sound like HE will be rewarded with anything.

4/22/2009 5:05:13 PM

Quote :

"Fwiw I got my wifes ring at Helzberg, diamond splintered so they replaced them but she wasnt happy with the stones to Helzberg ordered her another ring and swapped it out no cost, I was really impressed with their customer service."

no offense, but considering the quality of stones that Helzberg provides, it probably cost them a trivial amount to replace the stone. I mean, we're talking about absolute garbage here....

4/22/2009 5:16:21 PM

Quote :

"Has anyone else used stones that were in the family?"

Yes - my wedding band originally belonged to his grandmother.

4/24/2009 1:09:38 AM

Quote :

"huh? it doesn't sound like HE will be rewarded with anything."

he would be rewarded with not spending money to buy a ring

4/24/2009 7:09:29 AM

Quote :

"I hope future partner is classy enough to ask for my hand from my parents because he will be rewarded with a AMAZING rock if they like him enough to agree."

fuck that

4/24/2009 5:41:55 PM

^ yea def

I would never accept a family ring on the girl's side of the family. I would MAYBE consider a ring from my side of the family. The whole point of the ring is the man signifying an investment in giving a present to the bride and for the bride to wear something that HE gave her. I could be wrong - but I'd think most girls want modern rings, not from great grandparents...

4/24/2009 6:01:04 PM

^ oftentimes what is done is the stones are taken out of the antique setting and places in a more modern setting.

4/24/2009 11:09:03 PM