I like assertive women. What I don't like are aggressive ones.

12/19/2005 9:56:29 AM

hehe my bad. didn't read the full post. Good for you and good luck with your career!

12/19/2005 10:05:28 AM

its ok...I don't think I ever actually sent out a broadcast. Its not quite as easy as telling everyone about my new puppy

and thanks for the luck...you can never have too much!

12/19/2005 10:12:19 AM

On the surface, I like girls that are reserved, because to me that shows she's thoughtful and not bitchy. But on the whole, I would want someone that is her own person.

12/19/2005 11:20:04 AM

The quiet and ostensively submissive girls just stew about shit and throw it in your face later, or complain to everyone else but you.

12/19/2005 11:30:08 AM

i like it both ways...i like my "me time" and having a control of my life and career. i know what i'm doing in that aspects (for now). i found myself awhile back so i don't have to do that...and it's not so much of pleasing my partner for his sake, but pleasing each other for the good of the relationship.

12/19/2005 11:33:35 AM

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"GALS: (opposit of the guys) Do you desire your own independence and freedom or do you enjoy attending to your man's every wish and whim? Do you believe that a relationship should should be more about finding yourself or about pleasing him?"

i don't desire independence, i require it. as duke put it, i'm definitely an alpha female. we had a firm understanding of that before we married. doesn't mean i'm selfish, doesn't mean i don't do things for my husband, doesn't mean i don't compromise. i just don't define myself by my husband.

12/19/2005 12:39:27 PM

shouldnt there be a select few people posting pictures of high heels and shit by this point in the thread?

12/19/2005 12:51:45 PM

http://www.thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=373575

12/19/2005 12:53:25 PM

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"GALS: (opposit of the guys)"

thanks for the clarification

12/19/2005 9:10:49 PM

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"I like to be the provider and one with the pants in my relationships."

First you have to actually be employed so you can buy those pants.

Then you can continue to make up stories about having relationships.

12/19/2005 9:15:50 PM

^^quite welcome

12/19/2005 9:21:35 PM

I need an assertive, confident, but laidback guy with a sense of humor, who can stomach my politics, understand science and technology, and can eat vegetarian food.

Biking would be nice too.


Any guy who even thinks for a minute I'll give in gets the boot.

12/20/2005 1:56:23 AM

^^^ AHAHHAH

12/20/2005 1:58:32 AM

My admittedly limited experience has been with assertive women, and it has been exclusively negative.

They have ended up being not only assertive, but almost exclusively to selfish ends -- they wanted to lead, which I was OK with, but they were horrible leaders, because they saw the "team" merely as something for their own benefit.

As a result I am now very leery of assertive types. Ideally there is parity, and as perfect a version of it as possible. Failing that, I'd rather they be on the slightly submissive side, because I feel confident that I could "direct" the relationship to the benefit of both. It's not always easy to gauge another person's intentions, but I (hopefully) have a decent handle on my own, so I can be more sure of an equally beneficial relationship with me "in charge" (but only slightly) than with the other person in the lead role. I suppose that's a trust issue. I don't care. I'm paranoid now.

[Edited on December 20, 2005 at 3:00 AM. Reason : ]

12/20/2005 3:00:07 AM

^ Man, you are drunk.

12/20/2005 3:18:05 AM