Bar sluts are just that.



Sluts.

1/11/2007 7:02:36 PM

i think esgargs knows all about this shit

1/12/2007 8:37:56 AM

still looking for ideas besides bars

1/12/2007 10:22:19 AM

Bookstores, Target, and coffee shops.

1/12/2007 10:29:14 AM

turkish bathouses

1/12/2007 10:30:51 AM

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"still looking for ideas besides bars"

Get some social skills and go to a bar.

And don't go through a website. That's just pathetic.

1/12/2007 11:28:08 AM

Bars are a waste of $$$ if you don't really like to drink, tho.

[Edited on January 12, 2007 at 11:31 AM. Reason : Good place for phone #'s, bad place for long termers.]

1/12/2007 11:30:50 AM

Get a part-time job doing something fun.

Take a class that you always wanted to but couldn't when you were in school. Any type of class - school, fitness/aerobics, cooking... even scrapbooking or one of those AC Moore/crafty classes.

Join a gym.

Meet new friends through current friends.

1/12/2007 11:35:35 AM

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1/12/2007 11:45:59 AM

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"Esss is supposed to be pretty nice too but expensive. Totally different crowd then your normal college bars. Alot of young professionals go there."

I liked it - you don't have the $1.50 EV Coors Lite crowd there, but there some rich sorostitutes that still dress up and go out there. I was happy to see the average age there seemed to be mid-20s though. And there's a <GASP> dress code so don't bum it when you go there.


Oh yeah, and I grabbed my military id before driver's license and I got in without a cover

PS And what's this "It's Just Lunch" thing???

[Edited on January 13, 2007 at 5:16 PM. Reason : .]

1/13/2007 5:15:55 PM

http://www.itsjustlunch.com/

1/13/2007 5:26:06 PM

volunteer and supermarkets.

i meet the hottest/down to earth girls when i'm volunteering. i change it up though; from soup kitchens, food banks, etc...

CV harris teeter. girls come up to me there. that thing about asking how to pick fruit is kinda wierd unless you've seen the girl somewhere else. you have to find something else to have a common bond about. in my case it was soup. wierd i know.

her - "hey, that soup is pretty good."
me - "really?, that's cool. i've never tried this one before. do you come here often extolling the virtues of a particular brand of soup?"
her - "no, but i decided to take a chance."
me - "well that's cool, what's your number, i'll give you a call sometime."

i know i make it sound easy, but don't go in to anything expecting something. it's when you aren't expecting/your defenses are down, that you are the most receptive.

there is probably something you do or someplace that you go/drive near everyday that a lot of other people around your age attend.

[Edited on January 13, 2007 at 5:33 PM. Reason : of course having a pleasant disposition is a great asset too. i'm a sarcastic bastard.]

1/13/2007 5:28:45 PM

^^found it. google with the word "cost" or "complaint" and you'll be amazed. i was anyway.

1/13/2007 6:05:03 PM

damn $1500 to meet someone?

1/13/2007 6:08:46 PM

to meet people for a year. but c'mon... you could hire 15 decent hookers for $10 each. or pay for 15 NICE dates for $100... i'm tired of the bar scene too, but not tired enough to toss away $1500.

especially when each IJL is an individual franchise so it doesn't seem like there's any quality control across each city

1/13/2007 6:11:53 PM

It is damned hard just to meet new people after graduation. My husband and I are all friends with people from work (Best Buy -- he runs the Geek Squad and I use to work there) and that's pretty much it. It'd be nice to make friends with some new people, but it's difficult.

If you can find something to get involved in, it's easier though. I have met new people through volunteering with the Carolina Rollergirls in the past. And I also like to go to Dirge Factory at Underground. If there's a regular night somewhere at a bar, that's usually a good way to make friends because the same people tend to show up for special nights.

1/13/2007 6:12:04 PM

I like grocery stores for picking up chicks. and you get the added bonus of grazing at the bulk food bins.

1/13/2007 6:31:29 PM

Once you get your job (and/or grad school), you'll be presented with more opportunities to network with people and meet people in unsual circumstances. And with work/school, same rule of thumb as your social group in college, don't date in the inner circle unless you are willing to deal with any strife that occurs as a result.

1/14/2007 7:54:48 AM

yeah i find that meeting someone post-college has been.... not easy. i dated the same dude for almost 4 years at State.... he went to law school, we broke up, blah blah... now I work full-time as a manager in retail/food service and i feel like there are no intelligent people that are also my age... blah. it seems hard to find a good social circle in general- nevermind dating. and i don't like the bar scene so much either... i have applied to grad school (for reasons beyond what we're discussing here) ...maybe there it will easier to re-establish a good social network and maybe meet somebody.

1/14/2007 1:29:36 PM

Book store, grocery store, restaurant, coffee shop, Target, sports bar (watching a game and having dinner/drinks there instead of regular bar since you seem opposed to the generic "bar" answer). I think volunteering is also a cool idea - Help others and more likely to meet a nice girl interested in doing kind things for others as well.

I wouldn't suggest a lake/trail or park unless it's a really public area and other people are around.

1/14/2007 2:20:33 PM

The WolfWeb is not the place you want to go to when it comes to asking advice about meeting nonfucktard women. Seriously, these are the same kids men who've struggled through college five years ago that drool over fatties and mentally handicapped females just because their profile picture, also taken five years ago, shows something resembling a figure.

As for your original question, I don't really know the answer to that here in Raleigh because the bar and club scene really overlaps between age groups as do coffee shops, book stores and other places you'd want to go out. Just be sociable and avoid cougars, you'll find something.

1/14/2007 3:28:41 PM

bttt

I have since started working a "real job" since starting this thread in January. Unfortunately the company is small (4 people, don't mock it cause it's really great) and it's not really the networking kind of job. I'm still not really into the bar scene right now. I love to drink as much to the next person and am not lacking in social skills by any means, but after 5 years of Raleigh bars I'm simply looking for something else.

And for the lazy people, It's Just Lunch is a huge waste of money and that's been discussed ad nauseum.

3/10/2007 10:16:21 AM

church.

3/10/2007 12:31:35 PM

Volunteer.

One of the outing clubs (Outdoor girls I'm getting hitched to one in a month!)

Cooking class.

I-95 restrooms

3/10/2007 12:45:03 PM

Look some place other than a bar. Jesus Christ.

3/10/2007 1:17:29 PM

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"AND where you live! lol I've found it very difficult to meet people that I would actually consider a "friend" here. I met tons of people through work, but most are married and have lives of their own. "

This is EXACTLY what I face now. I'm living in Bath, which is very small, and everybody here is married...or totally not my type of folks to hang around. It's really a kind of culture shock in a way.

I grew up in Smithfield, which is still overwhelmingly of the small-town mentality, but this area brings it to a whole new level.

3/10/2007 3:58:51 PM

go to a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting.

be sure to hang around outside before and after the meetings smoking cigarettes.

3/10/2007 4:19:30 PM

come to the blue martini around 8pm on a wednesday...and watch as there becomes a ratio of at least 5 girls to every guy...

i dont know what else to tell you.

3/10/2007 4:33:54 PM

hahahaha Bath

3/10/2007 4:48:42 PM

I don't meet as many people since I've been out of school, but the quality of these ones I do are better.... I hate the mentality that you have to 'find someone' before you graduate b/c it's slim pickins from there.

Bleh

3/10/2007 6:35:20 PM

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"It's Just Lunch?!? "

I hear that shit costs $$$Texas

3/10/2007 6:51:34 PM

^^ me too. who's in a hurry?

3/10/2007 6:57:17 PM

this thread is mildly depressing.

but i agree, it is not a good idea to be in a rush to meet people- no matter what stage of life you are in because if you're in a hurry it shows... and also being in a hurry you might unknowingly lower your standards.

just take it one day at a time. that's what i'm doing. AND maintain a positive attitude and surround yourself with positive people. what else can you do?

[Edited on March 10, 2007 at 7:58 PM. Reason : typingRhard]

3/10/2007 7:57:25 PM

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"and also being in a hurry you might unknowingly lower your standards."

And don't forget...nothing says "take advantage of me" like desperation.

3/11/2007 1:13:26 AM

one really easy way




adult sports leagues...


go sign up for a slow pitch softball league as a free agent... you'll get put on a team with 15 other folks, who generally know most of the group. there's bound to be 1-2 people that you dont mind chatting with

and if you completely hate them , well then you drink a few beers once a week for a month or two, get some good exercize and move on. Adult sports leagues : softball,soccer etc are awesome for that.

3/11/2007 3:45:54 AM

^best idea I've seen all thread

I just joined a league at soccer dome and that hadn't even crossed my mind, maybe next season I'll do co-ed or something.

3/11/2007 8:46:51 AM

haha we seem to only make enemies in our soccer league

3/11/2007 10:37:41 AM

are you playing at soccer dome this session?

3/11/2007 10:39:01 AM

ive had a coed team for the last 3 seasons at the factory in wake forest and about to start another season today ... im also suppose to be starting an outdoor league later this week

3/11/2007 10:45:10 AM

family reunion

3/11/2007 8:30:16 PM

The girls you seek dance on the bar at PB's Thursday nights...

3/11/2007 8:47:05 PM

GOLOVKO:

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"Esss is supposed to be pretty nice too but expensive. Totally different crowd then your normal college bars. Alot of young professionals go there. "

I've been to Ess twice, both times it was full of meatheads and morons. Both time fights broke out and resulted in police having to come in the place.

So far every bar you have mentioned has been a college bar for the kids with a little more money. I've yet to see anyone mention bars in here with a 25+ crowd of professionals, not that there are more than a handful in raleigh.

If you want to go to a bar to meet people, go on over to Cary, Morrisville or Garner.


That said, try the online thing. eHarmony is COMPLETELY worth what they charge (just wait on the 3 month deal). I've used it off and on for a couple of years, and have never been on a bad date.

[Edited on March 11, 2007 at 10:18 PM. Reason : .]

3/11/2007 10:17:42 PM

Rack 'Em Up West.

near Western on Jones Franklin Road

FTW

3/11/2007 10:35:57 PM

YMCA/GYMS


not to mention if you choose you're housing appropriately you could end up in a good spot
i live in a building with tons of young professionals

3/11/2007 10:42:45 PM

id hate meeting people at gyms, i know when i go to work out, the last thing i want to do is chat up some girl. and I'd like to be with a girl of the same mindset.

and it's your, not your're

3/11/2007 11:03:34 PM

met mine through a female coworker. before that it was my counselor at treatment (bad idea)

[Edited on March 11, 2007 at 11:09 PM. Reason : /]

3/11/2007 11:09:43 PM

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"The place i go to the most is Sullivans."

haha, i work there. it's a yuppie crowd a lot of nights, late 20's and what not. heh.

3/11/2007 11:17:42 PM

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""It's Just Lunch?!?" I hear that shit costs $$$Texas"

yah it does. But i know some people that are very happy with it

3/11/2007 11:21:14 PM

I'm trying to do the whole "meet new ladies post-college" thing right now.

Maybe I'm just lamer in my old age, but it's sure as hell harder as a "young professional" than it was as a student. With classes, tailgates, and enormous amounts of alcohol, it's impossible not to meet date-able girls in school. Now I'm working nights at a TV news station, meaning I get the added bonus of trying to have a social life with a 1am-9am work schedule (including weekends ... be jealous)

A question ... you people who say to try out bookstores and grocery stores: How do you even approach that situation? The only thing I can see working is something like "hey, I see you're buying frosted flakes. I like frosted flakes. We should have sex ...."


Seriously though, how does that work?

[Edited on March 12, 2007 at 12:03 AM. Reason : ]

3/12/2007 12:02:04 AM

SET EM UP

3/12/2007 12:14:52 AM