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"i think you should have some respect for your surroundings and make good judgement calls on when and where its acceptable. if you were in a crowded restaurant i would expect you to respect the facility, other patrons and guests at the table and not breastfeed at the table but take the baby somewhere a little more private."

What is this "respect" you are talking about? Why don't the surroundings respect a woman's right to cultivate the next generation?

This country has been overrun by uptight, in need of something to whine about liberals. If you're offended DON'T FUCKING STARE AT IT LIKE IT IS A TRAIN WRECK.

Life is way too fragile and short to be concerned with some bullshit like this. It isn't like they are fucking at the table beside you, dripping cum juices on your salad, and giving your coffee some extra cream.

6/8/2007 1:03:26 PM

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"As long as your covered up, whats the big deal? I don't see how its any worse than hoochies runnin around with their ass and tits hangin out!"

well a lot of nice restaurants have dress codes. Even if trailor trash mary lou had the money to go to a nice restaurant with her ass coming out of her skirt I am sure the Maitre'D or manager would ask her to put more clothes on or leave. McDonalds is one thing but a nice place like 619 downtown or the Melting Pot is a different story. It is called table etiquette.

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"This country has been overrun by uptight, in need of something to whine about liberals christians. If you're offended DON'T FUCKING STARE AT IT LIKE IT IS A TRAIN WRECK."

you are an idiot. Most likely it is the Christian Conservatives that would be bitching about this. My economic views are more conservative. But my personal liberty views are very liberal as far as what people have the right to do. I am completely against the "uptight" prohibitive attitude a lot of people in this country have about sex, drugs, etc. Yet i do not think it is good etiqutte or manners for a woman at a nice restaurnt to be breast-feeding



[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 1:10 PM. Reason : d]

6/8/2007 1:04:57 PM

I use the lounge rooms (like the one at Southpoint) when they are available. However, at most restaurants, they are not available. I absolutely hate taking my child to the restroom to feed her. Not only is in uncomfortable, but it's also gross to have to take your kid to the room where people put their urine and feces so that they can eat. For everyone who said to bring a bottle--I don't usually give her bottles and she really hates it when I do. I might as well not feed her as to give her a bottle. She usually wont take it and winds up screaming. I occasionally do pump, but I can't do it very much (without going into detail, let's just say it hurts if you do it too much). Even if I did pump, we go back to the whole bottle issue.

6/8/2007 1:24:31 PM

if there's no other place to go then do it where you are. it's legal. when you can, go where there are less people.

[/thread]

6/8/2007 1:33:03 PM

i'm with nastoute on this one: it might be natural, but so is passing gas and masturbation

6/8/2007 1:42:33 PM

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"Is it wrong of me to feed my daughter in public places?"

No it's not. It's not indecent or immodest either. Your daughter has every bit as much a right to eat in front of everyone as anyone else. Seeing a fat slob gobble down their Big Mac disgusts me (and you can't make the argument that that is exactly natural), maybe they should have to go sit in the bathroom stall and eat their hamburger.

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"Would you be offended?"

No. Any guy that says he is is full of shit because you know if it was a girl flashing her tits girls-gone-wild style they wouldn't have a problem.

America is fucked up. It's ok for a 16 year old to try and show cleavage, but if a mother wants to feed her child it's disgusting? Grow up.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 1:46 PM. Reason : .]

6/8/2007 1:46:05 PM

I have no problem as far as the topic goes, "Breastfeeding in public places". It doesn't offend me; it's a natural thing.

With that said, I don't know how I would react if it happened at a nice, sit-down restaurant. I wouldn't be offended, but might feel a little uncomfortable. It's almost too "real", seeing a baby sucking away while I'm eating. Of course, it's 100x better than having the baby cry, and it's easy just to look away. And I can't expect the mother to squeeze into a bathroom stall to do it. I'd just rather the baby not be in the restaurant at all if I'm there

6/8/2007 2:10:39 PM

breastfeeding>>>>>>>>>>baby crying in restaurant

6/8/2007 2:20:46 PM

^ iftfw

People get offended about too much stuff.

TTC, your father-in-law is a jackass.

6/8/2007 2:22:52 PM

I'm suprised there are so many girls in this thread talking as if they will breastfeed if/when they have kids.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 2:30 PM. Reason : ]

6/8/2007 2:30:09 PM

http://thesuperficial.com/2007/06/maggie_gyllenhaal_breast_feeds.php

6/8/2007 2:34:53 PM

TheTabbyCat why do you just not feed your baby before or after you leave the restaurant?? Feed your kid in public if you want but please do not if you are in my line of sight at a nice restaurant paying $20 for a meal.

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"People get offended about too much stuff."

it is not about getting offended it is about fucking manners.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 2:37 PM. Reason : l]

6/8/2007 2:36:12 PM

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"TheTabbyCat why do you just not feed your baby before or after you leave the restaurant?? "

I'll take a shot in the dark and guess that you don't have kids.

6/8/2007 2:39:04 PM

Clearly, this issue requires legislation.

6/8/2007 2:40:41 PM

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"This is a non-discussion. You shouldn't fucking take a baby to a restaurant. Your infant/howler monkey should be kept at home until you've taught it to behave like a human being in public."

6/8/2007 2:44:54 PM

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"I'll take a shot in the dark and guess that you don't have kids."

you are right i do not. i just do not understand that in the 24 hours of the day why wait to the small window of time when everyone is sitting down during a formal dinner to whip out the jugs to start feeding lil johnny.

6/8/2007 2:46:08 PM

I've woken up in a plane and found a little kid peering at me from between the seats in front of me. After making a few faces and laughing with him, I readjusted my posture and noticed a titty in his mouth. True story.

6/8/2007 2:46:36 PM

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"14-190.9. Indecent exposure. (b) Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a woman may breast feed in any public or private location where she is otherwise authorized to be, irrespective of whether the nipple of the mother's breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breast feeding. "

6/8/2007 2:46:39 PM

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"TheTabbyCat why do you just not feed your baby before or after you leave the restaurant??"

I do. However, sometimes she wants to feed more often than other times. Any woman who breastfeeds can tell you that the times that an infant wants to breastfeed varies. Sometimes she will go 5 hours and not want to breastfeed. However, sometimes she wants to feed at 30 minute intervals for a while. It depends on if she is hitting a growth spurt, etc.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 2:49 PM. Reason : asf]

6/8/2007 2:49:04 PM

OMG I CANT LOOK AWAY CAUSE I KNOW THERES A TITTY UNDER THAT BLANKET. MY FUCKING ROMANTIC MELTING POT DINNER IS RUINED BECAUSE OF THAT TITTY UNDER THAT BLANKET.

6/8/2007 2:50:55 PM

It doesn't bother me at all. Hey, the kid's not going to be screaming with a titty popped in his or her mouth, am I right? Thus, I can enjoy my meal in peace.

6/8/2007 2:58:45 PM

How can so many people be offended by something most of us have done in our (early) lives?

6/8/2007 2:59:18 PM

Hey I just thought of another place you can go - your car!

6/8/2007 3:06:56 PM

don't be mean just because no dude will ever put it in you without being triple-wrapped

6/8/2007 3:09:15 PM

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"at a nice restaurant paying $20 for a meal."

Oh, well there is your problem you bottom feeder.

6/8/2007 3:10:00 PM

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"How can so many people be offended by something most of us have done in our (early) lives? "

it doesnt offend me but i still dont want to see it when im trying to eat

have you seen a womans nipple while breastfeeding.....

6/8/2007 3:11:27 PM

pussy

6/8/2007 3:12:35 PM

I've seen worse things on this site and still looked

6/8/2007 3:13:31 PM

there are far more disgusting things at most restaurants than a breastfeeding woman


like fat people.


you people need to grow the fuck up.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 3:16 PM. Reason : adsg]

6/8/2007 3:15:21 PM

As long as she dostn mind me watching, i got no problem with her doing.

6/8/2007 3:22:15 PM

I think dad overreacted but he probably reflects his generation's attitudes.

6/8/2007 3:23:34 PM

i have nothing wrong with breastfeeding in public, but i will say that if i had a choice, i would rather not watch someone breastfeed while im eating.

that being said, i would just ignore the situation if it did arise.

6/8/2007 3:38:18 PM

hahah, blind hate calling me a pussy b/c i dont want to see some nasty wrinkled up udder while im trying to enjoy my nice meal


good job fag

6/8/2007 3:53:24 PM

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"This is a non-discussion. You shouldn't fucking take a baby to a restaurant. Your infant/howler monkey should be kept at home until you've taught it to behave like a human being in public."

A nice restaurant - yes
chucky cheese or some shit such as that - no


[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 4:07 PM. Reason : oy]

6/8/2007 4:06:31 PM

You people against breastfeeding in public are morons. It's how a baby eats. Do you want to keep a baby from eating? Don't say that they should pump and use a bottle until you see what a pain in the ass that is for a mother to go through. Besides, how would you like it if I told you that you could eat all of your favorite food you wanted, but you had to suck it through a coffee straw?

How about if you don't want to see a baby eating, you leave the area. The mother and baby obviously aren't uncomfortable, it's your ignorant social stigma that is making you feel feel that way.

Some people in this thread should never have or be allowed near children, I can't believe some of you people are in college or are graduates. Many of you act like parents are idiots and are going to take their kid to fucking Melting Pot or something. No parents I know would do that, they would get a sitter or just not go. I'm not saying there aren't people out there who wouldn't take their kid to a nice restaurant, but in my experience those people also don't have the sense to breastfeed their baby either.

Quote :

"America is fucked up. It's ok for a 16 year old to try and show cleavage, but if a mother wants to feed her child it's disgusting? Grow up."

/thread

6/8/2007 4:22:13 PM

the human body is not indecent

nudity shouldn't even be considered indecent

breastfeeding CERTAINLY is not indecent

does anyone understand how important it is for the bond between a mother and child to be formed through breastfeeding? I don't even like the fact that some women bottle feed their babies, unless they simply can't breastfeed.

"it hurts! they bite! nyah nyah nyah!"

You had a kid. Deal with it and feed the little bastard.

The continuum concept ftw.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 4:41 PM. Reason : j]

6/8/2007 4:38:06 PM

Quote :

"MY FUCKING ROMANTIC MELTING POT DINNER IS RUINED BECAUSE OF THAT TITTY UNDER THAT BLANKET."

6/8/2007 5:02:17 PM

Quote :

" It's how a baby eats"

i was never breast fed, fyi

not all babies are so that point is moot

6/8/2007 5:24:10 PM

Now we know why you're a pussy that is bothered by a mother breast feeding.

6/8/2007 5:26:42 PM

Don't turn this into a formula vs breast milk debate, because that it is not. Plus I think that there is more than ample evidence out there to prove that baby's should be fed breast milk if at all possible, so any mother who physically can do so should.

6/8/2007 5:26:57 PM

Last time we were out in public, my wife took our son to the restroom and breastfed him there with no problem. SHE gets kinda weirded out by doing that shit in public, and I'm just fine with it like that.

BTW, breastfed babies sometimes don't take to a bottle well, but sometimes they are just fine with it. When my wife works at a restaurant one or two evenings a week, she has a handheld pump that she gets some food with, and the baby eats it up like a champ. If we have plans to go somewhere that it may take longer than 2 hours (his usual eating interval) then she will pump in advance, or if thats not possible go feed in a bathroom, car, or somewhere private, or just not go. I personally don't care if a woman does it in public if properly covered up, but I kinda like that she doesn't go whipping her breast out in front of people like that to feed. I guess some women don't have the luxury of time to plan, or don't have any issues with modesty.

6/8/2007 5:41:29 PM

Sheesh, what a ridiculous argument.
Breastfeeding baby is ok in public--just don't wipe the baby's ass in public.


Breastfeeding in public >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> wiping baby's ass in public

6/8/2007 5:43:47 PM

Quote :

"This is a non-discussion. You shouldn't fucking take a baby to a restaurant. Your infant/howler monkey should be kept at home until you've taught it to behave like a human being in public. "

Lets see if you would like to sit at home for 6-12 months. Thats what you're asking the mother to do right? Oh I know, they can get a babysitter. And thats true, but it also doubles the cost of going out for the evening as well. So asking the mom to not go out for that length of time is down right stupid.

To those who think you can arrange your schedule to feed the baby right before you eat or right after know nothing about feeding infants. As was stated earlier, their feeding schedules change, as does yours. Have you ever been out and about and whatever you were doing took longer than you anticipated so you decided to go out to eat? Guess what, same thing happens when you have kids too.
I have two kids who were both breast fed. Now we would try our best to be discreet by having her cover up with a blanket as best we could (we wouldn't cover the entire head because it gets quite hot under there) or asking for a corner booth so that not many people could see her. And if we went out to nice restaurants like a Ruth's Chris, then yes, we would get a baby sitter. But if it was a typical restaurant like a Champs, Magianos, or Fridays or something, we wouldn't necessarily get one.
And I also have no problem going off on someone in a restaurant who makes some comment about how my wife should go to the bathroom to feed our child. I've done it on a couple of occasions (wife also gave me great head when we got home because I said something )

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 5:50 PM. Reason : .]

6/8/2007 5:48:38 PM

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE breastfeed your baby whenever she is hungry, in public or otherwise. Cover him if it is more comfortable to you and her, but if I happen to see you breastfeed in front of me please be assured that I would not be offended.

IMO, Breastfeeding is NOT some beautiful moment between mother and child, it's just a moment-- it happens. It's not to be thought of for more than a second by a stranger. If you saw a person at a food court eating chick-fil-a would you even think about it? NO. It's just a child eating, from a breast (OMG it's a TIT!!!!!)

If I was at a restaurant and my waiter or another waiter at the establishment asked a woman(me or a stranger) to leave because she was breastfeeding I would complain to management (if the woman approves of me voicing my opinion on her behalf) and I definitely would not leave much of a tip if it was my own waiter who was rude to her.

If you are offended, here's an idea: Don't look. There are plenty of times something I see grosses me a little-- I just don't look back and avert my attention elsewhere. It's common sense.

Everything Opstand said is perfect.


With all that said: The summer between 3rd and 4th grade I was at the mall with my mom buying new sneakers for school when we ran into my 2nd grade teacher. I hadnt seen her for a long time because she was "sick" for a long part of the past year and hadnt been teaching. When I saw her she was sitting on a display chair breastfeeding her baby. I couldnt understand, why there was a baby on her chest and what she was doing. All I remember was my mom acting very disgusted and shooing me away. My mom never breastfed me or my sister and always said that "she couldnt" Anyways, I kept asking questions about it, even after being yelled at for being "inappropriate" so my parent gave up and I finally learned where babies came from. I can't stand how people think that this is "inappropriate" [/story]

Good luck with your father-in-law, I hope he realizes how much of a dick he's been to you and his own granddaughter.

[Edited on June 8, 2007 at 7:49 PM. Reason : ]

6/8/2007 7:47:36 PM

^ Sounds like your mom is a dick, too.

6/8/2007 7:51:28 PM

You people have GOT to be fucking kidding me. Breast feeding is inappropriate and disgusting? It's no wonder we have some of the most uptight assholes in this country. When I have children, my wife will be more than welcome to breast feed them anytime she pleases. If someone has a problem with it then they can kiss my ass. It's a BREAST! That's WHY women have them. Half of the people in the world have them. Pretty much everyone over the age of 12 has seen them. Hell, I get disgusted when I go out and see slobs stuffing their faces and talking with their mouths full. I guess I have a right to tell those people to get the hell out? You people need to grow up.

6/8/2007 9:02:50 PM

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"It's a BREAST! That's WHY women have them."

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"How about if you don't want to see a baby eating, you leave the area."

I really don't see what the big deal is or why this is "inappropriate" Just ignore them, you don't have to look at them.

6/8/2007 9:11:34 PM

Breast feeding is not offensive to me. But let me warn you... some people out there are pretty perverted. You may draw some unwanted attention from wandering eyes. I remember a few years ago my cousin was breast feeding her baby at a park and some guys came around hootin' and hollerin'. She was pretty embarassed and never breast fed in public ever again.

6/8/2007 9:11:57 PM

That requires immediate ass kicking.

6/8/2007 9:15:56 PM

well if you don't want anyone looking at your boob don't pull it out.

6/8/2007 9:19:18 PM