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1/17/2008 1:31:46 PM

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"dude after only 5 months you are setting the bar WAY too high. "

1/17/2008 1:33:35 PM

please explain why you randomly selected 10 days.


this is the dumbest shit ever too by the way. I bet she secretly thinks you're a huge vagina.

1/17/2008 1:58:46 PM

I'm gonna go with the dudes on this one. Way too early in the relationship and 10 days of gifts, no matter how cheap/handmade is ridiculous. I'm sure she's not that much of an attention whore and if she is...well, that sucks for you. Abandon the idea. Just say instead of the 10 day thing, you are planning something bigger for the day of her birthday that you know she'll like. Then think of something creative and surprise her.

1/17/2008 3:37:57 PM

simp

1/17/2008 3:38:52 PM

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"dude after only 5 months you are setting the bar WAY too high."

1/17/2008 3:45:15 PM

nothing like being quoted when you use the wrong "your*

1/17/2008 4:07:39 PM

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"Just say instead of the 10 day thing, you are planning something bigger for the day of her birthday that you know she'll like. "

ha, it's too late! there's no backing down now. he has to give her more presents than Hanukkah or get kicked out in exchange for someone more submissive.

1/17/2008 4:08:59 PM

lawl this guy is gettin owned

1/17/2008 4:09:22 PM

cat o' nine tails for the ninth day.

1/17/2008 4:12:11 PM

you suck at managing expectations - if this girl expects crap like this then move along or go broke

1/17/2008 4:15:33 PM

dude u=in a bind

1/17/2008 5:16:59 PM

overcompensatingstallion

1/17/2008 5:28:47 PM

Wow.

What a pussy.

1/17/2008 5:32:51 PM

People, this is the lounge. Don't crucify bigstallion for trying to do something nice for his woman. Leave him good feedback or go back to chit chat. Pat, the thought sounds good, how you're going to pull it off, I don't know...Good luck.

1/17/2008 11:14:06 PM

just wow





wow

1/17/2008 11:29:42 PM

i keep hearing the 12 days of christmas when i read through this thread.

1/18/2008 1:14:52 AM

Dollar store FTW.

1/18/2008 1:16:40 AM

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"dude after only 5 months you are setting the bar WAY too high."

maybe chocolate, jelly beans, ice cream, take her to SAMS for samples, I don't know.

1/18/2008 2:39:47 AM

you keep buying her shit


and the others guys will keep bangin it

1/18/2008 3:32:35 AM

^ this is true.



oh.. and i bet youre one of those boyfriends who wash their girls car.


right ? amiright or amiright ?

1/18/2008 6:40:31 AM

putting up with her crap for 10 days should be gift enough.

1/18/2008 2:25:54 PM

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"oh.. and i bet youre one of those boyfriends who wash their girls car. "

i don't really see anything wrong with that. that is something that is actually nice and useful (i mean not all the time but as a surprise or something). i guess it is thoughtful that he wants to do the 10 day thing. but the whole part about her liking when people make a big deal out of her birthday just makes her seem really selfish. i mean...obviously a lot of people like attention on their bdays but the fact that she makes this known to other people?? questionable.

but i agree w/ the other posts if you ARE doing the 10 day thing, make them all really small. i liked the idea posted on the 1st page about getting her something each day that leads up to the birthday date (print out movie tix, dinner reservations, etc)

1/18/2008 3:00:27 PM

so what ever happend with this?

1/18/2008 3:15:14 PM

it's a cool idea, but the fact that you are asking random people that don't know her for gift ideas pretty much takes away from the romantic attempt

1/18/2008 4:39:14 PM

if he's doing stuff like this at 5 months


she's gonna leave him one day


it's sweet and all


but you're putting it on a pedestal

1/18/2008 4:41:49 PM

^ I agree


dude you are setting yourself up for a huge collapse. you are being way too overbearing and she'll expect this shit every year if you happen to make it past a year

1/18/2008 4:56:28 PM

^ exactly. making yourself her bitch for 10 days, especially after only 5 months, is a horrible idea. And you can't go back now.

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"first mistake was telling her what your going to do for her."

makes it worse. it makes it look like you try too hard.

1/18/2008 4:57:22 PM

I love all the posts that act like he's a pussy for doing this, and even more so for doing it after only 5 months. If he wants to show affection and she enjoys it, let him. There's no limit on what you can do and when. And as for setting the bar high, the simple thing is that if you don't want to do things to impress your significant other, you shouldn't be with them. Not for a year, not for a month, not for another hour. If you do stuff because it is "expected", and not because you want to, you need to get out of that relationship. The things that I have planned that have been really special in the past were because I wanted to make a girl happy, because I ACTUALLY ENJOYED HER BEING HAPPY.

And when I stopped wanting to do nice things for her, that's when we should split up.

[Edited on January 18, 2008 at 5:07 PM. Reason : d]

1/18/2008 5:06:37 PM

dude it is just too much for 5mos

1/18/2008 5:13:47 PM

you definitely shouldn't have told her!

but, make it something small - would she be ok with candy?

it might be cute to get her a different candy bar or something each day that you can tie to her. Like give her an almond joy and ask if she feels like a nut.

Or maybe do something nice like a dinner and give her a different clue on an index card to see if she can guess where you're going for 10 days. That would be awesome, cheap, and build up the anticipation yo.

1/18/2008 5:18:40 PM

i asked girls at my office and they even said it is way overbearing and way too much

[Edited on January 18, 2008 at 5:19 PM. Reason : .]

1/18/2008 5:19:16 PM

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"she likes when people make a big deal about her birthday"

that really irritates the shit out of me... screams attention whore.

HOWEVER!
i think it is a very sweet idea.. a little much perhaps, but you know her better than we do
I don't think you're a puss or a huge weeping vagina for wanting to do all this (don't listen to all the BS), but just make sure she appreciates this kinda thing. I hope she is as good to you as you are to her :/

1/18/2008 5:37:39 PM

give her an orgasm

1/19/2008 11:22:19 AM

^winner

1/19/2008 1:15:02 PM

update?

1/23/2008 9:02:27 PM

hes hiding in shame

1/23/2008 9:09:23 PM

K

Grats

You've committed yourself.

The only way you can pull this off without being financially endowed is by making the gifts original and memorable. How you do that depends on how well you know your girlfriend.

This could be either awesome or completely lame and she'll laugh at you with her friends.

1/23/2008 10:07:47 PM

This reminds me of something this guy did in high school (NOT ME). He gave a girl a rose for every class period. He was clever about it. Sometimes the teacher would do the giving, sometimes other students. Anyway, it worked in the short term. They didn't last long though...too much, too soon...

1/23/2008 10:35:18 PM

Is it possible the relationship ended because of something else and it had absolutely nothing to do with the fact he got her 10 roses?

1/23/2008 10:57:00 PM

It's possible. However, the stir that this caused in our school made this dude seem like god's gift to women. So, when he did make a mistake, it made for one terrible contrast.

You are right, but, in my opinion, this absolutely contributed to their breakup.

1/23/2008 11:02:08 PM

On the other hand, most high school relationships are more like fruit flies than elephants in terms of their life span.

1/24/2008 4:24:32 AM

see what do you do next year though, 20 days?

you had a great idea but planned to employit too early

10 days of a birthday is something you should pull out a couple years down the road after being together for a while.

At this point in your relationship anything should be relatively impressive to her. You need to save the really romantic stuff for later in the relationship. If you don't she will end up fucking some other dude, i know from experience......

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 4:33 AM. Reason : fuck infidelity ]

1/24/2008 4:32:07 AM

Just get married and live happily ever after.

1/24/2008 12:00:38 PM

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"she will end up fucking some other dude"

1/24/2008 9:13:13 PM

go buy a sheet of posterboard and write a riddle on it about what the actual date/present is. She has to figure it out to be able to recieve the gift. Write in big letters and then use a razor blade to cut it into 10 jigsaw pieces so she cant possibly figure it out without all 10, or 20 or whatever your number turns out to be next week when she wants more. Give her each piece in a normal clothes box with a ribbon, dont even have to wrap it. And also do the cookies or the laundry or some shit just as a free present for each day.

After saying all that I do side with the guys because I have done shit like this, scavanger hunts and what not. You do have to one up yourself everytime.

1/24/2008 9:33:17 PM

well, i made an advent calendar type thing for my boyfriend once. he likes to fish so i used a tacke box with compartments in it for each day. I put little momentos and a note in for each day. one day i put in my varsity pin and told him i was glad he came to watch my games. another day i put in my prom earrings and told him i had a great time there etc. i guess you could give her the container on the first day with the first thing, and then put in the momentos each day. some things i bought, others i had already and they reminded me of our times together.

we were dating for a year though, so i would say trying to do this for her birthday at 5 months into it is a bit much. good luck with it though. youre great for even attempting to do do something like this.

1/24/2008 9:43:15 PM

congrats on first post

1/24/2008 9:59:31 PM

^^hey girl


on a side note, i want this guy to come back here and give us all an update, i mean how could this of ended well?

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 11:32 PM. Reason : dsf]

1/24/2008 11:31:28 PM

^^^wow that sounds like a completely shitty gift

1/25/2008 8:38:52 AM