"i love your haircut!"
"damn, i didn't know you were so cute these days, xoxo"

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12/7/2008 3:41:49 PM

haha you guys are paranoid

12/7/2008 3:42:49 PM

^^hahaha

yea that might be crossing the line

no way!!! you don't think it is weird, if you were dating a girl right now (are you?) to be keeping in touch with all your ex-gfs.

that would be weird

[Edited on December 7, 2008 at 3:43 PM. Reason : .]

12/7/2008 3:42:50 PM

khcadwal gets it.

12/7/2008 3:43:03 PM

haha, true. I can go to lunch without having sex. Yes, I am capable of that.
But out of respect to my girlfriend, why would I purposefully meet up with someone that wanted to suckle my junk?

12/7/2008 3:43:21 PM

exactly, its not about you, its about whether or not it would be the same if your current gf/bf was there.
i heard cddweller gives fantastic blowjobs, so sorry spontaenous if she offered me i'd probably show up.


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12/7/2008 3:44:22 PM

AND like i don't even have a desire to

if an ex called me right now and was like "want to go to lunch" i wouldn't just say no out of respect for my bf. i'd do it out of respect for myself AND because i don't have an interest in going. like why would i? we are done and done buddy, done and done.

12/7/2008 3:45:57 PM

yes i am dating someone right now

and yes i do hear from ex's sometimes

i mean i dont go out of my way to keep in touch with them but i do

and if she wanted to go to lunch with an ex i wouldnt mind because were both adults and i trust her

yes there are lines, i would not be ok with "can i go out drinking for the night with my ex?", but i think for the most part you guys are just paranoid or unsure of your relationship

12/7/2008 3:47:07 PM

I would also like to add that my current girlfriend hates me fucking guts

12/7/2008 3:47:59 PM

If you don't hate your EXS then you are an EMO fag.

/thread

12/7/2008 3:48:16 PM

jesus christ, the other day i got these texts

"whats up"
"hey its sarah"
"whats up"


i'm just like jesus fucking christ i know who it is i'm not trying to talk to you

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12/7/2008 3:49:13 PM

noooo i just have no desire to go out with an ex. i'm not talking about if my boyfriend wants to get lunch with someone. i'm talking about if i wanted to. like if i was asked i would say NO because i have 0 desire to play catch up with someone i've dated. WHETHER or not i still care about them. i mean...i get all i need to know from facebook 1) are you still alive. great. 2) what is your job. interesting 3) you went on a vacation. neat. 4) you still look like you. shocking.

i don't get how that is being unsure in a relationship.

[Edited on December 7, 2008 at 3:52 PM. Reason : .]

12/7/2008 3:51:23 PM

no, i agree about the guy's being unsure. I'd consider going to lunch with my ex before i ever let a gf go out with her ex.

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[Edited on December 7, 2008 at 3:54 PM. Reason : fuck dat, i'd beat her ass before she went]

12/7/2008 3:52:28 PM

Again I ask, what is the point? You broke up with that person for a reason.

12/7/2008 3:52:39 PM

ok well i changed the subject

if your bf wanted to meet an ex for lunch would you get mad?

12/7/2008 3:55:01 PM

it would depend on the person

if it was someone he dated for a few months, probably
and if it was someone he dated for longer i'd want to see who it was first

12/7/2008 3:57:14 PM

thats one of the few things i could see myself getting mad about. i'm a pretty easygoing guy but thats a shitty thing to do to someone else regardless of what your intentions are. MY gf's are not to leave my sight.

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12/7/2008 3:57:45 PM

and you began by saying that you thought it was completely absurd for anyone to ever want to have lunch with an ex ever

i'm just saying that while you and some people think like that not everyone does

12/7/2008 3:58:46 PM

When you spend a big chunk of your time with them being a big part of your life it's hard to walk away form it and not care at least a little bit anymore.

12/7/2008 3:58:56 PM

Answer the question Saps.

My woman would never want to have lunch with an ex because her IQ is just over room temp.

12/7/2008 3:59:15 PM

Quote :

"When you spend a big chunk of your time with them being a big part of your life it's hard to walk away form it and not care at least a little bit anymore."

Do you understand what the term "breakup" means?

12/7/2008 4:00:04 PM

i guess i dont actually care about keeping up with them, i rarely put forth the effort to actually do so, usually its them contacting me

im more concerned with the view that if i did want to have lunch with an ex that means i'm automatically am attracted to them, i just think thats paranoid and petty

also im already drinking and playing devils advocate

but ya typically i dont really see the point in having lunch with an ex, its kind of stupid, but at the same time i dont think its something worth being mad about or denying to someone

12/7/2008 4:03:44 PM

So you have no good or logical answer. cool.

12/7/2008 4:04:33 PM

no my answer is both good and logical, apparently you may need cliffs notes

12/7/2008 4:07:29 PM

Of course, you aren't in love with the person anymore or wish to be with them, you just care for their well being.

I guess people are just selfish jackasses that don't give a shit about anybody once they walk out their lives.

12/7/2008 4:08:55 PM

No - it is not. When you break up with someone - you are saying you don;t want said person in your life. have `lunch` or catching up is an extreme contradiction.

12/7/2008 4:10:19 PM

kiwi is probably a 'lets just be friends' kind of girl, and doesn't understand what you're talking about.
on the other hand i've only dated people who were previously my friends, and idk its pretty much impossible for me to go back.

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12/7/2008 4:10:57 PM

lol, troll much?

[Edited on December 7, 2008 at 4:18 PM. Reason : ^^]

12/7/2008 4:11:01 PM

if you read all my posts that isn't what i said
you can care about someone without meeting up with them all the time

it is kinda the same way with friends that you have grown apart from. if you see them or run into them you chit chat and catch up. but you went your separate ways on good terms. you still wish them well and care about them. you can even say like "happy bday" or whatever, but there is a difference between caring and catching up. you can care without seeing the person. or "checking in" with them. just because you don't speak to someone regularly doesn't mean you don't care about their well being.

12/7/2008 4:11:39 PM

maybe for you, but not for everyone else. i may break up with someone because i just dont see myself with them. maybe theyre irresponsible or bad in bed. theres many reasons for a breakup but for me it does not neccessarill mean "i never want to see you again" (although sometimes it does). nothing in life is that black and white.

12/7/2008 4:12:33 PM

Bottom line - once the tongue goes into another persons mouth - you can not be friends.

I guarantee in those childish `lets be friends` relationships, one party is still in love. Ladies, he doesn’t care about your well-being – he just wants to sick his dick in your ass one last time.

12/7/2008 4:13:52 PM

Quote :

"maybe for you, but not for everyone else. i may break up with someone because i just dont see myself with them. maybe theyre irresponsible or bad in bed. theres many reasons for a breakup but for me it does not neccessarill mean "i never want to see you again" (although sometimes it does). nothing in life is that black and white."

So what brand tampons do you use ÉÉ

12/7/2008 4:14:44 PM

this thread kind of makes me want to date Kiwi. But only so I can break up with her, and never talk to her again



I also might add that I'm super awesome. And when a girl and I break up, she loses everything. Kind of an all or nothing type deal. Of course I'm not going to buy you anything, or do other crazy shit that goes along with being in a realationship...but I'm also not going to be any form of social or emotional support to you.

in short....I barely even talk to those hoes

12/7/2008 4:15:30 PM

also i don't think it is 100% mentally healthy to be living in the past either.

12/7/2008 4:16:04 PM

I don't think I'd have lunch with my exes but just making sure they're doing alright or not being afraid to exchange words is another thing. If I liked you enough to date you then I like you enough to be my friend. I couldn't date someone I wouldn't consider a friend first....

Whatever. I'm just a woman

12/7/2008 4:16:56 PM

look, im not saying youre wrong, i used to think the same thing, as you get older you realize that being mad over petty shit like "having lunch with an ex" is stupid

12/7/2008 4:18:25 PM

Actually - when you get older - you realize that the reason you broke up with someone is so you didn;t have to have lunch with said person.

12/7/2008 4:20:38 PM

this thread makes me want to date saps. Only so I can break up with him and have him buy me lunch every once in a while

12/7/2008 4:22:10 PM

Well, if nothing else, this thread certainly illustrates that there are two types of people when it comes to seeing an X. I fall into the khcadwal group, although I understand and respect the saps852 group as well.

What's important is knowing what your present significant other thinks and don't mix.

12/7/2008 4:22:33 PM

All my Exs hate me more then Cancer

12/7/2008 4:23:48 PM

12/7/2008 4:23:56 PM

12/7/2008 4:24:12 PM

12/7/2008 4:24:49 PM

AND THERE'S ALSO THIS FOR ME TOO

Quote :

"All my Exs hate me more then Cancer"

12/7/2008 4:26:57 PM

Quote :

"All my Exs hate me more then Cancer"

hahaha

12/7/2008 5:37:01 PM

for the record

spontaneous > ol' wrinkly bawls

12/7/2008 5:40:24 PM

So I'm like a Division III boyfriend?

12/7/2008 5:45:40 PM

is she back yet?

12/7/2008 5:46:01 PM

she got back
but her vagina smelled of Vick's Vap-o-rub

12/7/2008 5:47:54 PM

Bengay, but close.

12/7/2008 5:49:13 PM