there is some excellent advice being given by the ladies in this thread. I'm going to read it again.

12/8/2009 9:13:36 PM

i agree. NCSUWolfy has been spot on.

12/8/2009 9:14:33 PM

Ok ladies, let's say you agree on a certain price limit. Let's make it $100 cause it is. Me spending $200 won't have the same effect as the above example even if it's still something meaningful or thoughtful?

So basically, are there decreasing marginal returns between these two examples?

Or is it just as awesome and appreciated if I spend more money assuming it's still something thoughtful?

[Edited on December 8, 2009 at 9:34 PM. Reason : still assuming thoughtful/meaningful.]

[Edited on December 8, 2009 at 9:35 PM. Reason : V because we don't think like that. That's why we call you crazy.]

12/8/2009 9:23:15 PM

It really depends on the girl.

If you spend $100 on something I don't really need or want, I will be less impressed than if you spend $20 on something that I think is awesome.

Quote :

"she is probably ok with asheville being the gift to each other, but you will really impress her and win some points if you ignore that and have a gift prepared anyway. even if its small, just make it thoughtful. girls absolutely fucking love when guys do things they dont "have" to do. like preparing a small but thoughtful gift or surprise after you already agreed not to exchange. her getting "mad" at you not having anything for her is not making it a trick or set up, its just that she had this expectation or wish in her head that she hoped you would do and you didnt and she's a little let down by that. you're not in trouble, its just girl logic. so if you really want to impress this chick, use your head and spend $20 or something to surprise her with something sweet. if not, just do nothing and maybe she won't even notice. but i dont think she's going to get mad at you for breaking the agreement"

THIS IS TRUTH

[Edited on December 8, 2009 at 9:30 PM. Reason : why don't guys get this?]

12/8/2009 9:27:04 PM

Quote :

"yeah we're crazy i guarantee, if you give your gf what she needs (be it attention, stupid surprises, back rubs, whatever) then she will reward you 100 fold, doing whatever you want whenever you want and actually enjoy every second of it (be it a blow job or organizing your closet) guys really get blinded by this crazy notion and miss the opportunity to focus in on a few key things their girl needs from their boyfriend that reaps benefits beyond belief for them"

Fucking love this! Feel like forwarding it to all men I know. GG Wolfy!

12/8/2009 9:44:02 PM

i think even with a price limit, if you find things you know your SO will like and it goes over the budget, then it's not a huge deal. but if you buy things over the budget just to buy things and your SO knows they're not relevant or hold any importance she might not get mad but question why you made so many frivolous purchases.

12/8/2009 9:44:25 PM

Exactly, I'd rather give shit I know they will want/like then just spend a certain amount...

12/8/2009 9:47:03 PM

my ex was so much more excited over a $25 gift than he was the expensive watch that i got him the year before....

price doesn't matter

12/8/2009 9:50:13 PM

it's all about the thought. just pay attention to what your SO talks about wanting or needing. you'd be surprised how much they say they want something and then forget to mention it when it comes time for the holidays.

12/8/2009 9:52:44 PM

^ This. Write that shit down in a text document and you'll have a wealth of ideas come holidays and birthdays

12/8/2009 9:56:54 PM

to answer the question about obeying price limits... i think you should stay within the parameters mostly because you don't want to out gift her. girls spend a good amount of time selecting gifts for their dudes and if you blow her away with something obviously way over the limit, she may feel uncomfortable which i dont think you want

save the big wow (if you find a gift like that) for an anniversary or birthday. also, please, even if you're only lukewarm on her gift to you, do not show it. this is like the "do these jeans make my butt look fat" question. you love it, you adore it its amazing and you're going to use it right away. even if you throw it in a drawer later, make sure you're not all "oh, a ______" when you open your gift. she'll feel like shit and you'll only end up spending the next few hours convincing her how much you love it anyway.

so rave over the gift then rip her clothes off and bang, that way you don't have to fake your excitement (if your gift sucks) for long

[Edited on December 8, 2009 at 11:18 PM. Reason : g d]

12/8/2009 11:18:01 PM