People amaze me.

Given a random person out there in internet land that you know has experienced a loss and is emotionally vulnerable, you could either be kind/supportive, choose to ignore the issue in its entirety, or actually go out of your way to post something negative and try to make that person feel worse. I am trying to rationalize what kind of sick fuck would take the third option.

8/24/2010 5:02:03 AM

You're trying to rationalize the internet?

Do you really have nothing better to do?

8/24/2010 9:06:10 AM

one of my bosses, 2nd in command boss really, came up to me immediately after the preacher stopped talking at the graveside ceremony and told me we got shortlisted for a project & i need to come in to put together the presentation for tuesday. WHAT THE FUCK

we're a small firm, 12 people, and she's really like an aunt to me, but damn

exact wrong time and place for that.

8/26/2010 10:44:17 AM

Maybe I'm different, but that wouldn't bother me. I'd like to have something like work to take my mind off a family tragedy. And you said you have a small firm, so maybe this project is extremely important.

8/26/2010 10:53:20 AM

That wouldn't have bothered me, but I'd still acknowledge the fact that she's stupid.
She's the kind of person who only talks about work at lunch too.

8/26/2010 11:07:39 AM

we're highly unlikely to get it. variety of factors. not going to explain it.

if i'm upset, i get very little accomplished at work most of the time. i can't concentrate and my mind is elsewhere. but i'm here. and getting sick possibly. and now they don't want to do a powerpoint and prob don't need me.

i don't think it was appropriate right then.

8/26/2010 11:11:46 AM

yea. i agree that having something to do is often helpful

but TOTALLY the wrong place to bring it up. after the graveside. REALLY? not approp.

8/26/2010 1:41:27 PM

if she had just been trying to distract me or whatever, then "how are your dogs?" or "are you going camping anytime soon?"...something like that would have been fine. not "come do this thing at work"

8/26/2010 2:47:54 PM

sorry for your loss


i've had 3 grandmothers die......it's part of growing up, and life. end the pity party.

8/26/2010 3:10:51 PM

how the hell did you have 3 grandmothers??

and shut the fuck up. if you don't like it, you don't have to read it nor do you have to post in here. this is not chit chat, asswipe.

i'm sorry, i love my grandmother and was close to her. people feel bad when a loved one dies. maybe you're too much of an asshole to care about yours, but i'm not you so i'm gonna feel bad about it.

[Edited on August 26, 2010 at 3:23 PM. Reason : ]

8/26/2010 3:22:11 PM

People just deal in different ways. I was extremely close to my grandfather (was pretty much my dad) and was very sad when he died. But I'm not one to talk about it. Actually, I was living 3 hours away at the time and no one knew about it until one of the teachers let something slip about why I was out of class for the whole week.

I personally kinda get irritated when people are all public about tragedies because I think they're searching for a pity party or the attention, but I never say anything about it, because instead that could just be the way they deal (and it would just be rude). At the same time, that's what close family and friends are for, not message boards.

I'll always offer consolation to someone who is hurt by a family death. But not when they make facebook status updates or T-dub threads about it. If you are craving attention or consolation by random people, then there are plenty others out there to give it to you, but not me.

8/26/2010 3:30:54 PM

this thread was nice before you 2 assholes fucked it up

8/26/2010 3:36:00 PM

Look, I feel sorry for you, I just personally don't see why people go to message boards with this stuff.

But like I said, everyone deals with things differently...I definitely do. Facebook status updates and posting threads on t-dub doesn't work for me...but I guess it does for other people.

Quote :

"how the hell did you have 3 grandmothers??"

Oh...and I had like 4 (parents divorced and remarried at an early age)...and if they all hadn't died early on, I probably could have had like 6 at one time.

We don't all live in a perfect cookie-cutter family...I've got stepbrothers/sisters/moms/dads/grandparents galore.

[Edited on August 26, 2010 at 3:42 PM. Reason : .]

8/26/2010 3:40:32 PM

I think once someone gets college age or older, their grandparent dying isn't really a big deal

Sad, yes. But old people die.

A parent would be a different matter entirely.

8/26/2010 3:52:47 PM

hey, i said i was sorry for your loss

3 grandmothers- mom, dad, biological dad

8/26/2010 4:04:44 PM

sorry

I think losing someone close no matter what your age is hard. This is someone you have known your WHOLE life, and now that has changed, they are not there, and you miss them. I still miss my grandma and it has been years since she passed.

*hugs*

8/26/2010 7:58:14 PM

i'm so sorry. i lost my grandma to cancer in july (on my birthday nonetheless). she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2006, but had a double mastectomy, continued medication, and all seemed well until the end of April this year when we found out it had spread to her lungs, liver, and bones. She did okay until the last couple weeks, but only had to be completely drugged out for the last 2 years. I'm glad it wasn't a drawn out ordeal...I went to see her a couple weeks before she passed and it absolutely broke my heart to see her like that. I had really hoped she'd make it to see me graduate in 2012 since she was my last grandparent and her and my grandfather were a huge part of my life, but i'm glad she didn't suffer that long.

cancer sucks. someone needs to find a cure.

8/26/2010 8:17:13 PM

I'm sorry

I know what you mean about it being a relief in a way. That's how I felt after my grandmother died after a long run with Alzheimer's.

8/27/2010 10:56:52 AM