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"if you even feel tempted to cheat i would consider the possibility that you should not be in that relationship."

I respectfully disagree. I don't think there are too many people out there who haven't been visually enticed by the greener grass on the other side of the fence at some point when in a long term, committed relationship.

And while I don't think you can call it undisputable fact, but I'd swear up and down that I get more flirtatious behavior my way when I'm in a committed relationship, and most men will say the same thing. Every man I know, short of a eunuch (but I don't know any of those), would be tempted to cheat.

It's about maintaining your resolve, keeping the big picture for the long run in your head, sticking by and maintaining some personal values, and NOT giving in to immediate gratification.

1/17/2011 9:19:39 AM

Quote :

"breaking into someone's room and having sex with them under false pretenses is against the law and morally repugnant - that girl is a dangerous rapist and should be punished you don't need to carry the guilt around if your girlfriend had been raped do you think she would have told you that she cheated on you? do you think it would have destroyed your relationship? (it might have - but not for the same reasons, I think)"

I think the problem there is no one is going to look at his situation and think it the same as if a guy broke into a drunk girls room and had sex with her. I mean, it is the exact same situation, but because the gender roles are swapped, the perception for most people is going to be different

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 9:20 AM. Reason : h]

1/17/2011 9:19:50 AM

Quote :

"Yeah that's some fucked up shit. Unless there's something else that you did, that girl flat out raped you and its despicable that your ex saw it as you cheating."

1/17/2011 9:21:13 AM

I think we all need to take a moment of silence here for twoozles, who was been boom boom busset son. It is unfortunate that we have been so nonchalant about this occurence.


Oh, and I agree that what occurred there was fucked up. What's even more fucked up is that if he had taken it to court and she had been drinking too, they would have probably turned it around and claimed he raped her. For some reason the rod is always guilty and the hole is always innocent.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 9:22 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 9:21:22 AM

I have no idea what that means.

1/17/2011 9:21:57 AM

If you've never heard a ghetto person say "BOOM BOOM BUSSET" then you are a sheltered individual.

They mean "busted", but they do not say it like that.

It doesn't actually mean anything in the context of this thread son. It's just random incoherent noise.

1/17/2011 9:23:42 AM

i have never cheated on a girl



but considering how often i get shat on by women, it may be time to start doling out some revenge justice

1/17/2011 9:24:39 AM

Same here my son. Never once cheated son.

Never felt the need to either. I don't think revenge cheating would make me feel any better if someone did cheat on me. I'd just break up with them and move on son. Actually, I might forgive them. It just depends on the situation son.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 9:27 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 9:25:12 AM

yeah, you right


it's a nice thought but i'm just not that shitty of a person

1/17/2011 9:27:15 AM

cheating is wrong no matter how you cut it

1/17/2011 9:30:11 AM

Well, I think rape is definitely an exception son. Even a male getting raped, which we have an example of in this thread. It's fucked up that he was broken up with over that. That girl is a heartless bitch.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 9:31 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 9:30:39 AM

Key to this problem... stay single

1/17/2011 9:31:56 AM

I'm not sure his ex is heartless

maybe he didn't see the incident as rape
so maybe he didn't present it as such

1/17/2011 9:33:40 AM

GOD DAMMIT I SAID HEARTLESS.

1/17/2011 9:34:05 AM

Also, if she couldn't forgive him or move past that incident, maybe she wasn't really ready for or committed to that relationship in the first place.

1/17/2011 9:35:39 AM

I have cheated three times. I started hanging out with a new girl with whom I became close, and when my girlfriend of the time left town the new girl and I went on a date and had sex. I broke up with my girlfriend a few days later and started dating the new girl, but the emotional ties I was sharing with the new girl haunts my conscience more than the actual sex.

Then later in school I dated another girl. She and I were really close, but on two separate occasions I had sex with someone else. These girls knew I had a girlfriend and were just giving away the V with no strings attached, so I took them up on it. It was just gratification for gratifications sake and was not an indication about how I felt about my girlfriend at the time. Honestly, when its just boning for boning sake I see it no worse than going to a strip club and having someone rub breasts in you face.

1/17/2011 9:37:22 AM

being involved in cheating definitely makes it hard to fully trust someone in the future. relationships and love are a twisted twisted game..

1/17/2011 9:58:24 AM

Indeed.

^^^ OR MAYBE SHE WAS JUST HEARTLESS GOD DAMMIT.

I don't commit to anything human, be it friendship, relationship, family or anything else son. Humans are worthless creatures.

1/17/2011 10:00:13 AM

Coming from likely the most worthless one here...

1/17/2011 10:07:51 AM

Quote :

"REALLY AWESOME HANDSHAKE"

1/17/2011 10:08:43 AM

^^ I'd be interested to know why you say that. I mean, what exactly have I done to earn that level of disrespect or are you just jumping on a bandwagon not knowing why? You are a prime example of what I'm talking about, although you have to keep in mind that I wasn't actually being serious about not committing to anything.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 10:09 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 10:09:18 AM

Quote :

"i have never cheated on a girl but considering how often i get shat on by women, it may be time to start doling out some revenge justice"

so by your logic, since you have been hurt in the past, you should therefore go break some other girl's heart to make yourself feel better?

congratulations you've just won yourself 10 douchebag points

I have never cheated on anyone, however I have been cheated on plenty of times. that shit hurts. Why would you ever knowingly inflict that kind of emotional damage on someone who wasn't even the person that hurt you to begin with?

1/17/2011 10:10:03 AM

So many husband ignore and neglect their wives, its easy to see why they are tempted the second a man gives them attn.

1/17/2011 10:10:32 AM

Granted, I dont read most of what you say, but when I do this whole SON business and the way you speak makes me feel dumber just for having read it.

1/17/2011 10:10:35 AM

^^^ In his defense, he immediately admitted that he wouldn't actually do that right after I posted a response to his post. He clarified that he just FELT that way.


^ Right... So, you read my intentionally dumb posts in chit chat and take them seriously. Then you tell me I'm the most worthless person here because of your lack of comprehension. Good job, douchebag. I shouldn't have to repeatedly explain it, but I will. I say "son" because it turns people into assholes. It makes people incredibly crazy, they go absolutely insane over such a minor word. So I use it regularly. It sounds stupid because it IS stupid, that's the entire point of saying it! Do you honestly think I go around totally oblivious to the fact that knife threads and the word son make people angry and crazy? I have the highest IQ on here fool (Besides DDK's). Your IQ is obviously one of the lower ones unfortunately.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 10:16 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 10:10:52 AM

yea i just went back and read that part

my b nick

but seriously don't do that. or i'll cut you

1/17/2011 10:11:38 AM

cheating leads to cheating

blah blah blah

dark side

1/17/2011 10:14:35 AM

I had a similar situation to ncsuallday. Both my room mates had to stop her from going to my room on numerous occasions. Hell one room mate even tried to surpass her with well himself...lol. But I like you ended up having to lock my door as well, but they are really simple to unlock and next thing I know I wake up the next morning and shes in my bed asleep. I immediately knew this was not going to end well. I felt horrible and ended up telling my g/f at the time about it and of course it led to us breaking up. However it came to light that she had been cheating on me so I didnt feel bad about it. The best part to the story is it was her best friend I cheated on her with...BWHAHAHAHA

Score
Me 1
EX who cares

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 10:19 AM. Reason : ]

1/17/2011 10:17:41 AM

I make love to my wife every night, but sometimes I have to urge to sleep with other women as well.

What momma don't know, don't hurt her.

1/17/2011 10:18:00 AM

This would be an interesting thread if SaabTurbo would stop posting in it.

1/17/2011 10:20:11 AM

Most threads would be more interesting if people stopped trying to hijack them for the purpose of post stalking me.

1/17/2011 10:22:57 AM

window shopping should be allowed. you can look but you can't buy.

1/17/2011 10:24:17 AM

I find it hard to believe that all these holier-than-thou women ITT say they are never even tempted to cheat while in a fulfilling relationship.

1/17/2011 10:25:39 AM

They just haven't found the right cock.

1/17/2011 10:26:14 AM

Quote :

"I find it hard to believe that all these holier-than-thou women ITT say they are never even tempted to cheat while in a fulfilling relationship."

WIN

1/17/2011 10:29:59 AM

To be honest, I did sneak a few peeks at Tom Brady last night

1/17/2011 10:31:56 AM

I find it interesting that the same people get cheated on time and time again. To me, that patter indicates that there is something wrong with their behavior that is responsible for this result. Either the type of people they choose to date or something lacking in their personality that entices others to search elsewhere.

1/17/2011 10:33:02 AM

^^ Gross, busset. That's your name from now on son.

BUSSET.


^ Yeah, I don't think I've ever been cheated on son, but who knows son. There is definitely something wrong with me though, I'll be the first to admit that, haha!

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 10:34 AM. Reason : t]

1/17/2011 10:33:14 AM

He's never looked hotter than in his thermal eskimo underwear he rocked yesterday.

1/17/2011 10:33:39 AM

A lot of people just simply lack integrity. It's better to discover that sooner rather than later. Lasting relationships are all about trust, so if you don't trust your SO, you aren't really in a relationship imo. You're just fucking.

1/17/2011 10:40:11 AM

Punchmonk cheated on me with the sign language party in the USA guy

But its ok cus he was hot as fuck

1/17/2011 10:44:55 AM

Quote :

"Yeah that's some fucked up shit. Unless there's something else that you did, that girl flat out raped you and its despicable that your ex saw it as you cheating."

yeah she was pretty uncompromising to say the least.

Quote :

"I'm not sure his ex is heartless maybe he didn't see the incident as rape so maybe he didn't present it as such"

No I mean it was definitely rape, but like somebody else said when a guy cries rape it just isn't taken seriously. Hell, I don't even like referring to it like that but it was and I definitely used the word rape when I described what happened to her. My roommates tried to back me up, all to no avail. Also, the thought of pressing charges never crossed my mind either, I just wanted nothing to do with that girl and just try to forget it happened. This girl was a serious, serious whore bag.

Quote :

"Also, if she couldn't forgive him or move past that incident, maybe she wasn't really ready for or committed to that relationship in the first place."

We were a really strong couple before that point and had been dating for a couple of years, commitment wasn't the issue.

skeeter I feel your pain brother. Glad, it worked out better for you though. The worst part about my situation was that a girl I was totally in love with now will have absolutely nothing to do with me whatsoever. We haven't talked in 4 years and her brother is still one of my best friends.

1/17/2011 11:02:03 AM

sounds like the girl had issues :/

sorry that it turned out that way

1/17/2011 11:04:49 AM

So I'm guessing the girl put the condom on him?

1/17/2011 11:11:43 AM

^Something is telling me that is not the point of the story.

1/17/2011 11:12:54 AM

at least she stayed classy in that regard

1/17/2011 11:13:57 AM

Quote :

"So many husband ignore and neglect their wives, its easy to see why they are tempted the second a man gives them attn."

That's a really sorry excuse.

1/17/2011 11:17:29 AM

Quote :

"So I'm guessing the girl put the condom on him?"

I have no clue about the condom just know there was a wrapper on the floor so the next day.

I may as well tell the rest of the story. So apparently after this girl slept with me my roommates ran a train on her and so obviously knowing this girl was a total slut I went and got tested (negative, btw) and got a girl friend of mine to get Plan B and had my roommate who knew her go meet her and give it to her. The girl ended up handwriting me a letter saying that she wasn't going to take the Plan B and if she was pregnant she was going to keep it and basically said that she realized she was a total whore and was going to try to resolve that with counseling or something. Never heard from her again but my roommate did tell me she never ended up pregnant.

This story seems so contrived but I swear every bit of it is true. Sometimes shit just happens like that is out of your control.

Regardless, don't feel bad for me or anything that's not the point of the story. I ended up enjoying college more as a single guy and I think my ex grew and matured from all of it as well. My only regret is the cheating and the fact that I can't talk to her now even if I wanted to and that I still think we (now more than ever because we've matured immensely) could be a really good couple.

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 11:28 AM. Reason : .]

1/17/2011 11:27:41 AM

About fucking time


re: thread topic

1/17/2011 11:30:24 AM

My favorite hip hop philosopher Phonte Coleman (http://twitter.com/phontigallo) knows the deal on this subject. Women looking to understand a little bit more about men would be wise to read his tweets.

http://twitter.com/phontigallo/status/15319164130435072

1/17/2011 11:36:19 AM