3.5 years and still going (we will end up married, just haven't quite gotten to the formal proposal.)

Quote :

"That can't be right though. You married someone that you started dating when you were 14 and a half?"

Some friends of mine got married on the tenth anniversary of their first date, and were both 25 at the time. Six years later and they're still quite happily together. Marrying your high school sweetheart isn't the right decision for a lot of (most?) people, but for some, it really can work out.

1/31/2011 10:47:11 AM

I've had one at 3.5, another at 2.5, and then a good many few in the 8month area.

1/31/2011 10:47:59 AM

9years 2 months

1/31/2011 10:51:47 AM

Quote :

"Some friends of mine got married on the tenth anniversary of their first date, and were both 25 at the time. Six years later and they're still quite happily together. Marrying your high school sweetheart isn't the right decision for a lot of (most?) people, but for some, it really can work out."

for sure. We got married on our 9th anniversary of dating (which was 2009, at which point I was 25) and I couldn't imagine not being with her. However, I definitely won't say it is for most people. Some people just get lucky and meet someone they completely click with early and then don't grow apart/into different people as they grow up through college etc. That's how it was for us at least.

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 11:16 AM. Reason : post 16999 ]

1/31/2011 10:56:11 AM

we have been dating on and off for 10 years. 5 year sting before we got married.

1/31/2011 11:06:22 AM

2 years 7 months -- way too long for a woman so triflin'

1/31/2011 11:14:35 AM

Current one - 2 years, 7 monthsish

Getting married in October

1/31/2011 11:29:09 AM

A little over four years and counting, and we got married about a year and a half ago.

1/31/2011 11:32:05 AM

Couple years with daughter's mom. Whole time was pretty unpleasant at best, and I never would have had anything approaching that kind of patience had my little girl not been involved.

Other than that, a couple of months.

1/31/2011 12:22:52 PM

5 years
all through high school and a little after

she is still as pretty as when i took her virginity / or she took mine (lol)
we still chat on FB here and there

1/31/2011 12:24:36 PM

four years

1/31/2011 12:26:08 PM

regarding the original question, my answer is "too long"

1/31/2011 12:34:31 PM

5 years(4 of it we were engaged). I should have ended it after 3 but I was afraid for my life.

1/31/2011 2:16:18 PM

Who the fuck dates for 1 year and then stays engaged for 4?

1/31/2011 2:23:21 PM

The situation was verrrry complicated. My parents wouldn't pay for a wedding until I finished school so that's why we were engaged for so long. Plus he was an abusive psycho who told me he would kill me if I left him(and gave me plenty of reason to believe it) so I was scared to death to leave him. Even when I did leave him I was afraid to date anyone else

1/31/2011 2:27:16 PM

Current 4 years, married 2.


Previously... dated a girl for 3 years, dated another girl for 2 years.

1/31/2011 2:31:27 PM

6.5 years. And had a 2 year one, as well...

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 5:32 PM. Reason : neither is still going]

1/31/2011 5:31:57 PM

Let me guess

Diana Taurasi and Brooke Hundley

1/31/2011 5:34:35 PM

lol, I had no idea who the second person was -- well played, sir.

1/31/2011 5:36:10 PM

6 years, married for 3.167 of those years.

Before marriage:

3 years 7 months

1/31/2011 5:37:16 PM

current 4 years, married 2. had 3 year previously

1/31/2011 5:37:35 PM

Was 5.5 years, married 1.5 years to the day. Previous was a little over 3 years.

1/31/2011 5:59:10 PM

I guess around 7 years- not married.

1/31/2011 6:15:38 PM

^ dayum.

9 months. Unofficially for 2 months before it started, but it should've ended 5 months earlier than it did.

1/31/2011 7:12:26 PM

3+ years

1/31/2011 7:15:37 PM

we've been together for almost 4 years. but i got her when she was a puppy so she hasn't had many opportunities to branch out.

1/31/2011 7:19:33 PM

^ hahahahahahaha <3 twoozles

oh and current one...5+ years.

and we're not married

one time last year i almost threw up when someone asked me how long i'd been dating and i thought it was 5 years. but when i counted and realized it was only 4 i felt a lot better.

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 8:00 PM. Reason : .]

1/31/2011 7:55:19 PM

does that now mean that you're nauseated?

1/31/2011 8:09:32 PM

^ i think she was implying that she had an abortion last year...?

1/31/2011 8:15:07 PM

^^ no. i'm too busy to be nauseated at the moment. i think it was also more the i could figure out where a year of my life went feeling, than the LT relationship feeling. i was like 5 years? where is the 1 year i can't remember?! but then i realized it was 4 and felt safe again.

^ and negative.

1/31/2011 8:21:46 PM

Probably a question for a separate thread...

But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened?? I couldn't imagine being with someone that long and not having it work out. I guess what I really mean is...what happened after year 2/3 that you didn't know before then?

1/31/2011 9:18:23 PM

I've been in a couple 3/4+ year relationships that ended.

what happened?

life. people move around. people out grow each other. little pet peeves turn into bigger problems.

1/31/2011 9:20:25 PM

sometimes relationships continue way beyond their expiration date, for many varying reasons. perhaps after the first couple years you just resign yourself to being miserable for the rest of your life, then eventually you realize you don't have to put up with that and you deserve happiness!

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:22 PM. Reason : ]

1/31/2011 9:21:50 PM

I have a name, you don't have to refer to me as a "pet peeve" and mock my small stature

1/31/2011 9:22:03 PM

^4 I was dumped out of nowhere after 2 years 9 months

Then again, we were also very young and it turns out he's a giant asshole so it all worked out for the best.

I feel like for something to happen to the relationship I'm in now, it would probably have to be something very, very major to end things. Like DV, being cheated on, etc.

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:23 PM. Reason : .]

1/31/2011 9:23:04 PM

TroopofEchos used to giggle when I disrobed.

1/31/2011 9:23:16 PM

marriage is one reason relationships continue past their expiration date

perpetual optimist over here

on the OTHER hand marriage gives some people incentive to work on problems harder than they would otherwise, i guess.

what is DV?

also i know someone who was in a relationship, no marriage, for 9 years. and she wasn't young (well THAT young, it didn't start in high school or anything). that shit is crazy. i wonder how many years of that were suck years. like the last 1? the last four? i mean, damn.

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:24 PM. Reason : .]

1/31/2011 9:23:18 PM

domestic violence

PS.... guess what I get to deal with when I graduate? Marriages ending because the people are carriers of recessive disorders, or a similar situation

No joke.

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:26 PM. Reason : .]

1/31/2011 9:25:35 PM

that thing curved so much it was pointing at your butt

1/31/2011 9:26:59 PM

oh yea domestic violence.

damn....your career field is super interesting though. so people end marriages because they won't be able to have healthy children with their spouses? i guess that would be really devastating for some people...to find out that they were either a) infertile/spouse can't procreate or b) have a high chance of having a kid with a genetic disorder

i've said it on here before though i just can't imagine going that apeshit over having my OWN genetic kids. if i really wanted a family, i'd just adopt (or find some other alternative). but i know that everyone is different, blahblahblah now i'm on a huge tangent...

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:31 PM. Reason : .]

1/31/2011 9:29:17 PM

Yup. Apparently people during sessions will be like, "So, if we were with someone else this wouldn't be happening?"

[Edited on January 31, 2011 at 9:31 PM. Reason : aaaaand then some divorce]

1/31/2011 9:30:53 PM

5.5 years

1/31/2011 9:33:18 PM

15 years, married for almost 10
<----another fossil

1/31/2011 9:36:11 PM

Coming up on 8 years pretty soon (2 of them married).

I'm so glad we got married on our dating anniversary so that there is only one date to remember.

1/31/2011 10:03:09 PM

i think we're going on 7 years now

i think

1/31/2011 10:04:34 PM

3 years, 5 months, 19 days

1/31/2011 10:06:04 PM

~5 years

1/31/2011 10:12:09 PM

Quote :

"But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened??"

Most recent relationship, she up and died The relationship before that, I realized I wasn't happy and we couldn't work it out.

1/31/2011 11:11:01 PM

Realized I was really unhappy after a yr of convincing myself I was...kinda...maybe? Then saying ok no, and right before our third yr anniversary I said BYE

1/31/2011 11:35:57 PM

9 months. Unless you combine the two times we dated which would make it about a year.

Fun times.

1/31/2011 11:37:04 PM