^There was thunder in the background at the mountain wedding I was at last weekend. We didn't get rained on though!

6/20/2011 2:06:29 AM

I'm getting married in a week. It's in Napa Valley CA, should be mid 70s by 5:30 when the ceremony starts. It is outdoors.

6/20/2011 2:41:49 AM

I have already decided on a Fall Wedding by the river on my friend's farm. Following the wedding, I am having lots of alcohol, a pig and a cow on the roaster and lots of other amazing southern food. I can't imagine wearing a long dress and sweating my hair and makeup off. This was pretty much my decision and my other was down with that. No cliche beach or summer or whatever...

6/20/2011 8:36:35 AM

As someone who had an outdoor ceremony I totally agree. But we also did it in early May, on the beach, with casual dress code, and the bar was open before the ceremony. I don't think people minded being outdoors

I went to an AWFUL wedding several years ago that was outdoors in August near Greenville with zero shade covering and they started the ceremony 45 minutes late because their officiant was passed out drunk.

6/20/2011 8:48:12 AM

Indoor fall wedding in vegas!!

w00t

6/20/2011 8:53:13 AM

Had an outdoor wedding on Friday at 6pm, over in Chatham County. It was hot, I had to go early, but it was fine. The actual ceremony was quite brief, and it was a lot of fun. The reception was outside as well. I sweated through my suit before the night was over. It was a big NC and Texas-based crowd so I don't think anyone was unfamiliar with heat.

6/20/2011 9:01:04 AM

I almost hate to admit that I agree with B4C... but I too hate outdoor weddings

6/20/2011 9:03:01 AM

We're getting married outside.
On the beach.
In October.
10-15 minute ceremony.
"Beach formal" dress. (I.e. for men, flip flops, khaki pants, button ups without jackets, etc.)



I feel like most will be comfortable with that.

6/20/2011 9:11:28 AM

we had our wedding in October and it was still pretty warm

6/20/2011 9:15:28 AM

Summer outdoor weddings (or receptions) tend to be better done in the evening. Went to my cousin's wedding in Richmond 2 weekends ago--ceremony was indoors, mid-afternoon, and the reception was under a large tent in a garden outside starting at 6. There was also an old house as part of the reception venue but considering all the doors were open at all times I don't even think they had the A/C on. It was a little warm when we got there but drinks helped with that, and it stayed in the 70's once the sun started to set. Some rain did help with that. Groom/groomsmen wore summer suits rather than tuxes, bridesmaids' dresses were not long. But in any case, just don't do it outside in the middle of the day, problem solved.

At Wrightsville a few years ago I saw some folks who were having a mid-day wedding, in August, at a public access point. Double fail--it was blazing hot outside, easily in the 90's, so the guests looked uncomfortable as soon as they got out of their cars, plus parking was a bitch so they had people walking around the parking lot trying to stand in spaces to reserve them for wedding guests. One dude nearly got in a fight with a driver who didn't think you could reserve a space by standing in it (I would agree with that). Looked pretty miserable overall.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 9:28 AM. Reason : k]

6/20/2011 9:26:39 AM

it was ice cold in the church where we got married in late May

6/20/2011 9:33:50 AM

if I had to have a wedding, I would want it in the mountains in october. Mountains >beach

6/20/2011 9:38:20 AM

I got married in October, because fuck summer, and indoors, because fuck nature.

6/20/2011 9:43:58 AM

piddlebug's idea sounds lovely, and if people aren't out for long, you can tell the people who hate the beach to shut it.
Is there going to be a reception outside as well or neh?
And are you gonna do it at sunset or something pretty like that too?

6/20/2011 10:00:50 AM

how about you godless heathens just get married in a church. unless its a tiny chapel, its probably going to have ac.

6/20/2011 10:02:53 AM

when i get married again we're saying "I will" as we plunge towards the ground skydiving. And we expect all the guests to do the same or send in bigger wedding gifts

6/20/2011 10:06:16 AM

They keep the magistrate's office nice and chilly.

6/20/2011 10:07:37 AM

^^^^ reception is indoors, and there is a tiki bar right outside for those who want to hang out there. Also the wedding is at 6:30 pm.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 10:10 AM. Reason : k]

6/20/2011 10:09:41 AM

Quote :

"bar was open before the ceremony"

we did that. best idea ever.


i love the pics coming back and seeing people holding drinks during the ceremony




btw ours was outside. june. 8 pm.
right before a HUGE storm.

it actually felt pretty good.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 10:13 AM. Reason : vnbvcbvc]

6/20/2011 10:12:18 AM

Quote :

"why have we decided that weddings are for summers? spring or late fall is much better for wearing a tux or suit."

We got married early August because we had to sneak it in between semesters (was attending summer sessions at the time). Of course we didn't do it outdoors though. It was either then or December and we didn't feel like waiting.

Better the spring or summer than the fall. Out of all the complaints coming from men over when weddings occur I've got to think "don't do it during college football season" is pretty high on that list... unless you purposely schedule during a bye week.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 10:48 AM. Reason : -]

6/20/2011 10:47:37 AM

i love winter weddings omg.

they are my fav.





but cody and i love summer- specifically summer nights, which is why we had it on a summer night

6/20/2011 10:54:43 AM

Quote :

"kadwackle... I think people love you enough to give up football for a day"

Yeah I don't know

We have a friend that planned their wedding the weekend of an NCSU game (AND MY 30th BIRTHDAY), and our crowd is pretty fucking upset about it. Plus they have like a 4 hour gap between the ceremony and the reception (which is when the game starts). We're thinking about trying to do both. Everyone has season tickets together too


ALSO....yea my frans got married on the beach last October and it was hot and humid as fuck...this was also late in the evening too! Good luck with that

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 11:13 AM. Reason : e]

6/20/2011 11:04:36 AM

Sounds like you could do the ceremony then peace out and go to the game.

6/20/2011 11:11:56 AM

If/when I get married, it will be a Catholic wedding and thus it must be held in a church.

6/20/2011 11:26:41 AM

Quote :

"We have a friend that planned their wedding the weekend of an NCSU game (AND MY 30th BIRTHDAY), and our crowd is pretty fucking upset about it. Plus they have like a 4 hour gap between the ceremony and the reception (which is when the game starts). We're thinking about trying to do both. Everyone has season tickets together too "

ewwww yea that sucks. and the gap between the wedding and the reception also sucks a lot (IMO). because then it really fucks up everyone's day. i think that is just rude. but maybe its just me. i totally would not get married on a home football game day (NCSU). and prob not an away game day either. but if i did (an away game OR if there was some HUGE other game on that day), i would consider a TV if the timing necessitated it.

but it would be classy and there wouldn't be chairs or sound and there would be a tv monitor who controlled when it was turned on and off. but i envisioned it being outside by like a cigar rolling station or something.

I CANT HELP IT. i keep going to weddings and i'm kind of a bitch so i nitpick what i don't like and file away what i do like. WHAT CAN I SAY I GUESS I AM CRAZY.

^ aren't those weddings like unbearably long (no offense). the one i went to was. i don't know if that is the case for all catholic weddings. i am so down with 20 min or less ceremonies. ESP if the weddings are outside.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 11:40 AM. Reason : .]

6/20/2011 11:37:36 AM

Just have the wedding near the football stadium, and after whatever ceremony/reception just go to the game in your tux/dress.

6/20/2011 11:41:40 AM

A Catholic wedding is a whole mass

6/20/2011 11:50:31 AM

Well she fucked up by planning her wedding a year and a half out...she forgot she's Catholic and will have a blessing (not a mass because he's not catholic) and that's in the day. She booked the reception for 6pm and now they can't change it.

I'm so mad just thinking about it.

Maybe it will be a game where they want me to shmooze clients in the Vaughn Towers so I can just stay in my dress and go to the game.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 11:59 AM. Reason : I will have a winter wedding though. It will NOT interfere with football]

6/20/2011 11:58:52 AM

Getting married while tailgating ftw

6/20/2011 12:05:16 PM

hahaha tailgate wedding!!!

i'd also be down with a back yard bbq wedding and then backpacking around asia for my honeymoon

i mean

for realz. i like bbq. i like asia.

(i don't know where football fits into that equation lol)

6/20/2011 12:08:43 PM

seriously kadwackie?

as much as you complain about things around here, I could not see you backpacking around asia...just do a luxury hotel or something

6/20/2011 12:19:27 PM

lol

6/20/2011 12:22:40 PM

hahahaha

oh lawd you don't really know me at all

i've already roughed it in asia once, yo (and when i mean rough i mean toilet = ditch and then you go and get a bucket of water from a PUMP not a faucet and pour it over your peeeee). dying to go back. or to central or south america. backpacking for sure.

luxury hotels aren't really my thing. plus they don't have those in the places i want to go!



[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 12:25 PM. Reason : .]

6/20/2011 12:23:16 PM

all i know is that if i ever invite any of you people to an "engagement party cookout" you better show up...


cause it's really going to be a wedding...


people will be more likely to show up for a party than a wedding


(this all hinges on me actually getting a bf in the future)

6/20/2011 12:26:09 PM

you know whats even worse than a too-hot outdoor wedding?



a god damn dry wedding!

6/20/2011 12:31:52 PM

I have already thought about getting married in the Vaughn Towers (or on the field with reception in the towers) in the spring time...apparently a lot of people do it. And hire 2 students to run around and be Mr. and Mrs. Wuf for the day. I would love to take wedding pics with them lol.

6/20/2011 12:33:48 PM

yeah it's a pretty popular spot to get married

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 12:35 PM. Reason : oh I forgot to add gay to that]

6/20/2011 12:34:48 PM

Personally I agree it's rude or at the very least inconsiderate to have a large time gap between ceremony and reception. I also think it's pretty crappy to have the two more than a thirty minute drive apart.

6/20/2011 12:50:41 PM

^^its gay to get married on the field/at the towers?

Quote :

"i've already roughed it in asia once, yo (and when i mean rough i mean toilet = ditch and then you go and get a bucket of water from a PUMP not a faucet and pour it over your peeeee). dying to go back. or to central or south america. backpacking for sure."

This is why the khcadwal character perplexes me.

6/20/2011 12:55:09 PM

changed my mind! for my honeymoon i'm going to the CABOODLE RANCH!

http://www.caboodleranch.com/

YESSSSSSSSSSSSS.

6/20/2011 12:56:58 PM

wolfpack - our photographer once had a bride who had to have like 6 hours between the ceremony and reception


granted, she was narcoleptic and had cataplexy... so I guess I could see why she wanted to rest it up between the two (since they're emotional ya know)

6/20/2011 12:58:10 PM

weird kadwackle is weird.

6/20/2011 12:59:23 PM

city hall is the preferred wedding venue at caboodle ranch

6/20/2011 1:02:36 PM

I went to two weddings this saturday, both were for the same couple. At the first one all the groom's friends/family had to wait outside (which was us) while the bride and all of them were inside. (this was a vietnamese ceremony, 11am)

it was getting so hot and humid, I could feel my hair frizz. We had to parade down the block to the house and then finally we were allowed inside. I made a beeline to the closest floor a/c vent and I straddled that thing for the entire ceremony!

The second ceremony (american, 5:30pm) was outside, facing the Delaware River. It was already hot and muggy but now we have the bugs, yay! There were ticks too, double yay! Plus, there were 7 groomsmen and 7 bridesmaids. I knew it was going to be way too long when when each person in the bridal party walked out in single file to the slowest song ever played in a wedding ceremony.


but really, it was a great day



[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 1:06 PM. Reason : ]

6/20/2011 1:02:43 PM

I went to a wedding yesterday that had an Indian ceremony in the morning, four hour break, then American ceremony. I didn't go to the morning stuff since I wasn't feeling well but I heard the four hour break was pretty brutal.

And omg Sam I can't imagine a six hour break!

6/20/2011 1:16:03 PM

Well, apparently the people invited to the ceremony were only immediate family... I'd imagine it was because if she experienced cataplexy and passed out, it would be ok since there was just immediate family around... plus I think it gave her time to rest


That's actually one reason I want a short ceremony - I don't know if I have the energy to do a long one then a long reception. I'll probably take a nap that day, too... well, maybe. Sometimes they make me feel worse.

6/20/2011 1:18:46 PM

Long ceremonies usually are boring anyway. I like short and sweet. I went to a ceremony that had the slowest processional music EVER, a handfasting ceremony, sand ceremony, wine ceremony, flower ceremony, TWO sets of vows... I was like wtf did this woman look up every union ceremony known to man and throw them in?? Bitch ended up being almost an hour long.

6/20/2011 1:26:39 PM

Sonia and I started planning our wedding around the time some friends of ours were finalizing theirs. The bride asked what kind of ceremony we were having. I said I didn't really care as long as we didn't have "anything fucking gay like a sand ceremony."

They had a sand ceremony.

6/20/2011 1:48:41 PM

I just looked up what a sand ceremony is...

wow. Totally won't be doing anything like that.


We're looking small church for wedding, and we've already got our reception pretty much planned out as far as location. Apparently she's picked a dress, but won't tell me about it bc it's a surprise...

We're definitely aiming for a fall or winter wedding. Esp. because someone in either her family or my family is always pregnant.

6/20/2011 2:01:33 PM

^^ lol.

that sounds EXACTLY like something that would happen to me.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 2:02 PM. Reason : seriously i chuckled pretty audibly over here. ]

6/20/2011 2:02:10 PM