page 2 will never break up with you.

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 7:50 AM. Reason : gahhh]

7/18/2011 7:50:35 AM

Since no one reads the last post...

I'm there with you OP. Single little over a week now.

My advice? Busy yourself with your friends, plan for the weekends (or whatever days you might have off) and maybe pick up that hobby you've stopped doing (or want to get in to). Just keepy occupied because sitting and thinking about it will drive you crazy

7/18/2011 7:55:28 AM

Good news is that if she's been blowin dudes left & right while you were still together you no longer have to kiss that blowjob factory she calls a mouth and tell her she's special.

7/18/2011 8:19:44 AM

^^Thanks.

So I guess we're technically "on a break."

^What are you 16? I think we've grown up a little more than that.

7/18/2011 8:52:13 AM

So since you have matured you like tasting my cum?

Continue kissing Becky then.

7/18/2011 9:33:12 AM

Can we get some pics of OP's ex-gf?

7/18/2011 10:20:28 AM

Hobbies dude...

Bury yourself in a hobby.

Honestly every time i've broken up with someone or been dumped i've had a hobby that i really wanted to get back into and then just buried myself in that.

7/18/2011 10:23:31 AM

On a break so there's still hope yet!! I think I just need to grow up and learn to manage my time. I was spending too much time working, working out, and I tried to fill the gap with nice restaurants, travel and other shit.

-work sucks though.

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 10:44 AM. Reason : s]

7/18/2011 10:29:17 AM

Women really don't give a shit about stuff like presents, trips, going out, etc.

They just want your time.

7/18/2011 10:44:50 AM

What about if your boyfriend breaks up with you because he works too much? What do you do then?

7/18/2011 10:56:30 AM

^^very good advice.

^don't know. I was trying to stick through it.

7/18/2011 10:57:40 AM

feels bad man.jpg

7/18/2011 11:10:00 AM

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"What about if your boyfriend breaks up with you because he works too much? What do you do then?"

call him a liar.

7/18/2011 11:16:47 AM

yeah he either means


"you're not sleeping with me enough"

or

"i don't want to sleep with you anymore and i don't want you to be pissed at me so its your fault"

7/18/2011 11:19:07 AM

^^yeah there has to be more involved in that type of situation.

7/18/2011 12:11:36 PM

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"The power in the relationship lies with who cares less."

In Psychology and Sociology, we call this The Principle of Least Interest.

"In any relationship, the person who has the least interest in continuing the relationship (i.e. has the best walk-away strategy) has the greatest power."

This is true in not only relationships, but in negotiations (home buyers for instance), employers (being one of a very large team, and you needing the job more than the boss needs you) and many other cases.

7/18/2011 12:51:05 PM

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"So I guess we're technically "on a break." "

what is this shit, middle school? on a break just means someone didn't want to take a full step to break up.

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 12:59 PM. Reason : /]

7/18/2011 12:59:40 PM

AHA, holy shit, yuffie_chan...some "girls" can work, too!!!

You're giving out advice like it's 1950, and people have money.

7/18/2011 1:03:59 PM

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""In any relationship, the person who has the least interest in continuing the relationship (i.e. has the best walk-away strategy) has the greatest power.""

suddenly it all makes sense

7/18/2011 1:04:57 PM

bunch of cry babies in this thread

7/18/2011 1:05:48 PM

I always thought "on a break" meant someone wants to fuck someone else without feeling guilty or ending the relationship.

7/18/2011 1:09:31 PM

which is prob what she is doing. right now.

7/18/2011 1:10:42 PM

I thought "on a break" was when you still really loved somebody, but you needed to cool off before you murdered them.

7/18/2011 1:11:28 PM

She get some other dick slippery with her cunt quivers without giving up the security of a relationship she is comfortable with.

7/18/2011 1:13:23 PM

lolz itt

7/18/2011 1:21:56 PM

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"I always thought "on a break" meant someone wants to fuck someone else without feeling guilty or ending the relationship."

this

7/18/2011 1:45:59 PM

^ this

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 1:46 PM. Reason : ]

7/18/2011 1:46:37 PM

Thus

7/18/2011 1:47:27 PM

that

7/18/2011 1:48:16 PM

Your only recourse is to date a member of her family.

If you reintroduce yourself in her life as her new step-dad she will have newfound respect for you.

7/18/2011 1:52:26 PM

def don't fall for that "on a break" crap

if she really cared about you, she would want to work things out without taking a break

All this is doing is giving you a false hope, as you have already stated by saying there is still a chance, when she has already checked out of the relationship

7/18/2011 1:53:26 PM

If a female says anything other than yes or no shes bout to take a shit on you. Do yourself a favor and run.

7/18/2011 1:58:14 PM

^^

that's not always true, but i agree with this sentiment 99% of the time

7/18/2011 2:04:40 PM

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"Women really don't give a shit about stuff like presents, trips, going out, etc. They just want your time."

lol so true.

Quote :

"In Psychology and Sociology, we call this The Principle of Least Interest. "In any relationship, the person who has the least interest in continuing the relationship (i.e. has the best walk-away strategy) has the greatest power." This is true in not only relationships, but in negotiations (home buyers for instance), employers (being one of a very large team, and you needing the job more than the boss needs you) and many other cases."

Which then means that bluffing by putting on a pretense of having little interest (or just low enough compared to the other person) can potentially get you what you want. Only problem is the other person is likely doing that too.

Thus leading to the entirety of "games"

7/18/2011 2:04:42 PM

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"What kind of work does she do? I've never understood how people make relationships work when one has an exempt 40 hour a week job and one is, say, in the service industry. Two totally different schedules and lifestyles. "

i've made it work pretty well. Though there was some change on her end to pick up more day shifts and become the opening bartender and only closing twice a week at the most. So we get to spend most of the evenings together. But it can be difficult and also a blessing at times. Friday she closed and I got to spend the entire night playing ps3 and drinking beer. Now I could have done that with her at home, but it just made things that much easier.

The hardest part that i've found in the 40 hour + service industry relationship is the money part. I'm naturally a saver, planner, and budgeter (there is always room for improvement) while she is completely happy with living "paycheck to paycheck", making rent, and not really worrying about savings. This is probably the biggest hurdle i've found so far and it's close to coming to a head with some consequences i feel.

7/18/2011 2:06:28 PM

^^ Or you can just not bluff



and sincerely not give a fuck & then life gets that much better

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 2:07 PM. Reason : ]

7/18/2011 2:06:30 PM

the more fucks one gives the worst one feels

7/18/2011 2:07:43 PM

if you don't give a damn

she don't give a fuck

7/18/2011 2:08:09 PM

Never ever ever reconcile a relationship where the other party initiated a hiatus. No good can come of it. Any progress seen henceforth is no more than a dead cat bounce. Don't fall for it. Move on and move out.

7/18/2011 2:10:20 PM

Getting relationship advice from TWW is like getting grooming advice from a hippy.

7/18/2011 2:23:34 PM

Yeah you're much better off listening to the guy who names himself after a pesticide

7/18/2011 2:28:07 PM

^, ^^ lol.

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"def don't fall for that "on a break" crap if she really cared about you, she would want to work things out without taking a break"

I don't think this is always the case.

7/18/2011 3:12:19 PM

if the problem with your relationship was spending too much time apart, how is spending more time apart by taking a break going to help anything??

Unless the purpose was to take a break until she graduates from school and finds a job with similar hours. But then you are just stuck waiting and hoping that's gonna be what she wants when the time comes...

7/18/2011 3:19:43 PM

+1 for on a break meaning she wants to catch another d without it technically being cheating in her head

7/18/2011 3:21:00 PM

Bumping for pain and suffering.

7/18/2011 4:14:38 PM

This girl I knew suddenly went "back to her boyfriend" and I was like...what? We did all that stuff with your "bf" waiting for you in the sidelines? omg.....poor guy

you'll probably never know it either that she's bwning some dude right now. There is no other reason to take a break. Did you by chance put on weight since working full time?


+1 for pain and suffering ITT

7/18/2011 4:17:36 PM

You guys are like 16 year olds. Why's it always have to be so black and white? Just because we're taking a break doesn't mean she's boning some other dude or everything's completely over. We're both incredibly busy and maybe we need time to think stuff through. This type of thing DOES happen.

Either way I don't really want to have to defend my relationship. I'll keep you guys updated though if we get back together.

7/18/2011 5:30:37 PM

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"Just because we're taking a break doesn't mean she's boning some other dude or everything's completely over."

We're not "being 16" by thinking that. I would say that's a very major reason why lots of people go on "breaks."

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"We're both incredibly busy and maybe we need time to think stuff through."

She had plenty of time to think this through while you were pulling your 70 hours a week. Going on a "break" because you aren't spending a lot of time together doesn't sound right. Don't get your hopes up.

7/18/2011 5:34:52 PM

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"We're not "being 16" by thinking that. I would say that's a very major reason why lots of people go on "breaks." "

I didn't disagree I just wanted to point out this isn't the case ALL the time.

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" She had plenty of time to think this through while you were pulling your 70 hours a week. Going on a "break" because you aren't spending a lot of time together doesn't sound right. Don't get your hopes up."

Again that's not always the case. You guys aren't very optimistic.

7/18/2011 5:40:34 PM

set em up

7/18/2011 5:45:23 PM