mrfrog
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So you know somebody, you can do one, both, or none of these:
- appreciate your friend for their brain
- appreciate your friend for their attractiveness
I have plenty of friends I appreciate for their brain exclusively. These include my male friends and my sisters. If the attractiveness of these people changed, even very significantly, I wouldn't give a flip.
On to women friends who are not genetically related... there are a lot that I appreciate for their brain. Here's the reality
(brain) + (body) = want a relationship
(body) = would sleep with
There is no way to fix that first scenario. The problem is that first scenario implies that the calculus of relationships turns on instantly. You inherently want to know if that person is in a relationship with someone else, and if not, what other romantic objects of interest exist for them.
This applies equally for both men and women. Everyone ITT and most people in generally are distracted by the fact that men make themselves sexually available. It doesn't matter for the relationship calculus, because the market is equally good for both genders, because humans exercise pair-bonding, because we are all selfish and would prefer to horde a good mate (make them unavailable to others) given the opportunity.
I think there are lots of men who waste their time with women who only have the body. If they want to sleep with that woman, she has to adopt the false perception that he is interested in brain+body, unless she willfully disregards social expectations of her. Having an attractive brain is never a downside. It just makes someone pursue the target even more, and probably change the objective to sex+relationship.
People ITT keep trying to argue some weird thinking where a relationship lacking sexual attraction is a positive. It doesn't even make any sense. Yes, you can appreciate someone for their brain while wanting to bone them. That would be a genuine romantic relationship. The idea that lack of sexual attraction is somehow a plus for any interpersonal relationship is completely fucking stupid.
[Edited on May 20, 2012 at 11:08 AM. Reason : ]  5/20/2012 11:05:18 AM
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