no one is advocating beating their children regularly.

but a good spanking now and then - just to show them how badly they screwed up - is harmless. i got 3 or 4 good spankings growing up, and remember each time how much of a little shit i was being.

i always dreaded getting the spankings more than the actual deed.

8/10/2012 6:03:44 PM

^ Yeah you have to beat the shit out of your kids every once in a while, even if they didn't do anything wrong, to make sure they remember who's the fucking boss around them parts.

8/10/2012 6:49:32 PM

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"You clearly are an aggressive person, just not towards people that might be able to put up a fight. You already plan to strike your children. There's not much else to say, except don't have children. "

What makes you qualified to make such a statement? You really come off as a self-righteous douche nozzle who needs to get back to Soap Box. Judging by your general douchiness towards people on here, you were a spoiled brat who needed more ass whoopins to ground you back into reality.

8/10/2012 6:58:49 PM

The fact that he has verbalized some deep-seated desire to physically strike his children makes me qualified to make that statement. There's a common thread in these responses - "my parents spanked me, therefore I'll spank my kids". I'm sure people recall the anger they felt towards their parents when they were spanked; the feeling of defenselessness as a parent took out their frustration. In some primitive way, they want the opportunity to be in the opposite role. They want to be the ones in power. That was my mindset years ago.

This is why using violence against children is dangerous. It has a very destructive effect on someone's mental development. When you instill fear and anger in a child, they will want to take those emotions out on someone else. Maybe it'll be other kids at school. Maybe it'll be their own children 20 years down the line. Who knows. Obviously, it's a sliding sale. Not all kids that get spanked are going to have bad behavior, but there's going to be a big difference between a child that was spanked 4 times in their life and a child that was spanked 100 times in their life. The research shows that the latter child is going to be more likely to engage in criminal activity, more likely to have children as a teenager or outside of a committed monogamous relationship, and in general, more likely to become some sort of social deviant.

My advice is sound, though. If you haven't properly analyzed your own childhood and gained adequate self-knowledge, you're certainly not in a position to raise a child. Of course, that's not going to stop anyone. The people least able to care for children are the most likely to be having them.

[Edited on August 10, 2012 at 7:40 PM. Reason : ]

8/10/2012 7:36:36 PM

^i normally agree with your opinions on tww, but this definitely an exception. you're making some very extreme generalizations. if a child is scared and is carrying anger with them to the point of taking it out on others, that sounds more like constant abuse.

in my post above (which terpball hopelessly tried to troll, bless his heart), i already said i was spanked as a kid...as i'm sure many here were. yes, spankings hurt like hell, but receiving them wasn't scary in the sense you described, nor did it make me angry. i was being punished for doing something i KNEW at that age i shouldn't have done!

you should never hit a child when they don't know better, but i think it is an enormous stretch to say getting a few smacks for playing with matches is going to instill anger, fear, and resentment. i'm not going to try to make up statistics on the subject, but lots of people get spanked growing up and turn out just fine. i don't think there's any question that children being legitimately abused are more likely to act out in the manner you're describing, though.

[Edited on August 10, 2012 at 7:53 PM. Reason : punctuation]

8/10/2012 7:50:50 PM

I always follow the rule my dad told me. "Never beat you kids when you are angry! If you do, you are fighting them and you will always win. However, a well placed smack on the ass at the right time can do wonders.

8/10/2012 8:12:46 PM

Yeah! Show him who's boss!

8/10/2012 8:13:40 PM

I can't wait for my dog to take a shit inside so I can give his butt a good smack

8/10/2012 8:29:21 PM

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"The fact that he has verbalized some deep-seated desire to physically strike his children makes me qualified to make that statement."

Funny...

He never said he had a desire to do it.

So really, you're not qualified to anything more than your misguided opinion. Much like your qualifications to give political advice/views.

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"I'm sure people recall the anger they felt towards their parents when they were spanked; the feeling of defenselessness as a parent took out their frustration."

You sound like a pussy.

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"My advice is sound, though. If you haven't properly analyzed your own childhood and gained adequate self-knowledge, you're certainly not in a position to raise a child."

I'm glad you're not going to have children.

8/10/2012 8:36:58 PM

I think I would also like to beat your child.

8/10/2012 8:41:12 PM

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"He never said he had a desire to do it."

"I don't give a fuck. My kid is gettin that ass whooped if he fucks up."

ib4 the tortured logic

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"You sound like a pussy."

You sound mad, bro. It does takes a lot of courage to beat a child, though.

[Edited on August 10, 2012 at 8:44 PM. Reason : ]

8/10/2012 8:43:22 PM

Tortured logic:

You taking someone expressing the intent to do something as meaning that he desires to do it.

I guess if you redefine the word "desire," your argument might make sense...

8/10/2012 8:45:22 PM

I just might go and beat all of your children!

8/10/2012 8:50:57 PM

if only merbig's parents had smacked him harder

8/10/2012 8:51:28 PM

I liked it. d357r0y3r's cock actually goes back up inside like a turtle's head when he gets spanked.

8/10/2012 8:53:01 PM

as someone who actually has a 7yr old i would like to add:

the key point in spanking is that you cant give warnings. you actually have to spank them LESS often if you do it this way. too many parents start counting out loud or yell at their kid when they misbehave and then the kid stops(of course this will be repeated all day) without the spanking OR they continue and end up spanked. If the child knows they dont get a warning, guess what? they DONT misbehave to begin with.

8/10/2012 8:58:50 PM

Oh I will beat your child.

8/10/2012 9:03:49 PM

^ He's a scout leader for the record.

8/10/2012 9:09:01 PM

I grew up in a family of 3 other boys, one who was 10 years older, one 7 years younger, and the last 10 years younger. They were all my half brothers, so the situation was kinda odd, but one thing that differed about me was I was only ever spanked (OK, I was hit) once, while they were routinely spanked for various things. Why, I can't say for sure - probably partly due to the fact that I was a really good kid, and partly due to the fact that I only lived with my dad for a few months out of the year.

One thing I can say, unequivocally, is that spanking out of anger is one of the worst forms of parenting there is. I have a 2 year old, and the only time I ever spank her is if she is doing something that puts her in danger of hurting herself - messing with a light socket, jumping on the bed, etc etc. It absolutely kills me to put her in any kind of pain, but I do it only when I have to because she refuses to listen to words, and I absolutely cannot have her putting herself in danger. I guess more than anything, I want her to associate trying to put something in a light socket with something very negative.

One thing I will never ever do is spank my children to try to hurt them, or to release aggression. That is what my parents did to my brothers, and it was horrible. I truly believe those are the types of spankings that really degrade a child and lead them to future acts of violence down the road.

8/11/2012 1:20:01 AM

d'awww who could be mad at this

8/11/2012 1:46:50 AM

I really haven't ever gotten mad at her. Truly, when she gets into something she shouldn't, it scares me SO bad that she'll get hurt. She is seriously way way cool.

8/11/2012 2:28:22 AM

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