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12/20/2012 2:26:51 PM

2 nice

12/20/2012 2:27:13 PM

Lol wait.

wait

hold up






Are these like survey questions or written responses?

Why is that a choice? lol

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[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 2:27 PM. Reason : ]

12/20/2012 2:27:14 PM

thanks paerabol

12/20/2012 2:28:22 PM

thanks paerabol

12/20/2012 2:28:50 PM

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 2:32 PM. Reason : s]

12/20/2012 2:32:25 PM

12/20/2012 2:44:26 PM

12/20/2012 2:46:00 PM

The quality of these has declined from passive-aggressive to just passive.

12/20/2012 3:40:46 PM

^^^ yeah dude, it's because of your personality

seriously though. Who would be setting up an online profile and pick that picture? I mean, did he seriously look through all of his pictures and go: "Yep, that's the one. That's the winner. I am sure to get a date with that one."

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 3:48 PM. Reason : a]

12/20/2012 3:46:09 PM

How could you not like that guy he has a sweet tat!

12/20/2012 3:47:53 PM

I don't think it's a friendzone I think it's a they don't want to fuck you bc of your dumb tattoo zone.

12/20/2012 3:49:27 PM

And furthermore, if that's the best picture he has of himself he clearly has more to worry about than his "nice guy" personality.

12/20/2012 3:50:46 PM

Some of them aren't even bad profiles. Not only does this guy lacking the unhealthy attitude toward friend zone, but he's not bad looking. Internet bullying fail.

12/20/2012 3:54:10 PM

if the first thing he thinks girls are noticing about him is his personality then he's ignoring the elephant in the room...

12/20/2012 3:56:38 PM

^ iswydt

12/20/2012 3:57:51 PM

^^^The point is that these dudes need to replace nice with clingy. Being 'nice' is not an attractive skill. Everyone is nice to people they like. Some people are nice to everyone. These guys are not talking about being nice.

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12/20/2012 3:58:43 PM

2nd Point: Sometimes it's okay to not be nice. Sure I open doors, pull out chairs, and tell my GF she is beautiful. But when she acts like a bitch, I tell her she is acting like a bitch.

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:02 PM. Reason : a]

12/20/2012 4:01:23 PM

they dont seem to grasp the disconnect between, listening to their problems, giving them relationship advice, being for them when they need someone....... and dating a girl.

12/20/2012 4:03:07 PM

and they seriously need to stop going after girls that are already attached. You gotta be a good looking dude to pull off that move.

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:05 PM. Reason : a]

12/20/2012 4:04:10 PM

I mean, the point is they aren't being 'nice' because they are nice, they're only doing it because they want something in return (dat booty). That is completely contradictory of saying you're nice.

What does it even mean to be a nice person? To me, that reads as follows: "I don't have a personality or anything interesting to put here" Any normal human being will be relatively nice in interactions until provoked.


^^I don't even think its that. There is a huge difference between saying "I'm a nice guy" and "People often ask me for advice".

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12/20/2012 4:06:16 PM

I'm never nice. to anyone. ever.

12/20/2012 4:09:20 PM

Being a "nice guy" means that I will let you walk all over me until I finally crack and kill you along with your cat and possibly members of your family.

12/20/2012 4:09:45 PM

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[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:14 PM. Reason : i take that back]

12/20/2012 4:12:30 PM

Quote :

"I mean, the point is they aren't being 'nice' because they are nice, they're only doing it because they want something in return (dat booty)."

It's not that they are shallowly looking for sex from these girls they like. They want a relationship. The problem is that they have no idea how to approach a girl and interact in a setting where they are viewed as a potential mate. They step in and play the friend role because that's how they know how to talk to women and then they are mad when they end up pigeon-holed into the friend role.

And then they FINALLY move on to the next girl and... rinse and repeat.

12/20/2012 4:24:48 PM

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"Some of them aren't even bad profiles. Not only does this guy lacking the unhealthy attitude toward friend zone, but he's not bad looking. Internet bullying fail."

A belief in "the friend zone" is unhealthy. Friend zone thinking suggests that if you put in the time, so to speak, a woman should fall in love with you. This is a critical misunderstanding of how attraction generally works. It seems like the safe, risk free approach, and it kind of is - you'll never get rejected if you never make a move. Of course, at the same time, you never actually "get the girl".

You have to be willing to move things forward. Someone that has confidence and is willing to come out and say how they feel is relatively more attractive than someone who is just "nice" but never really takes a risk and goes for it. Confident guys don't get friend zoned. They have friends that are girls, they have girlfriends, they have lovers, and they get flat out rejected from time to time too, but they don't get friend zoned.

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:44 PM. Reason : ]

12/20/2012 4:42:46 PM

Quote :

"Being 'nice' is not an attractive skill. Everyone is nice to people they like. Some people are nice to everyone. These guys are not talking about being nice. "

Being nice is an attractive trait. No body of either gender wants to date someone who seems mean. Sometimes this is based on appearance. Some men/women don't have much luck just because they don't look like nice people.

Plenty of people are not nice to their SO.

Some of these people are using "nice" to refer to a wide variety of other problems. Some aren't. The core of it is that "nice guy" is a social meme that caused guys to write dumb things on their profile, which caused someone else to make a Tumblr about them.

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:46 PM. Reason : a]

12/20/2012 4:44:18 PM

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"Being nice is an attractive trait."

Nope. Being nice is a inoffensive trait. The person working the cash register at Sheetz when I got gas this morning was nice, but they were not attractive.

12/20/2012 4:46:51 PM

What I meant was, being nice is not a skill. In terms of "What are you really good at". These dudes are 'nice' but they are not genuine people. What they are saying is "I have no backbone and I won't express what I want, pls love me"

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12/20/2012 4:47:30 PM

Quote :

"A belief in "the friend zone" is unhealthy. Friend zone thinking suggests that if you put in the time, so to speak, a woman should fall in love with you. This is a critical misunderstanding of how attraction generally works. It seems like the safe, risk free approach, and it kind of is - you'll never get rejected if you never make a move. Of course, at the same time, you never actually "get the girl"."

I thought the friendzone is where you are after you make a move, get rejected, and she says she still wants to be friends.

12/20/2012 4:47:33 PM

Then you were in the friend zone already...

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12/20/2012 4:49:01 PM

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"I thought the friendzone is where you are after you make a move, get rejected, and she says she still wants to be friends."

I would say "friend zone" describes a situation where one person expected or hoped that a relationship would develop into a romantic one, but the other person doesn't feel the same way. You avoid the friend zone by either making a move early and succeeding, or by getting rejected early and moving on.

[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 4:54 PM. Reason : ]

12/20/2012 4:53:51 PM

this conversation is funny.

i think "nice" people are people who are friendly and genuinely care about others, and don't act "nice" for selfish reasons. i think an attractive person is even more attractive if they're genuinely "nice". but most of these dude's aren't "nice", they're just weirdos with victim mentalities.

12/20/2012 4:54:51 PM

The idea behind the "friend zone" is basically Schrödinger's Girl: She might be potentially attracted to you or she might not, and as long as you (the guy) don't screw up, you'll still have a chance; although the obvs. way to clear up the confusion is to ask her out, it's much safer to wait until she "sees the light," and if you take that route, the danger sign that you no longer have a chance is when she sees you as a friend, because chicks are totes nevar evar attracted to guys they're friends with amirite?

tl;dr: the "friend zone" is the mistaken idea that friendship with a woman forever prevents her sexual attraction to a man

12/20/2012 4:55:40 PM

If the guy believed that a woman won't be attracted to someone she's friends with, then why would he make becoming her friend his primary strategy to get a relationship?



[Edited on December 20, 2012 at 5:41 PM. Reason : the parrot]

12/20/2012 5:40:50 PM

Quote :

"I would say "friend zone" describes a situation where one person expected or hoped that a relationship would develop into a romantic one, but the other person doesn't feel the same way."

Not quite. This is how you end up getting friend zoned. The friend zone is when a woman sees you as "just a friend." It's that simple. One gets friend zoned because they spend too much time being a friend and lose the opportunity to be looked at as a romantic target.

12/20/2012 6:50:29 PM

Being nice is basic human decency. You don't get a medal for it.

12/20/2012 6:54:06 PM

Damn the site is gone now. But apparently it'll be back:

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/01/sympathy-for-the-nice-guys-of-okcupid/266929/

1/10/2013 3:37:36 PM

^^

1/10/2013 3:40:53 PM

[Edited on January 10, 2013 at 9:16 PM. Reason : ]

1/10/2013 9:15:57 PM

WTF is milk steak?

1/11/2013 6:02:22 AM

EHE

1/11/2013 9:24:27 AM

That's genius.

1/11/2013 9:38:36 AM