In it is box.

4/10/2013 12:24:20 AM

[Edited on April 10, 2013 at 1:11 AM. Reason : /]

4/10/2013 1:11:21 AM

User history aside, there is no plausible explanation for separation over email

Better luck next time

4/10/2013 4:39:32 PM

I think this was an episode of Grey's Anatomy

4/10/2013 5:49:06 PM

Not that I feel the need to explain myself to any of you, but what makes people think this is all made up? Why in the world would someone go through the trouble?

I know it is strange that I willingly post this stuff here of all places. But I a.) find seeing it written out in words therapeutic (inb4 livejournal, lol), and b.) some of the responses here are actually helpful once in a while and put a welcomed new perspective on things.

4/18/2013 9:56:45 AM

>posts elaborate stories about major life events
>stops short of providing legitimate evidence or detail to substantiate claims
>wonders why he has failed to actually fool anyone


"I have nothing to prove to you... So I'll just fatigue you with persistent vagueness until you finally just believe me"

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4/18/2013 10:04:48 AM

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">stops short of providing legitimate evidence or detail to substantiate claims"

This site quickly proved that this is a terrible idea when I first posted pics. And I know I helped perpetuate that mentality with several situations in other thread topics, so I know the detriment of providing too much personal info.

4/18/2013 10:27:57 AM

When are you going to go away?

I'm Krallum and I approved this message.

4/18/2013 10:29:41 AM

WTF... am I that bad of a user??

4/18/2013 10:30:55 AM

No. You are incredibly mediocre and stale. That is the problem

I'm Krallum and I approved this message.

4/18/2013 10:31:23 AM

My heart and soul is bleeding feels for you, pikey. Feel free to PM me if you have anything you need to discuss, but want to maintain privacy

4/18/2013 10:31:49 AM

thanks EMCE

4/18/2013 10:33:44 AM

omg

4/18/2013 10:34:24 AM

Oh dear. That's really really rough. I'm sorry hon. Even if you couldn't do it in person, in the long run I'm sure you'll each be glad that you made the right decision.
Even if you might have been able to make things work out otherwise, you have a lot of figuring yourself out to do in the meantime.

Also...

Quote :

"Labor Day weekend 2011 Engaged later that winter. Wedding was planned for this Sept."

While I'm glad that you waited a long time to get married (though I do not know your reasons), it gave you the chance to figure out that it wouldn't work out, which a short period of dating prior to engagement did not. (But still, you were planning on getting married two years after you first started dating?) I'm sure you understand how important it is to truly think things through and realize your decisions.

Congrats on your fellowship.

4/18/2013 10:44:41 AM

What? No...

I am the one that got dumped. That email was sent to me. From her. She is the one that got the fellowship and left me. She is the one that wanted to end it. Not me. I never wanted any of this.

4/18/2013 11:14:32 AM

From an outside perspective, whenever someone gets engaged so quickly, it seems like you're trying to "trap" the woman before she figures out that she's out of your league. We know the history here. She knew you weren't "alpha", otherwise you would have made a move before you were already friends for years. Her perception of you didn't match up with the kind of guy she saw herself making a life with.

Whether you changed over the years or not doesn't really matter. Your behavior of constantly bending over backwards for her and treating her like a queen drove her away. Attraction and long-term relationship balance is like a constant game of tug of war. If one party is pulling too strongly and for too long, the other party realizes that they aren't equals. A sort of "equilibrium" should be established if a relationship is going to be sustainable in the long-term.

4/18/2013 11:20:51 AM

4/18/2013 11:21:16 AM

You know that about 90% of the email she sent you was BS. The only truthful parts were the, "don't try to win me back, it's over" parts.

4/18/2013 11:22:28 AM

^^^^^oops

[Edited on April 18, 2013 at 11:23 AM. Reason : .]

4/18/2013 11:22:45 AM

Quote :

"From an outside perspective, whenever someone gets engaged so quickly, it seems like you're trying to "trap" the woman before she figures out that she's out of your league. We know the history here. She knew you weren't "alpha", otherwise you would have made a move before you were already friends for years. Her perception of you didn't match up with the kind of guy she saw herself making a life with. Whether you changed over the years or not doesn't really matter. Your behavior of constantly bending over backwards for her and treating her like a queen drove her away. Attraction and long-term relationship balance is like a constant game of tug of war. If one party is pulling too strongly and for too long, the other party realizes that they aren't equals. A sort of "equilibrium" should be established if a relationship is going to be sustainable in the long-term. "

Blah blah blah.

Boils down to her not liking (loving, in your case) you as much as you loved her. If she truly loved you, she would have stayed and taken the job in Philly.

4/18/2013 11:32:04 AM

aside from the questionable integrity of this whole scenario...

It's hard to enter into a serious relationship with someone who is still in school, especially med school. They are still in the planning stages of their life and need flexibility to move wherever they need to in order to obtain a job or continue their education.

Unless you are flexible enough to drop your life and follow them on their quest (aside from the point in this situation because she was quick enough to just end it), then they are going to need space because there's no way in hell someone is going to invest all of that time and money into a career like that and not follow completely through with their dream.

I do, however, wish you luck in your future endeavours, and please keep up the quality posts on the web of the wolf.

[Edited on April 18, 2013 at 11:41 AM. Reason : .]

4/18/2013 11:40:00 AM

More like 100% of that email wasn't real.

4/18/2013 11:40:38 AM

That sucks man. I feel for you. Seems like the engagement was pretty fast, and it's easy to get your hopes up in situations like that, especially when it's the fairytale-like situation of wooing your best friend who've you liked forever. Unfortunately, it looks like this was a long time coming and she's selfishly crafted her exit strategy. You'll eventually find somebody that returns the love that you give them.

4/18/2013 12:21:18 PM

I'm really sorry about your loss, Pikey. I believe your story. As they say...it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. Learn from this experience and find you another hot girl.

4/18/2013 1:37:19 PM

Revenge is sweet I am sure you have naked pictures of her. Send that shit to her new job and her parents Fuck that cunts shit up.

4/18/2013 2:59:01 PM

I'm not buying it unless he uploads another version of the letter, with some of the stuff unblurred.

4/18/2013 3:22:18 PM

Wowwww I completely read this thread wrong. I'm so sorry. Someone's "I break up over email as well" comment made me think it was aimed at you, not your ex. That... sucks so infinitely bad.
Is the "we both know in our hearts that we can't make this work" comment even remotely accurate, or had there been any indication of that?
breakups suck, and in this sense, it's all the worse. Best wishes on your very long road to recovery.

4/19/2013 9:05:51 PM

Updates, please

11/21/2013 1:20:16 PM

We spoke.

She moved on.

I'm trying to move on too.

I'm okay.

11/21/2013 1:54:23 PM

I'm sure it really does suck, but be thankful that it all happened before the wedding.

11/21/2013 1:58:44 PM

So... are you single?

11/21/2013 2:13:28 PM

this thread pisses me off. they beg and plead for a "good guy" but they're all mostly fucked in this day and age. full of shit excuses and cant be straight up for a million bucks.

11/21/2013 2:17:00 PM

what did you do on your "wedding day"? i hope you got drunk and fucked a fat chick

11/21/2013 2:23:06 PM

It passed uneventfully.

11/21/2013 2:25:05 PM

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"this thread pisses me off."

don't be a bitch

11/21/2013 2:28:57 PM

i wont be a bitch if youll stop being a cunt

11/21/2013 2:37:19 PM

I'm sorry for my incredulity.

12/3/2013 7:47:50 PM

I can say with 75% certainty that that email was real

12/4/2013 12:50:06 AM

*hugs*

How's life now? How was Thanksgiving?

12/4/2013 6:41:17 PM