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"but more than anything she was a slump-buster."

this is probably the biggest motivation for dating down (at least for me). after your slump is cured, the interest slowly dwindles to the point where you don't feel like giving them anymore attention. This paired with seeing more attractive women when you're out with them will result in the full cut-off mode where you just start ignoring their texts until you hope they get the hint because you didn't want to hurt their feelings.

4/22/2013 12:03:01 PM

In moderation, fights aren't necessarily a bad thing. It shows that you still have passion in your relationship and have will power. Plus there are certain things you should fight about (i.e. A career move to another city, inlaws moving in, etc.). If you don't, you just look like a pussy.

4/22/2013 12:04:31 PM

I like how dyne posits that ignoring a woman until she stops trying to contact you is a method of sparing her feelings.

4/22/2013 12:05:14 PM

I'm not saying we wouldn't fight when a situation calls for it, we just very rarely have those situations.

I agree that some things are definitely worth fighting over. But it's the constant bickering over little shit that I don't agree with. Having come from relationships in the past where that constant bickering was the norm, it's very refreshing to be in a relationship where we both have a "who gives a shit" kind of attitude.

4/22/2013 12:09:20 PM

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"jeez Meg with the low self esteem "

i guess it's no surprise then i've mostly dated d-bags

4/22/2013 12:16:46 PM

i don't think i've ever "dated" as a form of slump busting. I've totally shacked up with chicks that are well below my mendoza line just to get off the hump, but I haven't actually put forth effort to "date" any of them to the point they would get the wrong idea. that just sounds terrible.

4/22/2013 12:18:00 PM

also if i were to engage in a slump busting relationship this is how i would approach every single date

4/22/2013 12:23:23 PM

i have been all over the place but i have dated up a few times....i mean, like WAY up...

i haven't really dated down much...

however, most guys i've been in something fairly serious with have been pretty much on my level

4/22/2013 12:37:52 PM

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"I like how dyne posits that ignoring a woman until she stops trying to contact you is a method of sparing her feelings."

my thoughts exactly

4/22/2013 1:12:05 PM

QQ

well unless you are in an official relationship, you have no obligation to have a "break-up" talk.

4/22/2013 1:20:42 PM

if you're dating somebody (whether you're officially a couple or not) I personally think you're obliged to end things in some more personal and explicit way than just dropping off the face of the earth

4/22/2013 1:25:38 PM

Fighting in relationships is interesting. You see couples that bicker all the time, and it's almost like their own way of flirting and they enjoy it which is crazy to me.

I can only remember one fight my wife and I have had since we've been married (3.5 years) and it wasn't even that big and was definitely my fault. Each of us are very opinionated people, so I know for sure that if/when there is something worth fighting about we will, it's just not our normal personalities.

Everyone's different and some people like the "passion" they associate with arguing. Neither of us do and we are both very go-with-the-flow people which works for us.

Also, it can kind of be annoying to hang out with the couples that bicker all the time

4/22/2013 1:27:50 PM

Yeah, it's generally a bad idea to burn bridges, particularly with someone you presumably had sex with.

4/22/2013 1:28:21 PM

I was kinda fortunate my slump-buster and I lived fairly far apart. I don't know if she was just insecure or suspected things were off, but I think I actually had myself convinced I liked her for a bit. But once she began pouring on the drama, I quit that shit with a quickness.

4/22/2013 1:36:02 PM

I misunderstood this question completely.
I'm with Fermat.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 1:52 PM. Reason : .]

4/22/2013 1:37:51 PM

i have tried both, and they break up with me either way

4/22/2013 2:40:26 PM

I've dated down way more times than I've dated up.

4/22/2013 3:13:38 PM

^ hates me

though not relevant to the thread

4/22/2013 3:14:29 PM

no I don't

4/22/2013 3:18:49 PM

awww, you so sweet

I still weigh 150lbs, please dont' kill me.

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 3:32 PM. Reason : ]

4/22/2013 3:32:02 PM

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"you just start ignoring their texts until you hope they get the hint because you didn't want to hurt their feelings"

lol dyne, that's a pretty good way to hurt someone's feelings; FroshKiller and JeffreyBSG have the right idea

4/22/2013 3:58:35 PM

Had a girl do that to me once - I gave up after day 3-4 or some shit.

She started calling/texting after about 2 weeks.

I was not thrilled, but would have still boned her.

She got married a month later

[Edited on April 22, 2013 at 4:12 PM. Reason : YES, I STILL OCCASIONALLY STALK HER FACEBOOK]

4/22/2013 4:09:32 PM

4/23/2013 4:45:32 PM

Prob all the same level. It's impossible to compare one to another.

4/23/2013 6:22:27 PM

I thought this thread said dialed up

[Edited on April 23, 2013 at 7:08 PM. Reason : . ]

4/23/2013 7:06:57 PM

I haven't really dated much.

I've humped up, down, and across.

...but by far mostly up and across. I would never date down.

[Edited on April 23, 2013 at 7:34 PM. Reason : ]

4/23/2013 7:33:29 PM

Most recently, did punchmonk date up?

4/23/2013 7:42:15 PM