Wadhead1 Duke is puke 20897 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "the funny thing is this trip is NOT to Vegas. It's not even anywhere I would consider that wild and crazy. And the other funny thing is the trip isn't until JUNE! and the wedding is in September. She knew we were planning a trip, but she won't let him go because it's not a weekend she had okayed first. I think 5 months is enough lead time to cope " |
With further details, now she's definitely being ridiculous.1/13/2012 9:50:36 AM |
MinkaGrl01
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I say mind your own business. He's an adult and can make his own decisions, obviously he wants to marry her and if it's want he wants then who are you to say anything? Back off and let him make his own mistakes. No one knows the true dynamics going on in a relationship and again it's none of your business, plan a local bachelor party for him. Save the super fun bachelor party for your own or some other bro with bigger balls to stand up his fiance. But don't ever try to get in between someone and their future wife/husband and say they are making a mistake-- this is something they need to do on their own and they will probably be pigheaded and wont listen to you and then you'll be the asshole. 1/13/2012 9:56:03 AM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
either way - the groom is fucked 1/13/2012 10:07:06 AM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
man I'd be pissed if my friends didn't sit my ass down and then let me waste all that money on a wedding for a marriage that isn't gonna last 1/13/2012 10:09:38 AM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
when you're going through the process, you'd hate for your friends to do it to you.
when you've gone through the process, you'd hate to think your friends WOULDN'T do it for you. 1/13/2012 10:12:55 AM |
MinkaGrl01
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^^but we don't know that and neither does the friend. This guy, for all we know, might really like this type of woman.
and this^ I agree] 1/13/2012 10:13:12 AM |
Geppetto All American 2157 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I would never marry someone who on a whim goes to Vegas and possibly get into the types of shenanigans had in sin city but she should know that about him already, right? " |
This to me sounds crazy and as if there are deeper trust issues. Just because someone decides on a whim that they want to go to vegas (even though we now know that isn't the location) doesn't make them a bad person or mean that they're going to have sex with a stripper. Maybe they like to gamble and drink excessively for one time in their life. To use such a strong absolute such as "I would never" sounds like that person doesn't put that much thought into the context or alternatives of a situation.1/13/2012 10:14:09 AM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
nothing wrong with sitting your good friend down to make sure they're making the right decision
nothing wrong with that at all 1/13/2012 10:14:15 AM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
taking confessions to get this thread back to its roots 1/13/2012 10:20:20 AM |
MinkaGrl01
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<------------------------send your confessions to me, obviously after you have sent them to grimx ] 1/13/2012 10:21:29 AM |
pilgrimshoes Suspended 63151 Posts user info edit post |
yall bitches is crazy 1/13/2012 10:25:38 AM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
Do I need to sit you down pussyshoes? 1/13/2012 10:43:58 AM |
pilgrimshoes Suspended 63151 Posts user info edit post |
that ain't me
my vegas bparty is still most definitely a go 1/13/2012 10:44:48 AM |
LunaK LOSER :( 23634 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "With further details, now she's definitely being ridiculous." |
1/13/2012 10:52:16 AM |
eltownse All American 1851 Posts user info edit post |
I am sorry Minka, certain confessions I just can't send to a girl. 1/13/2012 12:17:55 PM |
EMCE balls deep 89771 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Holy shit...I'm in love " |
1/13/2012 11:03:30 PM |
moron All American 34142 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | " Maybe it was a "by the way, the guys called me, and apparently we're going to Vegas Friday, sorry I can't help with all this stuff you wanted me to help with." " |
This is pretty much how it should work if there aren't kids involved.1/13/2012 11:29:58 PM |
theDuke866 All American 52839 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "plan a local bachelor party for him" |
To hell with that; they already planned it and booked it, and they should go do it. If the bachelor doesn't show, then I guess that sucks for him.1/14/2012 12:00:19 AM |
Geppetto All American 2157 Posts user info edit post |
Fuck local. That isn't even a bachelor party. "Hey, lets go to the same bars we've all gone to since undergrad and do the same thing we do every saturday night!" 1/14/2012 12:00:38 PM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
Back to confessions? 1/14/2012 12:06:37 PM |
BigFletch All American 3302 Posts user info edit post |
Haven't had a confession in a while 1/16/2012 12:24:44 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Confess to me, I'm BigFletch 1/19/2012 1:30:23 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Anybody got a late night confession for me? 1/20/2012 11:50:32 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
It's Saturday night and I'm drunk, confess to meeeeee 1/21/2012 8:10:19 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
did you have any luck on these 3 nights in a row? 1/21/2012 10:50:04 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
FUCK NO!! BigFletch used to get lots of confesshawnz but now that I'm freshmonkey I don't get shit. 1/21/2012 10:51:33 PM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
i thought the point of an alias was not to tell who you were an alias for 1/21/2012 10:53:01 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Nah, I got rid of BigFletch on purpose 1/21/2012 10:54:06 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
i had assumed bigfletch was an alias anyway 1/21/2012 11:04:29 PM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
as did i 1/21/2012 11:06:37 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Nope 1/21/2012 11:08:58 PM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Im still in love with my ex and Im not sure I'll get over him " |
sucks 1/21/2012 11:54:35 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I don't care for Scarface. It's a bad movie. " |
I'm not sure why this was a confession but I don't really like Scarface either.1/22/2012 12:48:42 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Who do I have to suck off for a confession around here? 1/22/2012 7:12:14 PM |
LeonIsPro All American 5021 Posts user info edit post |
Confess 1/22/2012 7:15:46 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
^^qntmfred, i think 1/22/2012 7:19:26 PM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
words
Quote : | "Normally I am the type of person who can really maintain their cool and manage their emotions but not today. In Jan 2010 I was due for a promotion when the company I was with merged and left me unemployed. As a result I took a job that was a step backward in my career but at a decent company and decided to work really hard to move up fast.
In November 2011 I was told that all my hard work had paid off and that I was in line for a significant promotion. We were in a hiring freeze so the position wasn't mine immediately but the key duties became my responsibility. In Dec. I had an interview that was described as a formality and was supposed to receive feedback by Dec. 31st. Since November I have worked 7AM - 7PM with no lunch and come in on Saturdays to perform both my current job and the new one to the best of my ability. The quality of my work was noted by all.
Friday I was informed that the position is open but would not be mine because they adjusted the scope of what they expect from that role. Unfortunately, they are still certain tasks that need to be managed for it and I will still be responsible for those tasks and educating the new hire since he is unfamiliar with our business and product line. As a consolation I was told a new role may open up soon and that I am going to be given some of the work for that product line so that I will be a shoe in next time. If I wasn't a shoe in last time why would I be one this time?
When I was given this news I became furious. I masked my anger, laughed and thanked them for the consideration all while I boiled over inside. It feels absolutely futile. Will my efforts ever pay off? I can't just keep switching companies without resume progression, thats a death blow as well. So now I'm resigned to sit and wait, doing my job and two others while some jack-n-office reaps the rewards of my labor and I work like a slave all for the glimmer of upward mobility. " |
i feel like this is a fake but, w/e1/22/2012 8:10:27 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
dude, i would have flipped some tables over or some shit. that's messed up. 1/22/2012 8:19:29 PM |
LeonIsPro All American 5021 Posts user info edit post |
Just stop handling the extra work load and let it fall to someone else. 1/22/2012 8:21:07 PM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
I have been told to reassure you all it was not a fake and said person would like advice 1/23/2012 10:28:42 AM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
this is why you get shit in WRITING
i have learned the hard way about this ... plus, be a man/woman and stand up for yourself. 1/23/2012 10:32:42 AM |
Wadhead1 Duke is puke 20897 Posts user info edit post |
Loyalty to company and loyalty to people have all been thrown out the window, and it's been that way for a long time. My advice to the person would be to immediately start looking around, if they haven't already. Continue to do the job you have, but the moment you have an offer you should put in your two weeks notice. 1/23/2012 10:33:30 AM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "nothing wrong with sitting your good friend down to make sure they're making the right decision
nothing wrong with that at all" |
There's nothing wrong with it, but as someone who recently did this to a friend, I can tell you it doesn't go over well at all. I guess a couple years from now when she's a divorcee she might be able to look back and say, "Well, my friends did try to warn me..."
Quote : | "I have been told to reassure you all it was not a fake and said person would like advice" |
My advice is fuck that company. I watched my father go through this with his company for years and years and years. Finally two years ago he told them to pay up or he was going to take a job with one of their direct competitors. Now he has a pimp ass job that makes more money than I'll probably ever see in my career.
[Edited on January 23, 2012 at 10:54 AM. Reason : a]1/23/2012 10:50:58 AM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
clearly it's not gonna be unicorns and rainbows when you tell your friend you think they're marrying the devil 1/23/2012 10:56:31 AM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
lol true and we full well expected that. But at least I can say I tried. 1/23/2012 10:57:25 AM |
evlbuxmbetty All American 3633 Posts user info edit post |
BACHELOR PARTY POOPER UPDATE:
Quote : | "If you remember, I had the friend who's fiance wouldn't let him go on his own bachelor party. Well we finally won and now he's going. It took some work, but she finally gave in. Now, hopefully, he has a good time and enjoys himself and doesn't spend the entire trip worrying that she's at home mad. " |
1/24/2012 8:56:36 AM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
1/24/2012 8:57:40 AM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
that sounds like something she's going to hold over his head later.
hopefully she doesn't fuck the bartender on a cruise. 1/24/2012 8:59:47 AM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
Even if she did relent and let him go I wouldn't be at all surprised that she brings it up every time they have a fight... 1/24/2012 10:13:00 AM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Confess to me please 1/24/2012 4:50:57 PM |