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yeah, you got me and klaty on your side

thats all you need.

trust.

we be QUICK to put a fool in his place.

ain't that right klaty? remember that d-bag in the tunnel?!?!?!?! baahahahaha. one of my favorite memories seriously. that guy didnt even KNOW who he was messin with!

[Edited on March 23, 2012 at 8:44 AM. Reason : fooly fool]

3/23/2012 8:43:22 AM

betty you cray

3/23/2012 8:44:40 AM

I got a politically charged confession:

Quote :

"With my newly bought bag of skittles and iced tea, I feel threatened by myself. Time to kill myself now I suppose."

call 1-800-273-8255 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline get help!

3/23/2012 8:51:43 AM

I forgot to add to the confession I posted that I find Beethoven to be very helpful, not sure where the confessor got the queen bee idea from, maybe the confessor could send me another pm?

3/23/2012 8:56:05 AM

I'm sure they meant to type DB19

3/23/2012 11:11:19 AM

shit i thought beethoven was a dude

3/23/2012 11:13:24 AM

I know zero t-dubbers IRL.

so, if you need to get something off your chest, i'd be the perfect user. right nyah.

3/23/2012 11:24:58 AM

I appreciate the e-support. That really makes me feel better! I had no idea anyone felt so strongly against me!!

3/23/2012 2:38:48 PM

you should just say fuck the haters

3/23/2012 2:39:48 PM

3/23/2012 2:40:31 PM

^that's how I roll around this place

3/23/2012 2:41:30 PM

the look back over the shoulder gets me every

single

time

3/23/2012 2:52:29 PM

<----'s gonna

3/23/2012 3:18:31 PM

Quote :

"Last time I sent in a confession, I got so much negative feedback in this thread about it. But I'm just so happy I could burst. I'm pregnant. Husband doesn't know yet."

[Edited on March 23, 2012 at 3:21 PM. Reason : ]

3/23/2012 3:20:52 PM

Go tell him! And if it's good news, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

3/23/2012 3:27:11 PM

^^woohoo!! welcome to the club!

3/23/2012 3:38:42 PM

how in the flying fuck can someone have internet beef with Beethoven?

If by "arrogant self-righteous bitch" you mean "a gentle soul with critical thinking skills and a well-mannered personality" then yeah, I agree, she's great!

3/23/2012 3:43:03 PM

3/23/2012 3:43:26 PM

3/23/2012 3:45:20 PM

I have a question:

Quote :

""Last time I sent in a confession, I got so much negative feedback in this thread about it. But I'm just so happy I could burst. I'm pregnant. Husband doesn't know yet.""

Is this the same confessor who confessed they were going to try to get pregnant even though they know their husband does not want to have children???

3/23/2012 4:00:01 PM

oooh i forgot about that post. this could be bad

3/23/2012 4:04:31 PM

I thought that too, hence why I included the caveat with my congrats.

I do hope it's not the same person, and that this baby is something for everyone to celebrate, instead of a potential dispute in a family.

3/23/2012 4:06:08 PM

^^^



[Edited on March 23, 2012 at 4:11 PM. Reason : KI]

3/23/2012 4:10:58 PM

GODDAMNIT I USED TO GET SO MANY CONFESSIONS WHEN I WAS BIGFLETCH AND NOW I DONT GET SHIT!!!

3/24/2012 10:38:18 PM

isn't fletch unsuspendered?

or maybe not

3/24/2012 10:39:59 PM

NO

3/24/2012 10:40:30 PM

Chit Chat sucks, so I know that someone was busy getting up to confession worthy shenanigans.

Confessional is open.

3/25/2012 10:21:08 AM

CONFESSION TIMES

Quote :

"Been married for over a year now. In that time we've had sex twice. 5-6 BJ's (my birthday, anniversary, etc). She is completely uninterested in any intimacy with me (no making out, no flirting, nothing). The no sex thing sucks, but I'm honestly WAY more frustrated that she's just completely will not engage in any way with me romantically. She is going through some major depression right now, which I know has a big impact on libido, but at what point do I just give up on this? She says she loves me, and is still madly in love with me, but I honestly don't know how much longer I can continue."

3/27/2012 9:27:33 AM

I wonder if the confessor just repeated his wedding vowels / was in it for the open bar / free gifts or actually understood what was happening at all on his wedding day.

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 9:32 AM. Reason : d]

3/27/2012 9:30:20 AM

That's a tough situation to be in...especially if it wasn't like that before.

I'd probably be feeling the same way because physical intimacy is HUGE for this girl

3/27/2012 9:38:31 AM

if your spouse is on medication for their depression, you might consider changing the meds or supplementing to help with the libido problems. those meds suck libido right out of everything

sorry confessor, this sucks.

3/27/2012 9:47:15 AM

Yikes that is a rough situation. Lots of times like that you don't even have privacy to wank it. Unfortunately that kind of thing is what leads people to cheat (although I am not in any way implying that the author of that confession would do such a thing).

3/27/2012 9:51:42 AM

Or try and work through the issues that are keeping her from intimacy? Does she need something more from you? Does she need romance and hand holding before you can get back to having sex? Or do you need counseling together? I also suggest reading "The Five Love Languages" together before you give up.

3/27/2012 9:52:12 AM

5^ Either your thought doesn't make any sense or you fail at communicating.

That's a seriously valid marriage issue. It's interesting to wonder if that happened because they tied the knot, due to some mentality change on her part toward the relationship. Obviously there's the the problem of needs not being met, and obviously there's the whole "making her feel blamed about it will make it worse" problem, but both people have to be willing to address issues that are making the other unhappy in the relationship. There's either a shared desire to face difficult issues together or there's not. So... reach out for help from counseling services maybe? As long as she expresses love and commitment, then you have something great. It sounds dumb, but there needs to be open expression that you want to bring passion back in the relationship.

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 9:53 AM. Reason : ]

3/27/2012 9:52:51 AM

Quote :

"repeated his wedding vowels"

3/27/2012 9:53:12 AM

Quote :

"there needs to be open expression that you want to bring passion back in the relationship. "

this. sexual needs/desires are important in a relationship, and imo must be satisfied

3/27/2012 9:55:16 AM

Quote :

"As long as she expresses love and commitment, then you have something great. It sounds dumb, but there needs to be open expression that you want to bring passion back in the relationship."

This, and not in a guilt ridden way either. Don't overwhelm her with getting upset if you don't have sex, or threaten to leave her if she won't sleep with you. I'm not suggesting you would do those things, but don't. Start small, i.e. holding each other on the couch while you watch a movie, or a backrub with no strings attached. Stress, depression, or being overwhelmed in another area of life can cause her to shun intimacy, as it's just another area of her life where she has to let her guard down.

3/27/2012 9:55:43 AM

how about less talking and more... rubbing

3/27/2012 9:55:53 AM

hmmm which twwers got married in the last year or so......? Hmmmmmmmmmm im going to ponder this a bit

3/27/2012 9:56:07 AM

Quote :

"Does she need romance and hand holding before you can get back to having sex? Or do you need counseling together? I also suggest reading "The Five Love Languages" together before you give up."

lolomg the answer every time.

But srsly, this is a good, sappy, idea. Read it together. Some personalities will agree to this, and some won't. If she won't, then she's the type who doesn't hold the same values of "working on things" in a relationship, and... it's a different story.

Although... there's no guarantee that her love tank is empty. What say you Beethoven? Full or empty? If it's full, then the problem is your tank is empty

3/27/2012 9:56:29 AM

Time to go to marriage counseling/therapy/etc.


Also...gging to her for still blowing you on "holidays".

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 9:58 AM. Reason : .]

3/27/2012 9:57:13 AM

another question i have, and its extremely personal and don't blame anyone for not answering this but...

did you EVER have a satisfying sex life? and that would be a question for the depressed one in the relationship.

toughie.

3/27/2012 9:58:28 AM

Quote :

"Although... there's no guarantee that her love tank is empty. What say you Beethoven? Full or empty? If it's full, then the problem is your tank is empty."

Haha, agreed. Although, the book can give you fodder for arguments. "YOU'RE EMPTYING MY LOVE TANK RIGHT NOW."

3/27/2012 9:59:54 AM

My thoughts make complete sense, maybe I could have said it differently or better....

How about this?


"for better or worse"

or

"in sickness and in health"

3/27/2012 10:03:46 AM

Quote :

"Start small, i.e. holding each other on the couch while you watch a movie, or a backrub with no strings attached."

The problem is we don't know what he's tried so far. It's difficult. I would always default to a massage, but this is hubris. You have to identify what works for her. You also have to not suck at the massage, like me.

Obviously there's trips and that sort of thing too. I find it to be the most barren when a massive intentional effort to do a getaway results in no affection at all. This happens, and it means that pushing the gas pedal down further isn't going to get that wagon moving any faster.

We don't know. But given that she still gives bj when she wants to please him indicates that maybe there's something wrong with her lady parts. Sometimes drugs are the answer.

3/27/2012 10:03:49 AM

Quote :

"Haha, agreed. Although, the book can give you fodder for arguments. "YOU'RE EMPTYING MY LOVE TANK RIGHT NOW.""

haha, I think there was something in there about a tactful way of saying this. You would think that would be something I'd remember. Oh, I know, maybe the way to say this is get her to read the book.

3/27/2012 10:05:54 AM

This is a continuation from a previous confession I've received.

Let me scour my inbox (THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID) and see what I can find

3/27/2012 10:07:22 AM

LEMME SCOUR DAT INBOX

3/27/2012 10:10:59 AM

nevermindddddd wrong person....

BUT FEEL FREE TO SCOUR MY INBOX ANYWAYS OKAY?!?!?

3/27/2012 10:12:41 AM

That's it, the solution to this problem is to turn everything into a sexual innuendo

3/27/2012 10:13:15 AM