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5/21/2008 3:21:37 PM

honestly i think if he knew how to chat with you he coulda got another date but the way the convo flowed it was obvious why you told him that you didnt want another date

5/21/2008 3:22:21 PM

HAHAHAHA....how old is this dude?

5/21/2008 3:22:37 PM

Once his program finishes running, you'll be his...

forever.

5/21/2008 3:24:48 PM

You guys are always hatin' on java.

5/21/2008 3:25:14 PM

heres the email chain, after I blocked him on gmail chat, sorry, you'll have to read from the bottom up:

Quote :

" ---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: David Date: Fri, May 16, 2008 at 12:39 AM Subject: Re: ... To: Jessica well talk less and listen more. maybe you'll be learn to distinguish between detrimental warning signs and genuine integrity On Fri, May 16, 2008 at 12:16 AM, Jessica wrote: I did thank you. And no, its not always yes or no. But, yea if I don't want to go to your apartment or don't want you to come to mine, on the first date, then a no is a no. I've ignored warning signs in the past with guys, to my detriment and I'm working on not doing that this time around. Sorry, I think its for the best for both of us. And seriously, we shouldn't be having to "work things out" after the first date. That doesn't bode well for a relationship. On Fri, May 16, 2008 at 12:09 AM, David wrote: Well, I've never met such a selfish "professional" dater... It's always just yes or no with you... so focused on what YOU think you want, so afraid of conversation or change... confident, attractive, intelligent, but maybe just selfish and insecure... I wish you the best of luck. I'm always willing to improve myself and work things out, you won't even offer yourself the chance to see how eagerly and successfully I'll take your positive criticisms. But it doesn't work with someone who has no regard for any sort of middle ground. I never even got a "thank you" for last night... Maybe that's a good tip-off for the future, too. I'm going to take this experience and learn from it... and change. I hope you can humble yourself enough to see if there are things that you can improve in your personal life. I'm willing to change... to prove myself to you, but you seem too self-absorbed and intolerant. I wish you the best of luck, and thanks for the advise. You will never hear from me again! :-) On Thu, May 15, 2008 at 11:57 PM, Jessica wrote: see, this is what i mean over zealous bye On Thu, May 15, 2008 at 11:55 PM, David wrote: what's the harm with just hanging out and talking. it doesnt always have to be about yes, or no. there's other things like visiting... talk, etc. you really didnt just block me did you? thats rough "

hes... 23 I believe. I think turning 24 this year.

5/21/2008 3:25:16 PM

Baby, I just want to compile your rows all night long.

5/21/2008 3:25:26 PM

wow.

5/21/2008 3:25:56 PM

If he e-mails you again, tell him you've found an error in his code and that it shows you're really supposed to be with some guy named Dane.

And that he really is the ultimatesexmachineyoucan'tlivewithout.

5/21/2008 3:30:48 PM

wow desperate much? highly entertaining though.

5/21/2008 3:31:17 PM

lol, he hasnt tried to contact me since (that last email), so I think he got the point. i hope anyways

5/21/2008 3:32:01 PM

Can we start a betting pool that he tries to get up with you under a different name?

5/21/2008 3:34:05 PM

His e-mail reminds me of compliment sandwich from family guy.

5/21/2008 3:34:10 PM

this cat seems somewhat familiar

did he ever, at any point of the evening, use phrases such as "let's do lunch, k?"

5/21/2008 3:34:13 PM

Quote :

"advise"

Looks like he types English as well as he codes.

5/21/2008 3:38:15 PM

^^ LOL

5/21/2008 4:08:22 PM

sweet lord, if he had a mincing german accent...



i think this is SA worthy
mailto:lowtax@somethingawful.com

5/22/2008 2:29:22 AM

he wants to wish you the best of luck though!!!111

5/22/2008 2:45:47 AM

Holy hell, reading that chat transcript then the e-mails, I can practically see the guy going through the 5 stages of grief:

Quote :

" The five stages of grief are: 1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", looking for the former spouse in familia places, or if it is death, setting the table for the person or acting as if they are still in living there. No crying. Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss. 2-Anger-"why me?", feelings of wanting to fight back or get even with spouse of divorce, for death, anger at the deceased, blaming them for leaving. 3-Bargaining-bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the spouse who is leaving, or attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss. Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back. 4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal. 5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that it takes two to make or break a marriage. Realization that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of person. Get help. You will survive. You will heal, even if you cannot believe that now, just know that it is true. To feel pain after loss is normal. It proves that we are alive, human. But we can't stop living. We have to become stronger, while not shutting off our feelings for the hope of one day being healed and finding love and/or happiness again. Helping others through something we have experienced is a wonderful way to fascilitate our healing and bring good out of something tragic. "

You get the feeling that this kid is on stage 4 right now, sobbing his eyes out while slowly jerking it to rjrgrl's picture.

Hopefully by next week he'll be on to stage 5, and you'll be home free.

5/22/2008 5:38:42 AM

ewwwww

5/22/2008 12:59:06 PM

what i'm getting from this is you have low standards, at least initially

hay

5/22/2008 1:00:28 PM

lawl, this thread is full of fail (from david) and win (from some of the comments)

5/22/2008 1:01:49 PM

Well, she's a "dating professional" remember? These things come with the job ya know. Nowadays, flirting vicariously through programming languages is no longer unheard of. A girl has to have her "applets" about her on dates.

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:03 PM. Reason : -]

5/22/2008 1:02:43 PM

while most of this may be true about the overzealous guy and all, i would say that any female, especially a white girl, thats 22 years or older that is at least fairly attractive that doesn't have a boyfriend, that isn't close to being married, doesn't have have a friend with benefits, can't meet a guy in real life, and has to retort to online dating raises a red flag in my book. i understand that after you leave college social circles get smaller and meeting people is more difficult, but usually a guy suffers from this. with that said, something just ain't right here, and i am not just talking the smitten programmer, hahaha. i know yall are going to jump to rjrgrl's defense just because its a girl and she 'hot', but what just how many hot girls do you know that don't already have a man. just think about it.

5/22/2008 1:09:53 PM

what you should be getting is that this guy hid most of his crazy until we actually met
and i did have a few reservations that popped up after we already scheduled the date, like his level of enthusiam was a little daunting, but I figured I'd go out with him for a drink or two and see if i was wrong... i wasnt.


low standards? nah, i'm pretty picky actually.
i've gone out with a whopping 3 guys from match since january. 1st of which i dated for a few weeks, the 2nd is mr crazy, and the 3rd i'm seeing for a third date (in 4 days) tonight, so that seems to be going pretty well.

5/22/2008 1:10:09 PM

well fuck, i wear my crazy out there on my sleeve

NO ONE-TIME PASS FOR BIGMAN

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:17 PM. Reason : oh dear]

5/22/2008 1:11:34 PM

Quote :

"i know yall are going to jump to rjrgrl's defense just because its a girl and she 'hot', but what just how many hot girls do you know that don't already have a man. "

Plenty.. there are A LOT of girls who are so career driven that they only way they have TIME to meet someone is through something like match... especially in bigger cities. Same with guys. I'm not single, but even if I was, I'm so busy that I am sure it would be very difficult to meet someone and actually make enough time to really get to know them.

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:13 PM. Reason : x]

5/22/2008 1:12:24 PM

i'm still about this thread

people are wierd

5/22/2008 1:13:21 PM

while i agree that an overzealous, or overly eager puppy, if you will, can seem rather strange especially to a girl, i find it hard to understand why you classify this as 'crazy'. we all do 'crazy' things...

^^ most career driven females that i know don't tell all of their business on tww, and they meet a man in college, at there work, or through a friend. again, i am not saying this rjrgrl chick is crazy or whatever, i am just saying in general is raises a red flag for me, just the same as a girl that will cry easily. or that is overly thankful, and apologetic.

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:15 PM. Reason : sdfg]

5/22/2008 1:13:56 PM

it'd be cuter if the class compiled and executed

you should have replied with a syntax error

5/22/2008 1:14:44 PM

Quote :

"i know yall are going to jump to rjrgrl's defense just because its a girl and she 'hot', but what just how many hot girls do you know that don't already have a man. "

honey, i've never had a problem meeting guys or getting a boyfriend. and i'm sure i could met someone out at the bar or whatever, but thats not really the place I want to be looking for a boyfriend at this point.
plus, i just dont go out to the bars as much now - its a lot more hanging out with everyone at someone's house and grilling out, than it is bar hopping. and since everyone i'm friends with is already coupled up, its not like they're bringing new people (like friends of the new person they're dating) into the group. so kinda limits my exposure.

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:15 PM. Reason : ^^the email wasn't crazy, by itself. his reaction afterwards + the email = def a little off]

5/22/2008 1:15:12 PM

i'd still probably hit it

5/22/2008 1:15:14 PM

i just dont get why rjrgrl always has to have companionship...its like she is incapable of being alone

5/22/2008 1:15:37 PM

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

5/22/2008 1:16:27 PM

i totally understand what you are saying there rjrgrl, and i will stress again i am not saying that you actually have a prob, just saying is raises a red flag to me. thats all.

5/22/2008 1:17:22 PM

Quote :

"Well, she's a "dating professional" remember? "

yea, apparently planning on going on at least one date with more than one guy from match makes me a dating professional

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:18 PM. Reason : ^understood. and i have the same reaction to people on match, at least at first]

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:18 PM. Reason : ^^^i dunno, i'm happier when i'm in a relationship. i like stability]

5/22/2008 1:17:45 PM

Good stuff.

5/22/2008 1:19:09 PM

this may have been a sucky date. but you've won tww since posting this IMO.

5/22/2008 1:20:31 PM

i'm not going to lie, i meet a few chicks on a dating site in the past, and they all had the same attitude which is why i only had one date with them: they all looked at everyone they saw like a 'crazy' internet person. it was like they would see people and just talk about them like they knew all about them because they favored some 'crazy' internet person that they met. and not only that most of them lie, and tell you they only did this once, and in fact have guys lined up for date after date after date so that makes them choosy and causes them to make poor choices. after a date or two, i just never called them back, and it was mutual i would suppose and hope, and was like this is within itself is 'crazy'. so i decided to do the old fashion thing and talk to people in real life. believe it or not it actually still works!

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:23 PM. Reason : asd]

5/22/2008 1:22:24 PM

Quote :

"i am not saying this rjrgrl chick is crazy or whatever"

I will!

All of them Reynolds girls are.

5/22/2008 1:23:48 PM

nah most of the guys ive actually corresponded with seemed like really nice, normal guys
there were a few that i would call crazies in passing, but none of them were actually crazy, just wouldn't let it go when i indicated that i wasnt interested

but this guy was a little over the top. maybe not crazy, but def not being normal

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:25 PM. Reason : ^i mean, at least i'm upfront about my crazy]

5/22/2008 1:24:27 PM

Yah, you even put rjr in your screen name. Of course that's only up front to those of us in the know.

5/22/2008 1:25:57 PM

I kinda think people are "crazier" when they expect to meet someone that wants a serious relationship at a club or bar. It's all about perspective.

5/22/2008 1:27:39 PM

i don't care were you meet a person at if its going to work its going to work if its not its not.

5/22/2008 1:29:58 PM

I'll be in winston this weekend and I can write some java!

rjrgrl

5/22/2008 1:30:22 PM

^^thats true

^lol, i've lived in durham for over 2 years now

5/22/2008 1:31:11 PM

Yeah but I need to meet your mom before I compile our relationship.

5/22/2008 1:31:47 PM

seedless asked them to fuck after half an hour

5/22/2008 1:36:22 PM

hehe

[Edited on May 22, 2008 at 1:36 PM. Reason : ^^]

5/22/2008 1:36:46 PM

set em up

5/22/2008 1:37:23 PM