All of these problems trace back to the fact that the little princess has been fantasizing about this day since she was a child

7/24/2008 3:06:20 AM

Well, fiance and I had a talk with his dad, and he was VERY put out to say the least. He had no idea any of this was going on and was upset his wife made it seem like all the decisions involving money etc were his. He aplogized profusely and has promised to fix things as soon as he can.

He had a talk with his wife and she, of course, denied a lot of it and tried to push blame on us for the rest, but facts are facts.

Either way, I doubt this is over with, but at least we know his dad is trying to be supportive and now knows what's going on.

7/24/2008 11:06:19 AM

I don't get the hate in this thread. It doesn't seem like MeatStick is saying she thinks she deserves a big-time expensive affair. It seems like the MIL is offering to pay for something, and then bitching about having to do THAT much.

In fact, I think I've read numerous times how MeatStick would be just as happy doing something herself. The problem isn't how much money is being offered, it's the attitude coming with it. MIL offered the money, and then seemed to assume that meant she could be a raging bitch about having to do it. She just shouldn't have offered then.

Anyone who says MeatStick needs to be grateful for what she gets lacks reading comprehension because I damn well know I wouldn't be grateful for the attitude. I'd say, you offered. If you didn't want to pay, then don't. If you put your money in the pot, great, thanks, If you don't want to, shut the fuck up.

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P.S. dealing with weddings are just one of the many items on the list of reasons why I thank God daily for NOT making me a woman.

[Edited on July 24, 2008 at 11:17 AM. Reason : more]

7/24/2008 11:16:23 AM

^ Thank you

7/24/2008 11:20:24 AM

this thread needs some revitalizing

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/wayoflife/07/22/single.black.women/index.html
Black and single: Is marriage really for white people?!?!?!?

7/27/2008 11:59:33 AM

He is making you sign a prenup, right, MeatStick?

Doesnt appear that his parents think you are good enough for him......not in the same circles....if he doesnt make you sign a prenup, get preggers really fast and stay preggers.

[Edited on July 27, 2008 at 12:06 PM. Reason : w]

7/27/2008 12:03:44 PM

Yo, MeatStick

i know you're not really here for advice, but just for attention-whoring.

but here's some advice anyhow.


Ditch your fiancee

Call off the wedding

Tell your inlaws to fuck themselves

Fire your friends

Join the Peace Corp, and learn how to be a human being without ten tons of stupid drama

7/27/2008 12:14:17 PM

that's one option

the other option is to plan all of this shit yourself and assume that you won't be receiving any financial, tactical or emotional support from his parents

that way you'll get exactly what you want

hey, and maybe they'll write you a check "for your troubles"

use that for a honeymoon and write them a letter laughing about how you spent their money on a trip
also, don't go to Europe for your honeymoon - go to Africa with the Peace Corps

7/27/2008 12:43:28 PM

i have an off topic question about weddings. is it normal for the bride to invite someone to her bridal shower but not the actual wedding?

7/28/2008 9:11:54 PM

.

7/28/2008 9:16:13 PM

^^^ Aren't you supposed to enjoy your honeymoon, not go somewhere and get malaria, dysentery, and possibly shot at?

7/28/2008 9:17:39 PM

good luck with your wedding.

7/28/2008 9:24:21 PM

Quote :

"i have an off topic question about weddings. is it normal for the bride to invite someone to her bridal shower but not the actual wedding?"

My bestest asked me this question this past week...according to the bridesmaid's handbook (good read if you're planning a shower because it helps with all the little things you might forget and etiquette) you should NOT invite to the shower and not to the wedding because that makes you seem like a gift grubbing hoochie.

The wedding is the celebration where you spend money to have a big party with your friends...the shower is where they spend money to have a party for you.

Some other comments on this:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080727140614AA1fYzE
http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/view.asp?topicID=88393
http://www.wedplan.com/faqs.php

And here's some info about dropping a bridesmaid from youe wedding (which is what meatstick almost had to do in her other thread) according to wedplan.com.

Quote :

"Q I’m having difficulties with one of my bridesmaids and am regretting asking her to be in my wedding. Is there anyway I can tell her I don’t want her in my wedding anymore? A Unfortunately, this does happen. Unless you want to absolutely sever all ties with your bridesmaid, it is best to sit down with her, talk about the issues you feel are the problem, and allow her to share her concerns. Discuss whether or not she still wants to be in the wedding and see if the problems can be resolved. "

7/28/2008 11:45:31 PM

Money has nothing to do with it. The best rehearsal dinner I ever went to was a crawfish boil with kegs at the 'rents house. Both sides got the opportunity to get to know each other. The out of town guests met other people and got to spend some extra time with the happy couple.

7/29/2008 12:41:47 AM

^^that measure was already taken

7/29/2008 12:42:51 AM

What were you referring to?

7/29/2008 9:47:46 AM

Quote :

"Money has nothing to do with it. The best rehearsal dinner I ever went to was a crawfish boil with kegs at the 'rents house. Both sides got the opportunity to get to know each other. The out of town guests met other people and got to spend some extra time with the happy couple."

amen

7/29/2008 9:49:07 AM