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2/5/2009 11:07:36 PM
some
2/5/2009 11:10:38 PM
please
2/5/2009 11:13:13 PM
cause they feel like it.
2/5/2009 11:43:57 PM
Okay, I'm reading this thread and the Clinch Mountain Boys' "Don't Cheat in Our Home Town" just came up on my playlist. nice.[Edited on February 6, 2009 at 12:13 AM. Reason : h]
2/6/2009 12:13:31 AM
Did anybody mention pond-jumping, being emotionally fucked up, or in denial of one's sexuality? Maybe those are somewhat eccentric; especially the latter. But I believe all are possible.There's so many reasons for this shit. It's pretty pointless to state anything other than opinions here. Theories are no good...
2/6/2009 12:20:11 AM
i just can't stand lying period. and cheating is even more fucked up. the one nice thing is that at least i didn't really like this girl that much, otherwise i'd be pretty pissed.it's crazy how many people cheat and then rationalize that shit. nobody accepts responsibility for anything anymore...except barack obama.
2/6/2009 1:20:23 AM
there really isnt an excuse/rationalization for it.... youre in a relationship you stay faithful.. if you are unfaithful, obviously you just screwed over the relationship.
2/6/2009 1:21:33 AM
2/6/2009 2:05:01 AM
some people just have no integritybottom line
2/6/2009 2:11:47 AM
2/6/2009 2:15:21 AM
^^that pretty much sums it up. I was pretty let down recently by someone I was dating. I don't think she ever got it. I didn't care that she was seeing other people, I was just pissed that she didn't have the emotional maturity or personal integrity to tell me about it.
2/6/2009 3:01:18 AM
2/6/2009 3:16:43 AM
cause they arent old/experienced enough to know that they should just break up with someone if they really want to cheat on them - it does not bode well for the relationship
2/6/2009 4:41:29 AM
Leading cause of cheating: giving yourself too much credit and putting yourself in a situation you don't belong in because "you wouldn't do anything anyway so why worry"
2/6/2009 7:17:09 AM
^ and Alcohol.
2/6/2009 7:28:09 AM
I mean that goes without saying
2/6/2009 11:34:32 AM
What I mean by that is when people purposely drink as an excuse for doing immoral activities. It's like as soon as the liquid courage touches their lips, they are suddenly absolved of their looming sins. Alcohol obviously impairs judgement, but it's the people that drink alcohol to feign responsibility that is in actuality pre-meditated cheating.
2/6/2009 11:46:49 AM
^ I agree with that 100%. Also, the people that use 'I was drunk' as some sort of a post hoc excuse for poor judgement. Like that magically absolves them of any wrong doing.Sure people do stupid shit while drunk. but if you refuse to accept responsibility for your actions under ANY circumstance, you're a weak, WEAK person.
2/6/2009 11:53:59 AM
psh i think you meant dudes, dudes cheat
2/6/2009 11:55:34 AM
2/6/2009 11:56:08 AM
speaking of triflin.....NONE of my friends from the midwest knew what that word meant. i used it in conversation and everyone was like omg what is "try-flinn?"i had to put some knowledge downthey also didn't know what a hooptie was
2/6/2009 12:03:22 PM
lol, thats awesome.
2/6/2009 12:04:16 PM
i learned last year that anyone is capable of cheating. i learned that b/c my father, approaching a marriage of 30 years, for a blink of insanity cheated on my mother with one of her friends who was equally as fucked in the head as my dad was at the time.i also learned that love, in some cases, can be stronger than that blink of insanity and will prevail.
2/6/2009 12:05:34 PM
2/6/2009 12:06:03 PM
shit is fucked up. i dont know if i would be able to handle it.. of course one never knows until they're in the situationi just feel like if you forgive someone you have to REALLY forgive them and im not sure i could ever get over it. that may be a shortcoming of mine but it would take an act of congress for me to even consider forgiveness, i'd be so distraught
2/6/2009 12:11:47 PM
no sad face...happy face b/c despite his royal fuck up, he jumped leaps and bounds to prove to my mother he was a fuckup and he loved her. he wrote her love letters every day after she kicked him out. they're in counselling and things are getting better. not perfect, but better. and ^ that would be why they're in counselling. my mother is not a very forgiving person, and i never thought she'd be able to get over this. i really worried for her--shit she was hospitalized 3 times afterwards from severe anxiety attacks. whatever their counsellor is doing and saying, it's helping her forgive and from the outside it looks like they're coming out of this stronger than they were before.[Edited on February 6, 2009 at 12:18 PM. Reason : ]
2/6/2009 12:13:58 PM
i think if a relationship can last through a fuckup like that....then its solid.and its hard to throw away that many memories very easily.
2/6/2009 12:15:07 PM
i know this chick whos bf cheated on her with a female friend of hers. totally initiated/coordinated by him, his fault for the situation that it turned into... she now hates her and completely forgave the situation to her bf after about a week and now shes obsessed with him still and loathes the other chick still.funny how that shit works.
2/6/2009 12:23:52 PM
2/6/2009 12:27:58 PM
^^ they want the man in their life, but not his temptation.
2/6/2009 12:30:38 PM
Cheating first decreases the Cuckold factor by like 95%CHEAT FIRSTunless you really love the girl, and you know she loves you... then just don't cheat. Cause that would be stupid.
2/6/2009 12:30:46 PM
Never cheated, never plan to cheat...if I feel like I am going to get tempted, even if i am not the one tempting..I'll totally remove myself from the situation. Both guys and girls cheat...its not right nor fair, I've never been cheated on but have had cheating friends and it makes me disgusted and fear that yup everyone does not have the same principles that I do. only outlook I have is that one day their habits will catch up with them. so in the end the cheater will always get what is coming to them b/c Karma is a bitch.
2/6/2009 12:31:35 PM
lol, thats sooo true.i know a guy who cheated on his girl, got the girl he cheated with preggers.ended up leaving his girl he loved and shotgun wedding the other.
2/6/2009 12:33:26 PM
2/6/2009 1:24:33 PM
^ finding any site with legitimate statistics on the subject will be impossible. that someone can just keep going from site to site that is "reputable" until you get the statistics you want to hear really.
2/6/2009 1:50:12 PM
The cover to that book is HOT.
2/6/2009 1:53:06 PM
you are looking at the wrong sources then, look them up state by state. It a 2 to 1 ratio plus you said "admit" you should know damn well women do not admit when they are wrong
2/6/2009 2:04:52 PM
This one time this girl cheated on her boyfriend to be with me. The only reason I took part in it was because I thought I really liked her. But as it turns out, she's just crazy. I would have never taken part in any of it had I known how crazy she really is. She didn't even turn out to be a good friend really...
2/6/2009 2:08:07 PM
^^ i just linked the info from the site that had the closest numbers. i'm not really sure what to search online to find the accurate stuff.i guess it depends on if you're looking at strictly marriage or just caught cheating.i think i saw 73% of women didn't know their man was cheatingand like 54% of men didn't know their woman was cheatingbut its all heresay anyways.
2/6/2009 2:11:00 PM
2/6/2009 2:11:58 PM
look up the real numbers from each state. Fuck what some one says on a website.
2/6/2009 2:12:00 PM
^^ yay, its like a 4 post delayed echo!^ dunno where to look up the numbers. just like i just said (are the numbers only based on divorce?)[Edited on February 6, 2009 at 2:17 PM. Reason : .]
2/6/2009 2:17:28 PM