2.5 years

1/31/2011 11:40:46 PM

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"But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened??"

Became unhappy and didn't enjoy their company anymore. We both changed, but she became someone that I could not love. It could have been a lot worse, we could have been married > kids > divorced. :whew:

2/1/2011 8:20:27 AM

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"But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened?? I couldn't imagine being with someone that long and not having it work out."

Personally, my situation was that we lived apart for graduate school for 2 years and we became different people. I wanted different things than she did (plus, I feel I was far more mature coming out of graduate school than she was)...

It wasn't bad and I am happier that we did it...

2/1/2011 8:49:39 AM

My current one...9 years.

Wow, seeing that makes me go "damn..."

2/1/2011 8:50:21 AM

People change a lot when they're young. I think it's sad to see people in their 20s who have been in a relationship for (some arbitrary amount of time) and ignore the underlying problems in the relationship or the fact that they've grown apart because they are in that comfortable stage and don't want to lose the time they have invested in it by cutting it off to find someone who is actually right for them. (call me kettle)

Because I have been through a few relationships that lasted 3-plus years before they fell apart, I want to date for a few years before considering settling down. As much as it sucks to say, I think you need to wait till the honeymoon phase of a new relationship is over to see if you can actually put up with each other's shit for the rest of your lives.

2/1/2011 9:14:52 AM

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"But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened?? I couldn't imagine being with someone that long and not having it work out. I guess what I really mean is...what happened after year 2/3 that you didn't know before then?"

what Skwinkle said

2/1/2011 11:01:49 AM

only one that broke the 1 year mark was the 6 year relationship that ended in divorce.

2/1/2011 11:02:30 AM

are you still butt hurt about it?

get over it already!

2/1/2011 11:07:31 AM

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"People change a lot when they're young. I think it's sad to see people in their 20s who have been in a relationship for (some arbitrary amount of time) and ignore the underlying problems in the relationship or the fact that they've grown apart because they are in that comfortable stage and don't want to lose the time they have invested in it by cutting it off to find someone who is actually right for them. (call me kettle)"

This should be posted around campuses everywhere.

To answer the question, just shy of 11 years. For the reasons Skwinkle said combined with a specific lack of honesty from her.

2/1/2011 11:07:55 AM

should be posted on the door of every dorm and college based housing development

2/1/2011 11:21:21 AM

7 years

3/4/2011 4:04:38 PM

Schwinkle, I agree with you 1000 times over man!!!

3/4/2011 4:06:02 PM

Four months...girls really like guys with this track record at twenty-seven. No they don't.

3/4/2011 5:10:41 PM

4 years

3/4/2011 5:22:26 PM

so who won this contest?

3/4/2011 7:43:07 PM

My fiance and I have been together for one year, three months.

We're gettin murried in July.

3/5/2011 4:35:15 PM

just got out of a 2 yr relationship not too long ago, which was my longest.

3/5/2011 5:51:55 PM

a little over a year



I'm not counting the 5 year on-again off-again bullshit

3/5/2011 7:14:39 PM

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"But for the people who were in the 3/4+ year relationships...wtf happened?? I couldn't imagine being with someone that long and not having it work out."

and while people may change a lot when they're young, it's not like they stop changing. you are constantly evolving as a person. you aren't the same person you were 10 years ago and you won't be the same person 10 years from now. sometimes the person you're with doesnt change in the same direction you do.

3/5/2011 7:38:45 PM

3 years or so

Now I seem to have a fairly hard 3 date limit

3/5/2011 7:44:35 PM

6 years.

3/5/2011 8:07:19 PM

10+ years... we married now.

3/5/2011 9:22:38 PM

not long

3/5/2011 10:09:06 PM

4 years. Still dont know why I let it last that long...

3/5/2011 10:13:29 PM