is Geppetto dating my girlfriend?

7/25/2011 10:30:24 AM

SHE GOT ON THE DAMNED WOLFWEB

7/25/2011 10:31:41 AM

^6 CassTheSass, the thing is she is never happy and when we're around her family she talks as if I'm controlling her life and keeping her from doing the things she wants because I want us to save to meet the goals we both share.

^7 iheartkisses, we've spoken about budgets. every time I bring it up she gets on one of two rants. either she says that she wishes she hadn't told me how much something cost/what she bought because she now feels guilt about doing it (the guilt never stops her from doing it again apparently) or she starts to talk about how she doesn't like her work and how this is the sort of thing she needs to stay sane.

We once got a puppy because she sort desperately wanted one. I walked it, fed it, trained it but she found having a dog too stressful (it pooped in the house a few times and chewed up the wooden blinds). at her request we returned the dog but since she spent so much on toys for the pup she didn't have money to pay the bills that month so i covered everything. to this day, though, when people ask when we're getting a puppy she acts like i'm the one who prevents it from happening. this frustrates me to no end.

[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 10:34 AM. Reason : ^ and peeps]

7/25/2011 10:33:59 AM

^ With that in mind, maybe you two should not have children.

Also, unless you are uber-rich, it's important to budget. She may need to get over that. Even Roger Federer is on a budget. It's the little things that often make a big difference over time.

7/25/2011 10:41:53 AM

^^ uhhhhh how long have yall been together? how long have yall been living together?

not to sound rude but she comes off as incredibly spoiled.

i have a pretty stressful job and have found at times i am unhappy as well. but i don't go out wrecklessly spending money when i know there are bills that need to be paid or if i have an upcoming expense. i keep a very tight control on my money (mostly because when i first got out of college and had my first job, i didn't make shit for money) plus i lived on my own so i was the only person responsible for paying my bills.

[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 10:42 AM. Reason : hello carrots]

7/25/2011 10:41:59 AM

my wife is a stay at home and it is awesome. no complaints. she does it all. i have it made.

7/25/2011 10:44:29 AM

As a young couple, it's important to budget and to prioritize HOUSEHOLD expenses. As a couple, purchases are mutual decisions.

7/25/2011 10:44:40 AM

i think living alone is the difference. she has never really had to do it.

her dad is pretty well to do and during grad school he gave her about $600/month on top of paying for all her bills. even after grad school when she didn't immediately find a job her dad gave her that same amount. she has never had to live alone and pay for everything by herself, so i think she just doesn't get how you might have to forgo something you want so that you can look out for your own future. if it weren't for my endless persistence she never would have opened up a 401k

7/25/2011 10:49:42 AM

Why the fuck are you still with this girl?

7/25/2011 10:50:25 AM

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"I'd be annoyed. My family members don't openly pee in front of other people. I'm not used to people peeing with the door open. "

I don't openly pee in front of family members or other people.

But I do openly pee in front of my girlfriend (and she in front of me).

Unless you have some stank-ass urine...I still don't see the problem.

7/25/2011 10:50:56 AM

Geppetto...your girl sounds like she sucks. What the fuck does she do that makes you put up with this shit??

7/25/2011 10:53:12 AM

Geppetto, not that you need another person telling you your relationship needs work right now, but it seems like you really need to figure out a way to deal with these issues in a more permanent way than just continuing to decide not to fight too much about it by ignoring them. It doesn't sound like she's going to change on her own, and you might think it's not a big deal right now, but it seems like 10 years down the road you might be wishing you'd listened to Tdub. That's the kind of issue that slowly breaks up a relationship from the bottom up.

7/25/2011 11:07:04 AM

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"but it seems like 10 years down the road you might be wishing you'd listened to Tdub"

That would be depressing if I ever have to say that 10 years from now.

7/25/2011 11:09:50 AM

I will never find myself, 10 years from now, wishing that I'd peed in front of my boyfriend more.

7/25/2011 11:12:19 AM

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"Geppetto...your girl sounds like she sucks. What the fuck does she do that makes you put up with this shit??"

Either she's hot or he's hideous (or both)

7/25/2011 11:13:13 AM

Compared to other women I've dated, she is very honest and very committed. If I were to get in a horribly disfiguring accident tomorrow and no longer had control of my own bowels she would take care of me and do whatever she could for me for the rest of my life. From my experiences, that is pretty hard to find. The other thing is that, for all her faults, she really wants me to be happy. Unfortunately the disconnect is that when she is unhappy everything else goes out the window but in all other times my happiness is priority number one.

trust me, jbrick83 i understand your thought process. there are days when we get in arguments or she complains about the most simple of things and it makes me reconsider if I want to be in this at all. Its a difficult thing for me to weigh, really.

7/25/2011 11:14:21 AM

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"I will never find myself, 10 years from now, wishing that I'd peed in front of my boyfriend more."

Who said "more"??

Just being able to do it without inconveniencing yourself (like leaving a bathroom and going to a different one...or waiting til the person is done peeing).

7/25/2011 11:15:09 AM

Is this the thread where we only post bad things about our s/o and make everyone mad at us for staying with them without mentioning the positives?

7/25/2011 11:15:52 AM

she LOVES wild blue

7/25/2011 11:17:14 AM

Complaint: He's embarassed by my car.

7/25/2011 11:19:14 AM

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"If I were to get in a horribly disfiguring accident tomorrow and no longer had control of my own bowels she would take care of me and do whatever she could for me for the rest of my life."

As long as you make enough money...

And she can't take care of a puppy, but she can take care of you??

Not trying to argue...just asking. The girlfriend before my current one was a great girl, loved me unconditionally, and would do anything for me. But we just had some differences that I knew I would have trouble with for the rest of our lives and that I felt that I could find someone that I matched up better with. And I did.

7/25/2011 11:19:25 AM

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"Complaint: He's embarassed by my car."

Borrow mine one day to pick him up and then you'll no longer hear complaints about your car

7/25/2011 11:20:21 AM

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"If I were to get in a horribly disfiguring accident tomorrow and no longer had control of my own bowels she would take care of me and do whatever she could for me for the rest of my life."

You sure about that? This is the girl who couldn't take care of a puppy.

7/25/2011 11:20:42 AM

^ I did wonder that, regarding the puppy. If she can't take care of a puppy, it may be indicative of either selfishness or very, very bad nerves.

7/25/2011 11:21:14 AM

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" Borrow mine one day to pick him up and then you'll no longer hear complaints about your car "

LOL

My car isn't even bad! But he keeps asking when I'm gonna get a better one. "When you buy me one."

If it ain't broke, yada yada.

7/25/2011 11:22:28 AM

She must be above the hot crazy line, which is the only real explanation.

7/25/2011 11:22:43 AM

having a puppy worried her so much that she couldn't sleep or make it through the work day. I'm not saying that is normal behavior or reasonable but that was the main case.

the dog would poop in its crate and some times get out of the crate and poop/pee some place in the house. she was so worried that the dog would chew up things around the house that she continually freaked. but you guys do have a valid point. now that i think about it in detail i believe she would initially stay with me out of love but as that turned to anger and resentment she would stay primarily out of her guilt.

7/25/2011 11:25:23 AM

I mean, i'm sure she's a great girl when everything's smooth sailing, but from what you describe, it seems as if she has zero emotional toughness which manifests in reacting like a child when faced with adversity.

Is that something you are willing to handle for the long term?

7/25/2011 11:28:47 AM

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"having a puppy worried her so much that she couldn't sleep or make it through the work day. I'm not saying that is normal behavior or reasonable but that was the main case. the dog would poop in its crate and some times get out of the crate and poop/pee some place in the house. she was so worried that the dog would chew up things around the house that she continually freaked. but you guys do have a valid point. now that i think about it in detail i believe she would initially stay with me out of love but as that turned to anger and resentment she would stay primarily out of her guilt."

uhhhhhh

i understand having a dog makes you responsible for another living thing (i hate calling a dog a 'thing' but for lack of a better word...) but having a puppy shouldn't be as stressful as she made it out to be. puppies have accidents and they sometimes chew on things. my boyfriend and i have a very well trained adult dog that my boyfriend got when he was just 4 months old and i will admit, sometimes the dog has an accident every 6 months or so. it happens - not frequently by any means, but it happens. frustrating yes, but not a deal breaker. most of the time it's because there was a miscommunication as to when the dog last went out.

also when i first started dating my boyfriend, our dog had a bit of a freak out moment and chewed a hole in the carpet in the bedroom one night while we slept. he also chewed one of my pumps (and then woke me up and handed it to me) but after that he never chewed anything again. we were upset but it didn't ruin our idea of having a dog and immediately decide to get rid of it.

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"If I were to get in a horribly disfiguring accident tomorrow and no longer had control of my own bowels she would take care of me and do whatever she could for me for the rest of my life"

BobbyDigital said it best. she couldn't even take care of a puppy. IF she stuck around and this is a big IF, she would resent the HELL out of you.

7/25/2011 11:34:04 AM

If my boyfriend got sick I would marry him and support him till one of us died. If I got sick I would break up with him and move back home. Is that weird?

7/25/2011 11:34:07 AM

Geppetto, I'm sure the good outweighs the bad. Also, I'm quite sure your wife is amazingly hot and has a habit of sucking your penis in her sleep.

7/25/2011 11:34:11 AM

^^#humblebrag

7/25/2011 11:42:59 AM

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"If my boyfriend got sick I would marry him and support him till one of us died. If I got sick I would break up with him and move back home. Is that weird? "

Nah, I'm similar. If I got sick, I'd seek a Kevorkian-type of professional ASAP.

^ Not humblebrag, per se ... just afraid to be a burden?

[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 11:44 AM. Reason : k]

7/25/2011 11:43:49 AM

Yeah, I would feel guilty if we weren't married. Also, my mom is a nurse and would be a lot better at taking care of me.

7/25/2011 11:50:26 AM

gives name to our cars.

lol.

7/25/2011 12:34:42 PM

Aw bmel thanks

And Geppetto has a terrible girlfriend/wife

7/25/2011 11:49:38 PM

This thead no longer applies to me...but it is relevant to my amusement.

7/26/2011 7:56:14 AM

Geppetto just needs to enforce a little bit more, she probably just does all that because she knows she can get away with it. If you pay the bills, then lay down some law.


inb4 I'm a misogynist.

7/26/2011 9:03:41 AM

i can relate to Geppetto's girlfriend/wife in the sense of the starbucks addiction because i have one. but my boyfriend fixed that when he bought me a Kuerig and explained to me how much money i could SAVE by using the new coffee machine instead of buying $4 iced lattes every day

7/26/2011 9:08:09 AM

My biggest complaints about CassTheSass are that she never puts out, she lives in a different state, and she sometimes pretends that I don't exist/we arent going out. Other than that, shes perfect.

7/26/2011 9:25:21 AM

i am perfect

7/26/2011 9:29:44 AM

ITT, Geppetto realizes he needs to spike the GF's coffee with anti-anxiety meds.

7/26/2011 9:34:48 AM

roofie-colada

7/26/2011 9:36:03 AM

I'd love a roofie-colada

7/26/2011 9:47:51 AM

I have no complaints about the girlfriend, but the wife bitches about her constantly.

7/26/2011 9:51:23 AM

eleusis always brings the A game.

7/26/2011 10:23:30 AM

^^ lol


I just came in here to say how awesome my wife is

I'm sure I'll be back at some point though, haha

7/26/2011 10:27:38 AM

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"I have no complaints about the girlfriend, but the wife bitches about her constantly."

dude that sucks

7/26/2011 10:28:25 AM

LOL @ eleusis

Glad to see you're alive and posting!

7/26/2011 10:51:34 AM

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"I have no complaints about the girlfriend, but the wife bitches about her constantly."

hahahaha

7/26/2011 11:15:21 AM