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2/14/2013 10:48:38 AM

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"But I want to be all willy nilly"

i'll allow it just this once.

2/14/2013 10:49:27 AM

^ good, because I like being all willy nilly.

2/14/2013 11:24:20 AM

2/14/2013 11:42:58 AM

^^ So what you're saying is is that you like to stick willys in your nilly?

2/14/2013 11:59:29 AM

Is there a problem with that?

2/14/2013 12:18:10 PM

no problem whatsoever

2/14/2013 1:37:36 PM

oh snap, my first confession. i never ask for these.

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"so I've been working on a girl pretty hard lately. bought her some valentines stuff and have a really nice date set up for this weekend because she has to work tonight. but I also have a semi date set up with a random chick who I plan on banging down with tonight, and this makes me feel guilty. should I feel guilty?"

2/14/2013 1:54:19 PM

no, not if you are not in an exclusive relationship with either of them

you could also ask yourself would you be hurt if the shoe was on the other foot and the girl did that to you

[Edited on February 14, 2013 at 1:57 PM. Reason : s]

2/14/2013 1:56:08 PM

I mean..... if you are trying to be in a relationship with girl 1, do you think she would be ok with you "banging down" with some other chick? you may not be in a relationship yet but if that's the end goal you're doing it wrong

If I found out a guy was pulling that shit I'd show him the door.

2/14/2013 1:59:33 PM

exactly

depends on your end goals

2/14/2013 2:11:01 PM

it always seems like a serious girl and side pieces come at about the same time. right when you find someone you wouldn't mind getting serious with you also have several options for nightly booty call.

2/14/2013 2:24:04 PM

not saying the nightly booty call is bad, just don't waste the other girl's time. make a choice.

2/14/2013 2:25:59 PM

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" Whenever I need some extra cash, I put on black jeans and a black shirt, go to a crowded bar, find the douchiest guys possible, "take their drink orders," tell them "cash-only," and leave. Boom. Hustled. "

2/16/2013 1:45:29 PM

This has happened to me before:

Go out on date with girl. Both really like each other, as we spend more time together, it's clear we both want a relationship. Around this point she tells me that she had hooked up with some other guy like 2 days before our first date.

Honestly, it's fair game. There was nothing wrong with that because she didn't even know me at the time. You should 'feel' guilty at a point, and you should come clean, but a reasonable person can't hold it against you. If you haven't even been on a full-fledged date with Person A, there's nothing holding you back with Person B.

Sometimes dates even get canceled because the Tuesday first date was so good that there's no reason for the Thursday first date. If you are LTR dating, then it's to be expected.

2/16/2013 6:27:58 PM

If anyone wants to send their odd sex confession...please send it here.

2/16/2013 6:35:27 PM

^^^if that is true, the confessor is actually the douchiest person in that exchange

that said, you'd have to be an idiot to fall for that. who would pay for their drinks before receiving them?

2/16/2013 6:39:54 PM

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"When I was around the ages 4-9 (possibly younger), some nights my dad would come lay in bed with me. The weird part was he would put his hand down the back of my underwear and just cup my ass while we lay there. He abruptly hushed any of my objections. I hated it at the time but thought it was normal. I think he might have done it to me older brother too. I want to ask my mom and brother about it now but my dad has been dead over 5 years and it will just cause unnecessary drama. "

2/18/2013 11:06:05 AM

I'd say that the drama might be necessary if it will help your own piece of mind. Imagine your mother and brother are dealing with the same problem but don't want to talk because they worry about tarnishing your memory of your father.

2/18/2013 11:11:23 AM

nvm

[Edited on February 18, 2013 at 12:24 PM. Reason : r23]

2/18/2013 12:01:35 PM

bump!

2/18/2013 6:49:50 PM

your dad was just trying to make sure you didn't have a rash.

2/18/2013 6:58:21 PM

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"I'm tired of the number of married/taken women that are into me and want to have an affair with me. Shit is getting annoying."

2/18/2013 7:38:33 PM

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"I was primed to bang a girl for the first time tonight...and I couldnt get it up. She's not a knockout, but attractive enough that I should get hard relatively quick. This has happened a few times previously with a new girl, and it's always back to steel the second night. Still, frustrating and embarrassing. My mouth and tongue made sure she got off several times, but I just feel so empty inside. Hopefully history repeats itself and I lay pipe tomorrow."

2/21/2013 7:54:57 AM

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"I've never really liked urinals without dividers, but now, because of Ian C. Dunne,I no longer want to even pee in public places..dividers or not. "

Also, don't forget about the TWWer who was filmed peeing at the State Fair... the urinals aren't safe

2/21/2013 11:08:48 AM

^^ I bet now she feels "empty in side", too

2/21/2013 11:14:26 AM

2/21/2013 11:15:56 AM

i too, am a private pee-er

2/21/2013 11:32:43 AM

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" So a few years ago, around thanksgiving 2010 I began to have an affair with my friends wife. It started with me "expending myself" into her panties in her dirty clothes, her finding out then encouraging me to do it again on her birthday and then us having a full on affair. It has been a while and I wanted to give an update. It's been about two years and it is still going on. We stopped for a brief period- she got pregnant by her husband but later there was a miscarriage- and have picked back up as strong as ever. We both feel that during the period where we are seeing each other we are happier in our day to day lives with our spouse. Less fighting, less stress, etc. Overall we see this as a good thing both for our own needs-we are each lacking something sexually with our spouse- and a good thing for our marriages as well. I know a few years ago when I last had something post in this thread everyone was up in arms about it and said danger looms ahead. However, given the duration and the benefits we've seen from it I'd be curious if any opinions may have changed. It's been so long, though, perhaps no one even remembers the initial event."

you are my hero.

[Edited on February 21, 2013 at 11:19 PM. Reason : f]

2/21/2013 11:19:09 PM

I still think you're a horrible person. Maybe if your spouses were aware it wouldn't be big deal but the whole sneaking around thing is still shitty imo

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 12:23 AM. Reason : .]

2/22/2013 12:22:42 AM

That's fucking terrible. How you can be so morally bankrupt to do that to someone you've pledged all of your love to is beyond me.

2/22/2013 7:20:04 AM

not everyone follows the same standard path to happiness. the horny man side of me thinks it's awesome and congratulates you on keeping it up over this length of time. the other side of me wonders about long term issues, changes in your lives, what if one family moves away or splits up? those kind of variables could cause problems.


also, is there any chance that the your married partners are actually aware of the trist and are just playing naive about it?

2/22/2013 8:05:48 AM

The horny part of you is a morally bankrupt POS.

2/22/2013 8:28:02 AM

nah, i know the difference between fantasy and reality.

2/22/2013 8:31:05 AM

if that were my spouse and i found out - it would destroy me. i'd much rather a divorce than that situation.

2/22/2013 8:44:14 AM

same here

i understand (sort of? not really?) that kind of situation works for some people in relationships but everyone involved needs to agree to it.

2/22/2013 8:48:58 AM

morally bankrupt.

pathetic.

put yourself in your spouse's shoes and ask yourself how you'd feel, not if, but when you found out about this crap.

2/22/2013 8:51:53 AM

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"DDK/H8R: I hear you. The girl and I have had a conversation around how would we feel if things were reversed. We both independently stated that if the roles were reversed we would likely be pissed at first but if we realized how much happier it made our spouse and how much better its made things at home since the start, then we'd be alright with it. I think part of that is self justification but for the most part we really mean it. Probably because we're experiencing it and can clearly see how its helped our marriages. However, I agree that no one outside of the experience would be able to evaluate the situation in a manner that would ever encourage the spouse to sit back and reflect on it. Jeep: I don't think they have the slightest clue. The girl and I have always interacted well with each other and had a good, open dynamic in a group setting so from that perspective nothing has changed. We've worked out how we meet up and when, so there aren't many opportunities for suspicion to arise. The only time things may have gotten too bold is when we did habit with each other one summer and would have "us time" during the second 4hr. session. I've never taken the time to think about what would happen if one of us moved. If that happened then we, or at least myself, would be very sad. At that point, I would likely become very unhappy around the house and that is when my spousal relationship would suffer. You bring up a good point and I will discuss that possibility with her."

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 12:13 PM. Reason : f]

2/22/2013 12:13:17 PM

you need to be discussing shit with your fucking wife as to why your relationship with her is not fulfilling

rationalize all you want, but this says a lot about who you are and what your values are

it's selfish as fuck and you need Jesus.

2/22/2013 12:52:36 PM

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"The girl and I have had a conversation around how would we feel if things were reversed. We both independently stated that if the roles were reversed we would likely be pissed at first but if we realized how much happier it made our spouse and how much better its made things at home since the start, then we'd be alright with it."

Oh, you would not be. You're just desperately trying to make it sound OK.

And people like this piss me off for getting married/staying married at all. You sound like one of those folks who's terrified of being unattached.

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 1:18 PM. Reason : sss]

2/22/2013 1:15:48 PM

H8R gonna H8


^he openly admits it's probably just self justification

2/22/2013 1:18:31 PM

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"rationalize all you want, but this says a lot about who you are and what your values are"

Yep. If I were a friend of yours, or your employer and I found out about it, I would terminate that relationship with you in a heartbeat. If you can't be trusted in what is supposed to be the most important relationship to you, I don't see how you could expect other friends or employers to trust you in other areas.

All that in addition to everything else that has been said.

2/22/2013 1:24:29 PM

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"Today marks the anniversary of when I first lost my virginity! I've been having sex now for 11 years! "

confess to me!

2/22/2013 1:26:23 PM

having been on the other side of this, I think it is pretty fucked, but I see I'm not the only one

2/22/2013 1:30:45 PM

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"it's selfish as fuck and you need Jesus."

and this is one of many reasons why i love H8R




[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 1:39 PM. Reason : ^you're alright too ]

2/22/2013 1:39:32 PM

In many infidelity cases, it's not the sex that bothers the one who was cheated on. It's the betrayal of trust and vows.

Plenty of couples aren't monogamous in their marriages because they find joy or (I don't know what to put here) from their extramarital interactions. But that's when everyone knows about it and agrees to it. Try finding an article on open/swinger relationships. Share it with your spouse and see how they actually feel about it. That's probably the closest you can get to figuring out how they feel about what you have going on without actually growing balls and talking to them about the true issues.

2/22/2013 1:43:57 PM

2/22/2013 1:44:03 PM

"DDK/H8R: I hear you. The girl and I have had a conversation around how would we feel if things were reversed. We both independently stated that if the roles were reversed we would likely be pissed at first but if we realized how much happier it made our spouse and how much better its made things at home since the start, then we'd be alright with it. I think part of that is self justification but for the most part we really mean it. Probably because we're experiencing it and can clearly see how its helped our marriages. However, I agree that no one outside of the experience would be able to evaluate the situation in a manner that would ever encourage the spouse to sit back and reflect on it."

you are so full of shit you have to be choking on it at this point

2/22/2013 1:47:36 PM

i dunno. i sort of see his point. ive definitely dated girls where we were great companions and i knew they'd be a good wife but we just weren't compatible sexually. basically we were best friends. now, when that happened i just broke up with the person and tried to find someone new instead. so while i dont agree with the strategy i can see why he would still want to be with his wife and be involved sexually with someone else.

you're married and maybe things arent so bad that you could warrant a divorce and that is why but my major question to you is did you know you and your wife weren't compatible sexually before marriage? if so then you settled and thats what is driving this.

Also confess to me. i'll play this game.

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 1:54 PM. Reason : oh yeah!]

2/22/2013 1:53:48 PM

So talk to your wife? lots of people have arrangements. hell I can see myself doing something like that. it's the fact he's betraying his wife and his friend that's the shitty part.

2/22/2013 1:55:08 PM