fleetwud AmbitiousButRubbish 49741 Posts user info edit post |
317 where do I find this book? 8/10/2013 1:14:29 PM |
sparky Garage Mod 12301 Posts user info edit post |
i hope that book is "The Game" 8/12/2013 5:34:50 PM |
Sleik All American 11177 Posts user info edit post |
posted 8/12/2013 9:02:36 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Been a while. Anybody wanna confess to me? 8/13/2013 3:02:14 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
Bump
Usually those who bump are the ones who want to confess/complain within the next few days
[Edited on August 24, 2013 at 12:24 AM. Reason : ] 8/24/2013 12:22:19 AM |
ncsuapex SpaceForRent 37776 Posts user info edit post |
You people are a bunch of fucking liars 8/24/2013 6:38:43 PM |
qntmfred retired 40726 Posts user info edit post |
HIT ME 8/24/2013 11:12:39 PM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
8/25/2013 10:35:09 AM |
qntmfred retired 40726 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I just cheated on my girlfriend. I feel like a real douchebag...I shouldn't have done that." |
first time cheater? did you pursue the affair or did you get pursued? gonna come clean to the gf?
Quote : | "Several years ago, I met a woman and had sex with her. She told me-after the fact-that she was married, but separated, and that her divorce would be final in a couple of months. I pretty much told her to leave, and she would be invited back if/when her divorce was finalized.
Well, a couple of months later, she tells me that it's a done deal, and she wants to meet back up. We did, and we continued to knock boots for the next 3 years or so, periodically at least (she lived hours away, so she'd come over when she was in town, or sometimes we'd meet halfway). It was fairly routinely ongoing, though, like probably once every few months, on average.
Well, fast-forward some...I hadn't seen her in about a year, but we were talking about meeting up again. I don't remember what, if anything, brought it up, but she came clean that she had been lying the entire time. For the entire time I'd been nailing her, she was married. Happily married for 14 years, in her words! (With 2 kids, to boot). I told her that we couldn't bone anymore.
About a month later, she confided in me that she'd started banging a new dude (besides her husband). I told her that she was going to create a fucking shitstorm, and that she had been extraordinarily lucky so far, as I hadn't even known to be secretive! I told her that she would eventually get caught, and it would be a catastrophe. After some arguing to me that no, it would be OK, she finally conceded that I was right and she needed to get her shit together.
Well, about a week later, sure enough, I got a FB message from her that her husband had intercepted a text from the new guy, and was suspicious, so she had to deactivate her Facebook, and that we could never have any more communication, and to not even reply to that message.
Well, fast forward another month or two, and earlier this week, I got a phone call from her husband. To make a long story short, he was a total pro, totally cool. He wanted my assurance that I wouldn't further pursue his wife, as they are trying to patch things up. I told him he had nothing to worry about from me. He wanted to tell me that he knew about basically the whole story with his wife and me, but that he didn't blame me and had no intention of taking any action against me. He also wanted me to corroborate a few things his wife had told him, because obviously he doesn't really trust her right now, and wanted to know a few things like if I was aware of anyone besides myself and that new dude (I was not, and in fact specifically had asked her that question, as I was curious myself), or whether I thought she was emotionally invested in me (had she ever told me that she loved me--I told him hell no, and that she always spoke highly of him, and that I thought she was pretty much emotionally invested in him.)
At any rate, it turns out that this poor bastard's cousin was the new guy his wife was fucking behind his back.
Pretty mind blowing. Mind blowing that I could bang a chick for 3 years and not realize she was married...mind blowing in that these are a couple of professionals. We're talking graduate degrees, not GEDs. She's far from the trailer-trashy type that you would expect to be doing shit like this (husband's cousin? WTF?)" |
well that's definitely some shit right there. how the husband responded is the craziest part. i wonder how in the hell she's making it up to him that he wants to patch it up and not just bounce8/25/2013 11:52:47 AM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
it always amazes me that some men can stand by their wives in certain situations. the ones caught having sexual relations with students always comes to mind. I know the whole for better or for worse stuff, but man, i question whether or not i'd be able to do what some of these guys do. the humility is overwhelming. 8/25/2013 12:10:45 PM |
elise mainly potato 13090 Posts user info edit post |
I feel like I could forgive a one time thing depending on the circumstance. More than once, though, I don't think I could do it. 8/25/2013 12:18:25 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
hahahaha, that shit is awesome - That husband would be my hero except for the fact that he stayed with her. 8/25/2013 3:14:27 PM |
MinkaGrl01
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Quote : | "I can't fuck to Isaac Hays or any soul music because of how ridiculously white I feel." |
8/28/2013 4:07:12 PM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
Isaac hayes*
I'm Krallum and I approved this message. 8/28/2013 4:11:02 PM |
acraw All American 9257 Posts user info edit post |
white dudes bang like heavy metal music 8/28/2013 5:08:10 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
wwhhaatt? who have you been messing around with? 8/28/2013 5:18:32 PM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
XSMP?
I'm Krallum and I approved this message.
[Edited on August 28, 2013 at 5:19 PM. Reason : Although i'd imagine he fucks to those beats he sold.] 8/28/2013 5:19:25 PM |
jbrick83 All American 23447 Posts user info edit post |
In regards to the large confession above...a few things...
First...it's not that crazy. You're naïve if you think shit like this doesn't go down on the regular. I'm not saying that a majority of marriages involve infidelity, but its definitely not a small minority.
Second...while I don't necessarily agree with the husband, I can understand it. It's not easy just to dip out on a marriage, especially a long one with several kids. Who knows what's going on in their marital home. I'm not going to hate on a dude for trying to work things out with the mother of his kids (and someone he obviously still loves...and says she still loves him). That's a big fucking obstacle to overcome...but if he can get over it, more power to him. I doubt I could.
[Edited on August 28, 2013 at 5:37 PM. Reason : .] 8/28/2013 5:28:55 PM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
Not only that, but 90% of marriages end in DEATH
I'm Krallum and i approved this message. 8/28/2013 5:36:35 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "First...it's not that crazy. You're naïve if you think shit like this doesn't go down on the regular." |
No joke - I was banging a chick one time and all of a sudden she was like, "you can cum inside me because me and my husband are trying anyway." My dick has never shriveled so fast8/28/2013 5:39:17 PM |
BigHitSunday Dick Danger 51059 Posts user info edit post |
Tell your friends where the dicks at Where you can get hit And it won't get back To your soulmate If you kiss him use Colgate She swallowed it! Yea the bitch took the whole 8 8/28/2013 5:56:52 PM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
i was sucking on this chicks tits in the park across from news and observer during hopscotch 2 years ago. she was invited me up to her room and then told me she was married
i quit right there and didnt go any further. fuck that shit 8/28/2013 6:22:29 PM |
petejames All American 2236 Posts user info edit post |
I slept with a married chick for a while. I never felt that bad about it, I guess maybe I'm a terrible person 8/28/2013 6:26:55 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
Hey, you're not the one cheating. 8/28/2013 6:27:23 PM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
you can have your ass sued off in NC for knowingly engaging in adultery
there was a huge case from clayton nc regarding alienation of affection 8/28/2013 6:30:29 PM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "it always amazes me that some men people can stand by their wives spouses in certain situations. the ones caught having sexual relations with students always comes to mind. I know the whole for better or for worse stuff, but man, i question whether or not i'd be able to do what some of these guys people do" |
ftfy
and yeah i've had some married ex pursuing me over the last couple years...just got a text from her the other day actually. she says she divorced but i'm not sure i'm buying it, really don't care if she is since she was wanting to cheat when she was married
[Edited on August 28, 2013 at 6:42 PM. Reason : ^ they'd have to prove the one sleeping with the married person knew though]8/28/2013 6:39:58 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
^^ That's the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard of 8/28/2013 6:41:03 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
you fixed it for yourself. not for me. 8/28/2013 6:47:38 PM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation_of_affections North Carolina
In North Carolina, alienation of affections suits are still regularly pursued, with an estimated 200 lawsuits a year filed. Courts sometimes award large awards, with a few cases in recent years involving awards of over one million dollars. In March 2010, Cynthia Shackelford won a $9 million suit against her husband's alleged mistress.[2]
Another case, with the judgment handed down in early September 2010, boasted the second highest award in the history of such suits. Dr. Lynn Arcara successfully sued her former friend, Susan Pecoraro, who allegedly seduced Arcara's husband while Pecoraro was visiting the couple at their North Carolina home (Pecoraro now lives in Maryland). Arcara was nearing the expected delivery date of their unborn child at the time, the couple's first, and her friend, Pecoraro, had come to help Arcara prepare the nursery for the soon-to-be-born child. The alleged affair took place in 2006, and the marriage ended in 2007. Lawyer Cynthia Mills, who represented Arcara, played up the fact that Arcara had been betrayed by her closest friend. Pecoraro's own marriage ended in 2007, after the affair had been discovered.[3]
In North Carolina such lawsuits can be filed only for conduct prior to a separation; although, prior to changes in the law which went into effect in October 2009, the tort of criminal conversation applied to post-separation conduct as well.[4] T
he North Carolina legislature has repeatedly had bills to abolish the tort introduced, and declined to do so.[5] In 2009, the General Assembly approved legislation which placed some additional limits on such lawsuits.[6] The bill was signed into law by Governor Bev Perdue on August 3, 2009, and is codified under Chapter 52 of the North Carolina General Statutes:[7]
“ § 52-13. Procedures in causes of action for alienation of affection and criminal conversation.
(a) No act of the defendant shall give rise to a cause of action for alienation of affection or criminal conversation that occurs after the plaintiff and the plaintiff's spouse physically separate with the intent of either the plaintiff or plaintiff's spouse that the physical separation remain permanent.
(b) An action for alienation of affection or criminal conversation shall not be commenced more than three years from the last act of the defendant giving rise to the cause of action.
(c) A person may commence a cause of action for alienation of affection or criminal conversation against a natural person only.[4] ”
An Alienation of Affections suit may be brought against an employer if one of these three circumstances is evident. 1) The employer authorized the employee’s acts; 2) The employee’s acts were committed within the scope of his employment and in furtherance of the employer’s business; or 3) The employer ratifies the employee’s acts.[8]
Each of the three limitations arose from a recent North Carolina legal case involving the tort. In Jones v. Skelly, N.C.App. 2009, the North Carolina Court of Appeals had held that the tort applies even to legally separated spouses. In Mesenheimer v. Burris, N.C. 2006, the North Carolina Supreme Court held that the statute of limitation commences when the affair should have been discovered rather than when it occurred. In Smith v. Lee, 2007 U.S. Dist. LEXIS 78987, the Federal District Court for the Western District of North Carolina noted that the question of whether an employer could be held liable for an affair conducted by an employee (e.g. while on a business trip for the employer) was still unsettled in North Carolina.
There is often confusion over where an employee's "scope of employment" ends. An example of this would be a minister having sex with a person that has been receiving counseling services from that minister. In theory the minister is acting within the scope of employment because it is their duty to provide these counseling services and it is through these services that they gain access to the victim.
[Edited on August 28, 2013 at 7:04 PM. Reason : ghjk] 8/28/2013 7:03:47 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
I realize it's a thing. It's just dumb as fuck. 8/28/2013 7:07:05 PM |
gunzz IS NÚMERO UNO 68205 Posts user info edit post |
that wasnt just for you, friend.
its a warning that these are very real and you can lose your ass 8/28/2013 7:10:51 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
gotcha 8/28/2013 7:23:02 PM |
theDuke866 All American 52839 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | " white dudes bang like heavy metal music" |
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8/28/2013 9:34:13 PM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Chubby kid in my homeroom (7th grade) got ISS today for purposely pissing all over the bathroom floor. Boy has the bladder of an adult elephant." |
Whats ISS
I'm Krallum and I approved this message.8/28/2013 10:26:32 PM |
BigHitSunday Dick Danger 51059 Posts user info edit post |
In school suspension! 8/28/2013 10:27:36 PM |
qntmfred retired 40726 Posts user info edit post |
my inbox is now available for your confessions. 8/28/2013 11:31:38 PM |
Tarun almost 11687 Posts user info edit post |
Ken, does NSA snoop into tdub inbox? 8/29/2013 12:01:21 AM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
I could've sworn I sent someone a confession
I'm Krallum and I approved this message. 9/3/2013 7:33:11 PM |
EMCE balls deep 89771 Posts user info edit post |
^. Sorry, I wasn't online. I just got home from work....
Quote : | "I really empathize with that rapist that might have caught HIV from one of his victims " |
9/3/2013 7:44:37 PM |
EMCE balls deep 89771 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "My confession is that I am a piece of shit and a hypocrite.
June 1st I left my old company and moved to DC for a new job, leaving my wife in Durham. Since the job appeared to be a great opportunity (title change + large $$ upside), we decided that I would take this job and commute back and forth to Durham on the weekends, until we have kids in 2 years.
I hate it. I really dislike this city and I have found out that neither the job nor the company or what they seemed. The company culture is cold and the opportunity for growth and income aren't what I was told (in 1.5 years I would have made more if I had stayed at my old job). Each day when I speak to my wife we discuss how much we miss each other, how this was harder than imagined and how we wish we'd never have done it.
But here is the thing, I recently realized that while I do love my wife, if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't be sad at all. I would miss her but I wouldn't be overly concerned with the separation. When I had this revelation, I had to admit that unlike my wife who genuinely hates this new dynamic, I hate that it is happening to me and would be totally alright if roles were reversed. This is why I am a piece of shit.
I am a a hypocrite because if anyone else were in my shoes, I would tell them "just suck it up, people travel 5 days a week all the time. this is part of being in the big leagues." "you're not in afghanistan, people leave their homes, go there for little money and possibly die. " and sound real high and mighty on them while I said it. Despite this, I've found myself looking for jobs back in Durham. Even though I have a year lease, would have to repay a signing bonus and my old job is no longer vacant, I would do it because I'm that unhappy. So now when I look in the mirror not only do I see a piece of shit and a hypocrite but also a complete wuss." |
9/3/2013 9:18:36 PM |
JeffreyBSG All American 10165 Posts user info edit post |
^ dude, your feelings don't make you a piece of shit...only your actions can do that. and you've done nothing wrong.
the fact that your wife misses you a lot more than you miss her doesn't make you in any way a scumbag...it's just an unfortunate state of affairs that you can't help. now, if you were cheating on her in DC (which is what I expected to hear) then you'd be a piece of shit. but as things stand, you sound totally blameless.
still, it sounds like this DC gig ain't working out, and the sooner you get your ass back to NC, the better.] 9/3/2013 10:17:54 PM |
Dr Pepper All American 3583 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "and the sooner you get your ass back to NC, the better." |
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LFqWIKayIE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qK4d3lPyU0Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gX1EP6mG-E
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHnA94-hTC89/4/2013 7:32:29 AM |
Krallum 56A0D3 15294 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "^. Sorry, I wasn't online. I just got home from work...." |
I would never tell a nigger a secret :^)
I'm Krallum and I approved this message.9/4/2013 12:00:56 PM |
BridgetSPK #1 Sir Purr Fan 31378 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "So now when I look in the mirror not only do I see a piece of shit and a hypocrite but also a complete wuss." |
None of what you wrote actually indicates that you are a hypocrite, a piece of shit, or a wuss. If you really wanna know, you're boring, whiney, and self-involved--everybody is.
I'm gonna see how long it takes me to feel bad about this post.9/4/2013 12:26:35 PM |
BridgetSPK #1 Sir Purr Fan 31378 Posts user info edit post |
^I take it all back! 9/4/2013 1:19:56 PM |
ComputerGuy (IN)Sensitive 5052 Posts user info edit post |
Dude get a girlfriend. 9/4/2013 1:45:09 PM |
Klatypus All American 6786 Posts user info edit post |
for some reason I don't think that^ is going to help 9/4/2013 1:46:56 PM |
ComputerGuy (IN)Sensitive 5052 Posts user info edit post |
It will help him enjoy DC. 9/4/2013 2:17:58 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with. 9/4/2013 2:21:30 PM |
GREEN JAY All American 14180 Posts user info edit post |
I think it's natural that you would be less affected by your spouse's absence if you got to stay in your old town with your old friends and your old job. However, if you're at all empathetic, I suspect you would be more affected by your wife's unhappiness in toughing it out alone than you currently estimate.
Hearing each other say that you're miserable and wishing you hadn't taken the job every day can't be making it easier on either of you to adjust. Also, I hope that she's coming up to DC some weekends, and you're not just going down there every time. You need to do some stuff in your area in your time off, and maybe make at least a casual good-time friend to develop some attachment to your new location and rediscover the excitement of the city. And sharing that with your wife routinely, or choosing other places to meet and explore periodically. Always going back home on the weekend to keep pretending you live in Durham isn't going help either of you adjust. In the year I was living apart from my spouse, was much happier meeting up in other cities during the monthly-to-bimonthly visits we got together, rather than going back to our old apartment and being reminded of our former life.
Having an affair is a terrible suggestion if he's hating DC. the man just wants to go home, not run away. retards. 9/4/2013 2:42:22 PM |