Wraith All American 27257 Posts user info edit post |
Ah yeah, loving this e-game. 2/27/2014 1:55:36 PM |
CalledToArms All American 22025 Posts user info edit post |
anonymous e-game 2/27/2014 2:42:30 PM |
bmel l3md 11149 Posts user info edit post |
2/27/2014 2:43:17 PM |
BridgetSPK #1 Sir Purr Fan 31378 Posts user info edit post |
The anonymous e-game is working on me.
I'm super jealous. 2/27/2014 4:17:02 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
that confessor should get at me. i can put that bug in hippie's ear while i force her to watch game of thrones this weekend.
[Edited on February 27, 2014 at 6:40 PM. Reason : just kidding, no force necessary] 2/27/2014 6:39:07 PM |
pttyndal WINGS!!!!! 35217 Posts user info edit post |
Dear Meg's TDub Match Making Service, hook a brother up with them digits. Sidenote- do we need to have them show Game of Thrones at Buffalo Wild Wings for you to come again? 2/27/2014 7:00:55 PM |
Meg All American 6759 Posts user info edit post |
just make the wings free and i'll come
i'm broke as a joke and it's about to get worse
though that could help. still mad you never called when scott wood showed up. i could have been there in 15 minutes flat.
[Edited on February 27, 2014 at 7:14 PM. Reason : ] 2/27/2014 7:13:52 PM |
pttyndal WINGS!!!!! 35217 Posts user info edit post |
Snooze ya lose. And I'm sure we can figure out something. Maybe we'll just take a hat around for the Feed Meg Fund. 2/27/2014 7:28:20 PM |
LivinProof78 All American 49373 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | " So in an attempt to be more comfortable with ass play I let my wife shave my ass crack and brown eye last night. I have to say things went better then expected. It was a little awkward at first but then became somewhat stimulating. I gotta say...I think I will keep this up. " |
3/3/2014 3:47:57 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
way to go guy. plus, having a shaved ass crack makes wiping so much easier. 3/3/2014 3:55:11 PM |
FroshKiller All American 51911 Posts user info edit post |
That was almost certainly zxappeal. 3/3/2014 3:55:30 PM |
mkcarter PLAY SO HARD 4369 Posts user info edit post |
does he oft confuse then/than? 3/3/2014 7:06:17 PM |
slappy1 All American 2303 Posts user info edit post |
^^^^just trying to imagine how that went down...were you standing in the bathtub, bent over, spreading your asscheeks for her? or laid back on the bed with your feet behind your head? 3/3/2014 10:06:39 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
lol good point. i didn't think about that. if the wife offered i'm sure either was a complete turn on though. 3/4/2014 8:07:12 AM |
LivinProof78 All American 49373 Posts user info edit post |
^^ask and you shall receive
Quote : | "in bath tub, bent over spreading ass cheeks. i think she liked how vulnerable it made me feel...lol " |
3/4/2014 9:06:05 AM |
BobbyDigital Thots and Prayers 41777 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "having a shaved ass crack makes wiping so much easier." |
obligatory peanut butter/shag carpet joke.3/4/2014 9:44:22 AM |
EMCE balls deep 89771 Posts user info edit post |
3/4/2014 9:55:08 AM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
We need a new confession to get that mental image out of our collective heads. 3/4/2014 10:26:15 AM |
dropdeadkate nerdlord 11725 Posts user info edit post |
3/4/2014 11:51:24 AM |
Sayer now with sarcasm 9841 Posts user info edit post |
Hot damn I love getting these
Quote : | " There is a person that I shouldn't date, but we've been sexting since an awkward encounter earlier this week. We both feel like we need to just fuck each other so that maybe the sexual tension will die down and we can hang out each other without everyone knowing that we want to have sex.
Despite the fact that I should want the sex to be boring so I can move on with life and not cause problems, I really want it to be mind-blowingly awesome so we can sneak around in secret for awhile. " |
3/12/2014 8:10:19 PM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
shouldn't date??? How so? 3/12/2014 8:38:00 PM |
begonias warning: not serious 19578 Posts user info edit post |
yeah we're gonna need more info 3/12/2014 8:46:42 PM |
BridgetSPK #1 Sir Purr Fan 31378 Posts user info edit post |
I'm not opposed to reading the sexts. 3/12/2014 8:49:46 PM |
theDuke866 All American 52839 Posts user info edit post |
Haha 3/12/2014 8:55:45 PM |
EMCE balls deep 89771 Posts user info edit post |
[Edited on March 12, 2014 at 8:59 PM. Reason : FFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUU]
3/12/2014 8:59:04 PM |
theDuke866 All American 52839 Posts user info edit post |
Hahaha, uhh...take your cousin to the bone zone because it would be gross to date her? 3/12/2014 9:02:06 PM |
freshmonkey HULK SMASH 3870 Posts user info edit post |
Somebody send me a late night confession 3/12/2014 11:58:38 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
hopefully sayer gets a follow up with more details. 3/13/2014 8:13:53 AM |
Dr Pepper All American 3583 Posts user info edit post |
- friend's mom/dad - cousin - friend's wife/husband - wife/husband's friend
3/13/2014 8:23:33 AM |
Sayer now with sarcasm 9841 Posts user info edit post |
UPDATE
Quote : | "We were able to hook-up last night. The floor next to the bed this morning reminded me of that scene in Fight Club after Tyler had Marla over. Condom wrappers were just everywhere. Mind-blowing it was. Therefore, this scenario seems very likely "we can sneak around in secret for awhile."
For those wondering, you know you're not supposed to date coworkers, certain friends, etc. It's like that. I doubt anyone would do much other that talk behind backs, but I'd rather keep it mostly secret for now." |
3/13/2014 11:54:25 AM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
good for you man. 3/13/2014 11:58:12 AM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
So this is a:
or a:
or:
...meaning cousin? 3/13/2014 2:36:01 PM |
Wraith All American 27257 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "The floor next to the bed this morning reminded me of that scene in Fight Club after Tyler had Marla over. Condom wrappers were just everywhere." |
I, too, have had sex.3/13/2014 3:05:43 PM |
moron All American 34142 Posts user info edit post |
probably a step-sibling. 3/13/2014 5:24:32 PM |
NCSUStinger Duh, Winning 62451 Posts user info edit post |
bttt 3/26/2014 6:11:22 PM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
Now accepting confessions. 3/26/2014 8:39:11 PM |
Hiro All American 4673 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "date coworkers, certain friends, etc." |
dating and fucking are two different things...3/26/2014 10:55:30 PM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
Green-ify my inbox! 3/27/2014 8:18:17 AM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I'm not sure what to do...suck it up because this is marriage, get counseling or pack it in for a divorce. I could use a lot of ol' fashioned tww feedback on this one because it's hard and i'm not man enough to ask any of my "real friends". Suppose it's also sad that I'm not close enough to anyone that I feel comfortable asking them, alas:
My wife gets mad at me all the time. Not for your basic stuff, after all I take out the trash, clean up the house daily, put the toilet seat down and even make dinner. But it's little things, that, personally are hard for me to take seriously, which makes it hard when she is so upset about it. the stuff I'm going to mention sounds trivial in and of itself, which I get. However, what makes it hard is that every 1 to 3 days she gets mad at me about something similar to the below and it becomes a drawn out conversation.
Today she said a song was written in one year and i stated that it was written in another. The result was a 30 minute conversation in how I make her feel dumb. The other day it was because I asked her if we could keep one of her family events between 8 - 5 on Sunday and the result was her saying I don't want to be part of her family. On Friday she was explaining to me about something at her work and after looking away for a second she got incredibly mad that I don't pay attention to her.
I wouldn't be mad if she just got annoyed but she gets angry to the point where it consumes her. Even when I say that "I'm done" and "don't want to talk about it" after a long discussion she'll push me to speak my mind as to why I've gotten upset and then get further mad at me for what I say after that. What's worse is that in each an every instance there is something that I've either recently done that contradicts her point entirely or very recently done the exact thing about which she is complaining. I also can't point out these contradictions because she feels me comparing her actions to mine is unfair and discounting her emotions.
To put it in context of the above, in her argument tonight she said she wished I'd occasionally tell her that her ideas were good and she is smart...I had done this on at least 3 separate occasions before our argument tonight. With the family thing, I've been to see her family on at least 5 separate events since Thanksgiving, with a few more planned in the near future. One of those events we only went to because I suggested we should. I've seen my own family once in that same time frame. On Friday when I discussed both my work and some items important to me she scrolled instagram the entire time.
I know this is a lot to read and isn't necessarily coherent (I'm in a fit of rage at the moment) but I'm totally lost as what to do. Is this just what marriage is like? She's always been similar to this, to a degree, but it is just getting worse.
I've got more to say.... a lot more ... but I'll stop here for commentary and respond with additional info as needed. Seriously, I need any input I can get at the moment because I'm not sure what to do." |
3/27/2014 9:52:43 AM |
DaBird All American 7551 Posts user info edit post |
just because "you are done" talking doesn't mean that the other person is. sometimes people have to vent.
however, she does sound pretty insecure. counseling would probably help. 3/27/2014 9:56:21 AM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
How long has she been like this? It could be indicative of some other underlying issue she might have.
I would definitely look into counseling if you feel it's something that could be talked through...if it's just how she is, well then you've got some big decisions to make. 3/27/2014 9:56:33 AM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
Are you seriously considering divorce without actually trying to work through it?
To me, it sounds like she's not getting something she needs, and it's manifesting as getting mad at you for stupid reasons. She might not even know what it is that she's missing from you. Counseling wouldn't be a bad idea.
I would also recommend reading The Five Love Languages and seeing if you can figure out clues she might be dropping for her unmet needs. I read it on a whim a couple years ago and was surprised to find it quite useful. Just don't take the stupid terminology too seriously.
I recommend that because the "but I've done X and Y and she's still not happy" is a common theme in the stories in the book, and it helped me realize things about the way I interact in relationships. 3/27/2014 10:06:00 AM |
jbrick83 All American 23447 Posts user info edit post |
First...if she's truly like this all the time...then that sucks and you might end up having to cut and run and some point soon.
Second...you've got to figure out if that's the way she's always going to be or if something's going on. Hopefully there is an underlying reason and you guys can figure it out. Whether it be counseling or a calm and composed sit down hash it out session.
I've experienced similar things with my wife, but it was always the result of her being frustrated with something else...mainly her job. My wife absolutely abhors her job right now and she has often brought it home and taken it out on me. Our little fights would always be about something completely different, but it always boiled down to the fact that she was completely frustrated with her job and it just made her fuse very short with everything else.
The key is to be able to get her to sit down calmly and talk about things. If you can't do that, then you might need to get a professional to do it for you. And even though you feel like you are in the right about most of those things, you will also have to concede that you might actually be wrong on a few of them...or you have to see it from her viewpoint...OR you might just have to suck it up and admit that you are wrong even if you aren't (for the good of your relationship and your sanity).
I feel like I've dealt with these issues in my marriage pretty well. We'll have some short shouting matches, but I usually get her to calm down and we can talk about things. I'll apologize for whatever it was that I did that set her off, and she usually admits that she was wrong and/or overreacted and then she apologizes. I feel like we always end up in a better place because she gets to get stuff off her chest and we feel like we worked through something. 3/27/2014 10:20:27 AM |
Beethoven All American 4080 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "Are you seriously considering divorce without actually trying to work through it?
To me, it sounds like she's not getting something she needs, and it's manifesting as getting mad at you for stupid reasons. She might not even know what it is that she's missing from you. Counseling wouldn't be a bad idea.
I would also recommend reading The Five Love Languages and seeing if you can figure out clues she might be dropping for her unmet needs. I read it on a whim a couple years ago and was surprised to find it quite useful. Just don't take the stupid terminology too seriously.
I recommend that because the "but I've done X and Y and she's still not happy" is a common theme in the stories in the book, and it helped me realize things about the way I interact in relationships." |
This -- a million times over.
Also, to me, it wouldn't matter how many times you'd taken out the trash or cleaned or cooked dinner, if I felt you were talking down to me. Maybe she's way off base, and you're really not talking down to her. But maybe you are. Maybe she's let it slide for so many years and she's reached a breaking point. I think counseling is a good recommendation. She may learn things about herself and how to let go of the small things. You may also learn how to approach your wife in a better manner, or maybe that your tone of voice conveys more than the actual words you say. It sounds like the two of you have a disconnect in communication, but that's fixable.3/27/2014 10:52:56 AM |
Wraith All American 27257 Posts user info edit post |
Def seems like a communication issue. Talk to a counselor. It almost reminds me of having a very passive aggressive roommate -- you do your regular stuff without even realizing that you are pissing them off because they never really say anything about. Eventually it gets the point where they are resenting you and get easily pissed off by even the smallest thing. 3/27/2014 11:03:59 AM |
NCSUHippie If it feels good 1189 Posts user info edit post |
This is a total communication issue, and I agree with Skwinkle that there may be a bigger underlying issue at stake. Also, be honest with yourself. Do you find that you correct her often (like the year a song comes out)? Why are you upset about attending so many of her family's things when you even suggested going to one of them? Do you really care about her stories and rants, or do you pretend? She can probably pick-up a lot of non-verbal clues that you may be unaware that you are giving out.
Anyway, the point is... tell her how you feel. Be honest. You are married, this is the closest relationship that you will have (outside of possible children). You should be able to be honest with her, and tell her your needs. If you are upset that she distracts herself while you are telling her a story, then say so. Likewise, make sure she knows that she has your full attention when she needs it. And telling someone that YOU are done with a conversation is pretty rude...
Counseling. I think this needs to be mandatory in marriages anyway. 3/27/2014 11:55:06 AM |
MinkaGrl01
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Everything Swkinkle said! I too recommend The Five Love Languages. I was having the same issues with an ex of mine. All we did was argue about little things. I definitely wasnt getting what i needed and i never was.
Hopefully you guys can worth it out! 3/27/2014 9:34:20 PM |
moron All American 34142 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I'm not sure what to do...suck it up because this is marriage, get counseling or pack it in for a divorce. I could use a lot of ol' fashioned tww feedback on this one because it's hard and i'm not man enough to ask any of my "real friends". Suppose it's also sad that I'm not close enough to anyone that I feel comfortable asking them, alas:
My wife gets mad at me all the time. Not for your basic stuff, after all I take out the trash, clean up the house daily, put the toilet seat down and even make dinner. But it's little things, that, personally are hard for me to take seriously, which makes it hard when she is so upset about it. the stuff I'm going to mention sounds trivial in and of itself, which I get. However, what makes it hard is that every 1 to 3 days she gets mad at me about something similar to the below and it becomes a drawn out conversation.
Today she said a song was written in one year and i stated that it was written in another. The result was a 30 minute conversation in how I make her feel dumb. The other day it was because I asked her if we could keep one of her family events between 8 - 5 on Sunday and the result was her saying I don't want to be part of her family. On Friday she was explaining to me about something at her work and after looking away for a second she got incredibly mad that I don't pay attention to her.
I wouldn't be mad if she just got annoyed but she gets angry to the point where it consumes her. Even when I say that "I'm done" and "don't want to talk about it" after a long discussion she'll push me to speak my mind as to why I've gotten upset and then get further mad at me for what I say after that. What's worse is that in each an every instance there is something that I've either recently done that contradicts her point entirely or very recently done the exact thing about which she is complaining. I also can't point out these contradictions because she feels me comparing her actions to mine is unfair and discounting her emotions.
To put it in context of the above, in her argument tonight she said she wished I'd occasionally tell her that her ideas were good and she is smart...I had done this on at least 3 separate occasions before our argument tonight. With the family thing, I've been to see her family on at least 5 separate events since Thanksgiving, with a few more planned in the near future. One of those events we only went to because I suggested we should. I've seen my own family once in that same time frame. On Friday when I discussed both my work and some items important to me she scrolled instagram the entire time.
I know this is a lot to read and isn't necessarily coherent (I'm in a fit of rage at the moment) but I'm totally lost as what to do. Is this just what marriage is like? She's always been similar to this, to a degree, but it is just getting worse.
I've got more to say.... a lot more ... but I'll stop here for commentary and respond with additional info as needed. Seriously, I need any input I can get at the moment because I'm not sure what to do."" |
This is stereotypical "crazy bitch" personality. My ex was like this, and I know of 2 other acquaintances with this exact same personality type. I bet when she calms down and is not angry, she's the best person to be around? Does it almost seem like a Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde kind of thing? Is time the only thing that helps her calm down (i.e. even if you completely acquiesce, there's some lingering anger for a bit longer?)? Does she apologize for over reacting when she calms down?
If so, i think the only thing that would help might be medication. I haven't see any amount of counseling/talking/discussion help someone with this kind of personality. You can take comfort in that it's most likely nothing about you, this would happen with anyone. If she has any siblings, you might could get a feel if she's like this with them too (in my case, she was).
[Edited on March 27, 2014 at 10:16 PM. Reason : (if any of these conditions aren't met it could be something else)]3/27/2014 9:52:34 PM |
synapse play so hard 60939 Posts user info edit post |
Holy fuck the women ITT are really bagging on this dude.
Please try to give some impartial advice here ladies. There's no reason to knee-jerk yourself into acting like this guy is an asshole and the woman is right
Quote : | "Maybe she's way off base, and you're really not talking down to your wife . But maybe you are. Maybe she's let it slide for so many years and she's reached a breaking point" |
aka she thinks you're actually talking down to your wife
Quote : | " She may learn things about herself and how to let go of the small things." |
aka she thinks you're actually talking down to your wife
Quote : | "You may also learn how to approach your wife in a better manner, or maybe that your tone of voice conveys more than the actual words you say." |
aka she thinks you're actually talking down to your wife
Quote : | "Also, be honest with yourself. Do you find that you correct her often " |
aka she thinks you're actually talking down to your wife
Quote : | "And telling someone that YOU are done with a conversation is pretty rude... " |
Fuck that. Sometimes it is needed, and helpful. After ending an emotional conversation, and trying again the next day when either or both parties aren't being guided by emotion, good things can happen. Sometimes people need a break from their emotions...u dig?
[Edited on March 28, 2014 at 12:22 AM. Reason : ]3/28/2014 12:13:49 AM |
Hiro All American 4673 Posts user info edit post |
Marriage Counseling.
Try it. Seriously. You'll learn things about yourself you didn't know about and things about the other person you were blind to. It could help. Or it might not help, but at least you tried because it sounds like you want to try. 3/28/2014 2:32:20 AM |