^

4/2/2014 1:25:38 PM

AHA, I wanna edit the post out, but you've already responded.

Fuck it. I'm deleting it. It'll be our secret post together.

4/2/2014 1:32:17 PM

nice, nice.

also, threads not where I want it to be, someone get this thang back on track-

4/2/2014 1:42:51 PM

bump

where's everyone at?

4/5/2014 9:54:59 PM

Quote :

"My wife used to really like him and liked his exgirlfriend but hates his new girlfriend to the point where she doesn't want to hang out with the new gf at all and has lost respect for him based on being with someone so horrible. To my wife's defense, his new GF was a jerk the first few meetings and I didn't like her either. But he and I are good friends, so I thought it important to maintain a relationship and still hung out with him and occasionally him and his GF. She is angry because she feels that she is the only one making a stand and that her being the only one not hanging out makes her appear to be the bad guy, regardless of previous treatment by the new gf. I explained that my relationship with her is more important than my friend and I'll end my friendship with him. She expressed that isn't what she's asking, but, I stated since I can't hang out with him or speak of him then there isn't much other option. She hasn't yelled at me or gotten angry over something I've done since, so maybe that will be the painful but worthy resolution. "

Jesus, WTF?

If she doesn't like him on account of him tolerating her, then that's fine. That should be the end of it; she doesn't get to dictate who you're friends with, especially when it's not even your friend she has a beef with.

...and, like quintuple-WTF if she's been operating in full-retard turbobitch mode to you over some silly bullshit like that without even telling you why. Fuck that.

4/5/2014 10:04:54 PM

that was hard to read.

seriously, though. she's a bitch

4/5/2014 10:06:53 PM

^^That paragraph is all the evidence we need that this dude is absolutely communicating with empathy and trying his best to listen to his lady.

I don't know any grown adult who would waste their mental energy hearing any of that. Once it became apparent what she was on about, even a paid psychotherapist would jot down a note about her being petty and tune out.

4/5/2014 11:01:06 PM

The only woman ITT who thinks this dude isn't in the wrong.

Thank you for taking the road less traveled.

4/5/2014 11:03:44 PM

YEAH



well, lets have some more confessions

4/5/2014 11:10:01 PM

Except send them to me

4/5/2014 11:24:26 PM

I like to hear from more from the women who weighed in before his second message that explained why his wife is mad.

I'm tempted to call the situation a nightmare, but it's not like she's throwing shit and having nervous breakdowns. But fuck man, I can't abide someone who gets that worked up over nothing all the time. If they weren't married, it'd be time to GTFO, but now I guess he should make a go of it.

4/5/2014 11:42:37 PM

Quote :

"I'm no longer thinking about can i handle this longterm but rather can or should a family with children endure this longterm. "

You didn't think about this before you married her? I can answer that for you: no, children should not have to endure that. Please don't have kids before both of you go to counseling and make big fucking strides.

4/6/2014 12:03:15 AM

If she makes you give up one friend for her sake, she'll probably make you do it again and again with each person in your life she disagrees with.

You're probably going to reply with, "Oh but this is a special case... Once I take care of this she won't have a reason to be upset anymore..." She seems to be the kind of person who's always upset at something. If you fix it (or it fixes itself), none of it matters. She'll just move on to being upset about something else. I feel like based on what you said, it's never enough for her. With that said, don't let 1 friend go turn into 2 friends gone, or an important colleague, or your own family. Eventually you'll find yourself alone with just you and her, and which point she could leave you or you'll finally have had enough after having given up just about everything for her.

[Edited on April 6, 2014 at 12:11 AM. Reason : .]

4/6/2014 12:09:30 AM

there are two sides to every story. i would have to hear the ladys version before passing judgement.


but i will accept confessions!

4/6/2014 12:10:40 AM

Unless the person confessing is a big, fat liar, I don't need the other side on this one.

Ultimately, you can't make your spouse happy, and your spouse can't make you happy. If she gets upset about something trivial, then that's her problem...and there's nothing he can do about it.

[Edited on April 6, 2014 at 1:43 AM. Reason : She should learn coping skills and stuff, but he can't do that for her.]

4/6/2014 1:31:25 AM

Quote :

"I never thought I'd be in my early 30s and need Cialis."

hey at least you have options!

4/7/2014 1:58:22 PM

Apparently, it's bad to have an inactive penis. I thought the "use it or lose it" thing was a joke.

So take the Cialis! And treat your boners to plenty of sex and masturbation!

[Edited on April 7, 2014 at 2:11 PM. Reason : BONER CITY!]

4/7/2014 2:11:15 PM

#treatyoself

4/7/2014 2:12:13 PM

Quote :

"I think those little fake rocks designed to hold your keys are too predictable and obvious. I'm trying to start a business that hides keys in fake dog turds, because who's going to pick up a dog turd to break into your house? Nobody, that's who."

4/7/2014 3:46:31 PM

Yeah, but, I hope having dog turds near your front door isn't normal for most people.

4/7/2014 4:08:05 PM

^^why is that a confession. Also, its already a product. So maybe that's why its a confession, to hide how dumb you are.

4/7/2014 5:23:47 PM

I dunno. I'll ask.

4/7/2014 5:39:56 PM

Quote :

"I dunno. I was stuck at the hardware store, and I saw the fake rock thingy, and it was bottom shelf material and kind of looked like a dog turd. I was bored, and I haven't sent a fake confession in a while."

His confessions sound a lot like mine.

4/7/2014 6:13:12 PM

Oh. Well BUY AN AD

4/7/2014 6:45:08 PM

I thought he was really bored or something so I tried to talk to him.

Nope. He just sucks at confessions.

4/7/2014 6:48:51 PM

Anybody got a nighttime confession?

4/7/2014 11:36:17 PM

A journalist and wannabe philosopher tweeted this:
"@umairh: You cannot truly change a person through contempt; anger; hate; or fear. Only through acceptance, understanding, respect; with love."

Not sure if I buy it, but may apply to the latest thread drama.

4/9/2014 6:07:26 PM

Eggfessions.

4/18/2014 1:06:39 AM

Confess to me...

4/18/2014 1:10:22 AM

No me!

4/18/2014 8:25:06 AM

Quote :

"We all act crazy sometimes."

It seems that a lot of people ITT have never dated a bipolar person.

4/18/2014 9:52:50 AM

Quote :

"i do like that monster song by kanye"

4/18/2014 11:15:42 AM

Is it because of the nicki minaj part?

4/18/2014 11:20:13 AM

dunno

perhaps we'll get an update

4/18/2014 12:35:21 PM

Quote :

"it is mostly because of the nicki minaj part but really even kanye's part sounds pretty good. im ashamed."

4/18/2014 2:51:11 PM

NEW CONFESSION!!!!!!

Quote :

"I'm very sexually liberal while my husband is quite vanilla. It wasn't always like this - my sexuality has evolved while his seems to have dissolved. I can walk around in nothing but stilettos or in lingerie, and no interest is shown. Anytime I say anything about my frustration, the topic is changed or ignored. It's so weird because everything about our relationship is fantastic, but it feels like I have a best friend and roommate rather than a husband."

4/21/2014 5:42:05 AM

I mean, obviously we'll need pics of this confessor to make sure the husband is, in fact, a fool.

Go to answer here might be counseling, or check up on some literature that could be helpful. I've heard that 5 love languages book thrown about a bit...that might be something to check into.

Sex is a crucial part of a relationship though, so if it's a problem it's something that needs to be honestly addressed.

4/21/2014 8:19:51 AM

Yeah, I mean damn I dont understand whats so hard about having a conversation about it. Youre married for christ sake!

4/21/2014 11:45:39 AM

^ It's hard because the fear of being rejected by your spouse is a very real and terrifying feeling.

I would try discuss this with him regardless, because it could be something that he doesn't feel 100% comfortable talking to you about. Depression? Low testosterone? Stress from work? Maybe he doesn't really know why he hasn't been as sexually interested lately.

But as many people will say... talk about it, then try counseling.

4/21/2014 11:50:21 AM

buy that dude some weed, let him relax, and then try again

4/21/2014 11:56:47 AM

lick his butthole

4/21/2014 12:02:21 PM

^ didn't work for Runkle on last night's Californication

4/21/2014 12:06:07 PM

that sucks. that happened to my best friend. they're getting divorced now.

4/21/2014 12:12:36 PM

he's gay ...

4/21/2014 12:35:21 PM

Whatever it is, the LEAST likely explanation is that it's because you're fat and ugly and he's not attracted to you anymore.

4/21/2014 12:46:11 PM

I don't see this as being rare. Actually, I think it's probably the main reason behind infidelity. Sometimes you get tired of having sex with the same person over time. I would make sure you talked about it (and maybe counseling next) before it gets to be the "elephant in the room" and/or someone ends up cheating.

I've had the same issue with every long term relationship I've ever been in. I liken it to having pizza every night. I fucking love pizza. If I get tired of just pepperoni, I'll mix up the toppings...maybe I'll get all Pizza Hut crazy and stuff the crust, or triple the cheese, or whatever. But at some point you're just like..."I really don't want any pizza right now." The question is are you tired enough of eating pizza, are you going to go out and get a steak? Or are you going to realize that if you go out and get a steak...that you might lose pizza forever...and if that's the case, what do you have to do to be able to continuously eat pizza again and be happy about it?

4/21/2014 12:55:32 PM

I thought for sure jbrick83 was going to work in pepperoni nipples somwhere in that analogy

4/21/2014 1:10:08 PM

I will say that no matter how boring sex might get...I still won't add any sausage.

ba dum ching


(was that good enough for you?)

4/21/2014 1:14:28 PM

Quote :

"Actually, I think it's probably the main reason behind infidelity"

This goes both ways. If the wife feels like her husband not attracted to her (despite the real reasons), then it's not uncommon for her to find solace in someone that may communicate that attraction more.

This is why talking about it is so important.

4/21/2014 1:21:26 PM

^^ thank you

4/21/2014 1:27:26 PM