I graduated in 4.5 due to a co-op, but if I could go back I would take longer to graduate and enjoy the college life. Post-college is great, but undergrad is once in a lifetime.

6/28/2011 9:57:46 AM

You got that right.

6/28/2011 10:01:51 AM

i can't date a habitual and never going to quit smoker.


it smells gross and now kissing is gross because I'm tasting it on you.

6/28/2011 10:05:50 AM

I can't date a man.

I am a career student and loving it.

6/28/2011 10:06:58 AM

Yeah I'm not sure I could date a girl who smoked. I could deal with very occasionally when we go out somewhere maybe, but if its an almost everyday thing I'd rather enjoy the fresh smelling air.

6/28/2011 10:07:21 AM

when a girl smiles and her upper lip pulls all the way back exposing her gums

6/28/2011 10:08:14 AM

what if she did coke instead?

6/28/2011 10:08:21 AM

Girls are crazy enough as it is, last thing I need is the added crazy of a cokehead

6/28/2011 10:10:11 AM

Constant smoking would be one for me too. A former gf was an occasional smoker, and that was a little annoying but not a dealbreaker. But I couldn't stand for that to be going on all the time or for my house and car to smell like smoke. No go there.

6/28/2011 10:16:25 AM

Smoking period is no. Shows she has a weak mind and is a follower. There is nothing constructive about smoking.

Passive-Aggressive is my #1 deal breaker. Plz to speak the fuck up sometime.

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 10:21 AM. Reason : Was gonna change it..but I'll leave it for lulz]

6/28/2011 10:19:13 AM

i, too, wouldn't date a girl with a smoking period.

6/28/2011 10:20:27 AM

I didn't even know those existed...

6/28/2011 10:21:00 AM

Some of these lists include the dumbest shit imaginable.

Taking longer than four years to finish undergrad? Talking to parents more than 3 times a week? Are you fucking serious? I hope whoever had that list ends up single for life.

6/28/2011 10:43:13 AM

Yeah I don't understand the speaking to your parents 4+ times a week being a bad thing


HOW DARE YOU HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FAMILY

6/28/2011 10:46:16 AM

My list is pretty short:

Fat
Ugly
Stupid

Now, what I consider fat might be perfectly acceptable to some. Ditto for ugly and stupid. I have pretty high standards. However, as I get older I'm finding more and more women attractive which is a sign that my standards have dropped significantly since I was fresh out of college.

6/28/2011 10:46:49 AM

or your eyesight has gotten worse

I'm in....in like 10 years

6/28/2011 10:54:57 AM

^4

From both inside and outside experience the type of girl who does that requires near endless amounts of attention and will consistently put you in a position to do things for her family but does not reciprocate. I'm not stating that it is true for all women and, as noted in my original post, it doesn't by itself disqualify a woman; however, I have noticed a trend and therefore use it as a guideline.

6/28/2011 11:13:47 AM

I can understand being picky, but some of you guys are really bringing the dumb with your half-baked character assessments.

6/28/2011 11:17:53 AM

summation of this thread.

Guys wont talk to wimmens. /thread

Bunch o terminally single dudes ITT

6/28/2011 11:20:20 AM

sounds like majority of people posting these long lists of dealbreakers are flawless, and all others should bow before them

6/28/2011 11:42:17 AM

ITT we find out who the virgins are

6/28/2011 12:30:57 PM

In addition to fat, ugly, and stupid I may have to add:

Has a kid.

I'm not 100% sure that this is a dealbreaker for me since I've never dated a woman with a kid before, but I know I don't want kids so having to deal with a kid who isn't even mine would probably be a big old no. Who knows, I might change my mind if the chick was otherwise amazing and the kid wasn't like most kids, but yeah... no women with kids.

6/28/2011 12:33:49 PM

before i met my current girlfriend, I dated a Cat Lady.



She had 5 cats. She was crazy. Like, mental problems crazy.



In retrospect, that shoulda been a dealbreaker.

6/28/2011 12:35:12 PM

Quote :

"when a girl smiles and her upper lip pulls all the way back exposing her gums"

I do this. Can't help it, that's my genuine smile, and I'm okay with that!

6/28/2011 12:36:54 PM

^Well too bad, because it makes you a horrible person.

6/28/2011 12:37:32 PM

I also have three cats. Good thing I'm already married (and he wanted the cats).

Also, this is a great video about dealbreakers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ObrFwjesno

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 12:56 PM. Reason : ]

6/28/2011 12:41:18 PM

well the number of cats owned increases the amount of crazy exponentially per cat.


so your 3 is nearly half the crazy of 5.


and since I love just a little crazy, I love my the cat my girlfriend and I have now.

6/28/2011 12:47:45 PM

Quote :

"I don't know. I don't talk religion or politics with friends."

some of the best conversations I've ever had with friends have been about both religion and politics

I don't really see what's so taboo about it

always nice to see where a person is coming from with their view of the world

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 12:59 PM. Reason : especially during presidential elections]

6/28/2011 12:56:11 PM

The equation is number of -3(cats/2) + number of dogs +attractiveness/2-(NUMBER OF YEARS IT TOOK THEM TO GRADUATE UNDERGRAD/AMOUNT OF BUTTHURT*4)

I always try to minimize butthurt.

6/28/2011 12:59:18 PM

Quote :

"I love my the cat my girlfriend and I have now."

what is this i don't even

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 1:17 PM. Reason : oh i figured it out. still, thanks for making me read that one million times jjjJYACKASS ]

6/28/2011 1:16:47 PM

hahaha my fault.

6/28/2011 1:20:54 PM

Quote :

""I don't know. I don't talk religion or politics with friends.""

what is the point of having friends if you can't talk about real shit with them? what do you talk about? the weather?

snooooooze.

6/28/2011 1:22:30 PM

exactly

6/28/2011 1:26:10 PM

Quote :

"I just don't talk about it. Evangelical atheism is almost as annoying as evangelical levels of religiosity."

I don't bring up "atheism" that often, but I'm not going to be able to be myself around someone that is strongly religious. "Sorry babe, but your core beliefs are actually just bullshit." Yeah, that wouldn't work.

Quote :

"I don't know. I don't talk religion or politics with friends."

This is why the United States is fucked up and getting worse.

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 1:29 PM. Reason : ]

6/28/2011 1:27:06 PM

Because most people can't have a rational conversation about either if you happen to disagree with them.

6/28/2011 1:36:01 PM

^ this

religion - namely cause most of the people that want to talk about it, are the ones that want to tell you you're wrong and going to hell.

politics - i talk to a few people about, but again, the ones that want to talk about it are the ones trying to convince me my opinion is wrong.

6/28/2011 1:38:18 PM

I also don't talk about religion or politics very much with my friends. Why? Because people get way too uppity and defensive over that shit and I don't feel like getting into a heated argument just to make someone else feel better about their ideals. They can believe what they want, and I can believe what I want.

6/28/2011 1:53:14 PM

Right, and people believing whatever they were raised to believe and never being required to think about why they have those beliefs is a problem. It's laziness and bad for society.

I can usually find common ground with people, and that's where I try to start, but you can't complain about how society doesn't change/progress if you can't be bothered to have important, necessary discussions about how those changes should come about with people that are close to you.

6/28/2011 2:04:48 PM

couldn't agree more

6/28/2011 2:07:33 PM

ITT people think all Chirstians were raised Christian.

6/28/2011 2:07:59 PM

I can agree that we need to evolve our politics and religion.

Perhaps its time to stir up trouble in friendships with a good debatelecture from them about why their view is the only right one.

[Edited on June 28, 2011 at 2:09 PM. Reason : oops soap box got in my chit chat ]

6/28/2011 2:08:10 PM

smoking
heavy drinking
drugs
thinking money fixes everything or IS everything

6/28/2011 2:10:44 PM

Can't cook
Likes american sports AND doesn't like soccer
Owning a small dog
STUPID sunglasses
Duckface
STDs other than HPV (lololololol)
Acts like a dumb/preppy girl
Listens exclusively to shitty music / really really likes shitty music

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6/28/2011 2:10:55 PM

I think having lots of debt/credit and money issues if a major MAJOR dealbreaker.

It's one thing to have normal debt like college loans etc. but thousands in credit card debt...

6/28/2011 2:11:15 PM

I like how only the women of TWW post legitimate issues ITT.

6/28/2011 2:12:21 PM

I like when people convince me I'm wrong. I'm pretty embarrassed at some of the convictions I held in the past, so I'm thankful for the intelligent discourse that has helped me grow as a person.

6/28/2011 2:14:03 PM

Quote :

"that clingy, desperate to not be alone type smoker prude drama queen highly emotional"

i'll add some more

an escapist
no job
no ambition to further themselves
major debt from something other than student loans or family emergency help
stubborn

6/28/2011 2:15:08 PM

Quote :

"Right, and people believing whatever they were raised to believe and never being required to think about why they have those beliefs is a problem. It's laziness and bad for society. I can usually find common ground with people, and that's where I try to start, but you can't complain about how society doesn't change/progress if you can't be bothered to have important, necessary discussions about how those changes should come about with people that are close to you."

K, but that's not where I was going at all. I have no problem talking about politics to SOME people, and one way I discover new things about how I feel is by personal experience, reading, etc. The discussion aspect really doesn't do much for me because there are few people who can talk about it calmly. And then there are people who push your buttons, or people who are defending something that you deem outrageous, or stupid, etc. I can't handle that.

6/28/2011 2:17:55 PM

Being a 'conservative' because her parents are. If you can carry on a solid conversation and have reasons why you believe what you believe then thats fine and i don't really care what you think.

Basically any inability to question authority / majority

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

6/28/2011 2:19:16 PM

Oh I got one.

1. Worked with Keyser Soze.

6/28/2011 2:20:07 PM