he's not a fucking animal

8/8/2011 2:54:47 PM

abusive yuffie is abusive.

8/8/2011 2:54:54 PM

"Complaining" to him is better than complaining on here because it stands to possibly change things instead of perpetuating your "I wish he'd know what I want or am upset about without me having to tell him" stance.

And smacking ... not OK, regardless of your justification.

8/8/2011 3:06:43 PM

damn I missed the fun stuff

8/8/2011 3:10:10 PM

unless he's into that

8/8/2011 3:11:06 PM

True. That kind of smacking is indeed OK.

8/8/2011 3:16:19 PM

uhh

8/8/2011 3:18:17 PM

haha, i MOCK-slapped jerome on the arm the other day and he got all super-serial about domestic abuse. some people are just not playful

8/8/2011 3:41:48 PM

^ That's kinda lame, especially if it was just on the arm.

[Edited on August 8, 2011 at 4:15 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2011 4:03:18 PM

Lolz

[Edited on August 8, 2011 at 5:05 PM. Reason : Change ]

8/8/2011 5:04:30 PM

i would not put up with a girl hitting me... simply because I refuse to hit her back/hit her in the first place. the playful slap on the arm or poking at the ribcage is one thing, but if I got slapped in the face, there would be some serious words

8/8/2011 5:07:25 PM

^ agreed. One time I witnessed a friend hit her boyfriend upside the head. Way wrong.

8/8/2011 5:08:18 PM

Hitting is bad. Shaking the shit out of them is okay.

8/8/2011 5:16:15 PM

If there is anything beyond a playful slap on the arm or whatever going on in a relationship it is time to reevaluate. I once attempted to slap my bf while drunk and angry. I was rightfully almost broken up with and had a very strong serious lecture which I needed about how fucked up that is. It was terrible. Took awhile to work things out. No hitting is a pretty good rel policy

But I'm not kidding. One of the most fucked up things I've ever done. Lots of dram. And I skinned my knee that night too.

8/8/2011 7:48:31 PM

Blame it on the a a a a a alcohol

8/8/2011 7:50:24 PM

Sadly I'm pretty positive that song played shortly before the incident in question. And I tried to do just that. Didn't work lol

8/8/2011 7:53:42 PM

i hit a boyfriend once, but in my defense he had just thrown me against the dishwasher and said he was going to kill me.

8/8/2011 9:14:03 PM

In his defense, you had it coming. Burn his grilled cheese again and see what happens.

8/8/2011 9:15:39 PM

As the ex-boyfriend that Meg hit, I am now prepared to apologize. Also, the makeup sex was phenomenal

8/8/2011 9:18:36 PM

I had a friend who was hit by his girlfriend all the time over just normal argument shit. Dumb bitch...course he never really did anything to correct it.

Their later epic breakup and burn out was rather comical though

8/8/2011 9:25:29 PM

this st patrick's day i pinched eric and got yelled at. he didn't think it was funny. i laughed. but then i had to stop laughing because there was yelling.

8/8/2011 9:26:13 PM

I had a gf that would hit me in the arm if I said retarded. She worked with special needs adults. I made sure the first time I dropped the r-bomb was when I said "her roommate's tits were retarded." Seriously they are the size of bowling balls and she is a small girl. Her other roommate has rocking tits too.

[Edited on August 8, 2011 at 9:27 PM. Reason : tense]

8/8/2011 9:27:22 PM

^ khcadwal and dropdeadkate both have silly breasts

8/8/2011 9:28:56 PM

As in rocking or like they are trying to run away from each other tits?

8/8/2011 9:36:23 PM

rocking

more than mouthfuls

8/8/2011 9:38:04 PM

they are not sunny side up breasts

still, they are quite silly

8/8/2011 9:40:31 PM

niceeee

8/8/2011 9:57:08 PM

i still don't always get his sense of humor and after exploding about the sex in bathroom comment........ he explained he was kidding and thought i knew that.

i sometimes feel like i need to take a class on the other gender. that was one of those times.

8/8/2011 11:40:19 PM

^ lolwut... and did he say something else that was crazy?



and hitting is never ok :\

[Edited on August 8, 2011 at 11:42 PM. Reason : unless it's in self defense]

8/8/2011 11:42:48 PM

nothing quite to that extreme but he definitely makes jokes that I don't get and then when i don't laugh or react he just shakes his head and goes "some day you'll get my humor"

......... doubtful

8/8/2011 11:47:08 PM

hahaha

I hope you said that... would have been hilarious

8/8/2011 11:52:01 PM

How does one date a person that can't make them laugh?

8/8/2011 11:53:27 PM

he makes me laugh. i just don't always get every joke he makes. I'M WORKING ON IT

8/8/2011 11:54:09 PM

HE CLUTCH'D AT MEH




[Edited on August 9, 2011 at 2:51 AM. Reason : why do i even tell these stories]

8/9/2011 2:31:47 AM

he is too understanding and forgiving

8/10/2011 12:02:05 PM

lol yeah my wife hates to fight... but she hates when i'm like... no that's cool too.

soo... do you want a passionate exchange or not ?

now i just say "i'll stick with my way"

8/10/2011 12:04:10 PM

Quote :

"Hitting is bad. Shaking the shit out of them is okay."

now that made me laugh!!

8/10/2011 12:53:48 PM

its a repackaged chris rock joke.


Woman by whi73rav3n

[Edited on August 10, 2011 at 12:59 PM. Reason : .]

8/10/2011 12:55:00 PM

Welp, the other one got bumped.

[This is the long background part]
[When I suggest we go do something (and it's not an immediate response of "I'm busy"), he says to add it to his google calendar. For a bit that worked, it was an easy way to let me say "hey, this is happening, don't schedule anything over it."
Well, I planned something for this week over a month in advance, he bailed last time so when I set this up he promised.
Then I find out the day before he actually can't, he scheduled something over it without checking his calendar.

tl;dr:
I understand completely how busy he is, and the fact that he had to work I can deal with, it's not really the fact that he bailed again that bothered me as much, it's that he assured me that if I put something on his calendar and he approves it, he won't schedule anything over it, and he did.



And a question to men:
He won't let me take him out to dinner, it bothers him when he can't pay, so we just don't go on dates. Is it really a dis if your girlfriend wants to take you on a date?

9/3/2011 6:58:50 PM

can i give you a 100% honest answer here...


everything you just typed about your man suggests he's just fucking you and not dating you...only you don't know it...

that's definitely not a slight towards you...

so...what i'm saying is...that dude's a douche bag....

[Edited on September 3, 2011 at 7:05 PM. Reason : you shouldn't have to get "approval" to see your man...it's not like asking a day off from work]

9/3/2011 7:05:07 PM

Quote :

"he's just fucking you and not dating you...only you don't know it... "

ding ding ding

9/3/2011 7:42:48 PM

^

9/3/2011 7:45:27 PM

I use the google calendar with my boyfriend. Works well so far. I, also, make him repeat it to me if it is really important

9/3/2011 7:48:22 PM

but i'm pretty sure the whole world knows he's dating you

9/3/2011 7:50:22 PM

"he's just fucking you and not dating you...only you don't know it...



Hey yuffie. Holla if you want to pay for a guys meal. .

9/3/2011 7:51:17 PM

Thank you, LP78, for listening to me.


When I said "approve", I mean when I send an invite to an event and he accepts instead of saying maybe. And yeah, in some cases it is asking a day off work. He works a part time job as well, so it would be telling them he can't work two weeks from now instead of checking his calendar first (which he now says he does only a day in advance). Also, this isn't me getting to see him, I get to see him plenty, but it's usually at a point where we're both exhausted, so we'll make something quick for dinner and watch tv for a bit before going to bed.
Things I put on his calendar are things like concerts or this time it was First Friday. He doesn't schedule other things on top of it, but he doesn't check his calendar when his part time job assigns him things.

To sum it up, he didn't check his schedule with me before letting work for his part time job be assigned to him.

I always rant too much in this thread instead of putting a one sentence description of why I'm a little annoyed.

9/3/2011 8:20:19 PM

also, your relationship is shit and you're batshit crazy

9/3/2011 8:22:31 PM

^no u

9/3/2011 8:34:04 PM

can't it be both?

9/3/2011 8:34:45 PM

there is a whole lot of BSC in this thread in general

9/3/2011 8:34:58 PM