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"It's no more pointless than any other conversation you have in an LTR."

Amen. Lots of pointless conversations in an LTR. I like to refer it as "getting to know your spouse."

4/5/2012 3:12:45 PM

I'd rather not know. Its like when some asshole with the Weight Watchers app tells you that there's 680 calories in that sandwich you just ate. Fuck you. Ignorance is bliss.

4/5/2012 3:13:01 PM

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"expectations and hangups don't have to do with the number of folks they've been with potential for std's can be summed up with "have you had sex before?""

Tru dat.

--

I know how many people my husband has had sex with and have met them, even been down right friendly with some of them.

4/5/2012 3:13:04 PM

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" I am concerned that so many of you are upset at your SO asking you personal questions"

4/5/2012 3:13:13 PM

I like Beethoven, but since you've married the only dude you've ever fucked, you really don't have a lot of pull in this discussion.

djeternal, OTOH, is a filthy, rotten man-whore. So respect his opinion...I just disagree with it.

4/5/2012 3:13:26 PM

So, I have to fuck a lot of people in order to pontificate about sex and long term relationships?

4/5/2012 3:14:04 PM

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"I mean, why bother asking where she grew up, what High School she went to, what her first car was, etc etc. Right?"

Yeah talking about her 97 Explorer is fraught with potential hangups

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"So, I have to fuck a lot of people in order to pontificate about sex and long term relationships? "

We're talking about the discussion that you've had at most once

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:14 PM. Reason : ]

4/5/2012 3:14:04 PM

of course my post was at the bottom of the page




yeah!

4/5/2012 3:14:09 PM

HEY! I am a clean man whore dammit

4/5/2012 3:14:41 PM

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"I am concerned that so many of you are upset at your SO asking you personal question"

Who said they were upset about it? I, like Ernie, just don't see the point in it. I'll answer the question if its asked and I won't fight about it. But its a dumb question.

Quote :

"So, I have to fuck a lot of people in order to pontificate about sex and long term relationships?"

You have to fuck at least more than one.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:16 PM. Reason : .]

4/5/2012 3:14:53 PM

Would it be important for you to know that the number was 1, vs. 11? or 21? It seems like it makes a big difference to quite a few of you in this thread. I think that's exhibiting the only "judgyness" from numbers so far in this thread.

4/5/2012 3:15:25 PM

I once actually called a girl I was banging a whore to her face.

Of course, this was after she just told me she was getting married (and we had just banged)

God dammit, I've never had a decent relationship

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:16 PM. Reason : ]

4/5/2012 3:15:30 PM

Quote :

"Yeah talking about her 97 Explorer is fraught with potential hangups"

If you avoid conversations to avoid potential hangups, then you don't belong in an LTR.

Look, if you are not comfortable talking about it, or just don't want to know, that is your prerogative. But don't trash those of us that include discussion of sexual past in our relationships.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:16 PM. Reason : a]

4/5/2012 3:15:36 PM

Hey jbrick how do you get TNT with an antenna?

4/5/2012 3:15:42 PM

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"I once actually called a girl I was banging a whore to her face."

To some girls, this is just foreplay.

4/5/2012 3:16:46 PM

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"Hey jbrick how do you get TNT with an antenna?"

I WAS TOLD I COULD GET UP TO 25 CHANNELS WITH THIS ANTENNA. I WOULD ASSUME THAT TNT WOULD BE ONE OF THEM.

4/5/2012 3:17:09 PM

^^ Yea, but this is the one time I said it and meant it in a mean way

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:17 PM. Reason : ]

4/5/2012 3:17:15 PM

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"Yeah talking about her 97 Explorer is fraught with potential hangups"

I just LOLed all over myself

4/5/2012 3:17:20 PM

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"I know how many people my husband has had sex with and have met them, even been down right friendly with some of them."

I've actually met all of my husband's past women. Nothing changes just because I know where his dick has been.

4/5/2012 3:17:43 PM

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:18 PM. Reason : that calvin ad made me think of this...found on: http://curiositycounts.com]

4/5/2012 3:18:07 PM

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"Yeah talking about her 97 Explorer is fraught with potential hangups"

What if she follows up the answer with "and I lost my virginity in the back seat"?

4/5/2012 3:18:25 PM

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"Look, if you are not comfortable talking about it, or just don't want to know, that is your prerogative. But don't trash those of us that include discussion of sexual past in our relationships. "

Agreed.

4/5/2012 3:18:48 PM

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"Would it be important for you to know that the number was 1, vs. 11? or 21?"

Here's the thing....the number shouldn't matter. As long as she's not cheating on you and you have a healthy, sexual relationship...then what's the point in knowing the number?

That's what Ernie keeps asking, and no one has given a good answer yet.

IMO, the questions should center along the line of...

- Have you ever had buttsex...would you like to do buttseck?

- Can I pee on you? No? Really? You've never been peed on?

- I want to stick it in your butt...then your mouth. That okay? What? You've never done that before? lets try it.

- Can I toss your salad? Ever done that? Yeah? You didn't like it? Let's give it another try then.


Those questions, IMO, actually have a point in dealing with your sexual relationship with someone. An actual number does not.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:21 PM. Reason : .]

4/5/2012 3:19:03 PM

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"If you avoid conversations to avoid potential hangups, then you don't belong in an LTR. "

I don't know what this is supposed to mean

Having the how many guys have jizzed inside of you conversation has zero tangible benefits and risks giving either party a false impression, no matter what kind of alpha male 35-year-old internet person you pretend to be.

The information you're after can be discussed in other ways. Getting the girl to relive every shitdick that's bottomed out inside her is entirely fruitless.

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"What if she follows up the answer with "and I lost my virginity in the back seat"? "

Is it a good story? If not, who cares.

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"don't trash those of us that include discussion of sexual past in our relationships"

Who is getting trashed? People can't fucking have a conversation.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:20 PM. Reason : ]

4/5/2012 3:19:06 PM

Whoa this thread moves fast.....just like DJE

4/5/2012 3:19:21 PM

You people fucking ruined this thread

Go to the Lounge

4/5/2012 3:19:59 PM

If you can't handle the answer, then I can understand why you don't ask the question.

4/5/2012 3:20:09 PM

Quote :

"Here's the thing....the number shouldn't matter. As long as she's not cheating on you and you have a healthy, sexual relationship...then what's the point in knowing the number? That's what Ernie keeps asking, and no one has given a good answer yet."

The same reason that I like knowing my husband was a pumpkin for Halloween when he was 5. I care about him, and his past, and everything that entails.

4/5/2012 3:20:31 PM

Personally, I think that it can be very revealing if someone sleeps with like 4 different people every month as opposed to 4 every year.

4/5/2012 3:20:39 PM

I can handle anything. I don't care about the answer.

4/5/2012 3:20:51 PM

its hilarious how fast this thread blew up

sexual insecurities ITT

4/5/2012 3:21:14 PM

Then why not talk about it openly with your partner and potential wife?

Wouldn't you want to know everything about someone you might spend the rest of your life with?

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:21 PM. Reason : a]

4/5/2012 3:21:28 PM

Because I don't care

How else I can explain that

If they ask, I'll tell, but I don't care

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:22 PM. Reason : No, I don't have to know everything about them. Shit like this isn't important.]

4/5/2012 3:21:57 PM

I want to know because you can't turn a ho into a housewife.

4/5/2012 3:22:23 PM

the point is that it's a personal question. Your ability to be comfortable answering that question to your SO shows a trust and "vulnerability" whether it's an irrelevant fact or not in my opinion.

4/5/2012 3:22:40 PM

Caring is sharing

^ nailed it

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:23 PM. Reason : a]

4/5/2012 3:22:43 PM

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"Who is getting trashed? People can't fucking have a conversation."

Quote :

"It's mostly an insecure/jealous/worried significant other."

Quote :

"You have to fuck at least more than one. "

Quote :

"We're talking about the discussion that you've had at most once"

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"Do you make your gf count your ropes Do you end every time asking if you beat the previous record holder"

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"[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 2:59 PM. Reason : Who the fuck asks those questions. You people are shit at conversation] "

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:25 PM. Reason : ^^that]

4/5/2012 3:24:33 PM

Quote :

"I want to know because you can't turn a ho into a housewife."

uh oh

4/5/2012 3:25:15 PM

Ernie said fuck! He must be real mad!

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:25 PM. Reason : You're out of your element beethoven]

4/5/2012 3:25:17 PM

Quote :

"my husband was a pumpkin for Halloween when he was 5."

HA, your husband was a bitch. He couldn't be a ghost?!

4/5/2012 3:26:33 PM

Quote :

"the point is that it's a personal question. Your ability to be comfortable answering that question to your SO shows a trust and "vulnerability" whether it's an irrelevant fact or not in my opinion."

There are a lot more personal questions that you can ask that will "show" those things (I listed a bunch earlier). And who said we wouldn't be comfortable answering the question?

I just don't see the point.

4/5/2012 3:26:35 PM

Quote :

"[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:25 PM. Reason : You're out of your element beethoven]"

so I've been told.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:27 PM. Reason : ]

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:27 PM. Reason : ^Just because you don't see the point, means the rest of us are crazy for asking?]

4/5/2012 3:26:45 PM

I just tried to change my status name to "internet alpha male", but it wouldn't fit.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:28 PM. Reason : Wait, yeah it did!]

4/5/2012 3:26:54 PM

Quote :

"means the rest of us are crazy for asking?"

Who said you are crazy?

Are you reading a different TWW

Jesus fucking Christ

4/5/2012 3:28:27 PM

You really don't see it Ernie?

4/5/2012 3:28:49 PM

You're not crazy (for this)

But really, you have nothing to add here. Your opinions are pointless. Leave it to the pros, kid.

4/5/2012 3:29:43 PM

4/5/2012 3:29:46 PM

Can we get back to lesbian sex? Because seriously, if we start talking about lesbo sex, I have to bring in another appendage.

4/5/2012 3:30:59 PM

This is still happening?

4/5/2012 3:31:26 PM

Quote :

"But really, you have nothing to add here. Your opinions are pointless. Leave it to the pros, kid."

Pretty sure I have enough experience with sex to form an opinion.

And a heck of a lot of experience with long term relationships.

I'm not saying anyone else is wrong for how they want to do things. Just that what I do works for me, and it's not wrong either.

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:36 PM. Reason : ]

[Edited on April 5, 2012 at 3:36 PM. Reason : ]

4/5/2012 3:32:50 PM