There is a greater day and a sunrise on the horizon for true love. True love happens when you just act like yourself. It sounds as though you cannot act as yourself around her, and she sounds extremely manipulative.
I don't think it is a psychological problem due to some kind of brain chemistry/disorder. I genuinely think it is intentional manipulation (based on the limited information provided), and she is playing you.
The biggest thing that really made me feel for you the most was the fact you mentioned she ran up your bar-tab while you were away from the bar. That is symbolic and bitchy in so many ways that she doesn't give a fuck about you or sharing social experiences with you to the level that would be expected.

I think you should save yourself from further harm and GTFO because this bitch will drag you down, and I am sure she has had interactions in the past alleging cruelty during her greencard divorce and has been the dramaqueen at the bar saying that someone did this or that to her. I can read between the lines. Get out while you still can!

1/3/2015 3:01:50 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/3/2015 12:42:04 PM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/3/2015 12:42:04 PM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/3/2015 1:21:01 PM

So have you taken her to bed again, yet?

1/3/2015 2:34:26 PM

While we're on the topic of dating...

Is it cool to be totally open about being crazy/insecure?

Once a month or so, I like to send a string of text messages calmly explaining to my dude that he doesn't actually enjoy my company or find me attractive. He cuts me off with a phone call where we discuss how I'm awesome, he needs to "do better" at making me feel that way, and I need to "do better" at not being crazy.

We ain't gettin hitched or nothing so it's whatever, but still...are other people like this, or are we supposed to like hide our bad traits and stuff?

(I've at least stopped doing the thing where I get drunk, break up with him, and traipse off into the night, answering the phone only to explain that he shouldn't reward my bad behavior with attention...then come back a couple hours later to wake him up and announce, "We're still together! Aren't you so happy?!?! LOLOLOL Seriously though, goodnight and shit. Wake me up so we can get breakfast.")

1/3/2015 3:41:35 PM

Good lord, after one episode of that I'd be donsies.

But I'm not normal, so *shrug*

1/3/2015 3:48:35 PM

without ever seeing a picture of BridgetSPK, i would totally bed her.

1/3/2015 3:51:44 PM

Quote :

"Once a month or so, I like to send a string of text messages calmly explaining to my dude that he doesn't actually enjoy my company or find me attractive. He cuts me off with a phone call where we discuss how I'm awesome, he needs to "do better" at making me feel that way, and I need to "do better" at not being crazy."

I had a girl do that to me a couple times and then she did it one too many times. she had to go.

you're not going to make me feel bad about you feeling bad all the time.

1/3/2015 4:27:05 PM

3x^

This actually has much potential for hilarity. Sort of like *ring ring* "Hello? Listen, you must understand that my expressions as an independent female are being expressed right now, you are doing neither of us any favors by continuing showering me with attention. Let me assist you and force you to learn your lesson by hanging up on you." *click*

Chick, just break up with him. Haha

That's like being in the boxing ring and one of the fighters gives due warning
"Prepare for pugilistic encounters." *punch*
"Had enough yet? Prepare for more." *punch*

1/3/2015 4:27:39 PM

Nah, he's grown, but he's an actual nice guy. I'd say his calling after me is 50% genuine concern for me and 50% going through the motions of a "relationship." The first couple times he ran out after me, which, from my perspective, was extra fun and romantic. But I still know it's no good to behave that way, and I openly address it. I dunno...crazy people need love, too!

Anyway, I think he's pretty special, but he won't be around long. I'ma miss him.

1/3/2015 6:55:57 PM

1/3/2015 7:04:52 PM

DON'T DO IT MAN!

Don't get back together with someone who doesn't have a clue about US geography.

1/3/2015 8:54:49 PM

Quote :

"I don't think it is a psychological problem due to some kind of brain chemistry/disorder. I genuinely think it is intentional manipulation (based on the limited information provided), and she is playing you."

Yeah I don't think there was anything psychological going on either. Honestly I think she has a lot of narcissist tendencies. Not in a grandiose or materialistic way but in a cerebral I'm always right, smarter than everyone else way and she increasingly acted more selfish as time went on.

Quote :

" Don't get back together with someone who doesn't have a clue about US geography."

Yeah she firmly believed that since she went to Colorado she has seen the "west coast", was not impressed, and so no reason to ever visit CA, OR, or WA lol. I had to give up trying to convince her that Colorado is not west coast and that there are several different cultures.

[Edited on January 4, 2015 at 6:12 PM. Reason : l]

1/4/2015 6:08:22 PM

I know you may think that using big words makes you sound smarter, but it's actually doing the opposite

1/4/2015 6:35:47 PM

which of those is a big word to you?
#selfcallout

1/4/2015 8:36:08 PM

yeah man

ya got me

1/5/2015 12:45:35 AM

It's the absence of punctuation and correct-but-weird tense changes that are bothering me.

"Yeah, I don't think there was anything psychological going on either. Honestly, I think she had a lot of narcissistic tendencies--not in a grandiose or materialistic way--but in a sort of cerebral, I'm-always-right-and-smarter-than-everyone-else way...and she just increasingly acted more selfish as time went on."

I dunno if my choice of punctuation makes it better. I mean, "I'm always right and smarter than everyone else" is pretty fucking grandiose, and narcissism can be a psychological problem...so...

(Phones got shit for punctuation too, y'all.)

1/5/2015 1:59:05 AM

Maybe HUR can provide an update to make this thread interesting again. The grammar checks aren't doing it for me.

1/5/2015 7:13:06 AM

... This guy.

Truthfully...she parked in your spot, didn't she?

1/5/2015 8:37:22 AM

Quote :

"So after 4 weeks of no contact, this girl texts me last night wishing me belated birthday and apologizing for breaking up with me and the way she acted in November. Apparently her last two boyfriends cheated on her and she "freaked out" as things moved "so fast" with us. Supposedly the "ex-boyfriend" thing was to push me away to not pursue her after we broke up. What you guys thing, should i pursue or throw this one back in the ocean?"

Quote :

"5 to 6 times a week is too much to see each other at the beginning of a relationship"

1/5/2015 9:09:26 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

So have you bedded her again yet?

1/5/2015 10:10:00 AM

Yet again her bedded you have so?

1/5/2015 10:27:21 AM

quagmire fell asleep on the enter key again

1/5/2015 10:32:15 AM

FFS quagmire...how many times can you repeat the same mistake?

1/5/2015 11:02:16 AM

Quote :

"mistake"

[Edited on January 5, 2015 at 11:08 AM. Reason : my ass]

1/5/2015 11:08:44 AM

oops

my apologies to the tww community

1/5/2015 11:12:47 AM